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Calling all Cancers: I need guidance
Why don't you just ask him to go out, if that's what you want?
Posted by nikkistar
Why don't you just ask him to go out, if that's what you want?
I'm scared he'll think I'm being clingy or stupid for not getting the silence as a hint. I want to though, cause then I have my answer
Posted by kiirsttnaePosted by nikkistar
Why don't you just ask him to go out, if that's what you want?
I'm scared he'll think I'm being clingy or stupid for not getting the silence as a hint. I want to though, cause then I have my answerclick to expand
Then just ask. It avoids you getting neurotic, and also getting the answer you seek.
what's your sign? also just bring it up as a fun follow-up text about a bar you wanna check out n if he wants to join etc., worst he can say is no/not answer, and then that's your answer and you can move on.
also he mentioned he is moving in a couple of months, maybe he doesn't want to get attached with anyone?
also he mentioned he is moving in a couple of months, maybe he doesn't want to get attached with anyone?
Posted by kiirsttnae
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Dudette, you would have been balling your eyes out if you would have given him the BOOTY and been yet another statistic DXP member who came in here with a different subject altogether.
With that said you already 'RECIPROCATED" and if he didn't respond; it's on HIM not you. Cancerians (when they are interested) will go out of their way to contact you. They love to communicate with you if they are interested. Put 2 and 2 together (you will get 4). He told you he was ready to move. DUH!
Keep thinking of GOOD/POSITIVE reasons why he hasn't texted you lately. When you start thinking of the "negative" reasons, immediately tell yourself that you did nothing wrong. Ball is on his court.
(Eva steps off soap box now).
🤗 cuber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by kiirsttnae
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Dudette, you would have been balling your eyes out if you would have given him the BOOTY and been yet another statistic DXP member who came in here with a different subject altogether.
With that said you already 'RECIPROCATED" and if he didn't respond; it's on HIM not you. Cancerians (when they are interested) will go out of their way to contact you. They love to communicate with you if they are interested. Put 2 and 2 together (you will get 4). He told you he was ready to move. DUH!
Keep thinking of GOOD/POSITIVE reasons why he hasn't texted you lately. When you start thinking of the "negative" reasons, immediately tell yourself that you did ntothign wrong. Ball is on his court.
(Eva steps off soap box now).
🤗 cuber hugs!
Love,
Eva
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Cancers are terrible at communication, even when they love someone. Even with their own family.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by kiirsttnae
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Dudette, you would have been balling your eyes out if you would have given him the BOOTY and been yet another statistic DXP member who came in here with a different subject altogether.
With that said you already 'RECIPROCATED" and if he didn't respond; it's on HIM not you. Cancerians (when they are interested) will go out of their way to contact you. They love to communicate with you if they are interested. Put 2 and 2 together (you will get 4). He told you he was ready to move. DUH!
Keep thinking of GOOD/POSITIVE reasons why he hasn't texted you lately. When you start thinking of the "negative" reasons, immediately tell yourself that you did ntothign wrong. Ball is on his court.
(Eva steps off soap box now).
🤗 cuber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Cancers are terrible at communication, even when they love someone. Even with their own family.
click to expand
Not the Cancerian I met from another city (about 1 and a half hours from San Antonio, TX); he drove twice to see me. Called me on the landline every day for two weeks straight. He'd say, "Talk to me, talk about your day, I want to hear from you". I stopped seeing him because I don't do LDR and I informed him of this.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: My ex-brother in law is Cancerian, too, he put my sister on a pedestal; they divorced after 20 years of marriage (he cheated on her) and she FINALLY had enough!
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by nikkistarPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by kiirsttnae
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Dudette, you would have been balling your eyes out if you would have given him the BOOTY and been yet another statistic DXP member who came in here with a different subject altogether.
With that said you already 'RECIPROCATED" and if he didn't respond; it's on HIM not you. Cancerians (when they are interested) will go out of their way to contact you. They love to communicate with you if they are interested. Put 2 and 2 together (you will get 4). He told you he was ready to move. DUH!
Keep thinking of GOOD/POSITIVE reasons why he hasn't texted you lately. When you start thinking of the "negative" reasons, immediately tell yourself that you did ntothign wrong. Ball is on his court.
(Eva steps off soap box now).
