RamOnFire1
@RamOnFire1
8 Years
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Aries woman Cap man
Me
Sun Aries
Moon Sag
Mars Aries
Venus Taurus
Asc Pisces
Him: Dont have his birth time but I think this is pretty accurate from what I've seen so far with him and I'm not new to astro.
Sun Cap
Moon Libra
Mars Sag
Venus Cap
Asc Aries
Sun Aries
Moon Sag
Mars Aries
Venus Taurus
Asc Pisces
Him: Dont have his birth time but I think this is pretty accurate from what I've seen so far with him and I'm not new to astro.
Sun Cap
Moon Libra
Mars Sag
Venus Cap
Asc Aries
It will all depend on whether he drives an Audi or a Mercedes.
Can he do long distance?
Sure. 3 months isn't that long.
Are you two going to make it long term?
That is a helluva question. Caps and Aries don't work on paper but it isn't that bad in real life. Especially if its what you both want. He has a lot of shit going on right now, expect your patience to be tested.
Sure. 3 months isn't that long.
Are you two going to make it long term?
That is a helluva question. Caps and Aries don't work on paper but it isn't that bad in real life. Especially if its what you both want. He has a lot of shit going on right now, expect your patience to be tested.
Posted by IamAries
It will all depend on whether he drives an Audi or a Mercedes.
lmao IamAries... He has neither.. Are we doomed? 😛
Posted by daron76Daron, I appreciate your response.
Can he do long distance?
Sure. 3 months isn't that long.
Are you two going to make it long term?
That is a helluva question. Caps and Aries don't work on paper but it isn't that bad in real life. Especially if its what you both want. He has a lot of shit going on right now, expect your patience to be tested.
His bday was Jan 4th and we did not celebrate together. He went out to dinner then got sick. But, also he says he doesnt care about it much and doesnt do gifts. I have though bought him something that I think he'll like. It's a rare, signed, jersey from a NFL team he likes. Do you think he'll feel weird about this gift?
Posted by RamOnFire1I think that he will be faithful. He is just stressing out. I think that if me and my Aries relationships were more mature they would have worked out. Out of all the signs I feel that when Aries and Cap work together its pretty much unstoppable. The problems come when Cap starts getting scared and holds on Tight which can caise Aries to feel Smothered. Aries can make caps feel insecure in some aspects. And Caps can make Aries feel like they are being scolded or not taken serious. Just keep the boundaries loose but the trust and communication at 100% IMO
Hi everyone.. I'm new to the boards and was hoping to get some insight from the good cappys in here.
I'm an Aries woman (30 yo) dating a Cap man (40 yo). We met online and after a few witty chats back and forth decided to meet in person. When I met him I had strong attraction for him and i could tell so did he. He's very captivating, intelligent, well dressed, works in Finance, makes me laugh and seemed to have it all together. Don;t get it wrong i got my shit together too. 😉 He's my dream man.
I established since the beginning the importance of honesty and told him to be himself and not worry about it.
First day we met, at the Ritz no less, he said he wanted to be friends first and i found it strange because i never had a man want to be friends with me since HS lol. So, I told him that I didnt understand what that meant, since we met on a dating website, but he explaiend his relationships have been long term 8 years, another 11 years etc. and thats how it all started and he needed time. I nodded that I understood but stated that for me; friends are friends and I have not done and would not do friends with benefits either. Also, I said in the past anyone that has wanted to be my friend had eventually wanted more which ended up not being an ideal situation because once you're in that zone that's where you at. I explained that I wanted a passionate serious monogamous long term relationship with someone that would end up eventually in marriage and kids. Explained that i didnt have many relationships, and all my relationships were serious although not as long term as him.
So, he didnt say anything but could tell he was thinking it all through.
Fast forward, during the first month, we're constantly texting, talking, seeing each other but no kiss or any type of physical actions other than hugs. We went out to the beach one time and it was so romantic, saw the sunset, the attraction off the roof, and he was blatantly checking me out head to toe lol and apparently liked what he saw. 😄 Intensity was very high.
Then, later that day he "happens" to forget his wallet in my beach bag. I told him he could come over my house to pick it up because I was home already. He said he would and eventually came around, and was roaming around my house looking at everything (house decorations, books etc), then he sat down for a few; we talked but nothing happened.
Up until this point, I'm thinking he wants to still be friends of course. I had plans the next weekend with my friends to go to a nice mansion house party and asked him if he wanted to come. He came picked me up from my house and drove us there which was about 40 min away. He wasnt feeling well he said but still came. We had a great time talking and he met my friends. I love dancing and had told him before, though he initially joked about Jewish men being horrible at dancing, but he actually put out some good moves on the dance floor. There was a prof photographer there and she actually made the comment "we look great together so she'd take a bunch of pics." My other Gem friend came later and so she didnt get to enjoy much. Later in the evening he said that he was tired and wanted to go but said if I wanted to stay with my friend I could. My Gem friend that came later was unhappy because we're all leaving ..so out os sympathy for her, I decided to stay a little longer. He said ok and left. My other friend that left with her bf at the same time, said to me the next week that I should have left with him and that he was very sad looking leaving by himself after the party. She said he would have definetly kissed me that day. I was shocked of course, in my mind, still thinking we're friends.
Next day, he wanted to see me again. We meet up and we're talking and laughing then i just bring up the subject again of friendship. He says well obviously we arent going to be friends and thats why Im still here. lol He said he sees potential in us so he wants to explore further. I'm like ok, cool. *grin on my face*
We go out to a nice upscale restaurant, looking great, the sommelier knew him by name and asked about the wine he brought with him, and then takes me to see the christmas lights in this nice upscale neighborhood. It was magical. He drops me back to my house and lets just say it was on. lol For 5 days in a row, sexing like bunnies, almost broke the bed.
Well, you say reading thus far.....so what's the problem? Well...Here we go.. lol
He apparently was married to a woman that came from a very wealthy family. His family is well to do too but her family had a lot more $ . His father never liked him from day one and when they eloped in Vegas without his approval he was very ticked off. However, they had a business with his ex-wife which he worked on for a few years. Fast forward, 3 years later, the marriage is falling apart he says due to her being addicted to drugs and basically sexing every other guy in town. I'm like.. huh?..
He has now been divorced for 1 full year and in the mean time had 1 previous relationship with a girl that had eventually moved away 2 months before i met him. His ex FIL is now making his life miserable and suing him for the business they were in. He says the FIL has been suing him over 20 times this past year and now is in a major lawsuit that keeps draining his financial resources with hearing coming up in October. He cant do anything about it and wants to bring this to the end.
