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@Thrasybulus thoughts?
Posted by ThrasybulusPosted by stillstillwater
@Thrasybulus thoughts?
I was already typing but still needed a bit of time.click to expand
See what i'm saying. I have issues!
Posted by Thrasybulus
Yup, I go through this process every time I like someone but never seem to learn mich from this.
Just when I thought I had everything covered through reflections from the past a different setup comes up in which all my concepts are meaningless or non applicable.
The point of what is reality is always the hardest one.
Yeah... how do you just sum up your teachings and experiences to help make better decisions and perhaps control/console your emotions better.
Posted by tiziani
Yeah I try to check myself on the boredom thing, that gives me second thoughts about whether I have a genuine curiosity for the other. but less and less second guessing nowadays.
Yes absolutely. The reason could be many of things but at the end it all boils down to self-control and discipline, no?
Sometimes when it comes to love interests I just feel like i have zero self-discipline.
Posted by ThrasybulusPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by ThrasybulusPosted by stillstillwater
@Thrasybulus thoughts?
I was already typing but still needed a bit of time.
See what i'm saying. I have issues!
Nah, you were just trying to be efficent.click to expand
Thanks. I appreciate that.
Posted by tizianiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by tiziani
Yeah I try to check myself on the boredom thing, that gives me second thoughts about whether I have a genuine curiosity for the other. but less and less second guessing nowadays.
Yes absolutely. The reason could be many of things but at the end it all boils down to self-control and discipline, no?
Lol you're probably right but that sounds like you're being way too harsh on yourself.click to expand
Posted by ThrasybulusPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Thrasybulus
Yup, I go through this process every time I like someone but never seem to learn mich from this.
Just when I thought I had everything covered through reflections from the past a different setup comes up in which all my concepts are meaningless or non applicable.
The point of what is reality is always the hardest one.
Yeah... how do you just sum up your teachings and experiences to help make better decisions and perhaps control/console your emotions better.
I think it's not about controlling them but actually feeling them.
I try to find a peace of mind for some time while thinking about and if the feelings stays or even grows I'd consider them real or at least have a higher probability to be real.
After that question of what is the best way comes but that's a lot easier because it's about actually doing or planning things.click to expand
hhhmm quite a logical solution you got there.
Posted by tiziani
Yeah I try to check myself on the boredom thing, that gives me second thoughts about whether I have a genuine curiosity for the other. but less and less second guessing nowadays.
What's the secret Tiz? C'mon spill out your wisdom.
Posted by starlordPosted by stillstillwater
Sometimes when it comes to love interests I just feel like i have zero self-discipline.
But where is the fun in selfdiscipline?!
I really relate a lot to everything you are writing. It's a relief.click to expand
ok so what's your game plan then?
Posted by stillstillwater
But deep down you know the reality... what's the reality? The reality is may be you're bored or being needy or may be too into them. Just doing it wrong. And it feels wrong. How do you handle it?
I threw almost everything but the kitchen sink at the problem. Didn't work. Hard lyf for a day followed. Np.
Then i finally started to figure out that if the cunt doesn't want the best sex this side of the Alps and be driven in a fancy shyte car it's her loss.
Honestly, bending backwards over someone that doesn't reciprocate in the slightest is a fool's errand. Grow a spine, get on with your life, someone will like you back and you won't have to jump through hoops to get what you seek.
Tbh i think you're just horny (i know cap women and their need to be sexed regularly). Get a Hitachi Gandalf stick (wand). Hug it.
😄
Posted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwater
Sometimes when it comes to love interests I just feel like i have zero self-discipline.
But where is the fun in selfdiscipline?!
I really relate a lot to everything you are writing. It's a relief.
ok so what's your game plan then?
Oh god so sorry. Have absolutely none.
All I try to think is: does it make me happy? Then do it. And happy on a longer basis, not just short term. But I am quite lost. Sorry. That's why I found comfort in your posts🙄click to expand
Oh shoot...so we're both like little boats lost at sea. May be we see each other and nod like yep we're not alone. lol.
Well thanks, that was sweet. BUT actually that was a great point "Happiness on a long term basis". I can apply that.
Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by stillstillwater
But deep down you know the reality... what's the reality? The reality is may be you're bored or being needy or may be too into them. Just doing it wrong. And it feels wrong. How do you handle it?
I threw almost everything but the kitchen sink at the problem. Didn't work. Hard lyf for a day followed. Np.
Then i finally started to figure out that if the cunt doesn't want the best sex this side of the Alps and be driven in a fancy shyte car it's her loss.
Honestly, bending backwards over someone that doesn't reciprocate in the slightest is a fool's errand. Grow a spine, get on with your life, someone will like you back and you won't have to jump through hoops to get what you seek.
Tbh i think you're just horny (i know cap women and their need to be sexed regularly). Get a Hitachi Gandalf stick (wand). Hug it.
😄click to expand
lmao!!!!!!! killing me.
Ok calling them names and pointing out all the ways it's their loss... does help. I'm not really a Gandalf stick type of person...I think... 😕 ... You know the whole Caps like authentic shit hahaha like who's gonna kiss me up??! the gandalf stick can't do that.
Posted by xkraft
@Stillstillwater
Get to know them first before u get thirsty, that usually cuts away on the awkwardness.
Not that I follow that advice 100% of the time myself, but that MIGHT help u out.
Unless it's a Virgo. They thrive on awkward.
for real.... i just need to get out more to quench my thirst other ways.
