The Cancerian Landlord/Landlady

I know Cancerians are supposed to love property (owning it, leasing it and developing it). Every private landlord I've had in the past seems to have been Cancerian, apart from one.

However, I'm currently subletting a room in a house owned by a Cancer man (early fifties, former professional now training to be a counsellor - very typical for the sign) born on 8th July.

Things started out fine, but after five months the atmosphere in the house feels very tense and I'm considering handing in my notice on Friday. This is sad because we were sharing meals (in a completely non-romantic manner!!!) I love his pets and am affectionate and feed them when he's absent. I bought him a birthday card and gift... always pay my rent on time and clean up and we seemed to get along really well.

He's just so passive aggressive, it's so hard to handle. For instance, today I was unable to get out of bed due to a trapped nerve in my neck. His payback response was to play music so loudly through the walls that I can barely hear myself think, to presumably get me out of bed. It's still going on now...

We also have another housemate who is constantly stealing things from me (headphones, milk) and the owner's attitude is extremely dismissive. He even suggested to me (after I asked the guy very non-confrontationally if he had taken some milk) that I should be more sensitive to my housemates feelings. Why are Cancers so illogical?

Has anyone rented from a Cancerian landlord, taken lodgings with one or had a crabby housemate? How do you deal with their behaviour and their tendency to get so defensive too.

Also, if I hand in my notice how can I put my reasoning across without an

ugly emotional backlash?

Posted by AzureBlue
I know Cancerians are supposed to love property (owning it, leasing it and developing it). Every private landlord I've had in the past seems to have been Cancerian, apart from one.

However, I'm currently subletting a room in a house owned by a Cancer man (early fifties, former professional now training to be a counsellor - very typical for the sign) born on 8th July.

Things started out fine, but after five months the atmosphere in the house feels very tense and I'm considering handing in my notice on Friday. This is sad because we were sharing meals (in a completely non-romantic manner!!!) I love his pets and am affectionate and feed them when he's absent. I bought him a birthday card and gift... always pay my rent on time and clean up and we seemed to get along really well.

He's just so passive aggressive, it's so hard to handle. For instance, today I was unable to get out of bed due to a trapped nerve in my neck. His payback response was to play music so loudly through the walls that I can barely hear myself think, to presumably get me out of bed. It's still going on now...

We also have another housemate who is constantly stealing things from me (headphones, milk) and the owner's attitude is extremely dismissive. He even suggested to me (after I asked the guy very non-confrontationally if he had taken some milk) that I should be more sensitive to my housemates feelings. Why are Cancers so illogical?

Has anyone rented from a Cancerian landlord, taken lodgings with one or had a crabby housemate? How do you deal with their behaviour and their tendency to get so defensive too.

Also, if I hand in my notice how can I put my reasoning across without an

ugly emotional backlash?

sorry, but I find all that you described as very rude rather than illogical - and wonder why there is not more security/privacy - I think it is very difficult to "live" with out people

you don't need a reason to leave do you ? it seems he might find something to say regardless of what you say

Weird, all the Cancers I know aren't passive aggressive in the least.

Living with people... especially strangers is always going to be challenging. This is not a Cancer thing, it's a society thing and have to ask yourself why would someone sublet their room or house? He sounds irritable but not because of his sign...

Posted by nikkistar
Weird, all the Cancers I know aren't passive aggressive in the least.

That's odd. Perhaps you have some scorpio/aries placements that makes it a little more difficult for you to recognize (brush it off easily), but this placement is typically super passive aggressive since direct approach and confrontation isn't really favored by crabs. We all have different experiences though.

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Posted by nikkistar
Weird, all the Cancers I know aren't passive aggressive in the least.

That's odd. Perhaps you have some scorpio/aries placements that makes it a little more difficult for you to recognize (brush it off easily), but this placement is typically super passive aggressive since direct approach and confrontation isn't really favored by crabs. We all have different experiences though.

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No Aries at all. I am a Libra and Cancer dominant.

I don't like generalizations of any sign, nor generalizations of me being obtuse and unable to read people. You obviously have never seen the shit I post here, if you think I can't detect minimal passive aggressive nuisances.

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Posted by nikkistar
Weird, all the Cancers I know aren't passive aggressive in the least.

That's odd. Perhaps you have some scorpio/aries placements that makes it a little more difficult for you to recognize (brush it off easily), but this placement is typically super passive aggressive since direct approach and confrontation isn't really favored by crabs. We all have different experiences though.

No Aries at all. I am a Libra and Cancer dominant.

