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Caps and friendship
I'm not a Cap, but know them well. It's a little bit difficult to give an opinion straight away from those actions. Non of those actions can determine if he is interested in a romantic or a friend relationship.
Usually caps build a romantic relationship being friends first, specially if they have a cap moon. I would say he sees you as a possibility. Let's face it, he already "trusts" you as a friend, he enjoys your company, that's a good start for something.
Only time can tell. Watch his actions closely. And pay a lot of attention to the small little details.
Caps can very friendly when they like someone, either romantically or not. They help and give a lot of advice as well, and they like company from the people they like. Some people can understand that as being interested romantically, when sometimes they are just being kind and nice.
If you like him, maybe you can bring this subject up and see what he says about it. They like honesty and straight forward talk.
And now i hand this over to the Caps.
Usually caps build a romantic relationship being friends first, specially if they have a cap moon. I would say he sees you as a possibility. Let's face it, he already "trusts" you as a friend, he enjoys your company, that's a good start for something.
Only time can tell. Watch his actions closely. And pay a lot of attention to the small little details.
Caps can very friendly when they like someone, either romantically or not. They help and give a lot of advice as well, and they like company from the people they like. Some people can understand that as being interested romantically, when sometimes they are just being kind and nice.
If you like him, maybe you can bring this subject up and see what he says about it. They like honesty and straight forward talk.
And now i hand this over to the Caps.
@pinkbird03.. is that the cappy guy you were dating before? W
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@pinkbird03.. is that the cappy guy you were dating before? W
@secret we dated for four months we broke up about two weeks ago an agreed to be friends. I know I still like him.
Posted by Capri-sunThe only difference was he didn't make out with me like he always has.
What was different last night compared to when you went out prior to the friendship conversation?
Posted by Capri-sunProbably. I mean we agreed to be just friends. I didn't want to cross any boundaries that's why I didn't try to kiss him.
What does your gut say?
Do you get the sense that he may have pulled back to keep from dealing with feelings at this point?
Posted by Capri-sunYes I'm talking to a new guy I met online. He's very sweet! I just have feelings for the old guy still so it's hard to move on completely
I know you're having a hard time because I am 😄
It could be as simple as him not wanting to verbalize any feelings on his end.
My advice, be friends, let him lead anything. If you want to see him or talk to him do so, just try to let him make most of the moves.
When you're ready start dating other people. If something comes of the cap, decide at that point if you want to do that again. If not then nothing is lost because you weren't waiting on him or trying to figure it out.
When all else fails take him at his word.
Based on his actions, I get the feeling he just wanted to slow down a bit...I just don't want to get your hopes up because you seem like you're in a good space right now and handling everything well. 🙂
Posted by cheekyfaerieLol well there weren't many games at all and I didn't even play anything. I handed it back to him and he said keep it. I think it's the thought that counts lol
A whole dollar, huh?
I kid, but was reading your story and that jumped out at me as hella funny. Anyway, why did you agree to just be friends? Who initiated it? He's spending both time and money on you, good signs!, but not exclusive to romantic interest.
We were exclusive and romantic, but I initiated the breakup because I didn't get the feeling he was totally into me. Then after that he kept saying he's not good enough for me. Sometimes I wonder if i should have given him more time. Or maybe he just wasn't that into me. He just confuses me about last night, especially how it felt like he was taking care of me.
Posted by cheekyfaerieYeah. I do need to figure that out for myself. I never thought I had him on a hook.Posted by pinkbird03Hmm. So even if that was his version of super gaga over you, that wasn't enough? You guys were dating for 4mths. Not really sure what he was like or what your expectations were, but it takes us a while to warm up and actually start to show it. Sounds like he's still interested, but if you think he was slow to warm up then, just imagine how it would be a second time around. I'd venture even more reserved, since you've flaked out on him before.Posted by cheekyfaerieLol well there weren't many games at all and I didn't even play anything. I handed it back to him and he said keep it. I think it's the thought that counts lol
A whole dollar, huh?
I kid, but was reading your story and that jumped out at me as hella funny. Anyway, why did you agree to just be friends? Who initiated it? He's spending both time and money on you, good signs!, but not exclusive to romantic interest.
We were exclusive and romantic, but I initiated the breakup because I didn't get the feeling he was totally into me. Then after that he kept saying he's not good enough for me. Sometimes I wonder if i should have given him more time. Or maybe he just wasn't that into me. He just confuses me about last night, especially how it felt like he was taking care of me.
You need to stop worrying about him and decide what it is you want/need. You're keeping him on the hook just as much, if not more, than he is you. Piss or get off the pot.click to expand
Posted by pinkbird03
What's the difference between a cap in a relationship and a cap in a friendship?
I dated him. We ended things not long ago and hung out last night as friends. Ill copy and paste my story. Is this an "ideal" friendship with a cap man?
