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I'm sorry!😢
So Char, today he told me the cutest thing. First girl he ever kissed in kinder was a Gemi. I can't figure out this boy AT ALL! Right when I give up on him, cuteness factor goes to 1000%
Did he say that knowing you're a gem?
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Of course he knows!!! He always makes jokes about my Gemi bi-polar disorder and asks what twin is in control on any certain day; or how all my multiple personalities are feeling on any given day!!! He so is messing with me!!
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I'm sorry!😢
So Char, today he told me the cutest thing. First girl he ever kissed in kinder was a Gemi. I can't figure out this boy AT ALL! Right when I give up on him, cuteness factor goes to 1000%
Woman! Get yourself together! Just because he says something cute, it doesn´t mean he is into you. What is there to "figure out"? He tells you a story from kindergarten, so what?

I´m just writing this, so you can snap out of it and not get seriously hurt. ... But perhaps you´re already in too deep and will go through what you need to go through.
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Yup, I'm in some seriously deep water! Like (gulp gulp gulp)... Help! I'm drowning lol... Gemi all out of air here!!! Hahaha
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@alfabutt

I think I'm too far gone... I'm never making it back to the no-feeling-keep-it-professional-with-a-stranger-mode. I think he is like with this crazy back and forth, like he's more confused than me and I just being out the crazy in him. He only said the sister thing when I pushed him to take it to the next step or let me go. I think it was his knee-jerk reaction to make me put myself in check. I've no idea, he was mad. And when he's angry whatever he says means butter cause he says just what he knows will upset me. I'm staying cold no matter what cuteness he says... If he wants it, he knows where to come and get it. I just can't play around at my age. I'm no high school girl
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Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
One harsh truth I have learned through experience personally, and reading forums like this one for years is that when a guy wants you, he will stop at nothing to make that happen.
That's why I'm just letting it go... He knows where to find me... I'm just a little hallway away. If time passes and he never comes then it's just how it was meant to happen. Truth is, I think deep down I know that I love him, but we'd never make eachother truly happy. His situation and mine are so different. But other times, I just feel that he needs someone in his life to love him like I do - from what he's told me, I don't think anyone in his life ever, has loved him right or for just being him. He knows I love him, but the choice to accept that love and make something of it has to come from him. So I'm leaving that up to the cosmos.
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Fire his a $ $ lol
Char, you are so mischevious! Lol...
I'd never... He's actually really awesome at what he does, it's actually a lot of why I like him; great work ethic!
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Haha, I see, and that would be indeed a pretty shitty thing to do anyway lol You do know that if you are to get over him even though you're still seeing him on a daily basis, it's going to be really hard... Get under someone else, maybe? Hehe 😉
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Fire his a $ $ lol
Char, you are so mischevious! Lol...
I'd never... He's actually really awesome at what he does, it's actually a lot of why I like him; great work ethic!
Haha, I see, and that would be indeed a pretty shitty thing to do anyway lol You do know that if you are to get over him even though you're still seeing him on a daily basis, it's going to be really hard... Get under someone else, maybe? Hehe 😉
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Nah, I'd rather just give up. I had already given up previously and decided to focus on me and live a single life, no dating, no guys etc. There comes a point when you decide that the disappointment is just too much to keep putting yourself out there. I promised myself no more unless it comes literally knocking on my door. Then my little crab appears. I have been on a single date in 4 years, by choice not because of lack of opportunity. That's why this to me is so hard; the cosmos sent me the correct person but it never told me the catch; that he wouldn't be ready for me. And probably never will be. So, that's why I don't mind loving him on his terms and waiting... Cause honestly, I had no other names on my dance card and I lost my pencil ages ago...
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Fire his a $ $ lol