So, in the mean time, he also has to pay back taxes valued at about $ 50k that have come up that he hadnt settled back in 2010. He says he needs to go in Europe to work with his friend in the diamond business and he can make this money needed very quickly. He had told me before that he had a firend in Europe and they saw each other during the year. He wants to move there for 1-3 months. In the mean time, over new year he had a laser procedure which resulted in lumps in face and throat, which this week resulted in shingles. He has been so unfocused and although we talk on the phone I have not seen him.
His bday was Jan 4th and we did not celebrate together. He went out to dinner then got sick. But, also he says he doesnt care about it much and doesnt do gifts. I have though bought him something that I think he'll like. It's a rare, signed, jersey from a NFL team he likes. I dont know if he'll feel weird about it.
The other day, we're talking and he's telling me all this openly. Then, he starts stumbling his words and i knew something important was coming cause he's usually very articulate... he says to me that he understands this is a lot to handle and that he thinks "I deserve the best and not someone with these issues". He's telling me this and his voice is calm but sad. I had already told him before that I would wait for him to come back but I also wanted to see him and we hadnt seen each other. He said he was going to try to see me as much as he could, "at least 5 times", before he left. Well, he's supposed to leave in a bout 2 weeks. In the mean time, his text are scarcer then before but he still calls me on the phone. He wants to see me this sunday.
It now has been 2 months that we've known each other and I know its early, and I could bail if I wanted, but the feeling is strong and so I cant. So, my questions are:
- Can he do this long distance for 1-3 months and stay faithful since its so early on? Are cappys faithful? I'm reading mix reviews on here.
- Are we going to make it long term? I know aries and cap are not typically astrologically compatible but so far we havent had arguments or issues. [I understand it's very early.]
I just wantd some feedback but of course will ask him on Sunday as well.
Thanks for reading 🙂
Thank you @sirXavier
I'm not a typical Aries although I do have a stellium there. My placements have progressed now in Taurus and pretty much everyone who knows me can't understand how I'm an Aries. My Pisces Asc may have something to do with it also.
On the first date, he said to me verbatim "you are soft on the outside but strong on the inside and I'm the opposite". I think he nailed it.
I have seen his Aries Asc comes off strong in the beginning. Note to self: I need to tell him about this (at some point) and maybe guide him on how to tone it down a little when he first meets people. I understand it how it can come off wrong 'cause Im Aries and can handle it but other people have a hard time with it.
I have also a stellium in Sag so in comparison to other Aries I do not need a lot of attention. Im good with space and it seems like he likes that too. My moon has prog into Aquarius and his moon has prog in Aries too.
Yes, I do need consistency to feel cared for and loved, tangible declarations of love, nice surroundings, etc. All things Venus in Taurus. 😉
I have strong feeling like I've talked to him before (over 10 yrs ago) but he swears we have not. If I had proceeded to go out with him then, it would have probably not worked out. Just like you say...
I'm not a typical Aries although I do have a stellium there. My placements have progressed now in Taurus and pretty much everyone who knows me can't understand how I'm an Aries. My Pisces Asc may have something to do with it also.
On the first date, he said to me verbatim "you are soft on the outside but strong on the inside and I'm the opposite". I think he nailed it.
I have seen his Aries Asc comes off strong in the beginning. Note to self: I need to tell him about this (at some point) and maybe guide him on how to tone it down a little when he first meets people. I understand it how it can come off wrong 'cause Im Aries and can handle it but other people have a hard time with it.
I have also a stellium in Sag so in comparison to other Aries I do not need a lot of attention. Im good with space and it seems like he likes that too. My moon has prog into Aquarius and his moon has prog in Aries too.
Yes, I do need consistency to feel cared for and loved, tangible declarations of love, nice surroundings, etc. All things Venus in Taurus. 😉
I have strong feeling like I've talked to him before (over 10 yrs ago) but he swears we have not. If I had proceeded to go out with him then, it would have probably not worked out. Just like you say...
@sirXavier
"The problems come when Cap starts getting scared and holds on Tight which can caise Aries to feel Smothered. Aries can make caps feel insecure in some aspects. And Caps can make Aries feel like they are being scolded or not taken serious."
How can Aries make Caps insecure?
When do you get scared?
I have told him I understood what he's going through and will give him space. I have also told him that we can't be apart for too long though because that doesnt help to keep the connection strong.
So far, I let him call me when he's ready and that seems to be working.
"The problems come when Cap starts getting scared and holds on Tight which can caise Aries to feel Smothered. Aries can make caps feel insecure in some aspects. And Caps can make Aries feel like they are being scolded or not taken serious."
How can Aries make Caps insecure?
When do you get scared?
I have told him I understood what he's going through and will give him space. I have also told him that we can't be apart for too long though because that doesnt help to keep the connection strong.
So far, I let him call me when he's ready and that seems to be working.
Ah, dear @RumiL - Do not hide your message... Tell me what you're thinking...
My feelings will not be hurt, I promise 😛
My feelings will not be hurt, I promise 😛
Posted by RamOnFire1In my one case I moved too slow because I wasnt sure if I could trust them. We are still friends to this day the timing was off. She likes me more than I like her now.
@sirXavier
"The problems come when Cap starts getting scared and holds on Tight which can caise Aries to feel Smothered. Aries can make caps feel insecure in some aspects. And Caps can make Aries feel like they are being scolded or not taken serious."
How can Aries make Caps insecure?
When do you get scared?
I have told him I understood what he's going through and will give him space. I have also told him that we can't be apart for too long though because that doesnt help to keep the connection strong.
So far, I let him call me when he's ready and that seems to be working.
The other case was me wanting more with the wrong person. She was wrapped up in drugs and was very manipulative..it turned into a situation I thought I could control, I ended up walking away. Although me and her were successful businesswise, we managed to put aside our differences towards the end planning our event, but after that is when I left. Just too many unanswered questions in regards to her loyalty and truthfulness.
Regardless when I felt like things were unmanageable I would act on impulse and we'd always argue
The arguments were bad because no one was right so we would just stay mad nothing much would get resolved lol
It may not be the same with you. But if he's moving slow just know its to feel you out. If you can wait I'd wait because as soon as you start to move on he will pick up on it and maybe these emotions could trigger in him. At the same time though if the waiting is something you can't do in fear that the connection will fade make sure you let him know.
Posted by RamOnFire1oh no, it's nothing.. it's just my way of 'bookmarking' so I will come back and read later.. :p I am running short on time 😄
Ah, dear @RumiL - Do not hide your message... Tell me what you're thinking...
