Posted by Pisces15Posted by MissGemmiI caved & sent a message; sent a upbeat friendly message......response: nothing!Posted by kinner_bearNot to worry! Im sure he will be back. Maybe not now or in a week, but if you let go now, he ll be back. Act cool then and ignore him back. Not a single word. It's hard, but just do it! If he gives up immediately you know it's just a checkup.Posted by Pisces15i also thinking to move on, but when i'm looking back how much he cares for me when he was next to me, i don't want to let him go. probably i will look another thing to make myself busy and think that my cancer guy is going to the war zone hehehePosted by kinner_bearI'm 8 days of no contact! Tbh I am taking the no contact as a hint, no longer interested! Just leave him be.
still no sign from him, and he's been ignoring me for 4 days. how long the max for cancer to hide in his shell?
Selfish men!
Washing my hands of it / him, & moving on!
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Posted by boxcarmirnta
^is this the same dude you contacted briefly awhile ago?
Posted by boxcarmirntaAll the other times he came back. He felt bad how he treated me, he got upset, etc. But honestly before I met him my life was so boring and in a shitty place. I never wanted to get out of the house or try anything new. I'm much more open to new things now, has to mean something. I reached out a third and final time that I wanted us to be friends again. It's really hard to put my pride aside so hopefully my efforts aren't in vain but we'll see.
Kodak: Hilarious... Mgmt...what keeps you going back??
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Ahh.. Sucks. Strife is so hard and pointless. What is your sign again?
Posted by boxcarmirntaHow's yours?
@m143 are you back together with yours? Mind broke a promise to be that meant. A LOT and i called him on it, and instead of feeling bad he whipped out the. "this is why I cant be a good boyfriend. And should live alone for eternity" card, he always pulls that out when he hurts me..it seems like a real cop out to me. After saying he wanted to live with me?? Well which is it man?!?! Ugh!!
Posted by Shaniajammine went missing again for 5 days and he suddenly poof replied my messege when i sent him photo of my finger was bleeding bitten by my dog. he was very concerned and worried about me, saying that my finger is too important. haha, well i hurt my finger but at least i know that he still cares
@kinner_bear damn...I'm in for a long ride... Or maybe it's over. Ah well...cancers...love Em to death lol crabby patties
Posted by kinner_bearAwwwwwe... I love...LOVE! He cares and that is awesome!!! I haven't updated my status in 3 days and I think he's waiting to see if I'm in a good mood to reach out... The last time as soon as he thought his final chance was closing in he reached out. I hope it's the same this time once I decide to update my status. Just not doing it on an emotional level. Waiting to really be clear headed even though he's been subliminal posting which he had calmed down from doing now. In any event.... Soooooo happy for you!!! Ugh I really love it!Posted by Shaniajammine went missing again for 5 days and he suddenly poof replied my messege when i sent him photo of my finger was bleeding bitten by my dog. he was very concerned and worried about me, saying that my finger is too important. haha, well i hurt my finger but at least i know that he still cares
@kinner_bear damn...I'm in for a long ride... Or maybe it's over. Ah well...cancers...love Em to death lol crabby pattiesclick to expand
Posted by CG04Thanks for this understanding! I think if he reaches I may still do the 30 days no contact rule. Or maybe answer and see if he wants what I want and if not.... Really be gone and never respond again. But if he never does, I won't hold my breathe.... I'll move on.... Been staying away to cleanse me anyway. Once I resurface I'll be half way done and that's when he normally corns back. But if not.... I'll be fine.
As a Cancer, sometimes we check in because we honestly do care about the person, want to see how they are, but have trouble understanding how that could be confusing the person. We may not necessarily want a relationship, but we want to keep contact. Though, it doesn't necessarily mean we are off seeing other people either. It's selfish, and when people call us out, we often say "but I care, why can't I just know how you are?!"
I would honestly not reply every time. And also, there could be potential his mind may be with others and he just wants to check you will still reply to him and he can charm his way back. I would say Cancers are very good with the whole innocent-charming our way back.