Char, you are so mischevious! Lol...
I'd never... He's actually really awesome at what he does, it's actually a lot of why I like him; great work ethic!
Haha, I see, and that would be indeed a pretty shitty thing to do anyway lol You do know that if you are to get over him even though you're still seeing him on a daily basis, it's going to be really hard... Get under someone else, maybe? Hehe 😉
Nah, I'd rather just give up. I had already given up previously and decided to focus on me and live a single life, no dating, no guys etc. There comes a point when you decide that the disappointment is just too much to keep putting yourself out there. I promised myself no more unless it comes literally knocking on my door. Then my little crab appears. I have been on a single date in 4 years, by choice not because of lack of opportunity. That's why this to me is so hard; the cosmos sent me the correct person but it never told me the catch; that he wouldn't be ready for me. And probably never will be. So, that's why I don't mind loving him on his terms and waiting... Cause honestly, I had no other names on my dance card and I lost my pencil ages ago...
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I totally understand... You know how it is said that he comes when you're not looking for him... But anyway, I don't think the universe would send you a guy that wasn't ready for you, unless it is to teach you some kind of lesson, such as, don't give too much when you're not getting the respect or love you deserve etc. If this guy was indeed the perfect guy and meant for you, it would simply be. At least that's the way I see it. Just relax and keep on doing your own thing, and see what happens. Don't stress it out. If it is meant to be...
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Posted by Charfig5
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Fire his a $ $ lol
Char, you are so mischevious! Lol...
I'd never... He's actually really awesome at what he does, it's actually a lot of why I like him; great work ethic!
Haha, I see, and that would be indeed a pretty shitty thing to do anyway lol You do know that if you are to get over him even though you're still seeing him on a daily basis, it's going to be really hard... Get under someone else, maybe? Hehe 😉
Nah, I'd rather just give up. I had already given up previously and decided to focus on me and live a single life, no dating, no guys etc. There comes a point when you decide that the disappointment is just too much to keep putting yourself out there. I promised myself no more unless it comes literally knocking on my door. Then my little crab appears. I have been on a single date in 4 years, by choice not because of lack of opportunity. That's why this to me is so hard; the cosmos sent me the correct person but it never told me the catch; that he wouldn't be ready for me. And probably never will be. So, that's why I don't mind loving him on his terms and waiting... Cause honestly, I had no other names on my dance card and I lost my pencil ages ago...
I totally understand... You know how it is said that he comes when you're not looking for him... But anyway, I don't think the universe would send you a guy that wasn't ready for you, unless it is to teach you some kind of lesson, such as, don't give too much when you're not getting the respect or love you deserve etc. If this guy was indeed the perfect guy and meant for you, it would simply be. At least that's the way I see it. Just relax and keep on doing your own thing, and see what happens. Don't stress it out. If it is meant to be...
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"If it's meant to be..."
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So, it was torture, but I gave my cancer space. He definitely noticed that I was hurt and upset, he came and asked me if I was punishing him. And if I was having a tantrum. Lol... I said no to the tantrum, I was just sad and hurt and needed some space; but that if anyone was getting punished it was me, cause I missed him a lot. He gave me the cutest little boy smile. I just love him way too much; this boy can do no wrong. We are slowly repairing the break I caused by losing my butter and being a girl. But I just don't know how to be friends. Today he came looking for me where I was hanging, I told a mutual friend, and they both showed up to hangout with me. That little bit of time and him surprising me was like gold. You cancer men just need to quit messing with the sweet sensitive girls; our heart just can't take it. Messing with a Gemini is like messing with a 14 year old girl that has met her first crush; our little glitter hearts can't take it!
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See update above. You were all so great before with your advice, it really helped me cope - I need more perspective on this issue from you guys! Thanks!!! Xoxo!!