We hung out and he drove about a half hour to see me because I am watching animals at my parents house right now. We went out to dinner because he didn't eat and I ordered one drink. He paid. We went to the movies and he told the guy two tickets. I told him id pay for my own and did. We had an hour before the movie began so we played a few video games. He gave me a dollar of his own money to play with. He asked me if I wanted him to win me some prizes. He won me two. One was a beaded necklace and he jokingly said I had to show him something for those. He then bought a bottled water and we shared it. Every time he drank some, he asked me if I wanted some. We watched the movie. No hand holding or anything. He walked me to my car and initiated a hug.
Posted by cheekyfaerieTrue. I'm just going to focus on the friendship right now and I'm going to do something nice for him.Posted by pinkbird03I'm a stranger, what do I know? But it sounds like he really liked you. You pulled back after 4mths and wanted to just be friends, obviously still having feelings for the guy. You were confused, which also means you were confusing. Dude prolly knew something was up and held back because he didn't know what you were thinking. It sounds like you created a self fulfilling prophecy.Posted by cheekyfaerieYeah. I do need to figure that out for myself. I never thought I had him on a hook.Posted by pinkbird03Hmm. So even if that was his version of super gaga over you, that wasn't enough? You guys were dating for 4mths. Not really sure what he was like or what your expectations were, but it takes us a while to warm up and actually start to show it. Sounds like he's still interested, but if you think he was slow to warm up then, just imagine how it would be a second time around. I'd venture even more reserved, since you've flaked out on him before.Posted by cheekyfaerieLol well there weren't many games at all and I didn't even play anything. I handed it back to him and he said keep it. I think it's the thought that counts lol
A whole dollar, huh?
I kid, but was reading your story and that jumped out at me as hella funny. Anyway, why did you agree to just be friends? Who initiated it? He's spending both time and money on you, good signs!, but not exclusive to romantic interest.
We were exclusive and romantic, but I initiated the breakup because I didn't get the feeling he was totally into me. Then after that he kept saying he's not good enough for me. Sometimes I wonder if i should have given him more time. Or maybe he just wasn't that into me. He just confuses me about last night, especially how it felt like he was taking care of me.
You need to stop worrying about him and decide what it is you want/need. You're keeping him on the hook just as much, if not more, than he is you. Piss or get off the pot.
Now you're both still confused and guarded, but it sounds like he's still interested. Don't make the same mistake twice.click to expand
Posted by Gob_ShiteAgree.
The key to Capricorn men is patience.
Most women fail because they refuse to acknowledge this, wanting everything to align with their own expectations and timescales. You can't force someone to be something they're not or expect them to always be on the same page as you.
There is no way to cultivate a real friendship with a guy you're still romantically interested in.
You're attempting to gauge if his behavior reflects more than friendship even after he agreed to be only friends.
Why not cut ties completely, give him time to reflect about his decision to let you go which will make him miss you which will ultimately end with him initiating a real relationship with you, the kind of relationship you want to have with him.
You're attempting to gauge if his behavior reflects more than friendship even after he agreed to be only friends.
Why not cut ties completely, give him time to reflect about his decision to let you go which will make him miss you which will ultimately end with him initiating a real relationship with you, the kind of relationship you want to have with him.
Posted by pinkbird03No! Don't DO something nice for a guy who is just a friend. Doing something nice can be seen as an act of desperation as in you seeking his approval because you need him to want you so you're going to convince him by giving him something.Posted by cheekyfaerieTrue. I'm just going to focus on the friendship right now and I'm going to do something nice for him.Posted by pinkbird03I'm a stranger, what do I know? But it sounds like he really liked you. You pulled back after 4mths and wanted to just be friends, obviously still having feelings for the guy. You were confused, which also means you were confusing. Dude prolly knew something was up and held back because he didn't know what you were thinking. It sounds like you created a self fulfilling prophecy.Posted by cheekyfaerieYeah. I do need to figure that out for myself. I never thought I had him on a hook.Posted by pinkbird03Hmm. So even if that was his version of super gaga over you, that wasn't enough? You guys were dating for 4mths. Not really sure what he was like or what your expectations were, but it takes us a while to warm up and actually start to show it. Sounds like he's still interested, but if you think he was slow to warm up then, just imagine how it would be a second time around. I'd venture even more reserved, since you've flaked out on him before.Posted by cheekyfaerieLol well there weren't many games at all and I didn't even play anything. I handed it back to him and he said keep it. I think it's the thought that counts lol
A whole dollar, huh?
I kid, but was reading your story and that jumped out at me as hella funny. Anyway, why did you agree to just be friends? Who initiated it? He's spending both time and money on you, good signs!, but not exclusive to romantic interest.
We were exclusive and romantic, but I initiated the breakup because I didn't get the feeling he was totally into me. Then after that he kept saying he's not good enough for me. Sometimes I wonder if i should have given him more time. Or maybe he just wasn't that into me. He just confuses me about last night, especially how it felt like he was taking care of me.
