@brianafay
19 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius
Explain this behavior please
Why Do Some People Focus on Their Ailments and Negativity
People may dwell on their negative experiences due to emotional stress or a desire for support. This behavior can sometimes be influenced by personality traits or astrological tendencies, such as those associated with Cancer. Understanding these patterns helps in fostering healthier communication and empathy.
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What is it now?
Do you need more material for your wet dreams?
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Nah, I just wanted to say... Fuck you.
Example
My grandfather’s in town with his cancer wife
I have heard about her back issues and spinal surgery not once, but at least twice a day every day since she’s been here.
Somehow every conversation turns into negativity and a pity party
I say “woo! It’s hot as balls outside, thanking the air conditioning gods today”
She goes into a 15 minute explanation about how she can’t deal with heat and it makes her sick and she’ll pass out and have to go to the ER...her sweat glands don’t work right...that’s why she couldn’t live in Florida...when she was 5 she got heat stroke and had to be sprayed down with a hose...she can feel her pulse in temporal artery every time she goes outside. 🤦🏼♀️
It’s exhausting af
somebody mentions my baby is the first great grand baby on this side of the family. She goes off about how she has a great grand baby that she’ll never get to meet because her grandson wrote her off and blah blah blah
And she has 7 grandchildren she hardly gets to see cause they all live in other states and it really hurts when your family is spread out like that
As if it’s personal. As if they weren’t the ones that moved away from their families (they were)
Maybe it is personal for her kids though idk I’m sick of listening to it day 3 I can’t imagine how they feel
Example
My grandfather’s in town with his cancer wife
I have heard about her back issues and spinal surgery not once, but at least twice a day every day since she’s been here.
Somehow every conversation turns into negativity and a pity party
I say “woo! It’s hot as balls outside, thanking the air conditioning gods today”
She goes into a 15 minute explanation about how she can’t deal with heat and it makes her sick and she’ll pass out and have to go to the ER...her sweat glands don’t work right...that’s why she couldn’t live in Florida...when she was 5 she got heat stroke and had to be sprayed down with a hose...she can feel her pulse in temporal artery every time she goes outside. 🤦🏼♀️
It’s exhausting af
Hook the hose up.
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😂thought of it more than once
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Not really a Cancer thing. I get this from a Cap and a Gemini.
I realize it’s a generalization
Just a pattern I’ve noticed with cancer women in my family specifically and a few friends throughout the years
Funny you mention caps though cause my mother in law does this and she’s a Cap and I always thought she acted like a cancer 😂
My leg hurts, I didn't sleep well, and my neighbor owes me like $ 200.
These are literally Facebook posts from my cancer aunt too
Another one
Extremely loving and caring people
I want to love and care for them too but fuckkkkkkkk how does one do it?
Example
My grandfather’s in town with his cancer wife
I have heard about her back issues and spinal surgery not once, but at least twice a day every day since she’s been here.
Somehow every conversation turns into negativity and a pity party
I say “woo! It’s hot as balls outside, thanking the air conditioning gods today”
She goes into a 15 minute explanation about how she can’t deal with heat and it makes her sick and she’ll pass out and have to go to the ER...her sweat glands don’t work right...that’s why she couldn’t live in Florida...when she was 5 she got heat stroke and had to be sprayed down with a hose...she can feel her pulse in temporal artery every time she goes outside. 🤦🏼♀️
It’s exhausting af
rofl at how your mind actually remembers all that unnecessary information
i just couldn't tbh
like my eyes are with you but my mind is suddenly somewhere else after 3 mins tbqh
Lmao
😆 it’s obviously really getting to me
Had a nightmare already in which she was in my house complaining for hours
This will never happen in reality because she will never come to my house, sorry. My mom can have fun hosting that
Example
My grandfather’s in town with his cancer wife
I have heard about her back issues and spinal surgery not once, but at least twice a day every day since she’s been here.
Somehow every conversation turns into negativity and a pity party
I say “woo! It’s hot as balls outside, thanking the air conditioning gods today”
She goes into a 15 minute explanation about how she can’t deal with heat and it makes her sick and she’ll pass out and have to go to the ER...her sweat glands don’t work right...that’s why she couldn’t live in Florida...when she was 5 she got heat stroke and had to be sprayed down with a hose...she can feel her pulse in temporal artery every time she goes outside. 🤦🏼♀️
It’s exhausting af
rofl at how your mind actually remembers all that unnecessary information
i just couldn't tbh
like my eyes are with you but my mind is suddenly somewhere else after 3 mins tbqh
Lmao
😆 it’s obviously really getting to me
Had a nightmare already in which she was in my house complaining for hours
This will never happen in reality because she will never come to my house, sorry. My mom can have fun hosting that
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Oh heck 😬
Pisces Moon?