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It's definetely hard to be friends with the person you love so much,i did it one,but i wouldn't want to do it again,i had hope to be together because she told me she wants me in her life,but for now just be friends,i waited patienly,and all of a sudden she has a boyfriend,that was knife straight to my heart,all my hopes and dreams crushed,she made me believe and then killed that hope with that action,if you're going to be a friend don't expect anything more,because deep down you def will,and if he finds a girl,you will be crushed hard,like i was,it's just my experience, yours might turn out different,it's just from my view if you're stayin friends try distant yourself a little bit ,don't have to much hope to be something else,if you become a girlfriend good for you,but don't expect that from him,because i think he might break your heart .stay strong !
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It's definetely hard to be friends with the person you love so much,i did it one,but i wouldn't want to do it again,i had hope to be together because she told me she wants me in her life,but for now just be friends,i waited patienly,and all of a sudden she has a boyfriend,that was knife straight to my heart,all my hopes and dreams crushed,she made me believe and then killed that hope with that action,if you're going to be a friend don't expect anything more,because deep down you def will,and if he finds a girl,you will be crushed hard,like i was,it's just my experience, yours might turn out different,it's just from my view if you're stayin friends try distant yourself a little bit ,don't have to much hope to be something else,if you become a girlfriend good for you,but don't expect that from him,because i think he might break your heart .stay strong !
I'm staying super strong. But it's just stuff he does that makes me wonder. Like this week he showed me a picture of his parent's wedding when they were young and in love; u thought that was very cute and I reciprocated showing one of my folks. We know eachother's folks so it was sweet, we talked about what pretty brides our moms were when they were young girls. Like really, who does that? Today he saw some girl he thought he knew, but wasn't sure, from the back; I was like - well, does that look like her rump? Lol.. I'm a real witch sometimes! He said no, this girl he knows has a finer body. I said I had to go, oddly enough I had needed to go to the bathroom before; but he thought I was upset and his first reaction was - "why, where you going" - I was like, a girl needs to go potty... You wanna come?! He definitely thought at first that I was going to do that jealous sulking thing - but no more! I'm done with that, if he wants me - here I am!
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It's definetely hard to be friends with the person you love so much,i did it one,but i wouldn't want to do it again,i had hope to be together because she told me she wants me in her life,but for now just be friends,i waited patienly,and all of a sudden she has a boyfriend,that was knife straight to my heart,all my hopes and dreams crushed,she made me believe and then killed that hope with that action,if you're going to be a friend don't expect anything more,because deep down you def will,and if he finds a girl,you will be crushed hard,like i was,it's just my experience, yours might turn out different,it's just from my view if you're stayin friends try distant yourself a little bit ,don't have to much hope to be something else,if you become a girlfriend good for you,but don't expect that from him,because i think he might break your heart .stay strong !
I'm staying super strong. But it's just stuff he does that makes me wonder. Like this week he showed me a picture of his parent's wedding when they were young and in love; u thought that was very cute and I reciprocated showing one of my folks. We know eachother's folks so it was sweet, we talked about what pretty brides our moms were when they were young girls. Like really, who does that? Today he saw some girl he thought he knew, but wasn't sure, from the back; I was like - well, does that look like her rump? Lol.. I'm a real witch sometimes! He said no, this girl he knows has a finer body. I said I had to go, oddly enough I had needed to go to the bathroom before; but he thought I was upset and his first reaction was - "why, where you going" - I was like, a girl needs to go potty... You wanna come?! He definitely thought at first that I was going to do that jealous sulking thing - but no more! I'm done with that, if he wants me - here I am!
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great attitude,make sure he knows you're still into him,because if he will think you're not,he might start to withdraw,or get scared,panicking and start doing some rlly weeird shi@t 😄
