cancer male and second chances

I have had close interactions with cancerian people of both sex ,I have noticed that a male cancerian is

Fun to be with ,Secretive, Quiet ,Very emotional ,Tempermental and unpredictable ,Moody and easily hurt ,Witty and sarcastic
Forgiving but never forgets -----even after they have moved on with a new girl--- do they hold grudge when it comes to their ex flames who has ditched them for another guy or get back with their ex flame if she were to come back anytime ?

I would be intersted to know a cancerian POV

Sunny, if you want the truth, the thing is that cancer usually never forgive and forget. We act like we have, but deep down, we really want to hurt someone back for the hurt they've given to us. It's just that we know it probably isn't a good thing to hurt someone, so we just try to suppress it.

Getting a Cancer back is difficult to say, it really depends on the situation. For example, if I've found someone else that I like in my life I won't get back with my ex if they wanted to, just b/c I want to hurt them. It might not sound good but it's the truth.. If there isn't anyone there, and I really liked my ex, then I would consider getting back with someone, although it would never be the same as before..

I think it varys for person to person.

Yes it does vary. No two persons are the same.

My comments was in regards to how I would feel, I think using general terms such as we and etc was not appropriate.

Damn right i hold a grudge regarding ex flames, once they have done something wrong that ended the relationship, or ended it themselves because they had someone new at the time, thats its, final, end of the story.
I wish that i dadn't hold grudges but i do, if i can hurt you back i will, will it make me feel better, of course not, but its a cancer thing, cancer pride, and you just stepped on it pal, while its hard for me to let go of things in life, at the same time i realise that there really is plenty more fish in the sea, if you love me i will give you my all and everything, but play with my emotions and i will become your worst nightmare, personally i cannot just move past hurt to one side and carry on with the same person like nothing happend, it would never be the same.

I'll hate you forever.

Cancers have no mercy!
bottom line.

BUT cafrella... cancers get it the other way around too. If THEY'VE wronged a person they really loved they can't forgive themselves either. I STILL get letters from my cancer ex who I haven't spoken to in years... most people would just move on. Love to a Cancer is very, very powerful thing and you just don't mess with that.

And this is why they are SO FRIGGIN' WEIRD when you are just beginning a relationship with them. They fear love almost as much as they desire it because they KNOW they're in it for the long haul. I think that's why there are so many posts on this message board asking "why is my cancer boy acting distant?"

If its a really bad relationship, then i may refleact a bit, but I NEVER take it into the next relationship.

taurusgirl, I totally dig you bit up there.

MMMMMMM the Cancer man, yes they are very emotional, sensitive, loving, caring, people. Can be a little pushy at times, when they want something they wont let up on it and it can be done in many ways hints, comments, and through humor.
But man when they hate someone that has wronged them they are serious about it that forgiveness crap is no where in sight, and if u wrong them watch out ur done.

Cheat on them they will turn on you so quick and never look back!! Im with a cancer and they way he talks about his X u know he hates her A*SS she was such a slut Bag. But when they love u you have it all they give everything once they know its for sure u have their heart. So as long as ur true and honest u will be fine with a cancer man ladies.

omigawd is this similar to a taurus fulla.... do they fear it coz theyl no they get heavily involved... coz therez a lot of posts on there about taurusz bein distant or goin n cumin....—??

I think so misty... Cancers and Tauruses are very similar in that respect. We both take a loooong time to warm up to a relationship and play the hot/cold game for awhile. We don't mean to mess with the other person, we just don't want to get hurt by investing our energy into someone who's not worth it. But once a Taurus or a Cancer truly falls in love they transform into panting puppies who want nothing more than to revolve their life around a solid relationship.

Just don't let them get away with the game for too long. Sometimes we need a kick in the bum to make us realize whether we're in or out.

Tauruschic you're on the dot with your post regarding how we (or at least how I) feel. I've been in a couple relationships and I know that once I get in a relationship I fall pretty fast, which is what I'm afraid of. I also know that I tend to give too much in a relationship and at this point I'm really careful about choosing someone. All I ask for is a good heart, but that doesn't seem to be as plentiful as you would think.

I'm baaaaaccccck,da da da dummmmmmm,lol. Sometimes we forgive, forget?nope. Once i see someone f ups a relationship dats it time to move on.

Cancer Buddy-


This is ore on the lines of knowing something that your cancerian man has done and how to approach it.

What if you know your cancer is really into you, "He has told your friend" but not you. Is it something you bring up or just let him tell you in his own time? I really want to tell him how I feel as well (think he is the greatest thing since I don't know what🙂but not sure how to do it with out dishing the converstaion he had with my friend. Any thoughts?

Love to a Cancer is very, very powerful thing and you just don't mess with that

THANK YOU!

I don't know about Cancer men, but I tend to go back until I just get so fed up with your BS that I lose all interest in the man. Half my problem is letting go of the past person and moving on to the next. I mean I like "window shopping" guys but starting a new relationship requires SO much energy that I would rather just go with the old stand-by!