My feelings will not be hurt, I promise 😛
Posted by sirXavier@sirXavier - Thanks so much for sharing your stories. I appreciate it as I can learn from that.Posted by RamOnFire1In my one case I moved too slow because I wasnt sure if I could trust them. We are still friends to this day the timing was off. She likes me more than I like her now.
@sirXavier
"The problems come when Cap starts getting scared and holds on Tight which can caise Aries to feel Smothered. Aries can make caps feel insecure in some aspects. And Caps can make Aries feel like they are being scolded or not taken serious."
How can Aries make Caps insecure?
When do you get scared?
I have told him I understood what he's going through and will give him space. I have also told him that we can't be apart for too long though because that doesnt help to keep the connection strong.
So far, I let him call me when he's ready and that seems to be working.
The other case was me wanting more with the wrong person. She was wrapped up in drugs and was very manipulative..it turned into a situation I thought I could control, I ended up walking away. Although me and her were successful businesswise, we managed to put aside our differences towards the end planning our event, but after that is when I left. Just too many unanswered questions in regards to her loyalty and truthfulness.
Regardless when I felt like things were unmanageable I would act on impulse and we'd always argue
The arguments were bad because no one was right so we would just stay mad nothing much would get resolved lol
It may not be the same with you. But if he's moving slow just know its to feel you out. If you can wait I'd wait because as soon as you start to move on he will pick up on it and maybe these emotions could trigger in him. At the same time though if the waiting is something you can't do in fear that the connection will fade make sure you let him know.click to expand
We finally spend some time on Sunday and talked. I asked him straight forward if he'd be able to be faithful while he was gone. He said very calmly and without hesitation "of course". He could sense I was being emotional so he asked me whats up. I said that "nothing, its just that if he wasnt going to be then this would end." He's like "i know that baby. I'm going there for work and the faster I can make the money the faster I can come back". Then also added, "I have never slept with anyone while there."
So..that's that.
I'm choosing to have faith in him/us and let him handle his business.
Today, I text him while at lunch and he said he was right about to text me. We have many of these synchronicities with each other. That;s why I know he'll be significant to me. I just dont know how and in what way this will all be playing out.
Posted by RamOnFire1Glad I could shed some light! Usually if in work mode that's pretty much what's going on. If you guys have trust and open communication you should be good.Posted by sirXavier@sirXavier - Thanks so much for sharing your stories. I appreciate it as I can learn from that.Posted by RamOnFire1In my one case I moved too slow because I wasnt sure if I could trust them. We are still friends to this day the timing was off. She likes me more than I like her now.
@sirXavier
"The problems come when Cap starts getting scared and holds on Tight which can caise Aries to feel Smothered. Aries can make caps feel insecure in some aspects. And Caps can make Aries feel like they are being scolded or not taken serious."
How can Aries make Caps insecure?
When do you get scared?
I have told him I understood what he's going through and will give him space. I have also told him that we can't be apart for too long though because that doesnt help to keep the connection strong.
So far, I let him call me when he's ready and that seems to be working.
The other case was me wanting more with the wrong person. She was wrapped up in drugs and was very manipulative..it turned into a situation I thought I could control, I ended up walking away. Although me and her were successful businesswise, we managed to put aside our differences towards the end planning our event, but after that is when I left. Just too many unanswered questions in regards to her loyalty and truthfulness.
Regardless when I felt like things were unmanageable I would act on impulse and we'd always argue
The arguments were bad because no one was right so we would just stay mad nothing much would get resolved lol
It may not be the same with you. But if he's moving slow just know its to feel you out. If you can wait I'd wait because as soon as you start to move on he will pick up on it and maybe these emotions could trigger in him. At the same time though if the waiting is something you can't do in fear that the connection will fade make sure you let him know.
We finally spend some time on Sunday and talked. I asked him straight forward if he'd be able to be faithful while he was gone. He said very calmly and without hesitation "of course". He could sense I was being emotional so he asked me whats up. I said that "nothing, its just that if he wasnt going to be then this would end." He's like "i know that baby. I'm going there for work and the faster I can make the money the faster I can come back". Then also added, "I have never slept with anyone while there."
So..that's that.
I'm choosing to have faith in him/us and let him handle his business.
Today, I text him while at lunch and he said he was right about to text me. We have many of these synchronicities with each other. That;s why I know he'll be significant to me. I just dont know how and in what way this will all be playing out.click to expand
@sirXavier
Thank you. Hope you dont mind me calling on you but its been very helpful especially cause you have the same sun &moon as him.
So, today he calls and tells me that he was fired from his job but they allowed him to keep insurance for a while. He said he was 9th in the company in sales and worked his butt off but still they let him go. He said they let other people go as well. He's still going to Europe he says but doesnt know what to do as of now maybe take a week off and go to his brother's to spend time. I was trying to give him some ideas but i felt him loosing his patience so I backtracked and said was only trying to help. He seemed very touchy.
I asked him if he wanted to stop by and relax and he said he wsnt in the right mind since he's shocked at this point and needs to figure it out. He also has the health issues that he needs to take care of.
He told me he called me first and hasnt told his family yet. I was appreciative.
I just don't know where this leaves us (me and him) at this point.
-Should i continue talking to him? I have been trying to give him space and let him contact me. I know that when man doesn't have it together, a relationship is like the last thing in their mind, is this true for Caps also?
-What should i do to make him feel better?
+sigh+
Thank you. Hope you dont mind me calling on you but its been very helpful especially cause you have the same sun &moon as him.
So, today he calls and tells me that he was fired from his job but they allowed him to keep insurance for a while. He said he was 9th in the company in sales and worked his butt off but still they let him go. He said they let other people go as well. He's still going to Europe he says but doesnt know what to do as of now maybe take a week off and go to his brother's to spend time. I was trying to give him some ideas but i felt him loosing his patience so I backtracked and said was only trying to help. He seemed very touchy.
I asked him if he wanted to stop by and relax and he said he wsnt in the right mind since he's shocked at this point and needs to figure it out. He also has the health issues that he needs to take care of.
He told me he called me first and hasnt told his family yet. I was appreciative.
I just don't know where this leaves us (me and him) at this point.
-Should i continue talking to him? I have been trying to give him space and let him contact me. I know that when man doesn't have it together, a relationship is like the last thing in their mind, is this true for Caps also?
-What should i do to make him feel better?
+sigh+
Posted by bmoon8😄 Actually it is in Aries, although now progressed in Taurus.Posted by RamOnFire1
Me
Sun Aries
Moon Sag
Mars Aries
Venus Taurus
Asc Pisces
Him: Dont have his birth time but I think this is pretty accurate from what I've seen so far with him and I'm not new to astro.