You need to stop worrying about him and decide what it is you want/need. You're keeping him on the hook just as much, if not more, than he is you. Piss or get off the pot.
Now you're both still confused and guarded, but it sounds like he's still interested. Don't make the same mistake twice.
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Just be yourself and treat him like you treat all of your friends that you are not romantically interested in. Be patient. If the Cap wants a do over you will know because he'll let you know when he's ready.
Posted by cheekyfaerieWhich is all the more reason for her to move on. Why choose to be friends and then proceed to analyze his behavior, friends don't need to do that.Posted by tiki33She's the one that cut him loose and wanted to just be friends.
There is no way to cultivate a real friendship with a guy you're still romantically interested in.
You're attempting to gauge if his behavior reflects more than friendship even after he agreed to be only friends.
Why not cut ties completely, give him time to reflect about his decision to let you go which will make him miss you which will ultimately end with him initiating a real relationship with you, the kind of relationship you want to have with him.
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Some women friend zone guys to gain the most power by creating the effect of neediness in a man that she covertly wants to keep. Caps are not stupid the moment he catches on to what she did he will flip the script on her and covertly punish her before he drops her completely. Be very careful with a Caps feelings.
Posted by tiki33I tried to cut him off. I deleted him from my social media accounts. He kept mentioning we can still be friends that still talk and hangout. I did change my mind a lot! I'm still surprised that emotional roller coaster of mine didn't scare him away. I was also supportive of him last week when he was stressed and seemed very sad. I do care about him. I just don't know if it's the end. So I'm going to accept that we no longer have a normal relationship. One that I think we are both figuring out slowly. Because let's be honest, if he really didn't want me in his life, if he didn't want me to still text him almost every day, if he didn't want to see me- he wouldn't waste his time.
There is no way to cultivate a real friendship with a guy you're still romantically interested in.
You're attempting to gauge if his behavior reflects more than friendship even after he agreed to be only friends.
Why not cut ties completely, give him time to reflect about his decision to let you go which will make him miss you which will ultimately end with him initiating a real relationship with you, the kind of relationship you want to have with him.
You REJECTED him so it's only natural he try to reverse the rejection by being the guy you'll eventually realize you need.
Failure is not an option for the ambitious Cap male. He will win and this isn't necessarily a bad thing if you want him, want to keep him romantically. Let him work b/c the energy he gives you can work for you if you want to be with him.
Failure is not an option for the ambitious Cap male. He will win and this isn't necessarily a bad thing if you want him, want to keep him romantically. Let him work b/c the energy he gives you can work for you if you want to be with him.
Posted by tiki33You make sense. By work, what do you mean? You think I should just stop everything I'm doing and let him chase me?
You REJECTED him so it's only natural he try to reverse the rejection by being the guy you'll eventually realize you need.
Failure is not an option for the ambitious Cap male. He will win and this isn't necessarily a bad thing if you want him, want to keep him romantically. Let him work b/c the energy he gives you can work for you if you want to be with him.
By work I mean him effortlessly giving you his energy without you having to coax him to give freely of his time, effort and energy. Rejection can change a man for the better.
Allow him to be the giver, the more effort he makes the more emotionally and mentally attached to you he will become, this all works for you if you don't get in the way if his emotional process by trying to match his energy level/giving. Just be appreciative and patient, it'll pay off.
Allow him to be the giver, the more effort he makes the more emotionally and mentally attached to you he will become, this all works for you if you don't get in the way if his emotional process by trying to match his energy level/giving. Just be appreciative and patient, it'll pay off.
Posted by Capri-sunI think it's a 50-50 chance it could go either way. I could continue to pursue him or I could walk away. I could try to match his level of interest, but that seems like a game of playing hard to get. I could try to be just friends, but it's hard when feelings are involved. I can honestly say I've never been in a situation like this.Posted by OmniVirgoFlirtPosted by Capri-sunI always thought it was in the small details. As being final answer to whether or not cap liked said person or not. I mean if they ever really did or do...Those small details show and count and surprising things come about, even their words show. I think that would account for certain ones though that actually do care to some greater extent...
He just wants friendship. Final answer
What say you on this? Had lots of time in the dark over the weekend to think with the howling wind.
Were you in the area of the hurricane?
In general yes it is the small things. It doesn't take us long to decide, just a long time to verbalize that decision. That's where people get caught up is when they are looking for words.
This one could go either way.
To me when I'm interested, I leave no room for doubt. I could have worked 12 hours 6 days a week and not slept in 2 days and I'd still make time if I'm serious about the relationship.
I looked at this from the angle of they use to kiss and didn't this time. The only times I've done this is when I've lost some level of interest on my part. Either the person said or did something to turn me off or that hurt me.
I knew they wanted more and I didn't.click to expand
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