I don't like generalizations of any sign, nor generalizations of me being obtuse and unable to read people. You obviously have never seen the shit I post here, if you think I can't detect minimal passive aggressive nuisances.

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You don't like generalizations of signs or yourself, but you're on DXP? Ok then, whatever you say. Is your post not about a lack of passive aggressive behavior in crabs? Particularly this landlord who's a crab. Who the fvck is generalizing?

I clearly stated that we all have different experiences, so I understand perfectly if someone has something different to say about a sign than the next person. Get off your high horse, no one is attacking you or trying to debunk your claims. If this is how you normally post, no wonder I haven't read any of them.

Posted by goat
Get out of there!

Just tell him you don't feel safe/comfortable with your things going missing. And just hand him the 30 day notice.

It's better to have your own place without roommate's. The extra money you pay is worth the peace of mind

I totally agree

Posted by Crabra
You don't like generalizations of signs or yourself, but you're on DXP? Ok then, whatever you say. Is your post not about a lack of passive aggressive behavior in crabs? Particularly this landlord who's a crab. Who the fvck is generalizing?

I clearly stated that we all have different experiences, so I understand perfectly if someone has something different to say about a sign than the next person. Get off your high horse, no one is attacking you or trying to debunk your claims. If this is how you normally post, no wonder I haven't read any of them.

Reading comprehension is not your forte, I see.

Generalizations of any sign, is completely asinine and obtuse. It's like people saying "oh you're a cheater because you have a Sag Venus". Dumb. My original post said "Weird, all the Cancers I know aren't passive aggressive in the least." That means, within the context of the Cancers I am privy to, they do not exhibit this behavior.

Now you "but this placement is typically super passive aggressive since direct approach and confrontation isn't really favored by crabs". This is not typical behavior that I have seen personally, or throughout these boards. Your own response proves your initial statement saying that passive aggressive tendencies as being typical, as false. Nor does CC's, nor does Kodak's, nor does so many others that I see on this board.

That doesn't mean that passive aggressive Cancers (or any other sign for that matter) aren't around. But the fact that you want to deem my "lack" of seeing passivity due to assumed astrology placements tells me your illogical to say the least.

That and your overly emotional response.

I think you should leave. This whole situation sounds weird and leaves a bad ass taste in my mouth as I was reading it outloud.

As a crab, I value security and my privacy, but mostly just to be left the fuck alone. He has you all in his business, that's strange. Not typical Cancer behavior. **He plays loud music to wake you out of bed; red flag. Super weird. Cringin at that shit. It sounds like he wants you around but under his terms, or just he likes you as a person or more and could use your attention at all times.

Yo, this might be hard for you but tell him straight up that you are not his fuckin friend; you are paying your money for a good living situation, not a bad one or halfass one. That he needs to put on his lardlord hat and get off the bullshit. Tell him we are not one big happy family. Tell him to address the stealing, respect your peace or you will get the hell up out of there. Nobody needs that weird shit. Other Cancers piss me off sometimes.

And I agree with @nikkistar. I never met many passive agressive Cancers either, I've always been told the bold emotional truth by one. Have had my damn feelings hurt too.

Sorry to hear your situation, it sounds awful! Your right about crabs and property it's our safety shell. I've been renting out rooms for long while now and I try to be direct in communication so there's nothing to misinterpret. I've had to throw out a few of the tenants due to lack of respect for the property and damages.

I'm not passive/aggressive but it can take time to build up the courage to speak up at times.

I have worked in my previous company with many passive/aggressive crabs that are in management, it was a horrible experience as you're describing, however in my new work place there's so many crabs and they are nothing like that. All of them are chilled AF.

I think you should speak up, and if you're unable to get out of bed try texting them and asking if they can lower the music. As you're in discomfort, hope you get it sorted soon. Good luck

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Posted by Crabra
You don't like generalizations of signs or yourself, but you're on DXP? Ok then, whatever you say. Is your post not about a lack of passive aggressive behavior in crabs? Particularly this landlord who's a crab. Who the fvck is generalizing?

I clearly stated that we all have different experiences, so I understand perfectly if someone has something different to say about a sign than the next person. Get off your high horse, no one is attacking you or trying to debunk your claims. If this is how you normally post, no wonder I haven't read any of them.

Reading comprehension is not your forte, I see.

Generalizations of any sign, is completely asinine and obtuse. It's like people saying "oh you're a cheater because you have a Sag Venus". Dumb. My original post said "Weird, all the Cancers I know aren't passive aggressive in the least." That means, within the context of the Cancers I am privy to, they do not exhibit this behavior.