Sun Cap
Moon Libra
Mars Sag
Venus Cap
Asc Aries
What is your Mercury? I don't think it is in Aries because Aries would be more to-the-point and wouldn't have been so long winded. Your op was tldr.
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I just wanted to give details for a full picture. Also, I'm using this kinda as a diary. 😛
Posted by bmoon8My mercury is in aries 1st house progressed in taurus 1st house.Posted by RamOnFire1Posted by bmoon8😄 Actually it is in Aries, although now progressed in Taurus.Posted by RamOnFire1
Me
Sun Aries
Moon Sag
Mars Aries
Venus Taurus
Asc Pisces
Him: Dont have his birth time but I think this is pretty accurate from what I've seen so far with him and I'm not new to astro.
Sun Cap
Moon Libra
Mars Sag
Venus Cap
Asc Aries
What is your Mercury? I don't think it is in Aries because Aries would be more to-the-point and wouldn't have been so long winded. Your op was tldr.
I just wanted to give details for a full picture. Also, I'm using this kinda as a diary. 😛
What house is it in?
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@RamOnFire1
I read the whole thing. So romantic... I'm hoping. Stand by him no matter. He's got character.
I read the whole thing. So romantic... I'm hoping. Stand by him no matter. He's got character.
Posted by ParisianCappyAries woman will not disappear unless we know we will never be interested or you have hurt us in some way. We are always there for those we care about. I personally find Capricorn men intriguing. It's the mystery behind them that will keep us interested... but have found Cap men selfish and unreliable... more so than an Aries woman can be.
can't trust aries woman, they'll dissapear when you need them
I think the long distance can work .. Caps are good with patience .. He's got way too much going on in his life right now .. U just have to wait it out .. Patience is key
Posted by ParisianCappyI dont know about other Aries but I have always been there for people I cared about.
can't trust aries woman, they'll dissapear when you need them
In fact, my problem is not the fact that I cant be there.. au contraire I can and have told him so, the problem is I dont know if he "needs" me or "wants" me to be there for him.
What advice do you have?
Posted by SofiaV87Yah, that's what Im saying .. too much going on. I feel bad and want to help him. I just dont know how..
I think the long distance can work .. Caps are good with patience .. He's got way too much going on in his life right now .. U just have to wait it out .. Patience is key
Posted by VenusAquariusThank you. I'm smitten and hoping for the best. 🙂
@RamOnFire1
I read the whole thing. So romantic... I'm hoping. Stand by him no matter. He's got character.
Posted by RamOnFire1You can't help him , I know the feeling .. SucksPosted by SofiaV87Yah, that's what Im saying .. too much going on. I feel bad and want to help him. I just dont know how..
I think the long distance can work .. Caps are good with patience .. He's got way too much going on in his life right now .. U just have to wait it out .. Patience is keyclick to expand
Posted by RamOnFire1Hi ..If I was doing a long-distance relationship and I really liked the person, I would stay faithful. I am a Capricorn woman, with Cap also in Moon Mars and Mercury but Venus in Pisces.
Hi everyone.. I'm new to the boards and was hoping to get some insight from the good cappys in here.
I'm an Aries woman (30 yo) dating a Cap man (40 yo). We met online and after a few witty chats back and forth decided to meet in person. When I met him I had strong attraction for him and i could tell so did he. He's very captivating, intelligent, well dressed, works in Finance, makes me laugh and seemed to have it all together. Don;t get it wrong i got my shit together too. 😉 He's my dream man.
I established since the beginning the importance of honesty and told him to be himself and not worry about it.
First day we met, at the Ritz no less, he said he wanted to be friends first and i found it strange because i never had a man want to be friends with me since HS lol. So, I told him that I didnt understand what that meant, since we met on a dating website, but he explaiend his relationships have been long term 8 years, another 11 years etc. and thats how it all started and he needed time. I nodded that I understood but stated that for me; friends are friends and I have not done and would not do friends with benefits either. Also, I said in the past anyone that has wanted to be my friend had eventually wanted more which ended up not being an ideal situation because once you're in that zone that's where you at. I explained that I wanted a passionate serious monogamous long term relationship with someone that would end up eventually in marriage and kids. Explained that i didnt have many relationships, and all my relationships were serious although not as long term as him.
So, he didnt say anything but could tell he was thinking it all through.
Fast forward, during the first month, we're constantly texting, talking, seeing each other but no kiss or any type of physical actions other than hugs. We went out to the beach one time and it was so romantic, saw the sunset, the attraction off the roof, and he was blatantly checking me out head to toe lol and apparently liked what he saw. 😄 Intensity was very high.
Then, later that day he "happens" to forget his wallet in my beach bag. I told him he could come over my house to pick it up because I was home already. He said he would and eventually came around, and was roaming around my house looking at everything (house decorations, books etc), then he sat down for a few; we talked but nothing happened.
Up until this point, I'm thinking he wants to still be friends of course. I had plans the next weekend with my friends to go to a nice mansion house party and asked him if he wanted to come. He came picked me up from my house and drove us there which was about 40 min away. He wasnt feeling well he said but still came. We had a great time talking and he met my friends. I love dancing and had told him before, though he initially joked about Jewish men being horrible at dancing, but he actually put out some good moves on the dance floor. There was a prof photographer there and she actually made the comment "we look great together so she'd take a bunch of pics." My other Gem friend came later and so she didnt get to enjoy much. Later in the evening he said that he was tired and wanted to go but said if I wanted to stay with my friend I could. My Gem friend that came later was unhappy because we're all leaving ..so out os sympathy for her, I decided to stay a little longer. He said ok and left. My other friend that left with her bf at the same time, said to me the next week that I should have left with him and that he was very sad looking leaving by himself after the party. She said he would have definetly kissed me that day. I was shocked of course, in my mind, still thinking we're friends.
Next day, he wanted to see me again. We meet up and we're talking and laughing then i just bring up the subject again of friendship. He says well obviously we arent going to be friends and thats why Im still here. lol He said he sees potential in us so he wants to explore further. I'm like ok, cool. *grin on my face*
We go out to a nice upscale restaurant, looking great, the sommelier knew him by name and asked about the wine he brought with him, and then takes me to see the christmas lights in this nice upscale neighborhood. It was magical. He drops me back to my house and lets just say it was on. lol For 5 days in a row, sexing like bunnies, almost broke the bed.
Well, you say reading thus far.....so what's the problem? Well...Here we go.. lol
He apparently was married to a woman that came from a very wealthy family. His family is well to do too but her family had a lot more $ . His father never liked him from day one and when they eloped in Vegas without his approval he was very ticked off. However, they had a business with his ex-wife which he worked on for a few years. Fast forward, 3 years later, the marriage is falling apart he says due to her being addicted to drugs and basically sexing every other guy in town. I'm like.. huh?..