@xkraft why am I always on dxp, with a box of Pizza, cuddling with my dogs, funniest shows on my tv on a Friday night then crying why i'm bored?
Although that shit does sound fun but there's time and place for everything. Sometimes we need some sexy eye candy interaction.
Although that shit does sound fun but there's time and place for everything. Sometimes we need some sexy eye candy interaction.
Posted by tiziani
I am just imaging your crush walking by and overhearing you repeat to yourself "deep breaths, self-control, discipline.."
"wat?"
"nothing."
i have probably zero emotional intelligence when it comes to love. Many times people are like what?? You liked me? and similarly i'm like what?? You liked me?
I'll chalk it up to being a visionary and never paying attention to details.
This sounds like a pared-down version of my DXP Venus retrograde thread lol.
Posted by stillstillwater
Have you ever liked somebody so much but just held yourself back because you know that you're just doing it all wrong. Like may be the reasons why you want to talk to this person doesn't match their interest in you...and you're just all nonchalant and want to make excuses to chat it up like "im not that into them", "this is just fun", "i don't really care".
But deep down you know the reality... what's the reality? The reality is may be you're bored or being needy or may be too into them. Just doing it wrong. And it feels wrong. How do you handle it?
i'm trying to throw any article and any distraction my way..anything except actually being productive that is because that'd just make it all more torturous.
Here's somethings to know that you might not know about him. So, you might not like him that much after you know more about him.
I'm letting my imagination flow, so bear with me:
1. He is in serious debt.
2. He had a one night stand with his college roommate because he was flattered by the attraction and needed a term paper.
3. When he goes to strip clubs, he pays the dancer for allowing him to give her head.
4. He secretly in love with a stripper.
5. He's addicted to online porn. He doesn't know yet but, in a few years, he won't be able to get it up for real women.
6. Diabetes runs in his family. So, his constant drinking his saddeness away at the strip club of the stripper he's in love with, will end in diabetes. But, he won't find out until his 2nd year of marriage as he can't get it up. After getting the diabetes under control, he still can't get it up. Remember, internet porn addiction.
7. He has already having sex with someone in your social group. I mean, you shouldn't be surprised. You find him attractive and you got high standards.
8. He believes in women's lib because he is lazy.
9. He's ashamed but voted for Trump.
10. 5 years ago, he got back with his first love just to get revenge as he heard that she was in an abusive relationship and found her vunerable enough for revenge. Revenge for getting pregnant in 8th grade by another guy while they were dating. He lived across the street, never had sex with her, and had to watch her entire gestation with anger and sadness.
Disclaimer: Some of these stories names, characters, and incidents portrayed in this production may be fictitious... maybe not. Although some are based on real characters, some of the stories have been altered for creative license. Somewhat to protect the identification with actual persons (living or deceased), places, buildings, and products n' such. Blah, blah, etc., etc., etc.
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by tiziani
I am just imaging your crush walking by and overhearing you repeat to yourself "deep breaths, self-control, discipline.."
"wat?"
"nothing."
i have probably zero emotional intelligence when it comes to love. Many times people are like what?? You liked me? and similarly i'm like what?? You liked me?
I'll chalk it up to being a visionary and never paying attention to details.
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I'm similar, though I've gone through phase of "I'm not gonna show I like him" in junior high school... Basically I had many crushes, not giving them any signals at all, nor anything.
Right now I'm sabotaging myself by being a little too much into them - they get scared and friendzone me - we're friends having sex - I move on - they're suddenly into me 😄
Forgot Drake got us on this but kind of opposite:
I could flirt with you if I want to but that'd be the wrong thing to do ....
I could flirt with you if I want to but that'd be the wrong thing to do ....
Posted by RooSagicorn
I hold myself back all the time. I try not to repeat the patterns, so it’s so hard making sure you don’t fuck up again. Holding back doesn’t seem to work so well though. Then they think you don’t like them, and you do! Wth.. lol
I do know I refuse to walk on eggshells anymore, I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you. I know I suck lol.
Live and learn. Take the lessons with you. It’s a lifelong process but there’s always hope 😄
Well the thing is though I've made my intentions REALLY clear like cant' get more clear than that. ANd he just kind of went "skurrrrrrrrrrrrr" like dismissive curve.
But ends up flirting and telling me they miss me...i'm just like "NOPE, not today satan!"
This is a cool line though: I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you.
Posted by hihello
Nah, I just go an tell the person directly. It works most of the time and when it does not - NEXT
That's what I'm trying but i feed myself "we're just friends..." until the next heartbreak.
Posted by Fallen2PiscesPosted by stillstillwater
Have you ever liked somebody so much but just held yourself back because you know that you're just doing it all wrong. Like may be the reasons why you want to talk to this person doesn't match their interest in you...and you're just all nonchalant and want to make excuses to chat it up like "im not that into them", "this is just fun", "i don't really care".