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMemberThank you for this ❤❤
Camp 2 Loser Cancers use attention as a weapon to manipulate a potentially romantic interest. It is both unhealthy and childish for them to behave like this toward a mature and healthy human being.
Camp 1 Cancers never behave like this, and are sure to provide honest and open communication with others when they are receiving it.
There is a very distinct difference between the losers and winners who are born under this sign, and communication style is often the difference between the two.
The losers prefer manipulation and bullshit, whereas the Camp 1's do not.
Posted by Shaniajamyou should trust your instinct, that what makes us women can stand so far. you should know, when my man went poof for 27 days i felt like my whole world was broken into pieces, but i knew deep in my heart that he still cares, on the other hand i felt like maybe this is only me who wish that he still cares. so i only gave it a try and followed my guts. if i felt like i want to contact him then i gave him news, if not then i didn't. good luck with your love one shaniajam, you can do itPosted by CG04Thanks for this understanding! I think if he reaches I may still do the 30 days no contact rule. Or maybe answer and see if he wants what I want and if not.... Really be gone and never respond again. But if he never does, I won't hold my breathe.... I'll move on.... Been staying away to cleanse me anyway. Once I resurface I'll be half way done and that's when he normally corns back. But if not.... I'll be fine.
As a Cancer, sometimes we check in because we honestly do care about the person, want to see how they are, but have trouble understanding how that could be confusing the person. We may not necessarily want a relationship, but we want to keep contact. Though, it doesn't necessarily mean we are off seeing other people either. It's selfish, and when people call us out, we often say "but I care, why can't I just know how you are?!"
I would honestly not reply every time. And also, there could be potential his mind may be with others and he just wants to check you will still reply to him and he can charm his way back. I would say Cancers are very good with the whole innocent-charming our way back.click to expand
Posted by KoniuchaAppears to be the thing for most cancers... It has taught me to stop being clingy and let them do their thing now. If he comes back... I intend to do just that
Is this really a Cancer thing? I am Scorpio, but Cancer is my highest sign and I am ruled by the moon. I would never act this way..
Posted by Pisces15Lmaooo following suit. If I hear before then I will answer and let him know how I feel.
Haha I'm day 18 of no contact! And I'm sticking to my 30 day no contact! If I hear nothing at the end of 30 days, bye bye crazy crazy Cancer B O Y!!!
Posted by kinner_bearYou know you are the one that has said the thing that made the most sense to me.... You and only you feel the emotions with your certain cancer. We come here for advice but deep inside I know what I feel and I know how he feels. I want so badly to just send him a message that everything will be ok and look no further I'm all he needs but I know it'll come off clingy. If he ever comes back... I know exactly how to treat him. Third time is a charm. He said he loved me... I believe him. He took a long time to tell me. Also, he's always been the bad guy "the player" and he met me and has changed. I know he is struggling with the influence of others. And stress in his life. Some wouldn't put up with it.... But I know my past and it wasn't squeaky clean. He accepted me at my worst when he could have moved on. I know he cares. I'll wait but in 30 days I have to be happy too. I just hope he comes back before then. Thanks so much. You gave me hope. It hurts but I'll wait.Posted by Shaniajamyou should trust your instinct, that what makes us women can stand so far. you should know, when my man went poof for 27 days i felt like my whole world was broken into pieces, but i knew deep in my heart that he still cares, on the other hand i felt like maybe this is only me who wish that he still cares. so i only gave it a try and followed my guts. if i felt like i want to contact him then i gave him news, if not then i didn't. good luck with your love one shaniajam, you can do itPosted by CG04Thanks for this understanding! I think if he reaches I may still do the 30 days no contact rule. Or maybe answer and see if he wants what I want and if not.... Really be gone and never respond again. But if he never does, I won't hold my breathe.... I'll move on.... Been staying away to cleanse me anyway. Once I resurface I'll be half way done and that's when he normally corns back. But if not.... I'll be fine.