Example
My grandfather’s in town with his cancer wife
I have heard about her back issues and spinal surgery not once, but at least twice a day every day since she’s been here.
Somehow every conversation turns into negativity and a pity party
I say “woo! It’s hot as balls outside, thanking the air conditioning gods today”
She goes into a 15 minute explanation about how she can’t deal with heat and it makes her sick and she’ll pass out and have to go to the ER...her sweat glands don’t work right...that’s why she couldn’t live in Florida...when she was 5 she got heat stroke and had to be sprayed down with a hose...she can feel her pulse in temporal artery every time she goes outside. 🤦🏼♀️
It’s exhausting af
rofl at how your mind actually remembers all that unnecessary information
i just couldn't tbh
like my eyes are with you but my mind is suddenly somewhere else after 3 mins tbqh
Lmao
😆 it’s obviously really getting to me
Had a nightmare already in which she was in my house complaining for hours
This will never happen in reality because she will never come to my house, sorry. My mom can have fun hosting that
Oh heck 😬
Pisces Moon?
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No clue actually
Extremely loving and caring people
I want to love and care for them too but fuckkkkkkkk how does one do it?
Maybe it's an age thing
Older ppl do have way more health issues ama are generally ignore by society
Maybe they want your attention and to feel important
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I have mainly noticed this behavior in cancer women over a certain age
You are right
I wonder they’re mostly all divorced 😬
I mean obviously not my grandpa’s wife but he’s not all there
This isn't accurate portrayal of crab women
But ok
I knew this wouldn’t be received well
FWIW I think you complain more about humanitarian issues that bother you than personal ailments etc
Have you ever considered that part of the problem may be you? I find that Sags, especially the younger ones, don't like feeling bogged down by other people's problems...
I’m 1000% ok with it being my issue tbh
I’m going to share some actual posts from my cancer aunt on Facebook recently
Just so you really understand what I mean here
Is it just me?
It can be me
What is the proper response ?
Like the first couple times they complain about something I’m like “oh no, so sorry to hear that”
“Sheesh, you’re having a rough go at it”
“Well, it’s all up from here” ⛅️🌤☀️
What do you say when it’s like 15 minutes of complaints...hours and days of complaints?
Like how can one person have so many problems?!
Help I’m serious 😂😩
I hear this more in Scorpios (it's one of the things that actually turned me off of the Scorp I was seeing.. my God I wanted to stick knives in my ears but resorted to telling him to suck it up pussy instead 😂🤷), Virgos (guilty 🙋) and Leo's like to play on that as well...not as bad as the others and it's usually when they are being called out for something.
I think it happens more when you just aren't happy in life... everything feels 10x worse than it really is and it feels like you against the whole world. But you're right...no one wants to hear that shit everyday. Once you realize that shit is gonna happen no matter what you do...you tend to just let it happen and learn to laugh at the ridiculousness. It's basically a state of depression...not full blown but borderline depression imo.
Oh we're talking about old people? Yeah, good luck with that 😂. They will never stop complaining...and honestly majority have the right to do so...I usually laugh about it...not at them but just the shit that comes out of their mouths but I love old people so 🤷
Tbh I didn't read the whole thread but did read what your cancer aunt wrote on FB...sounds exactly like my Aqua mom lol.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Not really a Cancer thing. I get this from a Cap and a Gemini.
aaaamennnnn
my scorpio ex literally drove me away with his suffocating complaining...eveeeeeryDAYYYY . the world was to blame
didnt want to go anywhere. i would be so happy to go to him...but then the minue i stepped in............everything negative
and sex......just depressive and sex .......and I AM A CANCER AND I RAN
first time ever i broke up
i dont even think its a cancer thing, people have a tendency to be negative and it spiral downwards when they are in that state of mind, although some cancers are the brooding type. maybe they had bad day or alot of bad things happened in a row which led to that behavior
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Help I’m serious 😂😩
Learn how to look like you’re listening sympathetically but daydream instead.
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It’s so hard for a Scorp riser
My face always gives me away
I just think old people don't have anything serious going on with their loves, and because of this, their ailments are what they do have. My ex mom in law will go on and on about all of her illnesses to me and she's not a cancer.