But deep down you know the reality... what's the reality? The reality is may be you're bored or being needy or may be too into them. Just doing it wrong. And it feels wrong. How do you handle it?
i'm trying to throw any article and any distraction my way..anything except actually being productive that is because that'd just make it all more torturous.
oh man i wish i saw this a few hours ago...i want her soo bad, because she is the modest, sweet lonely heart, most amazing beautiful girl ive been seearching for my whole life, yet i hold myself back because i dont have my shit together, and the world has become a very hateful, judgemental, racist place, where color, culture, race, has become a major part of our environment, i now ignore her trying to get over her, trying to let go, and i handle it by drinking, yet its making me sadder, and then happier... and my ups and downs have me thinking i can, or cant. LOVE IS FRIGGING RIDICULOUS, but is it love or just an obessesion? i have quit smoking weed, been excersing so much i lost over 30lbs now! yet i fall back to my knees...well now i became vegan, so still taking it 1 step at a time i believe...yet i assume soo much dumb shit..past few days i was like its never gonna happen, just ignore her and carry on, and again these hours im feeling like i can still persue my happiness...i want her so bad! i dropped alot of my productivness the past week and gave up, then i get back on it?! what in the flying fuck!moon phases? bi polar? lyme disease? hell i was about to jump in front of the train cuz my vision on this reality is getting to me! shit is torture? wtf are you a pisces like me?click to expand
I'm a Capricorn and yes I have lost some productive days fantasizing about bs. But gotta put yourself first.
So what's up with this girl...does she not like you back? Or are you just holding yourself back because you're not where you are in life for a relationship yet?
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by RooSagicorn
I hold myself back all the time. I try not to repeat the patterns, so it’s so hard making sure you don’t fuck up again. Holding back doesn’t seem to work so well though. Then they think you don’t like them, and you do! Wth.. lol
I do know I refuse to walk on eggshells anymore, I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you. I know I suck lol.
Live and learn. Take the lessons with you. It’s a lifelong process but there’s always hope 😄
Well the thing is though I've made my intentions REALLY clear like cant' get more clear than that. ANd he just kind of went "skurrrrrrrrrrrrr" like dismissive curve.
But ends up flirting and telling me they miss me...i'm just like "NOPE, not today satan!"
This is a cool line though: I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you.
What the hell is with that? Maybe Its commitment phobic guys, emotionally unavailable? That sucks! Like push & pull...
The Libra is acting weird now.. he doesn’t like that line much. I think it’s my sag sun, always a little oblivious lol. Or 12th house lol. But the guys I’ve been in long term relationships always did that. So is it being a Libra you want it to be equal or you just are losing interest? Or getting butthurt? Think my Cap bits are so hesitant. Like show me you want to be here. And he’s acting like he doesn’t know if I want to be there, same as the Cap did.. I seem to scare them all away except the freaking Leo who has no right to try and be there.
I figure I have no choice but to be me, you know? Personal growth and this is where I am? Ugh I’m getting tired. We were having so much fun too..click to expand
Oh no! Shit... we need that answered. Like Libra board needs to step up and have answers for these weird ups and downs.
My issue is still with that Libra dude too.
What makes you think you're scaring him away? I did read this book that said guys get really close to you then they like to distance themselves because they don't want to feel their happiness depends on you. And during this time you just need to ignore it and be happy without them. But when they come back welcome them back with open arms?
But it's a little early on for him to be distancing himself, no?? This should be a honey moon phase.
I've never had a guy want to distance himself from me within the first year of dating. Are men confusing? Or just Libra men?
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by RooSagicornPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by RooSagicorn
I hold myself back all the time. I try not to repeat the patterns, so it’s so hard making sure you don’t fuck up again. Holding back doesn’t seem to work so well though. Then they think you don’t like them, and you do! Wth.. lol
I do know I refuse to walk on eggshells anymore, I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you. I know I suck lol.
Live and learn. Take the lessons with you. It’s a lifelong process but there’s always hope 😄
Well the thing is though I've made my intentions REALLY clear like cant' get more clear than that. ANd he just kind of went "skurrrrrrrrrrrrr" like dismissive curve.
But ends up flirting and telling me they miss me...i'm just like "NOPE, not today satan!"
This is a cool line though: I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you.
What the hell is with that? Maybe Its commitment phobic guys, emotionally unavailable? That sucks! Like push & pull...
The Libra is acting weird now.. he doesn’t like that line much. I think it’s my sag sun, always a little oblivious lol. Or 12th house lol. But the guys I’ve been in long term relationships always did that. So is it being a Libra you want it to be equal or you just are losing interest? Or getting butthurt? Think my Cap bits are so hesitant. Like show me you want to be here. And he’s acting like he doesn’t know if I want to be there, same as the Cap did.. I seem to scare them all away except the freaking Leo who has no right to try and be there.
I figure I have no choice but to be me, you know? Personal growth and this is where I am? Ugh I’m getting tired. We were having so much fun too..
Oh no! Shit... we need that answered. Like Libra board needs to step up and have answers for these weird ups and downs.
My issue is still with that Libra dude too.
What makes you think you're scaring him away? I did read this book that said guys get really close to you then they like to distance themselves because they don't want to feel their happiness depends on you. And during this time you just need to ignore it and be happy without them. But when they come back welcome them back with open arms?
But it's a little early on for him to be distancing himself, no?? This should be a honey moon phase.
I've never had a guy want to distance himself from me within the first year of dating. Are men confusing? Or just Libra men?
Well we keep having an issue with him wanting me to make decisions like so he knows what to do.. and him thinking he knows what I should do, and not agreeing with how I function 🙄 we are both compromising and we do communicate through the miscommunication. But then he gets all butthurt thinking I’m thinking something bad about him when I’m not! He seems to want me to show him I want to be there, but then he acts all sensitive. Like it’s okay if he teases me, but I can’t?