Now you "but this placement is typically super passive aggressive since direct approach and confrontation isn't really favored by crabs". This is not typical behavior that I have seen personally, or throughout these boards. Your own response proves your initial statement saying that passive aggressive tendencies as being typical, as false. Nor does CC's, nor does Kodak's, nor does so many others that I see on this board.

That doesn't mean that passive aggressive Cancers (or any other sign for that matter) aren't around. But the fact that you want to deem my "lack" of seeing passivity due to assumed astrology placements tells me your illogical to say the least.

That and your overly emotional response.

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Oof! I'd be careful about tossing stones about reading comprehension. It's fine if you feel generalizations based on sign is obtuse and asinine, but again this is DXP and astrology. You're at the wrong site and the wrong field if you're trying to avoid those things. Everyone does it, and you are guilty as well. Just by saying, "That means, within the context of the Cancers I am privy to, they do not exhibit this behavior." you are in fact, attributing passive-aggressive behavior to Cancer because you are using it to express that crabs you know do not exhibit this behavior. If you don't see this, not only is your reading comprehension off, so is your logic and reasoning.

I will mention one more time that I stated that everyone has different experiences. This statement alone should be enough to let you know that I am not, or wasn't challenging your statements, and that I accept that they are your experiences. And in response to that, you're attempting to invalidate my experiences with your own, essentially doing the same thing to me that you THINK I am doing to you.

I couldn't care less how many posters here are on the same page as you. Unlike anonymous posters on the internet, my experience with crabs comes from the fact that not only am I one, I was born into a family full of them, and have long-term friends whom are also cancerian who all exhibit passive-aggressive behavior.

You might want to check up on the emotional response as well. I'm not the one getting butt hurt because someone told me I lack the ability to pick up certain traits in others. I only mentioned a possibility, and not a certainty. But this is becoming more and more true to more you reply e.g. thinking a response is emotional.

Wow, thank you everyone for the advice and support. I'm slightly overwhelmed!

Mr Landlord has now resorted to shutting himself away in his room every night and doesn't appear to be communicating (I'm still having trouble believing this is a guy who is training to be a counsellor) which feels like some kind of punishment, but I'm not sure what my crime is exactly.

I've written my letter of intention to quit. There doesn't seem a way to rectify this situation if he's going to totally ignore me.

P.s. From what I've read and experienced all the water signs are supposed to be passive aggressive in varying degrees, but I guess maturity plays into it a great deal.

Posted by AzureBlue
Wow, thank you everyone for the advice and support. I'm slightly overwhelmed!

Mr Landlord has now resorted to shutting himself away in his room every night and doesn't appear to be communicating (I'm still having trouble believing this is a guy who is training to be a counsellor) which feels like some kind of punishment, but I'm not sure what my crime is exactly.

I've written my letter of intention to quit. There doesn't seem a way to rectify this situation if he's going to totally ignore me.

P.s. From what I've read and experienced all the water signs are supposed to be passive aggressive in varying degrees, but I guess maturity plays into it a great deal.

Water placements... not the water signs themselves. So if you are an Aries (for example) and have Cancer Mars you are likely to have the passive agressiveness. I know a guy like this.

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You don't like generalizations of signs or yourself, but you're on DXP? Ok then, whatever you say. Is your post not about a lack of passive aggressive behavior in crabs? Particularly this landlord who's a crab. Who the fvck is generalizing?

I clearly stated that we all have different experiences, so I understand perfectly if someone has something different to say about a sign than the next person. Get off your high horse, no one is attacking you or trying to debunk your claims. If this is how you normally post, no wonder I haven't read any of them.

Reading comprehension is not your forte, I see.

Generalizations of any sign, is completely asinine and obtuse. It's like people saying "oh you're a cheater because you have a Sag Venus". Dumb. My original post said "Weird, all the Cancers I know aren't passive aggressive in the least." That means, within the context of the Cancers I am privy to, they do not exhibit this behavior.

Now you "but this placement is typically super passive aggressive since direct approach and confrontation isn't really favored by crabs". This is not typical behavior that I have seen personally, or throughout these boards. Your own response proves your initial statement saying that passive aggressive tendencies as being typical, as false. Nor does CC's, nor does Kodak's, nor does so many others that I see on this board.

That doesn't mean that passive aggressive Cancers (or any other sign for that matter) aren't around. But the fact that you want to deem my "lack" of seeing passivity due to assumed astrology placements tells me your illogical to say the least.

That and your overly emotional response.