🤗 cuber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Cancers are terrible at communication, even when they love someone. Even with their own family.
Not the Cancerian Eva met from another city (about 1 and a half hours from San Antonio, TX); he drove twice to see me. Called me on the landline every day for two weeks straight. He'd say, "Talk to me, talk about your day, I want to hear from you". I stopped seeing him because I don't do LDR and I informed him of this.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: My ex-brother in law is Cancerian, too, he put my sister on a pedestal; they divorced after 20 years of marriage (he cheated on her) and she FINALLY had enough!click to expand
They only go through that constant talking phase in the beginning. They get annoyed with phones more often than not. My boyfriend was the same way. First month, non-stop talking. It falls off. That doesn't mean they don't treat you right. They just aren't typically phone people.
This is coming from someone who's two best friends are Cancers, boyfriend is a Cancer, Uncle is a Cancer. And a host full of exes that are Cancers as well. All of them, don't like the phone.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by nikkistarPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by kiirsttnae
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Dudette, you would have been balling your eyes out if you would have given him the BOOTY and been yet another statistic DXP member who came in here with a different subject altogether.
With that said you already 'RECIPROCATED" and if he didn't respond; it's on HIM not you. Cancerians (when they are interested) will go out of their way to contact you. They love to communicate with you if they are interested. Put 2 and 2 together (you will get 4). He told you he was ready to move. DUH!
Keep thinking of GOOD/POSITIVE reasons why he hasn't texted you lately. When you start thinking of the "negative" reasons, immediately tell yourself that you did ntothign wrong. Ball is on his court.
(Eva steps off soap box now).
🤗 cuber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Cancers are terrible at communication, even when they love someone. Even with their own family.
Not the Cancerian Eva met from another city (about 1 and a half hours from San Antonio, TX); he drove twice to see me. Called me on the landline every day for two weeks straight. He'd say, "Talk to me, talk about your day, I want to hear from you". I stopped seeing him because I don't do LDR and I informed him of this.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: My ex-brother in law is Cancerian, too, he put my sister on a pedestal; they divorced after 20 years of marriage (he cheated on her) and she FINALLY had enough!
They only go through that constant talking phase in the beginning. They get annoyed with phones more often than not. My boyfriend was the same way. First month, non-stop talking. It falls off. That doesn't mean they don't treat you right. They just aren't typically phone people.
This is coming from someone who's two best friends are Cancers, boyfriend is a Cancer, Uncle is a Cancer. And a host full of exes that are Cancers as well. All of them, don't like the phone.click to expand
There IS an exception to the rule, ya know...
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by nikkistarPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by nikkistarPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by kiirsttnae
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Dudette, you would have been balling your eyes out if you would have given him the BOOTY and been yet another statistic DXP member who came in here with a different subject altogether.
With that said you already 'RECIPROCATED" and if he didn't respond; it's on HIM not you. Cancerians (when they are interested) will go out of their way to contact you. They love to communicate with you if they are interested. Put 2 and 2 together (you will get 4). He told you he was ready to move. DUH!
Keep thinking of GOOD/POSITIVE reasons why he hasn't texted you lately. When you start thinking of the "negative" reasons, immediately tell yourself that you did ntothign wrong. Ball is on his court.
(Eva steps off soap box now).
🤗 cuber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Cancers are terrible at communication, even when they love someone. Even with their own family.
Not the Cancerian Eva met from another city (about 1 and a half hours from San Antonio, TX); he drove twice to see me. Called me on the landline every day for two weeks straight. He'd say, "Talk to me, talk about your day, I want to hear from you". I stopped seeing him because I don't do LDR and I informed him of this.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: My ex-brother in law is Cancerian, too, he put my sister on a pedestal; they divorced after 20 years of marriage (he cheated on her) and she FINALLY had enough!
They only go through that constant talking phase in the beginning. They get annoyed with phones more often than not. My boyfriend was the same way. First month, non-stop talking. It falls off. That doesn't mean they don't treat you right. They just aren't typically phone people.
This is coming from someone who's two best friends are Cancers, boyfriend is a Cancer, Uncle is a Cancer. And a host full of exes that are Cancers as well. All of them, don't like the phone.
There IS an exception to the rule, ya know...