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It's definetely hard to be friends with the person you love so much,i did it one,but i wouldn't want to do it again,i had hope to be together because she told me she wants me in her life,but for now just be friends,i waited patienly,and all of a sudden she has a boyfriend,that was knife straight to my heart,all my hopes and dreams crushed,she made me believe and then killed that hope with that action,if you're going to be a friend don't expect anything more,because deep down you def will,and if he finds a girl,you will be crushed hard,like i was,it's just my experience, yours might turn out different,it's just from my view if you're stayin friends try distant yourself a little bit ,don't have to much hope to be something else,if you become a girlfriend good for you,but don't expect that from him,because i think he might break your heart .stay strong !
I'm staying super strong. But it's just stuff he does that makes me wonder. Like this week he showed me a picture of his parent's wedding when they were young and in love; u thought that was very cute and I reciprocated showing one of my folks. We know eachother's folks so it was sweet, we talked about what pretty brides our moms were when they were young girls. Like really, who does that? Today he saw some girl he thought he knew, but wasn't sure, from the back; I was like - well, does that look like her rump? Lol.. I'm a real witch sometimes! He said no, this girl he knows has a finer body. I said I had to go, oddly enough I had needed to go to the bathroom before; but he thought I was upset and his first reaction was - "why, where you going" - I was like, a girl needs to go potty... You wanna come?! He definitely thought at first that I was going to do that jealous sulking thing - but no more! I'm done with that, if he wants me - here I am!
great attitude,make sure he knows you're still into him,because if he will think you're not,he might start to withdraw,or get scared,panicking and start doing some rlly weeird shi@t 😄
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So quick ? - I'm super sensitive and he gets downright mean when he's being crabby with me; all he ever complains about when he hurts my feelings or when I cry is that I need to be stronger and grow a backbone... You got any clue!
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@gemiGirl78 yhh,might be so quick if he doesn't love you now,he might retreat after such a small thing because he might be afraid to fall for you,because when we fall,we fall hard,we leave heads out and go only with heart all in,when we fall we don't withdraw so quick,we try to solve all problems and everything,but before we fall we might withdraw of small things because of fear ,fear of rejection or something,well i have sagittarius move so i conquer fears like this with courage,but other crabbies i know would def withdraw,if he has a fire moon sign he might have enough courage to counquer these fears 🙂 i'm myself in crazy situation right now lol,that girl that broke my heart a month ago ,cheated on me and changed me for other man now has her birtday today,i havn't delted her on social media and now i'm thinking should i wish her a happy b-day or i shouldn't one side of me say's be nice and wish her,other side says she isn't worth it,she did so much shit to you she doesn't deserve it,if i would wish her happy b-day it wouldn't be sincere,because somehow i don't feel like sayin that for now,i'll just gow with the feel,i'f in any moment i'll feel like i should congratz her on the b-day i will,but if i will not i don't want to force myself,it should be a genuine one,not a forced one 🙂 somehow it's first time i could move on so quick,1month and i'm moving in life,have goals and things to do,it's prob because i sacrificed so much that i realised how much i'm worth and my value,she might be the only one girl that i could say that she didn't deserve me,love is not enough,respect,honesty and trust goes with relationship 2,if you aint havin these,it's fallin apart eventualy...don't worry,it's amazing how people make you feel that if you're crying you're weak,but it's not true, if you see person crying in the street you're feelin uncomftable,because he has courage to do that infront of everyone else and you're holding that inside,that's why people feel uncomftable in these situations,psychology teaches this,some people swallow crying as weakness so hard that they can't cry anymore,then they end up having huge problems.....strong person isn't the one who doesn't crie,it's the one who can cry ,it's the one who can open the heart and stay vulnerable,everyone can trust their head,because it's logical,it makes sense,but only the strongest and most couragious people can fully trust their heart,open it and go with it,every single person you let in you heart you give them a huge sword,they might protect you with it,or stab you with it,but you're open for them,you trust them,love them and respect them,and you just have faith and such love in them that you hope and believe that they won't do it,they might do ,they might not,time shows,same things with relationships,same things with friends. 🙂
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No thank you to being friends with someone I'm very much in love with. That's torture for me and my loyalty lies with my heart and what is on its betterment. Get rid of him.