Oof! I'd be careful about tossing stones about reading comprehension. It's fine if you feel generalizations based on sign is obtuse and asinine, but again this is DXP and astrology. You're at the wrong site and the wrong field if you're trying to avoid those things. Everyone does it, and you are guilty as well. Just by saying, "That means, within the context of the Cancers I am privy to, they do not exhibit this behavior." you are in fact, attributing passive-aggressive behavior to Cancer because you are using it to express that crabs you know do not exhibit this behavior. If you don't see this, not only is your reading comprehension off, so is your logic and reasoning.

I will mention one more time that I stated that everyone has different experiences. This statement alone should be enough to let you know that I am not, or wasn't challenging your statements, and that I accept that they are your experiences. And in response to that, you're attempting to invalidate my experiences with your own, essentially doing the same thing to me that you THINK I am doing to you.

I couldn't care less how many posters here are on the same page as you. Unlike anonymous posters on the internet, my experience with crabs comes from the fact that not only am I one, I was born into a family full of them, and have long-term friends whom are also cancerian who all exhibit passive-aggressive behavior.

You might want to check up on the emotional response as well. I'm not the one getting butt hurt because someone told me I lack the ability to pick up certain traits in others. I only mentioned a possibility, and not a certainty. But this is becoming more and more true to more you reply e.g. thinking a response is emotional.

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Gemini moons never fail to impress me with their astute logical deduction and exceptional debating skills. If I could, I'd make an army of lawyers comprised of Gem moons. But since I can't do that, I'll stick to marrying one.

This is a really good response! It just ignited my brain. ?

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You don't like generalizations of signs or yourself, but you're on DXP? Ok then, whatever you say. Is your post not about a lack of passive aggressive behavior in crabs? Particularly this landlord who's a crab. Who the fvck is generalizing?

I clearly stated that we all have different experiences, so I understand perfectly if someone has something different to say about a sign than the next person. Get off your high horse, no one is attacking you or trying to debunk your claims. If this is how you normally post, no wonder I haven't read any of them.

Reading comprehension is not your forte, I see.

Generalizations of any sign, is completely asinine and obtuse. It's like people saying "oh you're a cheater because you have a Sag Venus". Dumb. My original post said "Weird, all the Cancers I know aren't passive aggressive in the least." That means, within the context of the Cancers I am privy to, they do not exhibit this behavior.

Now you "but this placement is typically super passive aggressive since direct approach and confrontation isn't really favored by crabs". This is not typical behavior that I have seen personally, or throughout these boards. Your own response proves your initial statement saying that passive aggressive tendencies as being typical, as false. Nor does CC's, nor does Kodak's, nor does so many others that I see on this board.

That doesn't mean that passive aggressive Cancers (or any other sign for that matter) aren't around. But the fact that you want to deem my "lack" of seeing passivity due to assumed astrology placements tells me your illogical to say the least.

That and your overly emotional response.

Oof! I'd be careful about tossing stones about reading comprehension. It's fine if you feel generalizations based on sign is obtuse and asinine, but again this is DXP and astrology. You're at the wrong site and the wrong field if you're trying to avoid those things. Everyone does it, and you are guilty as well. Just by saying, "That means, within the context of the Cancers I am privy to, they do not exhibit this behavior." you are in fact, attributing passive-aggressive behavior to Cancer because you are using it to express that crabs you know do not exhibit this behavior. If you don't see this, not only is your reading comprehension off, so is your logic and reasoning.

I will mention one more time that I stated that everyone has different experiences. This statement alone should be enough to let you know that I am not, or wasn't challenging your statements, and that I accept that they are your experiences. And in response to that, you're attempting to invalidate my experiences with your own, essentially doing the same thing to me that you THINK I am doing to you.

I couldn't care less how many posters here are on the same page as you. Unlike anonymous posters on the internet, my experience with crabs comes from the fact that not only am I one, I was born into a family full of them, and have long-term friends whom are also cancerian who all exhibit passive-aggressive behavior.

You might want to check up on the emotional response as well. I'm not the one getting butt hurt because someone told me I lack the ability to pick up certain traits in others. I only mentioned a possibility, and not a certainty. But this is becoming more and more true to more you reply e.g. thinking a response is emotional.

Gemini moons never fail to impress me with their astute logical deduction and exceptional debating skills. If I could, I'd make an army of lawyers comprised of Gem moons. But since I can't do that, I'll stick to marrying one.

This is a really good response! It just ignited my brain. ?

He clap backs hard like a girl

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Like a girl?

My landlord is an Aries.