He has now been divorced for 1 full year and in the mean time had 1 previous relationship with a girl that had eventually moved away 2 months before i met him. His ex FIL is now making his life miserable and suing him for the business they were in. He says the FIL has been suing him over 20 times this past year and now is in a major lawsuit that keeps draining his financial resources with hearing coming up in October. He cant do anything about it and wants to bring this to the end.
So, in the mean time, he also has to pay back taxes valued at about $ 50k that have come up that he hadnt settled back in 2010. He says he needs to go in Europe to work with his friend in the diamond business and he can make this money needed very quickly. He had told me before that he had a firend in Europe and they saw each other during the year. He wants to move there for 1-3 months. In the mean time, over new year he had a laser procedure which resulted in lumps in face and throat, which this week resulted in shingles. He has been so unfocused and although we talk on the phone I have not seen him.
His bday was Jan 4th and we did not celebrate together. He went out to dinner then got sick. But, also he says he doesnt care about it much and doesnt do gifts. I have though bought him something that I think he'll like. It's a rare, signed, jersey from a NFL team he likes. I dont know if he'll feel weird about it.
The other day, we're talking and he's telling me all this openly. Then, he starts stumbling his words and i knew something important was coming cause he's usually very articulate... he says to me that he understands this is a lot to handle and that he thinks "I deserve the best and not someone with these issues". He's telling me this and his voice is calm but sad. I had already told him before that I would wait for him to come back but I also wanted to see him and we hadnt seen each other. He said he was going to try to see me as much as he could, "at least 5 times", before he left. Well, he's supposed to leave in a bout 2 weeks. In the mean time, his text are scarcer then before but he still calls me on the phone. He wants to see me this sunday.
It now has been 2 months that we've known each other and I know its early, and I could bail if I wanted, but the feeling is strong and so I cant. So, my questions are:
- Can he do this long distance for 1-3 months and stay faithful since its so early on? Are cappys faithful? I'm reading mix reviews on here.
- Are we going to make it long term? I know aries and cap are not typically astrologically compatible but so far we havent had arguments or issues. [I understand it's very early.]
I just wantd some feedback but of course will ask him on Sunday as well.
Thanks for reading 🙂
I don't want to put you off as this is my story and doesn't mean that this will happen to you
I have been with my Aries husband 13 years now. And it's horrible!
I only realised recently that our relationship went downhill after we married on October 2009. It's a LONG COMPLICATED story. But we really don't get on. We are two very different people. We think different, act different and want different things at different times.
Before we married things were fine with odd arguments here and there. BUT once we married I wanted a divorce after only 2 1/2 years of marriage. We're still together and we have a child. Don't ask. Long complicated story —
Any bad things you read about Aries Man & Capricorn relationships are in my opinion True!
We don't communicate. We just chit chat instead of actual talking and the chit chat goes nowhere so we both end up in limbo until one of us gives in!
SO when we argue it's the SAME. Only WORSE! We argue to hell and nothing gets resolved! It ends up as stalemate and both of us just give up and stop talking to each other.
It's a relationship of Compromise and Agreeing to Disagree. It's not a comfortable relationship. I now want to Separate as I am sick and tired of being bossed around and belittled and have my husband never understand a word I'm saying even though I spell it out to him slowly.
He is judgemental too - which is apparently an Aries trait. It's just exhausting. I spend my time listening to him so that I know where he is coming from in arguments/heated conversations but he continues to judge me and therefore misinterpret me!
On a positive note though I have read that it's a better relationship when Aries is the woman and Capricorn is the man. So I really hope things work out for you.
Just keep an eye out for communication with each other and keep talking..don't let things slide like we have in our marriage.
Good luck x
Hi ..If I was doing a long-distance relationship and I really liked the person, I would stay faithful. I am a Capricorn woman, with Cap also in Moon Mars and Mercury but Venus in Pisces.
I don't want to put you off as this is my story and doesn't mean that this will happen to you
I have been with my Aries husband 13 years now. And it's horrible!
I only realised recently that our relationship went downhill after we married on October 2009. It's a LONG COMPLICATED story. But we really don't get on. We are two very different people. We think different, act different and want different things at different times.
Before we married things were fine with odd arguments here and there. BUT once we married I wanted a divorce after only 2 1/2 years of marriage. We're still together and we have a child. Don't ask. Long complicated story —
Any bad things you read about Aries Man & Capricorn relationships are in my opinion True!
We don't communicate. We just chit chat instead of actual talking and the chit chat goes nowhere so we both end up in limbo until one of us gives in!
SO when we argue it's the SAME. Only WORSE! We argue to hell and nothing gets resolved! It ends up as stalemate and both of us just give up and stop talking to each other.
It's a relationship of Compromise and Agreeing to Disagree. It's not a comfortable relationship. I now want to Separate as I am sick and tired of being bossed around and belittled and have my husband never understand a word I'm saying even though I spell it out to him slowly.
He is judgemental too - which is apparently an Aries trait. It's just exhausting. I spend my time listening to him so that I know where he is coming from in arguments/heated conversations but he continues to judge me and therefore misinterpret me!
On a positive note though I have read that it's a better relationship when Aries is the woman and Capricorn is the man. So I really hope things work out for you.
Just keep an eye out for communication with each other and keep talking..don't let things slide like we have in our marriage.
Good luck x
Hi there 🙂
Thank you for sharing your story. It was really interesting to read and am sorry its not really working out between you two.
Just out of curiosity.. how is he judging you? Can you provide some examples?
Posted by RamOnFire1Hi ..If I was doing a long-distance relationship and I really liked the person, I would stay faithful. I am a Capricorn woman, with Cap also in Moon Mars and Mercury but Venus in Pisces.
I don't want to put you off as this is my story and doesn't mean that this will happen to you
I have been with my Aries husband 13 years now. And it's horrible!
I only realised recently that our relationship went downhill after we married on October 2009. It's a LONG COMPLICATED story. But we really don't get on. We are two very different people. We think different, act different and want different things at different times.
Before we married things were fine with odd arguments here and there. BUT once we married I wanted a divorce after only 2 1/2 years of marriage. We're still together and we have a child. Don't ask. Long complicated story —
Any bad things you read about Aries Man & Capricorn relationships are in my opinion True!
We don't communicate. We just chit chat instead of actual talking and the chit chat goes nowhere so we both end up in limbo until one of us gives in!
SO when we argue it's the SAME. Only WORSE! We argue to hell and nothing gets resolved! It ends up as stalemate and both of us just give up and stop talking to each other.
