Capricorn - "She's Your Girlfriend."

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I have recently told my best friend (capricorn) I Love You, only to find out he has been seeing someone else. This is long distance between us. I have posted in Relationship about how it happen. But im not gonna repeat myself.

FAST FORWARD 3 weeks later

We are best friends and i know that will never change. I Love him and i feel like he just jokes around about that. He was talking to someone who I didnt know and they were asking "who is Aries?" and my best friend said "She's your girlfriend." im like what..? i wasn't expecting him to say that he never said that before. I was a little bothered by it. And the other person asked "are they cool?" and Capricorn said "Yeah, she's cool."

Now I know its shouldn't be a BIG deal, but its is for me when you joke about me having feelings for you is not okay with me. And he knows I Love him and how it made me felt to tell him cause i had never said it to anyone before.

I have been going around in circles to have a conversation with him about me telling him "I Love You" and have that conversation about what he thought, what he is feeling and how we should be around each other. Yes we are best friends and he had told me that. I just honestly feel like he doesn't want to have that conversation. I tried to hint it the other night and he just said Why? and i replied with "to hang out,talk or something?" after that he didn't talk to me until last night.

We talk on TeamSpeak a Voice chat. This is how we communicate.We met in a Gaming Community.

Anyways, im not sure what im asking here but can anyone tell me what my Capricorn intentions were when he said that?

Thanks
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@UnicornSag

I understand what you're saying. I have told myself move on, and not completely "cut" cords with him but take some time away from him. I did that - last week. Last night he asked if i wanted to play GTA V rp tomorrow(today) i said i'll think about it. He then said you should play with me. So i agreed to play later tonight when he comes home from his Dad's place. It's Victoria Day here in Canada so he had family gathering. I'm just waiting and see if he still wants to play GTA V later lol

I do appreciate the reply ๐Ÿ™‚
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@Aliensusedourbogroll

Okay. Not that big of a deal that we haven't met in person. We know what we both look like and i we have talked about seeing each other. Right now its not the best time for both of us. SO i dont think its that big of a deal. The other cap i was seeing 3 years ago came to visit but that didnt work out. I moved on. With this Cap he is different and he understands my home life situation and I don't need to explain that to anyone else.

Just saying lol..
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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
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Go outside and meet someone irl. Its much more fulfilling than a online flirtationship. Until you meet in person, its not real.
Omg theyโ€™ve never actually met irl?! click to expand
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Doesn't seem like it. So cringy...

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We talk on TeamSpeak a Voice chat. This is how we communicate.We met in a Gaming Community.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Posted by LadyNeptune
Go outside and meet someone irl. Its much more fulfilling than a online flirtationship. Until you meet in person, its not real.


Omg theyโ€™ve never actually met irl?! click to expand

Doesn't seem like it. So cringy...

Posted by Aries18
We talk on TeamSpeak a Voice chat. This is how we communicate.We met in a Gaming Community. click to expand
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Why is it So Cringy to you? what is your reason to say that?
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Posted by LadyNeptune
Go outside and meet someone irl. Its much more fulfilling than a online flirtationship. Until you meet in person, its not real.


Omg theyโ€™ve never actually met irl?! click to expand



Doesn't seem like it. So cringy...

Posted by Aries18
We talk on TeamSpeak a Voice chat. This is how we communicate.We met in a Gaming Community. click to expand

Why is it So Cringy to you? what is your reason to say that? click to expand
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Its cringy that you imagine yourself in love with someone you've never met irl is all. Have you ever facetimed? Snap chat? Any sorta face to face interaction? Cause pictures can be easily stolen and passed off as your own. When your dealing with people online, especially the gamer/live in moms basement camp, cat fishing is a real possibility.

Yes I am speaking from experience.
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Okay. Not that big of a deal that we haven't met in person. We know what we both look like and i we have talked about seeing each other. Right now its not the best time for both of us. SO i dont think its that big of a deal. The other cap i was seeing 3 years ago came to visit but that didnt work out. I moved on. With this Cap he is different and he understands my home life situation and I don't need to explain that to anyone else.

Just saying lol..

Iโ€™m talking more about the fact you call him your best friend but youโ€™ve never met in real life. To me, knowing someone in real life is a lot different to knowing someone online. click to expand
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You can still be close/best friends online. Its amount of how much you spend time together. We always had time to talk and hang out. Not just gaming but also watching tv shows or movies. He told me i was his best friend first and i felt the same way with him. I didn't say it first he did. So i believe him. Our friendship is like any other friendship either in person or not. Its know each other enough. He was there when i was getting my treatment at the hospital. He was there when my one of my close friends from High School had passed away in Augs. I was there when his brother was rushed to the hospital 2-3 weeks ago. We talk about everything, almost everything. So, imo it depends on how you know them as a person even if its online. Many people make the best of friends online its 2018.
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Yes we have Snapchat etc each other.

I didn't say i was "In Love" I just said I love him as my best friend i love him more than that doesn't mean im IN love. I didn't say that.

I understand what you're saying. He lives with his mom only because she is sick so he helps her around the house and pays rent etc. He has his own business and works most of the time, yet still made time to say Hi to me when he could. Now he has been seeing someone else.

I dont know how long he has been seeing them for. Like i said i would like to have a conversation with him. and now im taking a step back. I was only asked why would a Capricorn tease and joke about me and my feelings for him. he even said last month (April) "I would date you." this was before he told me about the other person.

anyways..Thanks ๐Ÿ™‚
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@Aliensusedourbogroll and anyone else....

Not Cancer, I'm anemic, low of Iron. Been dealing for 3-4 years now. So I only need to visit the hospital on how much i need 2-4 visits between 2 weeks. I mean i get what you're saying. He talked about it but never really said anything about later to actually do something. He never did online before so it was new to him and to me.

When we met we didn't expect to have feel a certain way towards each other...He had said he was thinking about it but couldn't do the long distance because he never done it before.I didnt want to PUSH into something he has never done before. I didnt want to rush anything. get to know each other first and than think of meeting each other eventually. I did this last time and i felt really bad about myself but i got over it. So i didnt want to rush into something that could be just not work. So, i didnt tell my mom about him because i wanted to make sure he was Okay with me tell her about him, and for myself i wasnt ready or comfortable to tell my mom about this because last time the guy walked away and started a new relationship with someone else near him. So thats why i get very guarded. I never been in a relationship before.Ever. Please excuse me for not having any experience with guys and dating.

I feel like he would make the effort to visit me someday, just right now isnt the time. I am emotional person, i never felt this certain way for someone and he makes me feel like everything is amazing. please don't keep saying you shoulnt do this or that or judge my friendship with him..You don't know everything when we spent time together.

Thanks ๐Ÿ™‚

im not trying to be aggressive im just being really defensive, I really do appreciate your opinion and advice.

That's all i wanted for a 2nd or 3rd opinion because i don;t talk to anyone about this.
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Okay?,,,,,
WittyGem already explained what I meant.

I've known my best friend for 20 years, we've lived apart in different continents for 12 out of those 20 years. We communicate less and less over the years but there are times when we both show we are there for each other. E.g. when my dad died suddenly, my friend had flowers sent to the wake, with a personal note. Whenever he flies in for a short visit, I will drop everything to spend a day or 2 with him. He does the same when I visit him.

All I can say OP, is that your experience lacks one very important thing - human touch. Seeing someone in the flesh is very different from seeing him via videochat. Do you know if he snores in his sleep? How often does he do his own laundry? What are his bad physical habits? (E.g farting under the bedsheets, scratching his balls in public etc.).