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Posted by SensitiveBluesTwo worriers with one clinging to the past really gets nowherePosted by IlluminatiIDK im confusing her with my EXPosted by SensitiveBluesHow is she not honest? Did you mean to tell her to get the guy to admit he is not over his ex? Lol
are we going to be hand holding this virgo through out the whole relationship.
this fuking sucks, why can't virgos just go with the flow and just be honest.
i swear they overthink things and just damage the relationship
guess what CRABS do it too.
i see this going nowhere.click to expand
Posted by SensitiveBluesThat doesn't help if you had your ex and I confused LOLPosted by IlluminatiIDK im confusing her with my EXPosted by SensitiveBluesHow is she not honest? Did you mean to tell her to get the guy to admit he is not over his ex? Lol
are we going to be hand holding this virgo through out the whole relationship.
this fuking sucks, why can't virgos just go with the flow and just be honest.
i swear they overthink things and just damage the relationship
guess what CRABS do it too.
i see this going nowhere.click to expand
@arielle83 attacking me for your own issue just to avoid making a mistake of falsely accusing me not confronting the cancer guy for his age. Classic coward behavior.
You should go back to school to learn how to read dumbass
You should go back to school to learn how to read dumbass
Posted by Arielle83Posted by IlluminatiI didn't really bother to read your thread because you're just another bitter woman who clearly has issues.
@arielle83 The more you talk the more of an idiot you seem to be. It proves that you are either too lazy or stupid to read my post. That's not some online date I've never met. We met once already. I've also confronted him in person regarding his age, he immediately verified his real age by showing me his ID
You are pretty smart with men though. Manipulated your husband to be ok with you to having your "friendship" with all of your exs.
It's obvious this cancer guy is not ever his ex. He is brutally honest with the OP that he is putting effect to keep the ex in his life because he cares. He made it clear that they weren't ready 4 years ago. He is indirectly telling her he is waiting for the day he feels he is ready or he feels she is ready for him. OP show really cut her loss and move on.
My husband isn't insecure and he doesn't need to be.
Now go back to your little hole and find some more misdirected anger to stir up.
You don't know me moron, I'm not a carbon copy of a cancer female you've met in your past and had issues with.
Go get therapy you paranoid fuck.click to expand
I've seen your other comments around DXP. You are the bitter woman who has issue. You love belittling other women even when it's not their fault.
We will wait and see what lecture you are going to give this Virgo when her cancer ditch her for own flame. See if you will own up your bad advice or lecture her for something that is my her fault.
OP you really need to ditch this cancer
Posted by Arielle83I'm getting old? Still 10 years younger than you. Old bitch.Posted by IlluminatiI read your op. I'm not interested in your life. However I went through your posts to understand where your damage lies and I guess you got played where a dude went back to his ex.
@arielle83 attacking me for your own issue just to avoid making a mistake of falsely accusing me not confronting the cancer guy for his age. Classic coward behavior.
You should go back to school to learn how to read dumbass
So that makes sense as to why you think a dude will go back to his ex.
You're clearly living in fear and angry due to your own online dating issues.
However, you're spreading your wrath to ppl who have no interest in you.
Like me.
Maybe you've forgotten how the story unfolded. I posted to the Op in that thread and then your bitter ass wanted my attention and now I'm dealing with your attempt to insult me all because I have advice different from yours.
You must be really sad to come online and hate on random strangers for differing viewpoints.
No wonder guys would rather kiss their exes than you.
I also love how you think you know my marriage.
Fuck get a life lady.
You're getting old.click to expand
Act 33 and not 13 please. Dragging in other posts and your imagination just to avoid fucked up is just low. How hard is that to apologize for accusing me for using no guts to ask him to verify his age?
Yes your marriage is so happy that's why you spend so much time on DXp. Sounds like real intimate marriage to me.
Instead of taking your anger out on me, how about go talk to your husband? The advice you gave this Virgo is really shit. You weren't nice to her or anyone on this post at the beginning. You are just a bitch.