When you have nothing else going in your life, you just talk what you know. Lol
I just think old people don't have anything serious going on with their loves, and because of this, their ailments are what they do have. My ex mom in law will go on and on about all of her illnesses to me and she's not a cancer.
When you have nothing else going in your life, you just talk what you know. Lol
Even more depressing
You have to create boundaries. Toxic people / chronic complainers will spew venom at whoever will listen. They're usually too selfish and/or consumed to consider the burden they place on other people.
Example
My grandfather’s in town with his cancer wife
I have heard about her back issues and spinal surgery not once, but at least twice a day every day since she’s been here.
Somehow every conversation turns into negativity and a pity party
I say “woo! It’s hot as balls outside, thanking the air conditioning gods today”
She goes into a 15 minute explanation about how she can’t deal with heat and it makes her sick and she’ll pass out and have to go to the ER...her sweat glands don’t work right...that’s why she couldn’t live in Florida...when she was 5 she got heat stroke and had to be sprayed down with a hose...she can feel her pulse in temporal artery every time she goes outside. 🤦🏼♀️
It’s exhausting af
rofl at how your mind actually remembers all that unnecessary information
i just couldn't tbh
like my eyes are with you but my mind is suddenly somewhere else after 3 mins tbqh
😂😂😂 and a libras eyes would gloss over
OP is so good for paying attention to everything, even when she doesnt want to
I myself don't like being emotionally drained
But im stuck with caps, sag moons, and geminis
Shit almost every sign is draining
Except for Aries
Pisces are the worst
You can shake off these draining negatrons by going to the extreme. The worst case scenarios of their drama. theyd feel upset and wouldnt want to hear more 👻
Example
My grandfather’s in town with his cancer wife
I have heard about her back issues and spinal surgery not once, but at least twice a day every day since she’s been here.
Somehow every conversation turns into negativity and a pity party
I say “woo! It’s hot as balls outside, thanking the air conditioning gods today”
She goes into a 15 minute explanation about how she can’t deal with heat and it makes her sick and she’ll pass out and have to go to the ER...her sweat glands don’t work right...that’s why she couldn’t live in Florida...when she was 5 she got heat stroke and had to be sprayed down with a hose...she can feel her pulse in temporal artery every time she goes outside. 🤦🏼♀️
It’s exhausting af
rofl at how your mind actually remembers all that unnecessary information
i just couldn't tbh
like my eyes are with you but my mind is suddenly somewhere else after 3 mins tbqh
😂😂😂 and a libras eyes would gloss over
OP is so good for paying attention to everything, even when she doesnt want to
With that cancer sun & pisces moon, I'm sure you go on quite the mental field trips during these boring interactionuhnsz ~
😆 😆 x
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I feel guilty when they expect me to respond and i obvs spaced out and didnt hear their last few sentences 😂 The good thing is they learn to adjust, cut the monologues next time
I know Geminis, youre also similar. your eyes dart out of the window, or wander to general surroundings.
I myself don't like being emotionally drained
But im stuck with caps, sag moons, and geminis
Shit almost every sign is draining
Except for Aries
Pisces are the worst
You can shake off these draining negatrons by going to the extreme. The worst case scenarios of their drama. theyd feel upset and wouldnt want to hear more 👻
Negatrons 😄
https://i.postimg.cc/wvZJb3k0/91-A1-CA1-B-60-CC-4950-BA4-F-4-F02-C2-D689-C0.jpg
😅👍
I’m going to share some actual posts from my cancer aunt on Facebook recently
Just so you really understand what I mean here
lol...I use the "Snooze this person for 30 days" feature. 😂🤣😂🤣
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Jesus that’s too much. I find that’s what most much older people are like though.
I’m going to share some actual posts from my cancer aunt on Facebook recently
Just so you really understand what I mean here
lol...I use the "Snooze this person for 30 days" feature. 😂🤣😂🤣
Jesus that’s too much. I find that’s what most much older people are like though.
It's not only old folks. My libra/sag grandmother lived until 98....she never complained about anything. My scorpio/aqua dad....80....he didn't either.
I don't even think these people even really know they are doing it and that it exhausts other people.
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That’s called not being self aware.
Also just all around negative.
I’m going to share some actual posts from my cancer aunt on Facebook recently
Just so you really understand what I mean here
lol...I use the "Snooze this person for 30 days" feature. 😂🤣😂🤣
Jesus that’s too much. I find that’s what most much older people are like though.
It's not only old folks. My libra/sag grandmother lived until 98....she never complained about anything. My scorpio/aqua dad....80....he didn't either.