As a Cancer, sometimes we check in because we honestly do care about the person, want to see how they are, but have trouble understanding how that could be confusing the person. We may not necessarily want a relationship, but we want to keep contact. Though, it doesn't necessarily mean we are off seeing other people either. It's selfish, and when people call us out, we often say "but I care, why can't I just know how you are?!"
I would honestly not reply every time. And also, there could be potential his mind may be with others and he just wants to check you will still reply to him and he can charm his way back. I would say Cancers are very good with the whole innocent-charming our way back.click to expand
Posted by ShaniajamPosted by kinner_bearYou know you are the one that has said the thing that made the most sense to me.... You and only you feel the emotions with your certain cancer. We come here for advice but deep inside I know what I feel and I know how he feels. I want so badly to just send him a message that everything will be ok and look no further I'm all he needs but I know it'll come off clingy. If he ever comes back... I know exactly how to treat him. Third time is a charm. He said he loved me... I believe him. He took a long time to tell me. Also, he's always been the bad guy "the player" and he met me and has changed. I know he is struggling with the influence of others. And stress in his life. Some wouldn't put up with it.... But I know my past and it wasn't squeaky clean. He accepted me at my worst when he could have moved on. I know he cares. I'll wait but in 30 days I have to be happy too. I just hope he comes back beforePosted by Shaniajamyou should trust your instinct, that what makes us women can stand so far. you should know, when my man went poof for 27 days i felt like my whole world was broken into pieces, but i knew deep in my heart that he still cares, on the other hand i felt like maybe this is only me who wish that he still cares. so i only gave it a try and followed my guts. if i felt like i want to contact him then i gave him news, if not then i didn't. good luck with your love one shaniajam, you can do itPosted by CG04Thanks for this understanding! I think if he reaches I may still do the 30 days no contact rule. Or maybe answer and see if he wants what I want and if not.... Really be gone and never respond again. But if he never does, I won't hold my breathe.... I'll move on.... Been staying away to cleanse me anyway. Once I resurface I'll be half way done and that's when he normally corns back. But if not.... I'll be fine.
As a Cancer, sometimes we check in because we honestly do care about the person, want to see how they are, but have trouble understanding how that could be confusing the person. We may not necessarily want a relationship, but we want to keep contact. Though, it doesn't necessarily mean we are off seeing other people either. It's selfish, and when people call us out, we often say "but I care, why can't I just know how you are?!"
I would honestly not reply every time. And also, there could be potential his mind may be with others and he just wants to check you will still reply to him and he can charm his way back. I would say Cancers are very good with the whole innocent-charming our way back.click to expand
Posted by MissGemmiI know exactly how to treat him... It means have my own social life and not be clingy and do me... I could care less who he he's a connexion with anymore and the next cancer I find i will be the same. See his feelings affected me and Changed my happy go lucky self into thinking of him too much and being all into him then poof he's gone...that's what I meant by I know exactly how to treat him or the situation I should say. As the days go on... I'm getting more and more in tune with me.... I haven't updated my status in days and according to his statuses he's been waiting for something or so I feel.... I'm gonna make sure I focus on being happy again.... This time I know exactly how to treat him. Because if he truly cares and love me I don't have to give him my all for him to know that I've been there all along.
He will come back before those 30 days. Trust me, they cannot let go if they care for you. As long as you haven't pushed it too far in making them feel uncomfortable (even then, they come back).
You said 'I know exactly how to treat him' and 'that he needs to look no further'. With a cancer some might be very good in giving you the feeling that you are the one that can handle them best. They turn to you when things go wrong, they hang out with you a lot, they tell you all. Thing is. they have a lot of other people who might have the same thought.