Posted by Arielle83How old are you now? Calling for back ups? You need a life. Im done with this thread bye
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Posted by Arielle83have 3 questions for you now, as you missed 2 earlier 😛
@illuminati
A cancer man isn't a Pisces. A Pisces will cheat and always go back and forth wherever they can get it.
Would you please tell me more about Pisces always go back and forward and cheating? I know one and he never cut ties and does always go back and foward but he claims he never date and sleep with more than one person at once. For example if he is going out on date with someone he can't sleep with his ex. Then when he found out the new girl is also seeing others he goes back to his ex.
My other 2 questions were - can you elaborate more about "cancer escape time" I didn't get what you were saying
Friendship with your ex... how do you and your husband handle that? I know some people who are friends with ex would openly let current partner join them when they hang out. Is that something you guys do?
Posted by Arielle83another cancerprancer?
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Posted by Illuminatican Illuminati come out to playPosted by Arielle83How old are you now? Calling for back ups? You need a life. Im done with this thread bye
@housecleaning
@kissmygrits
@canceronthecusp
I've got a live one within a thread.click to expand
Posted by PoppyseedsYour missing the point.Posted by LadyNeptuneWhat if I tell you he was the one who starting clocking how much time we spent? At the end of first date, he mentioned at least 3 times about wow we spent 6 hours together, really good sign.
What's crazy to me is that the OP, like so many other females, gets swept up in wanting this other person to like them/achieving gf status that they don't focus on what dating is all about, getting to know the person....
You should be looking for red flags, gauging how compatible you are, QUALIFYING this person. Instead you are so ready to jump into a relationship after 3 dates. Clocking how much time you spent with him, analyzing ever word you said, counting the hours between each time he reaches out...it blows my mind.
Sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.
Second date he did the same, when I was leaving he went "YES! 6.5 hrs we broke our record!"
I was simply stating the fact and you call me crazy, what would you like to say when the man who started the clocking? LOLclick to expand
It's not about clocking the dates. But rather that your obsessingly analyzing every moment every word every look between you when nothing has really HAPPENED yet.
Also for the record I never called you crazy. I stated that your actions are crazy to me.
@Arielle83
It's fair about the dog, as it's like sharing custody of a child. Also good for you to not go out to dinner alone with your ex. it builds trust in your marriage and since you are so open there really is nothing to worry about between the 2 of you.
Regardless of signs I think it's good to have a solid friendship as foundation before anything can be built.
This particular cancer guy has lots of air in his chart as well. Aqua rising, gem mercury and mars. I have aqua moon and rising, and I'm actually Virgo libra cusp. Not sure if these infos change anything
I had one Pisces ex who never had a fight with me, we were together for 6 months officially, then he broke up with me but kept dating me (i didn't sleep with him afterward) he bought a self help commitment phobia book in front of me but he never read. Then he told me he is just not ready for a girlfriend and suggest I should date others. yet he told me he is NOT looking for anyone else and I'm the only one he is dating. Later on I found out he tried to hook up with my friend.. thats when I cut ties with him..
This Pisces ex also has a friend of 13 years. he said they met at a club,. kissed on the first night but they never dated. yet he met her entire family... and says she is like a sister to him. I jokingly said we should have a 3some. he goes she has a boyfriend now. this respond sounded like if she was single he would? so he would have a 3some with his errr "sister"
That is why I felt a bit insecure when the cancer told me his ex is like his sister, base on my experience with the Pisces. Obviously we can't judge anyone base on our past, it's killing off possiblites...
It's fair about the dog, as it's like sharing custody of a child. Also good for you to not go out to dinner alone with your ex. it builds trust in your marriage and since you are so open there really is nothing to worry about between the 2 of you.
Regardless of signs I think it's good to have a solid friendship as foundation before anything can be built.