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My landlord is an Aries.

What does that have to do with anything. JFC

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Sharing my experience. Not asking you to find it valid. Get off my nutz and finish your google search.

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My landlord is an Aries.

What does that have to do with anything. JFC

Sharing my experience. Not asking you to find it valid. Get off my nutz and finish your google search.

Get off crabs nutz always following me around

Stalker

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Quick update: After handing in my notice the Crab Landlord asked me if I wanted to talk over a cup of tea, as we are British 🙂

The following conversation was really odd and I don't feel I was assertive enough with him. In fact he did the whole "poor me" routine and now I'm feeling sorry for him. He started going on about how he raised three girls single-handed and dealt with teenagers who hated him, so he felt he could deal with lodgers and their issues. Including one daughter who had hurt him so badly they were now estranged. Then he went on about how passive aggressiveness can be a healthy and effective tool in business. He failed to acknowledged the other lodger is stealing from me, formerly saying I overracted, but mentioned a former lodger who took some of his cutlery with him when he left, saying it hadn't really bothered him much.

He then tied me up in emotional rings and actually convinced me not to hand in my notice before I've found somewhere else ("because you know I'll re-advertise it tomorrow") and hold on until I'm



I really don't get this guy. I cannot work

out if he's being nice, or I've just been completely emotionally manipulated.

I feel really disempowered this morning and not motivated, in control or happy.

Any thoughts?

Posted by AzureBlue
out if he's being nice, or I've just been completely emotionally manipulated.

I feel really disempowered this morning and not motivated, in control or happy.

Any thoughts?

You have been manipulated....bottom line is you know you need to leave there it's not a healthy environment for you. Get out and you will feel better.

Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Posted by AzureBlue
out if he's being nice, or I've just been completely emotionally manipulated.

I feel really disempowered this morning and not motivated, in control or happy.

Any thoughts?

You need to snap out of it! Get your courage back give yourself a pep talk and go for it, home is suppose to be a safe place. You choose to be there unlike work situations where at all times you need to keep your professional hat on.

The stealing alone is a reason to move out. Do it for your sanity. Don't let him drain you!

I use to work for a female cancer and male aqua exactly like your landlord, horrible manipulating people and very passive aggressive! But they were a one off. Haven't met any other aquas or crabs like that ever again.

Posted by bricklemark
Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

You guys are so right. He just came home drunk bemoaning that "maybe he is just an emotional joy vampire" when he saw me. This has absolutely nothing to do with the current situation (housemate stealing) and seemed pretty melodramatic given his behaviour over the past week or two.

What is this really supposed to achieve? Is it supposed to stop me moving out, or make me feel guilty for doing so? Either way, I need to extricate myself because I feel really stuck and miserable right now.

Maybe, he just has emotional problems...

Thanks for the objective points of view. It helps, as I can't seem to rationalise this, coming from someone who is essentially a stranger, not a romantic partner/friend.

Posted by AzureBlue
You guys are so right. He just came home drunk bemoaning that "maybe he is just an emotional joy vampire" when he saw me. This has absolutely nothing to do with the current situation (housemate stealing) and seemed pretty melodramatic given his behaviour over the past week or two.

What is this really supposed to achieve? Is it supposed to stop me moving out, or make me feel guilty for doing so? Either way, I need to extricate myself because I feel really stuck and miserable right now.

Maybe, he just has emotional problems...

Thanks for the objective points of view. It helps, as I can't seem to rationalise this, coming from someone who is essentially a stranger, not a romantic partner/friend.

Yes cancers are dramatic, they love to wallow in self-pity.... That's all, it's not more complex than that, they're emotional, like children, they still have that purity. It ain't more complex than that. It's up to you if you can deal with the big baby that he is, or you want to move on.

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Posted by bricklemark
Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

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Example of ones sure of themselves ?

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Posted by bricklemark
Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

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This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Posted by AzureBlue
You guys are so right. He just came home drunk bemoaning that "maybe he is just an emotional joy vampire" when he saw me. This has absolutely nothing to do with the current situation (housemate stealing) and seemed pretty melodramatic given his behaviour over the past week or two.

What is this really supposed to achieve? Is it supposed to stop me moving out, or make me feel guilty for doing so? Either way, I need to extricate myself because I feel really stuck and miserable right now.

Maybe, he just has emotional problems...