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
There are always exceptions to the rule. But the common trait amongst them, from the small pool that I am privy to, all prefer face to face communication, over texting/calling. This is evident as well, with all the "Cancer man left me" threads.
Communication, or lack there of, doesn't negate them treating their significant other poorly or not. Those two aspects, aren't related.
However, you are making a broad statement on Cancer men, based off one EX , is giving advice on a sign that you have lack of experience with.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by kiirsttnaePosted by nikkistar
Why don't you just ask him to go out, if that's what you want?
I'm scared he'll think I'm being clingy or stupid for not getting the silence as a hint. I want to though, cause then I have my answer
Then just ask. It avoids you getting neurotic, and also getting the answer you seek.click to expand
Thank you for the response! I guess I sort of know that it's what I need to do, it's just hard
Posted by Koni
The fact that he told you he is moving soon should be enough to show he isn’t that interested.
Unless you are looking for a quick fling
It's true, it's true. I guess I was holding out hope that he ended up liking me. The move may or may not happen, it's just in his hopes/plans
Posted by kiirsttnaePosted by nikkistarPosted by kiirsttnaePosted by nikkistar
Why don't you just ask him to go out, if that's what you want?
I'm scared he'll think I'm being clingy or stupid for not getting the silence as a hint. I want to though, cause then I have my answer
Then just ask. It avoids you getting neurotic, and also getting the answer you seek.
Thank you for the response! I guess I sort of know that it's what I need to do, it's just hardclick to expand
The reason why I said for you to reach out to him yourself, is so that you get the answer you want, faster, rather than later.
Either you can go on the date you want, or you can move on faster. It sucks for anyone, to sit there, and wonder and fret over something. But we women will do that to ourselves. Even I am not innocent of this. So it's better for you, to just get the answer you want now, then to wait, and then wonder what the hell is going on.
Posted by GC07
You said he reached out then never responded after your reply.
If he left the convo hanging, then you aren’t on his mind or he is seeing if you’re willing to chase.
Wait till he remembers about you, then pursue if you’re still up for it.
Thank you for the advice! That's what I was thinking but I hate waiting and not knowing
Posted by nikkistarPosted by kiirsttnaePosted by nikkistarPosted by kiirsttnaePosted by nikkistar
Why don't you just ask him to go out, if that's what you want?
I'm scared he'll think I'm being clingy or stupid for not getting the silence as a hint. I want to though, cause then I have my answer
Then just ask. It avoids you getting neurotic, and also getting the answer you seek.
Thank you for the response! I guess I sort of know that it's what I need to do, it's just hard
The reason why I said for you to reach out to him yourself, is so that you get the answer you want, faster, rather than later.
Either you can go on the date you want, or you can move on faster. It sucks for anyone, to sit there, and wonder and fret over something. But we women will do that to ourselves. Even I am not innocent of this. So it's better for you, to just get the answer you want now, then to wait, and then wonder what the hell is going on.click to expand
Thanks again, I appreciate the advice! I think it's better to put myself out there than run the risk of letting it fall through the cracks...
What is your sign?!?
Posted by Wanderlustcancerian24
What is your sign?!?
I'm a Gemini but I have a lot of Pisces in my chart
Part of the dilemma that I feel is: on one hand, I'm like the silence means he's not interested. On the other hand, I'm like, what if he wants me to initiate something and takes me not trying as not caring? How do you know? Do cancer men like when women just go and ask?
Posted by kiirsttnae
After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months.
If he's moving, and it's some distance (as in "to see you I have a three hour plane flight"), he probably does not want to get into a relationship.
Just ask him what's up and get an answer. But if my first statement is true, set your expectations accordingly.
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspPosted by kiirsttnae
After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months.
If he's moving, and it's some distance (as in "to see you I have a three hour plane flight"), he probably does not want to get into a relationship.
Just ask him what's up and get an answer. But if my first statement is true, set your expectations accordingly.click to expand
You're right. I guess it's so obvious. I just didn't want to believe that there wasn't a chance, I'm forever hopeful/optimistic to a fault
Posted by kiirsttnae
Part of the dilemma that I feel is: on one hand, I'm like the silence means he's not interested. On the other hand, I'm like, what if he wants me to initiate something and takes me not trying as not caring? How do you know? Do cancer men like when women just go and ask?