This particular cancer guy has lots of air in his chart as well. Aqua rising, gem mercury and mars. I have aqua moon and rising, and I'm actually Virgo libra cusp. Not sure if these infos change anything
I had one Pisces ex who never had a fight with me, we were together for 6 months officially, then he broke up with me but kept dating me (i didn't sleep with him afterward) he bought a self help commitment phobia book in front of me but he never read. Then he told me he is just not ready for a girlfriend and suggest I should date others. yet he told me he is NOT looking for anyone else and I'm the only one he is dating. Later on I found out he tried to hook up with my friend.. thats when I cut ties with him..
This Pisces ex also has a friend of 13 years. he said they met at a club,. kissed on the first night but they never dated. yet he met her entire family... and says she is like a sister to him. I jokingly said we should have a 3some. he goes she has a boyfriend now. this respond sounded like if she was single he would? so he would have a 3some with his errr "sister"
That is why I felt a bit insecure when the cancer told me his ex is like his sister, base on my experience with the Pisces. Obviously we can't judge anyone base on our past, it's killing off possiblites...
@arielle83 That Pisces goes out with this "sister" once every month or 2 to dinner alone. He always dress up for her.
Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks for clarifying the misunderstanding. over analyzing as a self protection... as oppose to wanting anything to happenPosted by PoppyseedsYour missing the point.Posted by LadyNeptuneWhat if I tell you he was the one who starting clocking how much time we spent? At the end of first date, he mentioned at least 3 times about wow we spent 6 hours together, really good sign.
What's crazy to me is that the OP, like so many other females, gets swept up in wanting this other person to like them/achieving gf status that they don't focus on what dating is all about, getting to know the person....
You should be looking for red flags, gauging how compatible you are, QUALIFYING this person. Instead you are so ready to jump into a relationship after 3 dates. Clocking how much time you spent with him, analyzing ever word you said, counting the hours between each time he reaches out...it blows my mind.
Sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.
Second date he did the same, when I was leaving he went "YES! 6.5 hrs we broke our record!"
I was simply stating the fact and you call me crazy, what would you like to say when the man who started the clocking? LOL
It's not about clocking the dates. But rather that your obsessingly analyzing every moment every word every look between you when nothing has really HAPPENED yet.
Also for the record I never called you crazy. I stated that your actions are crazy to me.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83I have no water at all, but I often attract water sign.. I'm not sure why..
I'm a cancer with a libra stellium and Sagittarius stellium.
I only have two water placements.
The rest are air and fire.
So I'm not as attached.
I'm only Virgo sun and merc, the rest are air and fire
Posted by Arielle83looks like you have another member for your fan club.Posted by HouseCleaningWell I don't know. She's telling me I'm bitter but I'm not into cancer men.Posted by Illuminatican Illuminati come out to playPosted by Arielle83How old are you now? Calling for back ups? You need a life. Im done with this thread bye
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Weird women.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83shes like the most bitter one on the board. she needs an award to accent her bitter achievement.Posted by HouseCleaningSensitive.Posted by Arielle83looks like you have another member for your fan club.Posted by HouseCleaningWell I don't know. She's telling me I'm bitter but I'm not into cancer men.Posted by Illuminatican Illuminati come out to playPosted by Arielle83How old are you now? Calling for back ups? You need a life. Im done with this thread bye
@housecleaning
@kissmygrits
@canceronthecusp
I've got a live one within a thread.
Weird women.click to expand
nothing like DXP to bring out the best in the cray crays. whatever you're baking arielle they're attracted to you.
Posted by SensitiveBluesHey I own up not knowing how to chill, but calling me crazy is a bit far. You are judging me basing on your own experience with your ex.Posted by PoppyseedsYou remind me of my eX caUse your both CRAZY.Posted by SensitiveBluesThat doesn't help if you had your ex and I confused LOLPosted by IlluminatiIDK im confusing her with my EXPosted by SensitiveBluesHow is she not honest? Did you mean to tell her to get the guy to admit he is not over his ex? Lol
are we going to be hand holding this virgo through out the whole relationship.
this fuking sucks, why can't virgos just go with the flow and just be honest.
i swear they overthink things and just damage the relationship
guess what CRABS do it too.
i see this going nowhere.
you don't even know how to chill and let a relationship ride out....you're going coo-coo
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@arielle83 @sensitiveblues @illuminati
I know we all have different opinions here, it's only our opinions and speculations. I should really listen to what he was telling me instead of trying to apply meaning to it. over analyzing doesn't help me from getting hurt. it's's making things worse and stops real connections from happening.