He has not wanted distance, we went out Saturday & he texts me morning texts and we’ve been texting everyday. So I don’t know if he’s going to figure it out or disappear at this point. It definitely is a different vibe in the last two weeks, like he’s butthurt about something.
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I guess I'd like it if a guy let me make the decisions!
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by RooSagicornPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by RooSagicorn
I hold myself back all the time. I try not to repeat the patterns, so it’s so hard making sure you don’t fuck up again. Holding back doesn’t seem to work so well though. Then they think you don’t like them, and you do! Wth.. lol
I do know I refuse to walk on eggshells anymore, I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you. I know I suck lol.
Live and learn. Take the lessons with you. It’s a lifelong process but there’s always hope 😄
Well the thing is though I've made my intentions REALLY clear like cant' get more clear than that. ANd he just kind of went "skurrrrrrrrrrrrr" like dismissive curve.
But ends up flirting and telling me they miss me...i'm just like "NOPE, not today satan!"
This is a cool line though: I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you.
What the hell is with that? Maybe Its commitment phobic guys, emotionally unavailable? That sucks! Like push & pull...
The Libra is acting weird now.. he doesn’t like that line much. I think it’s my sag sun, always a little oblivious lol. Or 12th house lol. But the guys I’ve been in long term relationships always did that. So is it being a Libra you want it to be equal or you just are losing interest? Or getting butthurt? Think my Cap bits are so hesitant. Like show me you want to be here. And he’s acting like he doesn’t know if I want to be there, same as the Cap did.. I seem to scare them all away except the freaking Leo who has no right to try and be there.
I figure I have no choice but to be me, you know? Personal growth and this is where I am? Ugh I’m getting tired. We were having so much fun too..
Oh no! Shit... we need that answered. Like Libra board needs to step up and have answers for these weird ups and downs.
My issue is still with that Libra dude too.
What makes you think you're scaring him away? I did read this book that said guys get really close to you then they like to distance themselves because they don't want to feel their happiness depends on you. And during this time you just need to ignore it and be happy without them. But when they come back welcome them back with open arms?
But it's a little early on for him to be distancing himself, no?? This should be a honey moon phase.
I've never had a guy want to distance himself from me within the first year of dating. Are men confusing? Or just Libra men?
Well we keep having an issue with him wanting me to make decisions like so he knows what to do.. and him thinking he knows what I should do, and not agreeing with how I function 🙄 we are both compromising and we do communicate through the miscommunication. But then he gets all butthurt thinking I’m thinking something bad about him when I’m not! He seems to want me to show him I want to be there, but then he acts all sensitive. Like it’s okay if he teases me, but I can’t?
He has not wanted distance, we went out Saturday & he texts me morning texts and we’ve been texting everyday. So I don’t know if he’s going to figure it out or disappear at this point. It definitely is a different vibe in the last two weeks, like he’s butthurt about something.
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I guess I'd like it if a guy let me make the decisions!
@roosagicorn may be let him think it over and come to you when ready to discuss?
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by RooSagicornPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by RooSagicornPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by RooSagicorn
I hold myself back all the time. I try not to repeat the patterns, so it’s so hard making sure you don’t fuck up again. Holding back doesn’t seem to work so well though. Then they think you don’t like them, and you do! Wth.. lol
I do know I refuse to walk on eggshells anymore, I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you. I know I suck lol.
Live and learn. Take the lessons with you. It’s a lifelong process but there’s always hope 😄
Well the thing is though I've made my intentions REALLY clear like cant' get more clear than that. ANd he just kind of went "skurrrrrrrrrrrrr" like dismissive curve.
But ends up flirting and telling me they miss me...i'm just like "NOPE, not today satan!"
This is a cool line though: I need to be myself and you probably need to get my attention to get me to pay attention to you.
What the hell is with that? Maybe Its commitment phobic guys, emotionally unavailable? That sucks! Like push & pull...
The Libra is acting weird now.. he doesn’t like that line much. I think it’s my sag sun, always a little oblivious lol. Or 12th house lol. But the guys I’ve been in long term relationships always did that. So is it being a Libra you want it to be equal or you just are losing interest? Or getting butthurt? Think my Cap bits are so hesitant. Like show me you want to be here. And he’s acting like he doesn’t know if I want to be there, same as the Cap did.. I seem to scare them all away except the freaking Leo who has no right to try and be there.
I figure I have no choice but to be me, you know? Personal growth and this is where I am? Ugh I’m getting tired. We were having so much fun too..
Oh no! Shit... we need that answered. Like Libra board needs to step up and have answers for these weird ups and downs.
My issue is still with that Libra dude too.
What makes you think you're scaring him away? I did read this book that said guys get really close to you then they like to distance themselves because they don't want to feel their happiness depends on you. And during this time you just need to ignore it and be happy without them. But when they come back welcome them back with open arms?
But it's a little early on for him to be distancing himself, no?? This should be a honey moon phase.
I've never had a guy want to distance himself from me within the first year of dating. Are men confusing? Or just Libra men?
Well we keep having an issue with him wanting me to make decisions like so he knows what to do.. and him thinking he knows what I should do, and not agreeing with how I function 🙄 we are both compromising and we do communicate through the miscommunication. But then he gets all butthurt thinking I’m thinking something bad about him when I’m not! He seems to want me to show him I want to be there, but then he acts all sensitive. Like it’s okay if he teases me, but I can’t?