Thanks for the objective points of view. It helps, as I can't seem to rationalise this, coming from someone who is essentially a stranger, not a romantic partner/friend.

so I read your update and this note - and this guy is just too much - very strange and manipulative and you need to leave so you can find peace at home because there will be none while trying to live in his house

clue in that his daughters got the hell out of dodge and him throwing back whatever you did say during your "talk over tea" which you should have just declined and given him your notice - you do not owe him anything at all

please get out before it gets any weirder - and yes, this is I believe a strong passive-aggressive behavior and personality and well there is no reasoning with these limp noodle people who cry-baby bed wet and play victim and want pity and attention every time they can't manipulate the situation to their liking

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Posted by bricklemark
Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

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- there is good and bad in every sign - everyone is unique and yet some seem to act similar in nature and that triggers people - maybe it's just that with certain behavioral patterns people do see some common traits in certain signs but they are never always like that - no

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Posted by bricklemark
Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

- there is good and bad in every sign - everyone is unique and yet some seem to act similar in nature and that triggers people - maybe it's just that with certain behavioral patterns people do see some common traits in certain signs but they are never always like that - no

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Agreed, not even identical twins behave in the same manner but we group zodiac signs on a mass scale.

I know this is an astrology site so it's a given to have some banter with all the signs.

It's best to laugh it off and move on

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

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Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

If you take out the Cancer from their chart, they might not be funny, or childish, cute, a breath of fresh air, all that... But the more Cancer one has, the more he tends towards moodiness or passive agressive behavior, especially after 40.

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

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Do you not think passive aggressiveness is reflected through communication? For example if the Cancer keeps undoing things you've changed at home or work space but doesn't have the balls to directly address it. Persistently moves things back to how they like it, like a OCD control freak?

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

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I agree on the moodiness, and absolutely it's all about the chart. In this thread we were discussing the Cancer sun man, so I'm not going into the detail if Cancer placements make people like that.

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

Do you not think passive aggressiveness is reflected through communication? For example if the Cancer keeps undoing things you've changed at home or work space but doesn't have the balls to directly address it. Persistently moves things back to how they like it, like a OCD control freak?

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No it's passive agressiveness in general.

Hey you're the one who started talking about perfect and mature Cancer people, you made me say "those traits are not typical".

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

Do you not think passive aggressiveness is reflected through communication? For example if the Cancer keeps undoing things you've changed at home or work space but doesn't have the balls to directly address it. Persistently moves things back to how they like it, like a OCD control freak?

Nobody takes the cake on passive aggressiveness like a pisces scorpio or aqua



We're pretty tame

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Precisely, all signs and people just need to be direct and communicate well. Once you break down those walls everyone gets along. Cannot live in a snowflake world!

Respect that they have their own opinions and are different, if you cannot come to an amiable conclusion in your stifling dilemma, then move on.

At least the op is now realising that, hope she finds a better home soon.

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You guys are so right. He just came home drunk bemoaning that "maybe he is just an emotional joy vampire" when he saw me. This has absolutely nothing to do with the current situation (housemate stealing) and seemed pretty melodramatic given his behaviour over the past week or two.

What is this really supposed to achieve? Is it supposed to stop me moving out, or make me feel guilty for doing so? Either way, I need to extricate myself because I feel really stuck and miserable right now.

Maybe, he just has emotional problems...

Thanks for the objective points of view. It helps, as I can't seem to rationalise this, coming from someone who is essentially a stranger, not a romantic partner/friend.

It's just going to be more of the same with him and you know it. Since having a heart to heart didn't work time to put it on paper and move the f on.

Go online and google search '30 day notice'. Print out one of these and fill it out. For reason for moving put 'unsafe environment' and 'theft'.

Make a copy or take a quality pic with your phone. Submit to your landlord and be done with it.

If you gave a deposit clean your space and take photos before you leave. Then focus your energy into finding a new space.

And in the future always install a lock on your door if there isn't one already. Landlord is the only person besides you who will have the key.

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Wow quite the generalization...I've experienced way worse behaviors from sags, Aries, Virgo, aquas. Etc. point is I think you should look at placements not the sign ?

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

Do you not think passive aggressiveness is reflected through communication? For example if the Cancer keeps undoing things you've changed at home or work space but doesn't have the balls to directly address it. Persistently moves things back to how they like it, like a OCD control freak?

Nobody takes the cake on passive aggressiveness like a pisces scorpio or aqua



We're pretty tame

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Lol

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

Do you not think passive aggressiveness is reflected through communication? For example if the Cancer keeps undoing things you've changed at home or work space but doesn't have the balls to directly address it. Persistently moves things back to how they like it, like a OCD control freak?