I had a cancer prick attempt that lame hot/cold bullshit on me about a year and I shut him down long before I got to the stage you are at. If you keep him around then you're only doing a disservice to your psyche.
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So, here's my bit of advice: little crabbies are a real gem. Don't sell yourself short on this girl. Trust me, karma is a real witch and she's always watching! This girl will get hers and you deserve someone that will appreciate that big heart of yours and the smart way in which your mind thinks. You seem very logical; therefore logic should tell you that wishing an ungrateful person happy birthday is just a waste of a good wish from the wish genie.

Save that wish for asking the cosmos to send you a girl that adores you! Sometimes I feel like crabs not only like the difficult girl but also the one that mistreats them and does not appreciate. For my sake, break the pattern! Mine suffers from the same ailment as you do, his ex is a nightmare who ruined his life. Find someone that raises you up and makes you feel like a bright shiny sun in her sky. I see lots of happiness in your future, so keep looking forward.
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No thank you to being friends with someone I'm very much in love with. That's torture for me and my loyalty lies with my heart and what is on its betterment. Get rid of him.

I had a cancer prick attempt that lame hot/cold bullshit on me about a year and I shut him down long before I got to the stage you are at. If you keep him around then you're only doing a disservice to your psyche.
My psyche has totally evolved to psycho, so imma goner for sure lol
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So, here's my bit of advice: little crabbies are a real gem. Don't sell yourself short on this girl. Trust me, karma is a real witch and she's always watching! This girl will get hers and you deserve someone that will appreciate that big heart of yours and the smart way in which your mind thinks. You seem very logical; therefore logic should tell you that wishing an ungrateful person happy birthday is just a waste of a good wish from the wish genie.

Save that wish for asking the cosmos to send you a girl that adores you! Sometimes I feel like crabs not only like the difficult girl but also the one that mistreats them and does not appreciate. For my sake, break the pattern! Mine suffers from the same ailment as you do, his ex is a nightmare who ruined his life. Find someone that raises you up and makes you feel like a bright shiny sun in her sky. I see lots of happiness in your future, so keep looking forward.
thankyou 🙂 have huge goals now,i'll create a topic in summer about my goals and what i did on summer with pic's and might get some videos!i know i will be happy someday,now i'm just feeling hyped with all the challenges i made for myself,the things that keep me alive ! goodluck with your cancer guy 2! 🙂
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No thank you to being friends with someone I'm very much in love with. That's torture for me and my loyalty lies with my heart and what is on its betterment. Get rid of him.

I had a cancer prick attempt that lame hot/cold bullshit on me about a year and I shut him down long before I got to the stage you are at. If you keep him around then you're only doing a disservice to your psyche.
My psyche has totally evolved to psycho, so imma goner for sure lol
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And it's only going to get worse if you keep him around. People don't realize the kind of damage they do to themselves by keeping unrequited love around. It makes you bitter, angry and once you see him with someone else, you'll lose it because deep down you really want him and he didn't reciprocate. You're going to compare yourself to the new woman in his life and your self esteem will take a hit then too.
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No thank you to being friends with someone I'm very much in love with. That's torture for me and my loyalty lies with my heart and what is on its betterment. Get rid of him.

I had a cancer prick attempt that lame hot/cold bullshit on me about a year and I shut him down long before I got to the stage you are at. If you keep him around then you're only doing a disservice to your psyche.
My psyche has totally evolved to psycho, so imma goner for sure lol
And it's only going to get worse if you keep him around. People don't realize the kind of damage they do to themselves by keeping unrequited love around. It makes you bitter, angry and once you see him with someone else, you'll lose it because deep down you really want him and he didn't reciprocate. You're going to compare yourself to the new woman in his life and your self esteem will take a hit then too.
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It's funny you say that - it's only happened one time before to me, about 7 years ago. I was not really upset with myself as I was upset with him. We were together for 3 years and then we broke up and I saw his new girl. I felt so bad for her cause he's an a $ $ and I saw her and I just felt even, cause he'd definitely traded down. She was pretty but very plain, I kind of have a huge ego, we don't both fit in the same room - mostly cause I'm drop dead gorgeous lol ... Self-esteem, not a problem here...
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Completely different situation. You dated the guy in this situation. You know his flaws and there is a distaste in your mouth; hence the break up and that you felt sorry for the girl.

I'm talking about unrequited love where you think someone is great and the feeling isn't mutual. He never dated you for you to see him inside out the way you would with a BF.

If this cancer saw the conceit I'm seeing in your post, then I can see why he didn't like you like that. You see, there's a difference between confidence and arrogance. Confidence is silent while arrogance is secret shitty self esteem masked with conceit. You're the latter. I can see that. Your self esteem is pretty shitty no matter what you say because truly confident people don't feel the need to put someone else down and feel threatened by them and nor do they sit there and talk about their good qualities (I'm hot, I'm this and I'm that and i can get whatever I want")