He has not wanted distance, we went out Saturday & he texts me morning texts and we’ve been texting everyday. So I don’t know if he’s going to figure it out or disappear at this point. It definitely is a different vibe in the last two weeks, like he’s butthurt about something.
I guess I'd like it if a guy let me make the decisions!
Lol!! I always ask him what he wants to do. Probably from long term marriage to an Aries 😳 but you know I don’t really give a fuck if he makes me scrambled, over easy or over hard eggs for breakfast!!! And why is that such trauma just make the damn eggs.. so when I ask if he wants help there’s a fight about I didn’t make a choice? That I got distracted by the conversation we were having & he didn’t tell me he wanted an answer NOW.. oh and well sometimes I didn’t know the choices because he didn’t tell me. I was just suppose to notice what he was unpacking from the store? Like how did I know what things we’re options for breakfasts& what was for later 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄. He didn’t say a word.. just was having a convo about something important like medical tests. ( eggs fight was a different Sunday morning).
How can little things be so huge?click to expand
hhmmm i guess because he cares about pleasing you? So the little things matter.
@roosagicorn but i don't like when people get all upset over lil things. It makes me super uncomfortable I don't know why.
Your thread is just something i need right now. I want to kick my stupid ass. I started something that i kinda regret, but im also curious so whatever.
Background: we are not exclusive, no physical thing happened btwn us but now kinda emotionally attached. We havent seen each other in 3mos and still cant.. anyway, last month he asked me about a "massage" that he was curious about. I understand from reading here that some people cannot handle going without sx for a long time so i said try it coz im also curious and there are bigger implications down the line that i want to realize. It wasnt a big deal at all in my mind. But now of course the script in my mind flipped but i didnt ask to abort mission because my twisted sense of curiosity is already engaged despite the activation of my shark brain (and hyperventilating) atm
Wth am i thinking sometimes i dont know ((scream))
Edit: i was all rational about the "massage" because it will be done by a "professional" and is legal in that country
Background: we are not exclusive, no physical thing happened btwn us but now kinda emotionally attached. We havent seen each other in 3mos and still cant.. anyway, last month he asked me about a "massage" that he was curious about. I understand from reading here that some people cannot handle going without sx for a long time so i said try it coz im also curious and there are bigger implications down the line that i want to realize. It wasnt a big deal at all in my mind. But now of course the script in my mind flipped but i didnt ask to abort mission because my twisted sense of curiosity is already engaged despite the activation of my shark brain (and hyperventilating) atm
Wth am i thinking sometimes i dont know ((scream))
Edit: i was all rational about the "massage" because it will be done by a "professional" and is legal in that country
Posted by Fallen2PiscesPosted by fishcrabscale2
Your thread is just something i need right now. I want to kick my stupid ass. I started something that i kinda regret, but im also curious so whatever.
Background: we are not exclusive, no physical thing happened btwn us but now kinda emotionally attached. We havent seen each other in 3mos and still cant.. anyway, last month he asked me about a "massage" that he was curious about. I understand from reading here that some people cannot handle going without sx for a long time so i said try it coz im also curious and there are bigger implications down the line that i want to realize. It wasnt a big deal at all in my mind. But now of course the script in my mind flipped but i didnt ask to abort mission because my twisted sense of curiosity is already engaged despite the activation of my shark brain (and hyperventilating) atm
Wth am i thinking sometimes i dont know ((scream))
Edit: i was all rational about the "massage" because it will be done by a "professional" and is legal in that country
hhaha the pisces shark is cute in this oneclick to expand
😭 Whack me in the head. I was cranky at work and felt like biting someones head off.
I cut him off because i really want him to cancel the whole thing, but then on the other hand we wouldnt know if dont go thru it. The libra in me sometimes wont be satisfied without exploring the extreme ends of situations
Posted by Fallen2Pisces
and i dont think i like her for the wrong reasons but more so for the positive reasons...its not every day you find a chick who dresses modestly, doesnt go out to the bars and clubs, gets drunk and shakes her booty, taking selfies like look at me bitch im cute! and so shes got her shit together with masters degree, i dont want her money i want her self righteousness and decensy that i seek in a woman...these chicks are 1 in a million
You havent started making subtle moves? like just get to know a neighbor or something. Strike a random convo. Nothing to lose, everything to gain
Posted by Fallen2PiscesPosted by fishcrabscale2Posted by Fallen2Pisces
and i dont think i like her for the wrong reasons but more so for the positive reasons...its not every day you find a chick who dresses modestly, doesnt go out to the bars and clubs, gets drunk and shakes her booty, taking selfies like look at me bitch im cute! and so shes got her shit together with masters degree, i dont want her money i want her self righteousness and decensy that i seek in a woman...these chicks are 1 in a million
You havent started making subtle moves? like just get to know a neighbor or something. Strike a random convo. Nothing to lose, everything to gain
lol ive tried with small pathetic talks yet we both just walk away...like were both too damn shy...ill start another convo with her bout the puppy bus that picks up her pup for puppy camp..but its still just small talks something im not good at..while my cancer neighbor will go on for hours bout who knows what...its hopeless...and i just wanna move out and and move on..ima dweeb who messed up the opportunitys i had, the chances that have been swept away...click to expand
But you have started it. Why give up hope? It doesnt look too negative from where im standing. Come on. You seem like a sincere person with good intentions. Id rather you get the girl than some random playa
Posted by Fallen2PiscesPosted by fishcrabscale2Posted by Fallen2PiscesPosted by fishcrabscale2Posted by Fallen2Pisces
and i dont think i like her for the wrong reasons but more so for the positive reasons...its not every day you find a chick who dresses modestly, doesnt go out to the bars and clubs, gets drunk and shakes her booty, taking selfies like look at me bitch im cute! and so shes got her shit together with masters degree, i dont want her money i want her self righteousness and decensy that i seek in a woman...these chicks are 1 in a million
You havent started making subtle moves? like just get to know a neighbor or something. Strike a random convo. Nothing to lose, everything to gain
lol ive tried with small pathetic talks yet we both just walk away...like were both too damn shy...ill start another convo with her bout the puppy bus that picks up her pup for puppy camp..but its still just small talks something im not good at..while my cancer neighbor will go on for hours bout who knows what...its hopeless...and i just wanna move out and and move on..ima dweeb who messed up the opportunitys i had, the chances that have been swept away...