It's a relationship of Compromise and Agreeing to Disagree. It's not a comfortable relationship. I now want to Separate as I am sick and tired of being bossed around and belittled and have my husband never understand a word I'm saying even though I spell it out to him slowly.
He is judgemental too - which is apparently an Aries trait. It's just exhausting. I spend my time listening to him so that I know where he is coming from in arguments/heated conversations but he continues to judge me and therefore misinterpret me!
On a positive note though I have read that it's a better relationship when Aries is the woman and Capricorn is the man. So I really hope things work out for you.
Just keep an eye out for communication with each other and keep talking..don't let things slide like we have in our marriage.
Good luck x
Hi there 🙂
Thank you for sharing your story. It was really interesting to read and am sorry its not really working out between you two.
Just out of curiosity.. how is he judging you? Can you provide some examples?
He judges me by making comments during conversation and Worse - arguments - about what he thinks I'm like in any given situation between me and him. Therefore totally misunderstanding me.
Then when I need him in a situation that doesn't involve him and maybe I need a kind word or support he then goes and makes comments that just sound like he's taking the other person's side and that it was my fault.
This probably sounds sounds like like he hung but basically he doesn't know me because he is very opinionated too and because of this never actually takes time to get to know me.
He's had 13 years! 😢
Posted by IamAries
It will all depend on whether he drives an Audi or a Mercedes.
Lmaoooo the cap I'm talking to literally had an Audi and a Mercedes. He gave up the Audi when he downsized.
Yes they definitely can if they want to.
I'm not a Capricorn but I'm dating one in a LDR (18 months) Your story sounds similar to mine as in circumstances are keeping us apart at the moment (not the same issues) but I've never met anyone I've connected with so munch on so many levels so I was prepared to give it a go. It's been hard because he's going through such a difficult time and has a lot of pressure on him. I've had to be really patient and accept that he has other people and his work that are priority right now. It can be really hard sometimes but that is my choice as I'm prepared to wait. We are both very open and honest with each other. He always makes me feel very special etc I did struggle a bit at first with the hot/cold thing that caps do when they are dating someone but I accepted it was his way of dealing with his emotions (i did read up on it lol) Also sometimes going a bit distant etc but that's usually when he's struggling under the pressure. I give him his space but check in and let him know I'm still here if he needs me. Communication is key tbh and acceptance and respect that we all handle situations differently. At the end of the day I know he's in this because he wants to be because it would be a lot easier for him to have just let me go if he didn't think it was worthwhile. I know he feels bad that he can't give me what he wants to right now but as I said to him I've made the choice to do it so he has nothing to feel bad about. We are in this together.
I hope it works out for you ?
I'm not a Capricorn but I'm dating one in a LDR (18 months) Your story sounds similar to mine as in circumstances are keeping us apart at the moment (not the same issues) but I've never met anyone I've connected with so munch on so many levels so I was prepared to give it a go. It's been hard because he's going through such a difficult time and has a lot of pressure on him. I've had to be really patient and accept that he has other people and his work that are priority right now. It can be really hard sometimes but that is my choice as I'm prepared to wait. We are both very open and honest with each other. He always makes me feel very special etc I did struggle a bit at first with the hot/cold thing that caps do when they are dating someone but I accepted it was his way of dealing with his emotions (i did read up on it lol) Also sometimes going a bit distant etc but that's usually when he's struggling under the pressure. I give him his space but check in and let him know I'm still here if he needs me. Communication is key tbh and acceptance and respect that we all handle situations differently. At the end of the day I know he's in this because he wants to be because it would be a lot easier for him to have just let me go if he didn't think it was worthwhile. I know he feels bad that he can't give me what he wants to right now but as I said to him I've made the choice to do it so he has nothing to feel bad about. We are in this together.
I hope it works out for you ?
Posted by youngaliPosted by RamOnFire1we're all rooting for y'all girl.Posted by SofiaV87Yah, that's what Im saying .. too much going on. I feel bad and want to help him. I just dont know how..
I think the long distance can work .. Caps are good with patience .. He's got way too much going on in his life right now .. U just have to wait it out .. Patience is keyclick to expand
Posted by pooface222Hi there 🙂Posted by RamOnFire1Hi ..If I was doing a long-distance relationship and I really liked the person, I would stay faithful. I am a Capricorn woman, with Cap also in Moon Mars and Mercury but Venus in Pisces.
I don't want to put you off as this is my story and doesn't mean that this will happen to you
I have been with my Aries husband 13 years now. And it's horrible!
I only realised recently that our relationship went downhill after we married on October 2009. It's a LONG COMPLICATED story. But we really don't get on. We are two very different people. We think different, act different and want different things at different times.
Before we married things were fine with odd arguments here and there. BUT once we married I wanted a divorce after only 2 1/2 years of marriage. We're still together and we have a child. Don't ask. Long complicated story —
Any bad things you read about Aries Man & Capricorn relationships are in my opinion True!
We don't communicate. We just chit chat instead of actual talking and the chit chat goes nowhere so we both end up in limbo until one of us gives in!
SO when we argue it's the SAME. Only WORSE! We argue to hell and nothing gets resolved! It ends up as stalemate and both of us just give up and stop talking to each other.
It's a relationship of Compromise and Agreeing to Disagree. It's not a comfortable relationship. I now want to Separate as I am sick and tired of being bossed around and belittled and have my husband never understand a word I'm saying even though I spell it out to him slowly.
He is judgemental too - which is apparently an Aries trait. It's just exhausting. I spend my time listening to him so that I know where he is coming from in arguments/heated conversations but he continues to judge me and therefore misinterpret me!
On a positive note though I have read that it's a better relationship when Aries is the woman and Capricorn is the man. So I really hope things work out for you.
Just keep an eye out for communication with each other and keep talking..don't let things slide like we have in our marriage.
Good luck x
Thank you for sharing your story. It was really interesting to read and am sorry its not really working out between you two.
Just out of curiosity.. how is he judging you? Can you provide some examples?
He judges me by making comments during conversation and Worse - arguments - about what he thinks I'm like in any given situation between me and him. Therefore totally misunderstanding me.
Then when I need him in a situation that doesn't involve him and maybe I need a kind word or support he then goes and makes comments that just sound like he's taking the other person's side and that it was my fault.
This probably sounds sounds like like he hung but basically he doesn't know me because he is very opinionated too and because of this never actually takes time to get to know me.
He's had 13 years! 😢
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Wow. I'm sorry... How are you dealing with it all? It must be tough to feel unsupported and misunderstood. 😐
Posted by SweetestFataleMy Cap was driving an Explorer but will not for long though. He wants to get a Jeep that he really likes when he returns from Europe.Posted by IamAries
It will all depend on whether he drives an Audi or a Mercedes.
