Dating Cancer Male... ugh

I've dated another Cancer (Virgo Moon) male briefly in the past, and he was amazing. But I had to break it off.

Now I am with Cancer Sun / Aquarius Moon / Virgo Rising / Gemini Venus / Gemini Mercury / Libra Mars man and omg. I am so tired of mind games.

Let me share the good things about him. For the most part, he is predictable. Likes to be an home. Got me new tech gadgets and kitchen stuff (Cancer- Aqua much?). He is interesting to be around when is nice and we have fun just chillin.

Now the negatives have been ... the moods! I know you all already discussed this, but DAMN. He is also EXTREMELY not touchy feely (like the other Cancer I knew). My Cancer: doesn't kiss, doesn't hug, doesn't snuggle, no foreplay during sex, sex is meh... I can't cum while having sex with him, then he gets upset. I know I have cummin issue, but I need "stimulation".. like Scorpio guy style . This Cancer is so dry and boring. I have to ask him if he wants sex? Then he NEVER gives straight answer...to anything. It's always a maybe, we will see. I think he withheld sex from me in the past as "punishment".

I do not cheat, but it's hard not connecting emotionally and spiritually with this guy (Gemini Sun /Pisces Moon / Cancer Rising).

Another thing I noticed.. he tried to covertly make me jealous. He will follow some nude chick on insta, or has his female friend call him to cry on his shoulder about her bf. SO FAR, I've been pretty calm and collected. I asked him about those women and HE WENT OFF ON ME, calling me insecure and etc. Like wtf? I have a right to know, I am just asking.

Is it normal for Cancers to make their partners jealous? I am very transparent with him about my life. He has all of my passwords, I show him everything, etc. Can't say the same for him. I am 1 minute away from breaking up with him. Like last night he snuggled for a bit, I was in SHOCK, because he himself even told me that he is not touchy feely. I don't know if he is just saying that to hurt me? test me? I don't this shit in my life. I am 34 and he is 39. I want a kind, loving, caring, stable and no game partner.

My Cancer guy spent the last 2 weeks with me at my place though. He has the ability to work from home. Even though he needed to go to work site, he didn't. Is this controlling? or is he trying to see if I am a cheater? I don't mind him here, unless he is being an ass. ALSO, he sometimes puts me down and says demeaning things... like jokes. Never compliments me, if he does it's super duper rare. I always compliment him, and try to build him up. I think he is the insecure one. Any ideas? thanks

I am Gemini Sun / Pisces Moon clarification

Lord have mercy... I've dated a couple Cancer men, so I can give you a bit of insight. My thoughts on unevolved Cancer men is... double standards don't apply to them. Aquarius moon there adds the detached element to his emotions, especially in regards to nurturing. Cancer men do have insecurity... that's stems from their own unresolved issues. You don't have to accommodate to that. I mean you're saying you're one minute away from leaving, what's stopping you? The whole passwords thing, I mean that's your privacy (you can always take it back) and if he has a problem with that maybe he's not mature enough to be in a mature relationship.

Regardless, uh, none of my Cancer relationships ended nice and easy. One broke up with me to pursue other ladies (Gemini Venus maybe had an effect on that), and the other one cheated on me and broke up with me stating he wanted to focus on himself (before I found out). Hm. Yeah first one found out I moved on quicker than him and returned back in my life to stir some chaos in my feelings, resulting in me being seriously messed up for awhile. They both wanted to be portrayed as good guys - were ADAMANT they were good guys (lol!). The first one even had something on his computer to download my passwords and spy on my social media. >>; Anywho, tell me when you find a mature Cancer... they have A LOT of emotional growth to go through IMO.

It's your life, but you're a Gem... so he might intrigue you, but know your boundaries and stick to them to preserve your mental health.

Cheers~

“I want a kind, loving, caring, stable and no game partner”

There’s your answer

What are you waiting for?

"I can't cum while having sex with him, then he gets upset."

Change your passwords and get the hell out of there.