But you have started it. Why give up hope? It doesnt look too negative from where im standing. Come on. You seem like a sincere person with good intentions. Id rather you get the girl than some random playa
i was trying to run into her this morning but she snuck away! i let my meow meow out, threw out the trash, and bam her car was gone....havnt said hi to her in like over a month now...almsot 2 months now...oh wellz..was feeling brave this morning too lolclick to expand
Dont give up if you havent tried all your might. 👯
Posted by fishcrabscale2
Your thread is just something i need right now. I want to kick my stupid ass. I started something that i kinda regret, but im also curious so whatever.
Background: we are not exclusive, no physical thing happened btwn us but now kinda emotionally attached. We havent seen each other in 3mos and still cant.. anyway, last month he asked me about a "massage" that he was curious about. I understand from reading here that some people cannot handle going without sx for a long time so i said try it coz im also curious and there are bigger implications down the line that i want to realize. It wasnt a big deal at all in my mind. But now of course the script in my mind flipped but i didnt ask to abort mission because my twisted sense of curiosity is already engaged despite the activation of my shark brain (and hyperventilating) atm
Wth am i thinking sometimes i dont know ((scream))
Edit: i was all rational about the "massage" because it will be done by a "professional" and is legal in that country
what were you curious about? That you might get jealous? And was he asking for permission?
Doing It Wrong confession:
I told myself NO flirting. Gave in but saved face with "i'm kidding"... wheww close one....
But fuck i feel like that energy is out there again...retreat...retreat...
I told myself NO flirting. Gave in but saved face with "i'm kidding"... wheww close one....
But fuck i feel like that energy is out there again...retreat...retreat...
Plus I'm in the mood to send a sexual innuendo msg...retreat...retreat... #doingitwrong guys
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by fishcrabscale2
Your thread is just something i need right now. I want to kick my stupid ass. I started something that i kinda regret, but im also curious so whatever.
Background: we are not exclusive, no physical thing happened btwn us but now kinda emotionally attached. We havent seen each other in 3mos and still cant.. anyway, last month he asked me about a "massage" that he was curious about. I understand from reading here that some people cannot handle going without sx for a long time so i said try it coz im also curious and there are bigger implications down the line that i want to realize. It wasnt a big deal at all in my mind. But now of course the script in my mind flipped but i didnt ask to abort mission because my twisted sense of curiosity is already engaged despite the activation of my shark brain (and hyperventilating) atm
Wth am i thinking sometimes i dont know ((scream))
Edit: i was all rational about the "massage" because it will be done by a "professional" and is legal in that country
what were you curious about? That you might get jealous? And was he asking for permission?click to expand
Yes and i egged him to try it. It is easy to have a rational perspective on things if it actually isnt happening yet.. but yeah i got jealous.
Posted by fishcrabscale2Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by fishcrabscale2
Your thread is just something i need right now. I want to kick my stupid ass. I started something that i kinda regret, but im also curious so whatever.
Background: we are not exclusive, no physical thing happened btwn us but now kinda emotionally attached. We havent seen each other in 3mos and still cant.. anyway, last month he asked me about a "massage" that he was curious about. I understand from reading here that some people cannot handle going without sx for a long time so i said try it coz im also curious and there are bigger implications down the line that i want to realize. It wasnt a big deal at all in my mind. But now of course the script in my mind flipped but i didnt ask to abort mission because my twisted sense of curiosity is already engaged despite the activation of my shark brain (and hyperventilating) atm
Wth am i thinking sometimes i dont know ((scream))
Edit: i was all rational about the "massage" because it will be done by a "professional" and is legal in that country
what were you curious about? That you might get jealous? And was he asking for permission?
Yes and i egged him to try it. It is easy to have a rational perspective on things if it actually isnt happening yet.. but yeah i got jealous.click to expand
yes true. so he went ahead with it and now you're jealous? How are you handling being jealous...will you be able to forget and move on?
@Tiziani I have to call you out, Tiz. You said Capricorns are one sign you don't see where they're coming from at all. Is this true? Is there anything we need to work on?
*confronting a Libra...part 2*
*confronting a Libra...part 2*
Posted by RooSagicorn
Ok I feel better.. apparently we had tix to a show Saturday. He just asked me properly 😁 when I asked about the weekend and it was obvious I didn’t remember lol
Being supportive Sag may have helped this week & I told my Cap bits to calm the hell down. Ok trying to do what I feel like instead of cap Venus going noooooooo!!!!
yep it'll forever go ... nooooooooooooo
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by fishcrabscale2Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by fishcrabscale2
Your thread is just something i need right now. I want to kick my stupid ass. I started something that i kinda regret, but im also curious so whatever.