I have a choice to keep worrying or to focus on sweet things he did.
I appreciated all of your inputs. I'm going to chill and catch up on other stuff. Soon fourth date will be here 🙂
I know we all have different opinions here, it's only our opinions and speculations. I should really listen to what he was telling me instead of trying to apply meaning to it. over analyzing doesn't help me from getting hurt. it's's making things worse and stops real connections from happening.
I have a choice to keep worrying or to focus on sweet things he did.
I appreciated all of your inputs. I'm going to chill and catch up on other stuff. Soon fourth date will be here 🙂
Posted by Poppyseeds
@arielle83 @sensitiveblues @illuminati
I know we all have different opinions here, it's only our opinions and speculations. I should really listen to what he was telling me instead of trying to apply meaning to it. over analyzing doesn't help me from getting hurt. it's's making things worse and stops real connections from happening.
I have a choice to keep worrying or to focus on sweet things he did.
I appreciated all of your inputs. I'm going to chill and catch up on other stuff. Soon fourth date will be here 🙂
All the best.
Posted by Arielle83I see that. Jeebus the itch from the tin foil hat must be bringing out the crazy. 😆 😆 😆
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@canceronthecusp
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I'm imagining all of these people reading a post then looking up someone's sun sign in her cat lady astrology book. Ha!
Posted by PoppyseedsAre you purposefully being dense? It's not about one opposed to anotherPosted by LadyNeptuneThanks for clarifying the misunderstanding. over analyzing as a self protection... as oppose to wanting anything to happenPosted by PoppyseedsYour missing the point.Posted by LadyNeptuneWhat if I tell you he was the one who starting clocking how much time we spent? At the end of first date, he mentioned at least 3 times about wow we spent 6 hours together, really good sign.
What's crazy to me is that the OP, like so many other females, gets swept up in wanting this other person to like them/achieving gf status that they don't focus on what dating is all about, getting to know the person....
You should be looking for red flags, gauging how compatible you are, QUALIFYING this person. Instead you are so ready to jump into a relationship after 3 dates. Clocking how much time you spent with him, analyzing ever word you said, counting the hours between each time he reaches out...it blows my mind.
Sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.
Second date he did the same, when I was leaving he went "YES! 6.5 hrs we broke our record!"
I was simply stating the fact and you call me crazy, what would you like to say when the man who started the clocking? LOL
It's not about clocking the dates. But rather that your obsessingly analyzing every moment every word every look between you when nothing has really HAPPENED yet.
Also for the record I never called you crazy. I stated that your actions are crazy to me.click to expand
I say right there 👆👆👆 that you should be using this time dating him to qualify him for yourself. This is analyzing for self protection, holding back your emotions and heart until you know you can trust him with them.
It's not wrong to like a dude and want 'anything to happen'. All I'm saying (again) is that you can't get swept up in it to the point that you put on rose colored glasses and ignore red flags. Him seeing his ex occasionally is, to you, a red flag. So mentally mark it down as such.
And stop analyzing all the little things, like every look, every word you say. You've exchanged saliva with this guy. One day you might even have his dick inside you...so don't be afraid to speak your mind.
Oh look, a fourth date. All your worrying about 24hours was a waste.
Like I said, relax, chill, and enjoy the ride.
Posted by thinktoomuchAhh, but how many of us have stayed at that job we despised because of the steady paycheck, the fear of putting ourselves out there into the unknown, the trap of being too complacent in our situation.
To be fair, it has taken me my entire life to start to realize this, and that´s been 30 years!!!!!!!