Lmaoooo the cap I'm talking to literally had an Audi and a Mercedes. He gave up the Audi when he downsized.
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Posted by WonderWoman14Thank you for the kind wishes and tips. What sun sign are you? Were you always in LDR or just recently?
Yes they definitely can if they want to.
I'm not a Capricorn but I'm dating one in a LDR (18 months) Your story sounds similar to mine as in circumstances are keeping us apart at the moment (not the same issues) but I've never met anyone I've connected with so munch on so many levels so I was prepared to give it a go. It's been hard because he's going through such a difficult time and has a lot of pressure on him. I've had to be really patient and accept that he has other people and his work that are priority right now. It can be really hard sometimes but that is my choice as I'm prepared to wait. We are both very open and honest with each other. He always makes me feel very special etc I did struggle a bit at first with the hot/cold thing that caps do when they are dating someone but I accepted it was his way of dealing with his emotions (i did read up on it lol) Also sometimes going a bit distant etc but that's usually when he's struggling under the pressure. I give him his space but check in and let him know I'm still here if he needs me. Communication is key tbh and acceptance and respect that we all handle situations differently. At the end of the day I know he's in this because he wants to be because it would be a lot easier for him to have just let me go if he didn't think it was worthwhile. I know he feels bad that he can't give me what he wants to right now but as I said to him I've made the choice to do it so he has nothing to feel bad about. We are in this together.
I hope it works out for you ?
I dont mind the distance personally (maybe my Sag Moon) and having space... I just want to make sure we're n the same page and feel the same way about each other. So far, he has been constantly reaching out and making contact. He has told me a couple of times that he wants some time because he feels down but usually he's good in saying that ahead instead of just pulling a disappearing act. I like that.
He still doesnt allow me to pay for anything although he lost his job. *sigh* It may be a pride thing.
I tried a LDR with a Libra and as you can imagine didnt go that far. So now Im gun shy with that.
I have never went out with Cap before but have had Cap fem as friends in the past.
Posted by RamOnFire1Posted by WonderWoman14Thank you for the kind wishes and tips. What sun sign are you? Were you always in LDR or just recently?
Yes they definitely can if they want to.
I'm not a Capricorn but I'm dating one in a LDR (18 months) Your story sounds similar to mine as in circumstances are keeping us apart at the moment (not the same issues) but I've never met anyone I've connected with so munch on so many levels so I was prepared to give it a go. It's been hard because he's going through such a difficult time and has a lot of pressure on him. I've had to be really patient and accept that he has other people and his work that are priority right now. It can be really hard sometimes but that is my choice as I'm prepared to wait. We are both very open and honest with each other. He always makes me feel very special etc I did struggle a bit at first with the hot/cold thing that caps do when they are dating someone but I accepted it was his way of dealing with his emotions (i did read up on it lol) Also sometimes going a bit distant etc but that's usually when he's struggling under the pressure. I give him his space but check in and let him know I'm still here if he needs me. Communication is key tbh and acceptance and respect that we all handle situations differently. At the end of the day I know he's in this because he wants to be because it would be a lot easier for him to have just let me go if he didn't think it was worthwhile. I know he feels bad that he can't give me what he wants to right now but as I said to him I've made the choice to do it so he has nothing to feel bad about. We are in this together.
I hope it works out for you ?
I dont mind the distance personally (maybe my Sag Moon) and having space... I just want to make sure we're n the same page and feel the same way about each other. So far, he has been constantly reaching out and making contact. He has told me a couple of times that he wants some time because he feels down but usually he's good in saying that ahead instead of just pulling a disappearing act. I like that.
He still doesnt allow me to pay for anything although he lost his job. *sigh* It may be a pride thing.
I tried a LDR with a Libra and as you can imagine didnt go that far. So now Im gun shy with that.
I have never went out with Cap before but have had Cap fem as friends in the past.
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I'm Pisces sun. Yes it's always been LD we actually met online. Not a dating site.
He's a Sag moon and I'm a Venus Aquarius so we both like our space etc.
Yes that's the most important thing that you're on the same page. Yes mine's the same now. He will tell me if he's feeling down or under pressure and taking some space, he didn't used to but when I told him how I feel about it he changed. Which was nice.
Yes it's probably a pride thing.
I've never dated a cap before but my dad is one. My closest friends she's a cap. I think caps evolve as they get older as in a young cap will probably be completely different to a mature cap. Life experience and all that.
Posted by RamOnFire1He judges me by making comments during conversation and Worse - arguments - about what he thinks I'm like in any given situation between me and him. Therefore totally misunderstanding me.Posted by pooface222Hi there 🙂Posted by RamOnFire1Hi ..If I was doing a long-distance relationship and I really liked the person, I would stay faithful. I am a Capricorn woman, with Cap also in Moon Mars and Mercury but Venus in Pisces.
I don't want to put you off as this is my story and doesn't mean that this will happen to you
I have been with my Aries husband 13 years now. And it's horrible!
I only realised recently that our relationship went downhill after we married on October 2009. It's a LONG COMPLICATED story. But we really don't get on. We are two very different people. We think different, act different and want different things at different times.
Before we married things were fine with odd arguments here and there. BUT once we married I wanted a divorce after only 2 1/2 years of marriage. We're still together and we have a child. Don't ask. Long complicated story —
Any bad things you read about Aries Man & Capricorn relationships are in my opinion True!
We don't communicate. We just chit chat instead of actual talking and the chit chat goes nowhere so we both end up in limbo until one of us gives in!
SO when we argue it's the SAME. Only WORSE! We argue to hell and nothing gets resolved! It ends up as stalemate and both of us just give up and stop talking to each other.
It's a relationship of Compromise and Agreeing to Disagree. It's not a comfortable relationship. I now want to Separate as I am sick and tired of being bossed around and belittled and have my husband never understand a word I'm saying even though I spell it out to him slowly.
He is judgemental too - which is apparently an Aries trait. It's just exhausting. I spend my time listening to him so that I know where he is coming from in arguments/heated conversations but he continues to judge me and therefore misinterpret me!
On a positive note though I have read that it's a better relationship when Aries is the woman and Capricorn is the man. So I really hope things work out for you.
Just keep an eye out for communication with each other and keep talking..don't let things slide like we have in our marriage.
Good luck x
Thank you for sharing your story. It was really interesting to read and am sorry its not really working out between you two.
Just out of curiosity.. how is he judging you? Can you provide some examples?
Then when I need him in a situation that doesn't involve him and maybe I need a kind word or support he then goes and makes comments that just sound like he's taking the other person's side and that it was my fault.