Background: we are not exclusive, no physical thing happened btwn us but now kinda emotionally attached. We havent seen each other in 3mos and still cant.. anyway, last month he asked me about a "massage" that he was curious about. I understand from reading here that some people cannot handle going without sx for a long time so i said try it coz im also curious and there are bigger implications down the line that i want to realize. It wasnt a big deal at all in my mind. But now of course the script in my mind flipped but i didnt ask to abort mission because my twisted sense of curiosity is already engaged despite the activation of my shark brain (and hyperventilating) atm
Wth am i thinking sometimes i dont know ((scream))
Edit: i was all rational about the "massage" because it will be done by a "professional" and is legal in that country
what were you curious about? That you might get jealous? And was he asking for permission?
Yes and i egged him to try it. It is easy to have a rational perspective on things if it actually isnt happening yet.. but yeah i got jealous.
yes true. so he went ahead with it and now you're jealous? How are you handling being jealous...will you be able to forget and move on?click to expand
Yes he went ahead with it and told me about the experience. It doesnt make sense for me to get jealous but i felt what i felt and told him. But now im thinking... is he going to do it in secret next time?? 😒😒😒
Anyway, i learned this from my friends gemini mom (bless her soul). Their cap dad was a ship captain and was away like 90% of the time so they had this understanding.
I had to find out what that felt like. I have to be honest i cant relax here while someone is touching you! 😖
Posted by fishcrabscale2Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by fishcrabscale2Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by fishcrabscale2
Your thread is just something i need right now. I want to kick my stupid ass. I started something that i kinda regret, but im also curious so whatever.
Background: we are not exclusive, no physical thing happened btwn us but now kinda emotionally attached. We havent seen each other in 3mos and still cant.. anyway, last month he asked me about a "massage" that he was curious about. I understand from reading here that some people cannot handle going without sx for a long time so i said try it coz im also curious and there are bigger implications down the line that i want to realize. It wasnt a big deal at all in my mind. But now of course the script in my mind flipped but i didnt ask to abort mission because my twisted sense of curiosity is already engaged despite the activation of my shark brain (and hyperventilating) atm
Wth am i thinking sometimes i dont know ((scream))
Edit: i was all rational about the "massage" because it will be done by a "professional" and is legal in that country
what were you curious about? That you might get jealous? And was he asking for permission?
Yes and i egged him to try it. It is easy to have a rational perspective on things if it actually isnt happening yet.. but yeah i got jealous.
yes true. so he went ahead with it and now you're jealous? How are you handling being jealous...will you be able to forget and move on?
Yes he went ahead with it and told me about the experience. It doesnt make sense for me to get jealous but i felt what i felt and told him. But now im thinking... is he going to do it in secret next time?? 😒😒😒
Anyway, i learned this from my friends gemini mom (bless her soul). Their cap dad was a ship captain and was away like 90% of the time so they had this understanding.
I had to find out what that felt like. I have to be honest i cant relax here while someone is touching you! 😖click to expand
Well what could work in those understandings is don't ask don' tell policy you know.
Posted by tizianiPosted by stillstillwater
@Tiziani I have to call you out, Tiz. You said Capricorns are one sign you don't see where they're coming from at all. Is this true? Is there anything we need to work on?
*confronting a Libra...part 2*
Yeah I have no idea.
Honestly I don't even see a problem there.
Even with the talk you and Roosagicorn were having, I do not see a big problem there either. It sounds like just one of those getting to know each other phases, where gradually you both learn to choose your battles and not sweat the small stuff. (though it did sound like the Libra guy was being pedantic).click to expand
Well you know the background but recently I got the courage to tell him what I want which was to give us a real chance. And he just dodged the convo entirely. Not saying yes or no.
But then the next day has no problem flirting with me and telling me he misses me, recounting our time spent together, asking me when I'm visiting him etc. I was strong and didn't condone nor encourage it.
So i've kind of gone on the defense where I'm just trying my damn hardest to not fall for the flirtations and just keep it friendly. I fucked up today but tomorrow is a new day.
I told my Leo/Sag Moon guy friend about it and he was like , "Promise me you won't go after this guy."
Like I just have a nutcase on my hand I think....
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by RooSagicorn
Ok I feel better.. apparently we had tix to a show Saturday. He just asked me properly 😁 when I asked about the weekend and it was obvious I didn’t remember lol
Being supportive Sag may have helped this week & I told my Cap bits to calm the hell down. Ok trying to do what I feel like instead of cap Venus going noooooooo!!!!
yep it'll forever go ... nooooooooooooo
Lol!! Imagine me & the Cap both with Cap Venus omg!! The Libra somehow has me making effort 😁 at least part of the time.click to expand
hehe well because he's asking for that effort rather than pretending he doesn't care...that always helps.
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by fishcrabscale2Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by fishcrabscale2Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by fishcrabscale2
Your thread is just something i need right now. I want to kick my stupid ass. I started something that i kinda regret, but im also curious so whatever.