Nobody takes the cake on passive aggressiveness like a pisces scorpio or aqua



We're pretty tame

Precisely, all signs and people just need to be direct and communicate well. Once you break down those walls everyone gets along. Cannot live in a snowflake world!

Respect that they have their own opinions and are different, if you cannot come to an amiable conclusion in your stifling dilemma, then move on.

At least the op is now realising that, hope she finds a better home soon.

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lol I like that and will use that "snowflake world" lol

what you said is so true - I appreciate directness and I don't know what to do with in-directness

yes we are all different and have our own opinions and preferences and that in itself is where the beauty of this all comes into play - making it work between two very different people - compromising and understanding

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

Do you not think passive aggressiveness is reflected through communication? For example if the Cancer keeps undoing things you've changed at home or work space but doesn't have the balls to directly address it. Persistently moves things back to how they like it, like a OCD control freak?

No it's passive agressiveness in general.

Hey you're the one who started talking about perfect and mature Cancer people, you made me say "those traits are not typical".

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Cancerians do need to go through that maturation process but that applies to the human race. All the negatives aspects of the sign everyone enquires about the signs are the immature nature, if they are old and miserable then it's their failures in life.

Good chat btw hehe

Every sign has people that can be and are passive aggressive.

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Wow quite the generalization...I've experienced way worse behaviors from sags, Aries, Virgo, aquas. Etc. point is I think you should look at placements not the sign ?

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But Cancers are like the 1st gear, there's a lot of good in them, but in the short term. They're not the sign of maturity, they often turn to the drink, or bitterness in their later years. They represent birth, and a young mother and her baby, there's all the mysteries of life in them, but they're not fit for the long haul, professional life etc...

Capricorns are like the 6th gear...?

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

Do you not think passive aggressiveness is reflected through communication? For example if the Cancer keeps undoing things you've changed at home or work space but doesn't have the balls to directly address it. Persistently moves things back to how they like it, like a OCD control freak?

Nobody takes the cake on passive aggressiveness like a pisces scorpio or aqua



We're pretty tame

Precisely, all signs and people just need to be direct and communicate well. Once you break down those walls everyone gets along. Cannot live in a snowflake world!

Respect that they have their own opinions and are different, if you cannot come to an amiable conclusion in your stifling dilemma, then move on.

At least the op is now realising that, hope she finds a better home soon.

lol I like that and will use that "snowflake world" lol

what you said is so true - I appreciate directness and I don't know what to do with in-directness

yes we are all different and have our own opinions and preferences and that in itself is where the beauty of this all comes into play - making it work between two very different people - compromising and understanding

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Yup you can add that to your vocab ??

Difference is great and makes life interesting, especially if your bouncing off ideas

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

Do you not think passive aggressiveness is reflected through communication? For example if the Cancer keeps undoing things you've changed at home or work space but doesn't have the balls to directly address it. Persistently moves things back to how they like it, like a OCD control freak?

No it's passive agressiveness in general.

Hey you're the one who started talking about perfect and mature Cancer people, you made me say "those traits are not typical".

Cancerians do need to go through that maturation process but that applies to the human race. All the negatives aspects of the sign everyone enquires about the signs are the immature nature, if they are old and miserable then it's their failures in life.

Good chat btw hehe

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No l don't think you're grasping it, it's inherent to the sign that they "don't grow up", that they be moody and miserable in later years. If they can fight it, great, but that's not what we're talking about here.

Milk goes bad after a few hours, but a fine cheese will stay in a french cave for years.

In the same way, Cancers are better than everybody in their youth, and then they will tend to go bad.

Capricorns are already old when they're kids, but they remain steady and functional in their later years, and often attractive.

Precisely, all signs and people just need to be direct and communicate well. Once you break down those walls everyone gets along. Cannot live in a snowflake world!

Respect that they have their own opinions and are different, if you cannot come to an amiable conclusion in your stifling dilemma, then move on.

At least the op is now realising that, hope she finds a better home soon.

lol I like that and will use that "snowflake world" lol

what you said is so true - I appreciate directness and I don't know what to do with in-directness

yes we are all different and have our own opinions and preferences and that in itself is where the beauty of this all comes into play - making it work between two very different people - compromising and understanding





Yup you can add that to your vocab ??

Difference is great and makes life interesting, especially if your bouncing off ideas



Thanks, could have used that when my ex was upset at my not putting the drain thingy back in the sink after I cleaned the sink (gee, there it was just sitting on the side of the sick all clean and spanky) - well I wasn't arguing about it he was just going off and so incredulous that this could possibly be happening in his world ... saying "what kind of a person doesn't put the drain back in the sink" - lol - I just looked at him because I was actually afraid he just lost his mind - and he just kept repeating it - he just could not get over that - lol - of all things in the world right lol

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Cancers ARE PASSIVE-agressive.... And stupid...when it comes to the home, expect extreme behaviors, defensiveness....etc...they don't have the brains and professionaism to be normal.