This probably sounds sounds like like he hung but basically he doesn't know me because he is very opinionated too and because of this never actually takes time to get to know me.
He's had 13 years! 😢
Wow. I'm sorry... How are you dealing with it all? It must be tough to feel unsupported and misunderstood. 😐
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Sorry for very late reply. Only just seen it ?
To be honest I'm not really dealing with it. I just end up losing control of my temper and getting upset. Once he misunderstands me, it escalates from there with him defending himself and me telling him that's not what I meant. It drives me nuts!
I hate losing control of my temper because I don't like feeling out of control of myself. Then he tells me 'You've lost control.' —Gerrard I feel like hitting him when he says that! I stop myself though as it just proves him right!
I won't go on. Don't want to bore you x
Posted by RamOnFire1I find that when my Aries husband moves too fast for me, and doesn't listen to me tell him to slow down, this can make me feel insecure sometimes.
@sirXavier
"The problems come when Cap starts getting scared and holds on Tight which can caise Aries to feel Smothered. Aries can make caps feel insecure in some aspects. And Caps can make Aries feel like they are being scolded or not taken serious."
How can Aries make Caps insecure?
When do you get scared?
I have told him I understood what he's going through and will give him space. I have also told him that we can't be apart for too long though because that doesnt help to keep the connection strong.
So far, I let him call me when he's ready and that seems to be working.
It's an uncomfortable dynamic because typically Aries wants to move fast and without thinking whether it's right or not. This can be very frustrating for Capricorn. Whereas Capricorn takes one step at a time and thinking about each step as they go. But this can be boring/frustrating for Aries.
As an Aries Woman let me say loudly ( WE ATTRACT BROKEN PEOPLE ). remain friends and let him fix his life. I did that with a Sag he asked me to marry him spend the time always trying to put him together. Helped him finished school , was there when he was sick, the moment things started getting better he all of a sudden started acting like he has options. I have wasted thousands on a relationship that was a dead end........... . We cant fix them all Aries.
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Fast forward, during the first month, we're constantly texting, talking, seeing each other but no kiss or any type of physical actions other than hugs. We went out to the beach one time and it was so romantic, saw the sunset, the attraction off the roof, and he was blatantly checking me out head to toe lol and apparently liked what he saw. 😄 Intensity was very high.
Then, later that day he "happens" to forget his wallet in my beach bag. I told him he could come over my house to pick it up because I was home already. He said he would and eventually came around, and was roaming around my house looking at everything (house decorations, books etc), then he sat down for a few; we talked but nothing happened.
Up until this point, I'm thinking he wants to still be friends of course. I had plans the next weekend with my friends to go to a nice mansion house party and asked him if he wanted to come. He came picked me up from my house and drove us there which was about 40 min away. He wasnt feeling well he said but still came. We had a great time talking and he met my friends. I love dancing and had told him before, though he initially joked about Jewish men being horrible at dancing, but he actually put out some good moves on the dance floor. There was a prof photographer there and she actually made the comment "we look great together so she'd take a bunch of pics." My other Gem friend came later and so she didnt get to enjoy much. Later in the evening he said that he was tired and wanted to go but said if I wanted to stay with my friend I could. My Gem friend that came later was unhappy because we're all leaving ..so out os sympathy for her, I decided to stay a little longer. He said ok and left. My other friend that left with her bf at the same time, said to me the next week that I should have left with him and that he was very sad looking leaving by himself after the party. She said he would have definetly kissed me that day. I was shocked of course, in my mind, still thinking we're friends.
Next day, he wanted to see me again. We meet up and we're talking and laughing then i just bring up the subject again of friendship. He says well obviously we arent going to be friends and thats why Im still here. lol He said he sees potential in us so he wants to explore further. I'm like ok, cool. *grin on my face*
We go out to a nice upscale restaurant, looking great, the sommelier knew him by name and asked about the wine he brought with him, and then takes me to see the christmas lights in this nice upscale neighborhood. It was magical. He drops me back to my house and lets just say it was on. lol For 5 days in a row, sexing like bunnies, almost broke the bed.
Well, you say reading thus far.....so what's the problem? Well...Here we go.. lol
He apparently was married to a woman that came from a very wealthy family. His family is well to do too but her family had a lot more $ . His father never liked him from day one and when they eloped in Vegas without his approval he was very ticked off. However, they had a business with his ex-wife which he worked on for a few years. Fast forward, 3 years later, the marriage is falling apart he says due to her being addicted to drugs and basically sexing every other guy in town. I'm like.. huh?..
He has now been divorced for 1 full year and in the mean time had 1 previous relationship with a girl that had eventually moved away 2 months before i met him. His ex FIL is now making his life miserable and suing him for the business they were in. He says the FIL has been suing him over 20 times this past year and now is in a major lawsuit that keeps draining his financial resources with hearing coming up in October. He cant do anything about it and wants to bring this to the end.
So, in the mean time, he also has to pay back taxes valued at about $ 50k that have come up that he hadnt settled back in 2010. He says he needs to go in Europe to work with his friend in the diamond business and he can make this money needed very quickly. He had told me before that he had a firend in Europe and they saw each other during the year. He wants to move there for 1-3 months. In the mean time, over new year he had a laser procedure which resulted in lumps in face and throat, which this week resulted in shingles. He has been so unfocused and although we talk on the phone I have not seen him.
His bday was Jan 4th and we did not celebrate together. He went out to dinner then got sick. But, also he says he doesnt care about it much and doesnt do gifts. I have though bought him something that I think he'll like. It's a rare, signed, jersey from a NFL team he likes. I dont know if he'll feel weird about it.
The other day, we're talking and he's telling me all this openly. Then, he starts stumbling his words and i knew something important was coming cause he's usually very articulate... he says to me that he understands this is a lot to handle and that he thinks "I deserve the best and not someone with these issues". He's telling me this and his voice is calm but sad. I had already told him before that I would wait for him to come back but I also wanted to see him and we hadnt seen each other. He said he was going to try to see me as much as he could, "at least 5 times", before he left. Well, he's supposed to leave in a bout 2 weeks. In the mean time, his text are scarcer then before but he still calls me on the phone. He wants to see me this sunday.
It now has been 2 months that we've known each other and I know its early, and I could bail if I wanted, but the feeling is strong and so I cant. So, my questions are:
- Can he do this long distance for 1-3 months and stay faithful since its so early on? Are cappys faithful? I'm reading mix reviews on here.
- Are we going to make it long term? I know aries and cap are not typically astrologically compatible but so far we havent had arguments or issues. [I understand it's very early.]
I just wantd some feedback but of course will ask him on Sunday as well.
Thanks for reading 🙂