I would say yes. I would rather a man ask me than not. I’m a cancer female... I don’t think his silence means he’s not interested. He could be possibly processing all of this. He is moving right!? Soo yeah he’s probably just processing all of this. Cancers do that a lot, as well as, Capricorn’s
Posted by kiirsttnae
Part of the dilemma that I feel is: on one hand, I'm like the silence means he's not interested. On the other hand, I'm like, what if he wants me to initiate something and takes me not trying as not caring? How do you know? Do cancer men like when women just go and ask?
I would say yes. I would rather a man ask me than not. I’m a cancer female... I don’t think his silence means he’s not interested. He could be possibly processing all of this. He is moving right!? Soo yeah he’s probably just processing all of this. Cancers do that a lot, as well as, Capricorn’s
Why are you having so much anxiety about a guy you had ONE DATE with??
Put it into perspective.
He’s a virtual stranger. Take some deep breaths and stop putting all your self worth on whether or not a guy wants a second date with you.
The ‘instant spark’ you felt was one sided. It happens.
Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off and get back out there. Plenty of other d i c k s in the sea.
Put it into perspective.
He’s a virtual stranger. Take some deep breaths and stop putting all your self worth on whether or not a guy wants a second date with you.
The ‘instant spark’ you felt was one sided. It happens.
Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off and get back out there. Plenty of other d i c k s in the sea.
Posted by Wanderlustcancerian24Posted by kiirsttnae
Part of the dilemma that I feel is: on one hand, I'm like the silence means he's not interested. On the other hand, I'm like, what if he wants me to initiate something and takes me not trying as not caring? How do you know? Do cancer men like when women just go and ask?
I would say yes. I would rather a man ask me than not. I’m a cancer female... I don’t think his silence means he’s not interested. He could be possibly processing all of this. He is moving right!? Soo yeah he’s probably just processing all of this. Cancers do that a lot, as well as, Capricorn’sclick to expand
Thank you for your thoughtful answer. His hopes/dreams is to move for a career change, it's not solidified plans or anything. I might reach out one more time and then if he doesn't seem interested I'll move on. Thanks again. I'm not just saying this, but I really felt like he liked me!
Posted by LadyNeptune
Why are you having so much anxiety about a guy you had ONE DATE with??
Put it into perspective.
He’s a virtual stranger. Take some deep breaths and stop putting all your self worth on whether or not a guy wants a second date with you.
The ‘instant spark’ you felt was one sided. It happens.
Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off and get back out there. Plenty of other d i c k s in the sea.
Ha, I always love your responses on here, they are always to the point. And you're right!!
I forgot to mention that we've known each other for a longggg time, we had only just started talking/deciding to go out one night recently. I am worth more than this though, I do agree.
Posted by kiirsttnae
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I wouldn't reach out.
If you're persistent....
The "Im not ready" (sex) for that yet....will imply a "Yes" in his eyes.
Posted by kiirsttnaePosted by LadyNeptune
Why are you having so much anxiety about a guy you had ONE DATE with??
Put it into perspective.
He’s a virtual stranger. Take some deep breaths and stop putting all your self worth on whether or not a guy wants a second date with you.
The ‘instant spark’ you felt was one sided. It happens.
Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off and get back out there. Plenty of other d i c k s in the sea.
Ha, I always love your responses on here, they are always to the point. And you're right!!
I forgot to mention that we've known each other for a longggg time, we had only just started talking/deciding to go out one night recently. I am worth more than this though, I do agree.click to expand
Ok that kinda changes things if you’ve know each other from a platonic standpoint for awhile.
Are you for sure for sure that it was a date? Or was it just a hang out in his mind where his friends joined you all later...
If I’m you I’d invite him out and see what the vibe is. No risk no reward.
Saying this as a female who asked out my man on the first date. 3 years later here we are.
Posted by vivi4656Posted by nikkistarPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by nikkistarPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by kiirsttnae
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Dudette, you would have been balling your eyes out if you would have given him the BOOTY and been yet another statistic DXP member who came in here with a different subject altogether.
With that said you already 'RECIPROCATED" and if he didn't respond; it's on HIM not you. Cancerians (when they are interested) will go out of their way to contact you. They love to communicate with you if they are interested. Put 2 and 2 together (you will get 4). He told you he was ready to move. DUH!