Background: we are not exclusive, no physical thing happened btwn us but now kinda emotionally attached. We havent seen each other in 3mos and still cant.. anyway, last month he asked me about a "massage" that he was curious about. I understand from reading here that some people cannot handle going without sx for a long time so i said try it coz im also curious and there are bigger implications down the line that i want to realize. It wasnt a big deal at all in my mind. But now of course the script in my mind flipped but i didnt ask to abort mission because my twisted sense of curiosity is already engaged despite the activation of my shark brain (and hyperventilating) atm
Wth am i thinking sometimes i dont know ((scream))
Edit: i was all rational about the "massage" because it will be done by a "professional" and is legal in that country
what were you curious about? That you might get jealous? And was he asking for permission?
Yes and i egged him to try it. It is easy to have a rational perspective on things if it actually isnt happening yet.. but yeah i got jealous.
yes true. so he went ahead with it and now you're jealous? How are you handling being jealous...will you be able to forget and move on?
Yes he went ahead with it and told me about the experience. It doesnt make sense for me to get jealous but i felt what i felt and told him. But now im thinking... is he going to do it in secret next time?? 😒😒😒
Anyway, i learned this from my friends gemini mom (bless her soul). Their cap dad was a ship captain and was away like 90% of the time so they had this understanding.
I had to find out what that felt like. I have to be honest i cant relax here while someone is touching you! 😖
Well what could work in those understandings is don't ask don' tell policy you know.click to expand
Ive always given a long leash and it always comes out.. after a few months/year like my ex. Maybe he couldnt bear the guilt. I try to balance my perspective and see it from their view, but i still question the need/self-control. Easy for me to judge because i can go years without, but is it fair to impose the same standard to everyone?
Edit: my ex was cheating
This one is a professional massage
Posted by tizianiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by tizianiPosted by stillstillwater
@Tiziani I have to call you out, Tiz. You said Capricorns are one sign you don't see where they're coming from at all. Is this true? Is there anything we need to work on?
*confronting a Libra...part 2*
Yeah I have no idea.
Honestly I don't even see a problem there.
Even with the talk you and Roosagicorn were having, I do not see a big problem there either. It sounds like just one of those getting to know each other phases, where gradually you both learn to choose your battles and not sweat the small stuff. (though it did sound like the Libra guy was being pedantic).
Well you know the background but recently I got the courage to tell him what I want which was to give us a real chance. And he just dodged the convo entirely. Not saying yes or no.
But then the next day has no problem flirting with me and telling me he misses me, recounting our time spent together, asking me when I'm visiting him etc. I was strong and didn't condone nor encourage it.
So i've kind of gone on the defense where I'm just trying my damn hardest to not fall for the flirtations and just keep it friendly. I fucked up today but tomorrow is a new day.
I told my Leo/Sag Moon guy friend about it and he was like , "Promise me you won't go after this guy."
Like I just have a nutcase on my hand I think....
Ok, well personally I am extremely biased against avoidant behaviour right now since I've been surrounded by that recently and have little patience for it. So I'm more likely to come down hard on this guy than even you lol
But what really takes my attention there is what makes you say "I was strong and didn't condone nor encourage it."?
This kind of mirrors a conversation I was having with Acsquarepluto yesterday and I'm wondering why the focus would be on condoning on encouraging anything because that puts all the focus on what he wants, rather than what you want and what you're getting out of this.click to expand
I guess I'm trying to be un-bothered.... like it doesn't affect me. I don't know how else to communicate that it's a real issue regarding what he's doing. It's definitely not okay. Either just be friends or take the step.
Posted by tizianiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by tizianiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by tizianiPosted by stillstillwater
@Tiziani I have to call you out, Tiz. You said Capricorns are one sign you don't see where they're coming from at all. Is this true? Is there anything we need to work on?
*confronting a Libra...part 2*
Yeah I have no idea.
Honestly I don't even see a problem there.
Even with the talk you and Roosagicorn were having, I do not see a big problem there either. It sounds like just one of those getting to know each other phases, where gradually you both learn to choose your battles and not sweat the small stuff. (though it did sound like the Libra guy was being pedantic).
Well you know the background but recently I got the courage to tell him what I want which was to give us a real chance. And he just dodged the convo entirely. Not saying yes or no.
But then the next day has no problem flirting with me and telling me he misses me, recounting our time spent together, asking me when I'm visiting him etc. I was strong and didn't condone nor encourage it.
So i've kind of gone on the defense where I'm just trying my damn hardest to not fall for the flirtations and just keep it friendly. I fucked up today but tomorrow is a new day.
I told my Leo/Sag Moon guy friend about it and he was like , "Promise me you won't go after this guy."
Like I just have a nutcase on my hand I think....
Ok, well personally I am extremely biased against avoidant behaviour right now since I've been surrounded by that recently and have little patience for it. So I'm more likely to come down hard on this guy than even you lol
But what really takes my attention there is what makes you say "I was strong and didn't condone nor encourage it."?
This kind of mirrors a conversation I was having with Acsquarepluto yesterday and I'm wondering why the focus would be on condoning on encouraging anything because that puts all the focus on what he wants, rather than what you want and what you're getting out of this.
I guess I'm trying to be un-bothered.... like it doesn't affect me. I don't know how else to communicate that it's a real issue regarding what he's doing. It's definitely not okay. Either just be friends or take the step.
What is he doing that's affecting you? Is it the getting in touch with you? I'm asking to understandclick to expand
Well what's bothering me is that he flirts with me heavy and not just shallow things but says sentimental things but then won't tell me what he wants when I ask him. He doesn't say that he wants just to be friends or anything more.
I don't know if I'm explaining myself. But basically I have feelings for him and he says things that make me think he does too. However, when I bring up the subject he avoids it.
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