I don't even think these people even really know they are doing it and that it exhausts other people.
That’s called not being self aware.
Also just all around negative.
Not to be rude....but have you gone back and read any of your posts? You were on this roll for a bit too.
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Yeah I explained that a few posts up.
That’s what dxp is for
I just think old people don't have anything serious going on with their loves, and because of this, their ailments are what they do have. My ex mom in law will go on and on about all of her illnesses to me and she's not a cancer.
When you have nothing else going in your life, you just talk what you know. Lol
Even more depressing
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It's true- all I hear about from my residents is what is wrong with them or how the mailman is an hour late or forgot the grocery ads. 🙄😐
@brianafay thats just how they are. Youre a sag so it makes no sense to you just as it made no sense to me
Water signs or feminine signs in general are that way. Sometimes they just want people to listen to them they really appreciate that. They want empathy
Maybe cause ppl dump their bs on us
So we eventually want to also be taken care of
Its not like sags are great ppl
They're pretenders avoiders and depressives
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hahaha trueeee
i have aaamazing female friends that are saggy
dont cant me wrong...i love the sag men too
if only they could keep it in their heads AS FRIENDS
this is my experience with the three sag men that walked into my life
for some reasons (one even goes back to my childhood) we have an instant connection
we click. its funnnnn....its refreshing....its like meeting partners in crime. but as friendssss. nooooo flirting nothing
but then....the sag man starts chasing me
i mean....realllyyy chasing. everywhere you look...pops up
showing off...helping you....the whole "courting"trying to whooo me over
and its fine for them (annoying for me) as long as I dont return the favor pffffff
as soon...as I......do aaaanything remotely the same
the dissapear like snow in the sun!!!!
itsssssssssssssssssss soooooooooo aanoyingggg
cause
1:i loose a friend....when i didnt started the whole chasing game
2. why on earth would you start something and not finish it??
can someone explain this?
with two of them it was just really distant friends i lost
but one...
we had such a connection since childhood
and even after 20 years....he pulled one on me
i decided never to talk to him again
and i didnt
he tried....when we bumped into eachother two years ago
i just said i was in a hurry and walked away fast
either you are in....or out....and then stay out
i reached an age i dont have time for this behavior anymore
What did this thread have to do with Sags tho?
What did this thread have to do with Sags tho?
y u so dumb
What did this thread have to do with Sags tho?
y u so dumb
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Lol I’m so lost
You need to tell them. I was told I was negative by my sister and it changed everything from there on. I didn't realise I was complaining a lot. That's when life got tough on me lol. I was a pretty positive person before that but yeah I needed to be told otherwise I don't think I would have realised because it didn't happen overnight it takes time and then you cant even realise how negative you have become.
My Scorp friend told me the same thing! She was like she needs some tough love
Extremely loving and caring people
I want to love and care for them too but fuckkkkkkkk how does one do it?
Maybe it's an age thing
Older ppl do have way more health issues ama are generally ignore by society
Maybe they want your attention and to feel important
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ALL THE TIME? By announcing where it hurt?
I work with a young Cancer who is so annoying. Half the time she sounds like she's dying cause she whines so much. I try not to have conversations with her because it's like sticking a fork in my eye.
This is a thing that some people do and some people don't. I'm not sure it's a sign thing. My mother was Leo who was always dying . tennis elbow, her period, headache, us kids were literally killing her ... or it was her hemorrhoids or she was lying on the floor hemorrhaging to death because she was on her period. Even my best friend remembers that. We laughed our asses off. It's a joke to this day.
But my mother was an extreme narcissist and I believe this was some sort of attention stab. Or something. She would complain so strangers would help her. She was embarrassing and ridiculous.
I’m several days free from having to suffer her miserable ass so I’m feeling much better 😂
Her birthday is listed on Facebook
She’s a Gem moon
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Ok first off, I actually almost always get along great with cancers somehow so this isn’t hate
But here’s what I don’t understand...and maybe this could be useful feedback to someone willing to hear it...
Why do y’all think people want to sit around and hear about your numerous ailments and misfortune all the time ? It’s not nearly as interesting as you think and actually it’s quite depressing and draining.
I mean I get if you have something going on in your life and you want to share it with friends, seek support, etc and as a friend or loved one of course people want to be there for you...but to hear about every negative thing you’ve experienced day in and day out is truly exhausting.
There’s just more to you than these negative experiences and I think you have the tendency to latch onto them and let it consume you and it makes you quite unpleasant to be around.