Keep thinking of GOOD/POSITIVE reasons why he hasn't texted you lately. When you start thinking of the "negative" reasons, immediately tell yourself that you did ntothign wrong. Ball is on his court.
(Eva steps off soap box now).
🤗 cuber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Cancers are terrible at communication, even when they love someone. Even with their own family.
Not the Cancerian Eva met from another city (about 1 and a half hours from San Antonio, TX); he drove twice to see me. Called me on the landline every day for two weeks straight. He'd say, "Talk to me, talk about your day, I want to hear from you". I stopped seeing him because I don't do LDR and I informed him of this.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: My ex-brother in law is Cancerian, too, he put my sister on a pedestal; they divorced after 20 years of marriage (he cheated on her) and she FINALLY had enough!
They only go through that constant talking phase in the beginning. They get annoyed with phones more often than not. My boyfriend was the same way. First month, non-stop talking. It falls off. That doesn't mean they don't treat you right. They just aren't typically phone people.
This is coming from someone who's two best friends are Cancers, boyfriend is a Cancer, Uncle is a Cancer. And a host full of exes that are Cancers as well. All of them, don't like the phone.
Unless their mercury is in an air or fire sign! My mercury is in Gemini and I absolutely hate texting! I would rather talk on the phone and I could talk all night! I guess I just like to talk : )!click to expand
The men are not the same as the women.
Posted by Arielle83
I can get ppl hooked with prolonged eye contact and casual caresses too.
Trrruuueee
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by kiirsttnaePosted by LadyNeptune
Why are you having so much anxiety about a guy you had ONE DATE with??
Put it into perspective.
He’s a virtual stranger. Take some deep breaths and stop putting all your self worth on whether or not a guy wants a second date with you.
The ‘instant spark’ you felt was one sided. It happens.
Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off and get back out there. Plenty of other d i c k s in the sea.
Ha, I always love your responses on here, they are always to the point. And you're right!!
I forgot to mention that we've known each other for a longggg time, we had only just started talking/deciding to go out one night recently. I am worth more than this though, I do agree.
Ok that kinda changes things if you’ve know each other from a platonic standpoint for awhile.
Are you for sure for sure that it was a date? Or was it just a hang out in his mind where his friends joined you all later...
If I’m you I’d invite him out and see what the vibe is. No risk no reward.
Saying this as a female who asked out my man on the first date. 3 years later here we are.click to expand
I didn't mention it since we didn't really KNOW each other, we'd just hang in the same social circle but we were always in a relationship. He did call it a date a few times but I am second guessing his intentions. I just don't know if his silence makes it weird if I randomly reach out and ask if he wants to grab a drink or something? But again, I appreciate your responses, they are no BS and I like that
Posted by kiirsttnae
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Am with a cancer man since 9 years
I was the one who did the first step
And at our first dates i use to call him first.
After sometimes when he knew that im really into him he became more open .. he felt safe and sure that im into him and im serious to be with him.
Cancer man need reassurance ..they r scared of beign hurt .. once they feel safe they will show u love affection and everything u need.
He will never think of u as a clingy person
Actualy they find that sexy.
If u don't call they will think that you're not intressted or you're playing games
Posted by elna9814Posted by kiirsttnae
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Am with a cancer man since 9 years
I was the one who did the first step
And when we first dated i use to call him first.and we spent hours taking in the phone.
After sometimes when he knew that im really into him he became more open .. he felt safe and sure that im into him and im serious to be with him.
Cancer man need reassurance ..they r scared of beign hurt .. once they feel safe they will show u love affection and everything u need.
He will never think of u as a clingy person
Actualy they find that sexy.
If u don't call they will think that you're not intressted or you're playing games
click to expand
Posted by kiirsttnaePosted by nikkistar
Why don't you just ask him to go out, if that's what you want?
I'm scared he'll think I'm being clingy or stupid for not getting the silence as a hint. I want to though, cause then I have my answerclick to expand
He use to be so happy when i call first.
Never made me feel bad about it.
I can feel how excited and happy when i call.
Now he call or i call it doesn't matter
We both know how much we love and trust each other.
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I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.