I don´t know why so many girls are like this. Do we not feel loved by our family and friends? Are we too focused on getting the picture perfect life media shows us?
I think it has got a lot to do with, that we just don´t really love ourselves and find it hard to believe, that we will actually find that other person to make us happy. Trying to force a man to love us, be loyal to us and don´t really pay attention to wether or not we actually really want to be with him and live a life with him.
Rarely think about: would I like to wake up with this person every morning? How do we communicate? How do we handle conflicts? Do we agree on important issues? Do we actually really really like him? Does he make us feel good and do we make him feel good?
And then if we do go on, we put up with almost everything just for the sake of *having someone, when in fact all we do is come here to ask questions about wether or not we actually do in fact have him. Instead of saying: okay, time and time again this person has made me feel bad or has done something that I don ot agree with. I will move on. So many cling to it instead!!! Just for the sake of wining. And stay in a "relationship" where they are not happy. If you got a job, and you´re not happy, you move on. If you live somewhere shitty, you move. If your car breaks down, you get a new one. If you´re not satisfied with the way your body looks like, you try to improve it. All of this, but a guy comes along and all logic goes straight out the window.
How many of us promise ourselves that this year we will eat healthier, be more active, and by February are elbow deep in icecream.
Ok I'm getting swept up in your analogies...
I can see where it would be hard to move on from someone you've invested time and emotions with. Someone you live with, you had thought was the 'one', who you were gonna build a life with.
What perplexes me is the mentality where chicks (or dudes!) become super attached after just a few interactions. It's like they've decided that this is the person whose for them and started to mentally plan out their future. And even when it becomes apparent that said person may not be the best fit, they bulldoze right past the evidence because to acknowledge it would mean their perfect little plans would crumble.
Idk that's never been part of my personality. I may be quick to jump into infatuation (thanks fire placements) but when it comes to love my head always wins out over my heart.
@ladyneptune
I'm open to hear your opinion, it will be nice if you could do the same in return. You completely disregard anything I said and label me as "purposely being dense and overly attached. "
I'm not worrying anymore if you have read the update, and once again I was analyzing out of self preservation instead of trying to force anything to happen. Only if you genuinely care to read...
I'm open to hear your opinion, it will be nice if you could do the same in return. You completely disregard anything I said and label me as "purposely being dense and overly attached. "
I'm not worrying anymore if you have read the update, and once again I was analyzing out of self preservation instead of trying to force anything to happen. Only if you genuinely care to read...
Posted by CrabraPosted by CreatingChaos505No, it doesn't. Most people let go, and then move on. Not the other way around. It's a big reason why in a lot, if not most breakups, one person has already let go, or lost any kind of emotional attachment before the breakup even happens. Even then, most people with this attachment still let it go, before moving on. It's the rational process, but the crab is far from rational because they always feel first. Before anything else.Posted by CrabraThat applies to a lot of people though when you break-up, assuming it was a long term deal. When that is the case it takes most people a decent amount of time to truly "let go" on an emotional level.Posted by Arielle83Moving on isn't the same thing as letting go. Cancer males are great at the former, and suck big time at the latter.
Most cancer guys I know move on pretty quick.
Letting go of emotional attachment is indeed difficult for many people, but for Cancer in particular it is excruciatingly painful. Going back to exes; the current partner finding/running into the belongings of an ex that are kept out; finding the exes contact information and seeing that they are still friends on social media are all very common occurrences when dealing with crabs. Remember that this sign rules emotion, and anything involving it will prove difficult for Cancer suns, especially the males. You really have to hope for some solid placements and life experience to counteract, otherwise the crab is just a mess if emotionally attached to someone where discord is present.
Since they can't let go, they move on anyway, with the emotional attachment to the past person fully intact. What chance does the next person have with this crab? Absolutely none. Now all you have to see is the many, many threads on dxp griping about the emotionally distant, hot/cold, please put a screwdriver through my skull, Cancerian.click to expand
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