Only the moronic ones that are insecure and have no real power, not the ones that are sure of themselves. ?

Example of ones sure of themselves ?

This guy that the op is describing has serious issues hence the melodrama.

I currently work with loads at the moment for a few years now. They are all hilariously funny. Competent, sure of them themselves individually different with opinions. Have so many interesting pastimes and hobbies. Accomplished, they make a lot of money in their subject fields. They are in charge of their working hours. Have the healthy work life balance.

You cannot be around that many all the time and not see the mask drop, I would've seen it by now if they were passive aggressive. I'm really good at reading people.

Now I have met one Cancer boss who was a passive aggressive nightmare, lacks professionalism. I'm pretty sure she gave me IBS ? I'm not anymore. Everyday we had to walk on eggshells and to request annual leave we had to work out what kind of mood she's in.

I think she was an exception, I cannot have met over 12+ crabs and only find one neurotic mess and classify the rest as such.

Richard Branson maybe an example of crabs that don't really need to prove themselves, as he already came from money. To me he seems chilled AF then again I don't know him on a personal basis, so I could be wrong.

As for the childishness I never want to give that up! The eternally youthful despite how mentally mature I have to be ?

Well, that part is not the Cancer part, it's other stuff in their chart. Cancers are funny but moody. If they're consistently in control of their emotions and professional, then they're mostly some other sign(s).

Do you not think passive aggressiveness is reflected through communication? For example if the Cancer keeps undoing things you've changed at home or work space but doesn't have the balls to directly address it. Persistently moves things back to how they like it, like a OCD control freak?

No it's passive agressiveness in general.

Hey you're the one who started talking about perfect and mature Cancer people, you made me say "those traits are not typical".

Cancerians do need to go through that maturation process but that applies to the human race. All the negatives aspects of the sign everyone enquires about the signs are the immature nature, if they are old and miserable then it's their failures in life.

Good chat btw hehe

No l don't think you're grasping it, it's inherent to the sign that they "don't grow up", that they be moody and miserable in later years. If they can fight it, great, but that's not what we're talking about here.

Milk goes bad after a few hours, but a fine cheese will stay in a french cave for years.

In the same way, Cancers are better than everybody in their youth, and then they will tend to go bad.

Capricorns are already old when they're kids, but they remain steady and functional in their later years, and often attractive.

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That's the thing with your analogy, you appreciate them when they are young. Wheareas I use to find them so irratatating in their youth, bratty and pouty. Ugh!

We just appreciate different spectrum. I do understand what you're saying just haven't experienced it in that order.

I guess I have to wait for the ones I know to get wrinkly and depressive failures to experience it otherwise I cannot agree.

We'll have to agree to disagree.

And yes Caps are very stable that tend to age backwards, don't know any older caps to truly judge. By going on celebrities I'd say Patrick Dempsey is a fine example.

Posted by tcta

Precisely, all signs and people just need to be direct and communicate well. Once you break down those walls everyone gets along. Cannot live in a snowflake world!

Respect that they have their own opinions and are different, if you cannot come to an amiable conclusion in your stifling dilemma, then move on.

At least the op is now realising that, hope she finds a better home soon.

lol I like that and will use that "snowflake world" lol

what you said is so true - I appreciate directness and I don't know what to do with in-directness

yes we are all different and have our own opinions and preferences and that in itself is where the beauty of this all comes into play - making it work between two very different people - compromising and understanding

Yup you can add that to your vocab ??

Difference is great and makes life interesting, especially if your bouncing off ideas



Thanks, could have used that when my ex was upset at my not putting the drain thingy back in the sink after I cleaned the sink (gee, there it was just sitting on the side of the sick all clean and spanky) - well I wasn't arguing about it he was just going off and so incredulous that this could possibly be happening in his world ... saying "what kind of a person doesn't put the drain back in the sink" - lol - I just looked at him because I was actually afraid he just lost his mind - and he just kept repeating it - he just could not get over that - lol - of all things in the world right lol





He'll probably laugh at it in hindsight, my bug bear is when women clog up the sink with their long hair. Like why? When I explain it that it annoys me they just stare at me blank, cannot understand why I'm so bothered.

We all have our nuisances ?