Ugh, indeed

How long have you two been together?

Seems like sex needs to be worked on cause if you were having the orgasms you needed you might not be as cranky about the other stuff.

Any redeeming qualities?

I would laugh at him, a lot.

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How long have you two been together?

Seems like sex needs to be worked on cause if you were having the orgasms you needed you might not be as cranky about the other stuff.

What sort of a man doesn't hug, doesn't kiss, doesn't do the basics. I get some men might not be into a rug munching, but no wonder he doesn't make her orgasm. More life in a corpse.

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I was thinking he would be a better friend, since he doesn't like intimacy.

But he likes it enough to get his rocks off lol

Selfish!!!! He needs a body to dump into, not a girlfriend lol

Seems like he doesn't like her much, if this is how he's treating her. Most men aren't this selfish with affection. But what do I know?!

She should stop putting up with it and make demands of what he needs to do. If he gets upset about it, she should find a new boyfriend. Sexual compatibility is very important for a person that actually likes sex.

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Posted by saggurl88

How long have you two been together?

Seems like sex needs to be worked on cause if you were having the orgasms you needed you might not be as cranky about the other stuff.

What sort of a man doesn't hug, doesn't kiss, doesn't do the basics. I get some men might not be into a rug munching, but no wonder he doesn't make her orgasm. More life in a corpse.

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Lol

What’s the betting he doesn’t know where the clitoris is

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Any redeeming qualities?

I would laugh at him, a lot.

Fr fr I love you

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Posted by saggurl88

How long have you two been together?

Seems like sex needs to be worked on cause if you were having the orgasms you needed you might not be as cranky about the other stuff.

What sort of a man doesn't hug, doesn't kiss, doesn't do the basics. I get some men might not be into a rug munching, but no wonder he doesn't make her orgasm. More life in a corpse.

Lol

What’s the betting he doesn’t know where the clitoris is

I went to into my local library to find a book about it, I couldn't find it on the shelf.

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Dying

😂😅🤣🤠

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"I am 1 minute away from breaking up with him"

Ok everyone, I broke up with him. He cussed me out over nothing. He has anger issue and I think he wanted to sabotage the relationship anyway. He left some "note" at home with some writing and xoxo while he was at his place, to see if I give him a jealous reaction, but I said NOTHING. Then I called and asked him a question about my car, and he started getting mad, so I was like WTF? I am being calm and just asking. Then he came over found a stupid reason to go ballistic and yelled FUCK YOU at me and left. At first I was sad, then I sent him a message that I am done. He came to get his stuff, I said that I am willing to talk and what he did was verbal abuse. His friend backed him up and said that it is not verbal abuse. However, I had clinical therapists and phychologists tell me that IS IT. That is verbal and emotional abuse. He said if I say anything, it will be used against me. lol. Haven't talked for 1 day.

What an a s s! Good for you.

To be exact. I had internet issue at home, so I tried logging into my modem, only to learn that he set a username and password and I didn't know what it was. (He works in IT). This made me feel like he is controlling, so I reset the modem and router, but I messed some stuff up because I didn't have a USB to ethernet cable to fix the issue. He comes over and YELLS at me for doing this. I am like, wtf? This is my internet, why are you controlling it? He said ..because users like you mess things up. I am like..well if you didn't log me out, I would fix it. Then he says.. if you only asked me for login. I am like.. first of all, whenever I ask him ANYTHING, he gets so mad, for even asking. I don't like to ask. Second, if he would have told me everything when he set the username and password and told me to ask him for help or login IF I had an issue, there would be no fight. He just wanted to get into a fight because deep down he knows I am a good solid woman and he doesn't deserve me. He thinks highly of himself because he is good with computers (I will give him that), but his old username was: God. Yes, he has a God complex. I call him out on his BS so he hates me for that too. He need a dumb young girl he can manipulate.

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😸 Good one

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Oh , he is a serial relationship type of guy. He has a lot of exes from previous relationships. He will find someone, I am sure.

Eww bad sex.