You think you're special, but honestly they are sooooo good in connecting emotionally with others, that all other people think they have a special spot in their hearts. You will find yourself building so many memories, good actions, good records, being there for them through good times, bad times, knowing you for so many years, been through good happy times and through all the lows and at the end..... they meet someone for one day who they feel more emotionally connected with and then poof! that person might hold the same spot or even a better spot than you. There's no such thing as you are all that he needs in some Cancer's eyes. Your definition of what he needs, might be different than the definition he feels of what he needs.
Posted by ShaniajamOh no. so what is your plan? Continue your relationship or not?
Well I hope mines come back... Day 3 and I so want to update my social media status. I don't think he cares anyways. In fact I don't know what he thinks. I'm just continuing to stay MIA for a couple days. And continue to do me... Does it hurt? Hell yeah! But Taurus won't show it ŠŠ
Posted by M143fierce 😄Posted by ShaniajamOh no. so what is your plan? Continue your relationship or not?
Well I hope mines come back... Day 3 and I so want to update my social media status. I don't think he cares anyways. In fact I don't know what he thinks. I'm just continuing to stay MIA for a couple days. And continue to do me... Does it hurt? Hell yeah! But Taurus won't show it ŠŠ
If you want to work it out. Send msg or Call him. Make sure he knows what you feel. Rock the boat. Don't be too comfortable allowing him just to ignore you.
I'd better get an honest answer than playing tom and jerry. cancers afraid of rejection so used it against yourself. Tell him everything.
Mine when he goes MIA I count 1-3 days.
then day 4 is my preparation. Day 5 - I declared war.
When two lovers fight.. trust me it's for good. You will know everything what he thinks about you and vice versa.
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Posted by Pisces15+1 thanks for this!Posted by Arielle83After he spent the night with me, he vanished for 10 days, so I reached out to him. He initiated contact for 5 days & he hasn't been in touch since.Posted by Pisces15You actually sound crazy limiting yourself to this game.
Haha I'm day 18 of no contact! And I'm sticking to my 30 day no contact! If I hear nothing at the end of 30 days, bye bye crazy crazy Cancer B O Y!!!
I'm not chasing a man, that's not me or is it a trait to be proud of. With what happened & what was said, I'm leaving him to deal with it in his own way, give him space. Nobody likes being suffocated by a nagging / whinging / clingy individual as that's not me or a picture I wish to paint of myself. Yes not talking to him is killing me but we've got our own lives to live. I also believe if this guy TRULY was interested, he would have been in touch LONG ago! Each day that goes by with no contact from him makes me feel he really was just trying to use me for sex, & I wasn't prepared to be that girl.
And I'm not crazy, I'm just a woman with morals & a life that doesn't revolve around men 24/7! Life is too short for all that crazy cray stuff!!click to expand
Posted by Pisces15It's been hard to move on, I still have the urge to reach out and it's been WAY longer than 30 days(try 4 months). Sent three texts got no reply. Thinking about texting from another number, he most likely blocked me..but trying my best to move on.Posted by mgmtloveNo problem.Posted by Pisces15+1 thanks for this!Posted by Arielle83After he spent the night with me, he vanished for 10 days, so I reached out to him. He initiated contact for 5 days & he hasn't been in touch since.Posted by Pisces15You actually sound crazy limiting yourself to this game.
Haha I'm day 18 of no contact! And I'm sticking to my 30 day no contact! If I hear nothing at the end of 30 days, bye bye crazy crazy Cancer B O Y!!!
I'm not chasing a man, that's not me or is it a trait to be proud of. With what happened & what was said, I'm leaving him to deal with it in his own way, give him space. Nobody likes being suffocated by a nagging / whinging / clingy individual as that's not me or a picture I wish to paint of myself. Yes not talking to him is killing me but we've got our own lives to live. I also believe if this guy TRULY was interested, he would have been in touch LONG ago! Each day that goes by with no contact from him makes me feel he really was just trying to use me for sex, & I wasn't prepared to be that girl.
And I'm not crazy, I'm just a woman with morals & a life that doesn't revolve around men 24/7! Life is too short for all that crazy cray stuff!!
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