Obsessed With Looks

Lately I've been obsessed with my looks. I'm miserable! Usually I don't give a f*#% what others think of me, but nowadays if someone says... "you've gained a bit" or whatever they may say it really hurts my feelings and gets to me. Next thing you know I'm obsessing to "looksmax" or "Maxmilla". I put photos in my photos section but only for a bit before I delete... soon I'll take them down because I'm so suspicious. Is anyone else going through this? What are you doing to get through this shallow period! It's soooo not me and killing me slowly.

It is ok. You just need to maintain balance between self love and narcissism. It is not bad to focus on your looks. Sometimes it is required so that we can focus on the aspects which can improve our appearance and that gives us some confidence and we might even adopt a healthy life style just because of it.

Posted by Capricorn91
It is ok. You just need to maintain balance between self love and narcissism. It is not bad to focus on your looks. Sometimes it is required so that we can focus on the aspects which can improve our appearance and that gives us some confidence and we might even adopt a healthy life style just because of it.

I severely I agree with this

The person who says "you've gained a bit" is a passive aggressive fuck who doesn't deserve an iota of thought directed their way.

Yeah..... it hurt and I'm taking it too personally. I'm used to being small. Even after 4 kids I was at my biggest a size 7... now I have a few people make that comment... I checked my weight and I gained 7 pounds. I'm more irritated with myself for caring though.

Posted by tiziani
The best job I can do in relating is just my worries at growing the appetite of a horse. I'm fearful that these are the years coming up where I put on a stomach that I cannot outrun. Luckily, I've had a fast metabolism all my life but it all slows down one day.

Can't say it's developed into taking pictures but I've become a lot more conscious of my posture and resting facial expressions.

It's healthy as long as I'm not just using myself as a reference. You don't want to become your own echo chamber otherwise your intelligence suffers (as in the intelligence of using the wider world around you as a reference for your reality). By "you" I mean "me".

There was a moment where I was at risk of falling into the "looks don't matter as much as what's inside" crowd, you know the types to say things that sound really wholesome but are fundamentally empty and make you feel nothing, or that someone has just tried to shut you up from voicing things that bother them more than you.

Just dodge the whole the rherotic around looks and hang around people who can give real insight into what works for you. One of my good friend is a PT and he generally keeps me on a solid grounding. Not to say a PT is what matches your interests, but it did for mine.

You're right. I should be grateful for the honesty.

You're hot. Where are you from? We should link up.

Posted by Capricorn91
It is ok. You just need to maintain balance between self love and narcissism. It is not bad to focus on your looks. Sometimes it is required so that we can focus on the aspects which can improve our appearance and that gives us some confidence and we might even adopt a healthy life style just because of it.

+1

Posted by drunkghost
yeah it's tough to find the middle ground but practice good health habits like working out, taking care of your skin, and watching what you eat will put you in that mind set where you feel good regardless of what others opinions may be

It's all about balance.

Posted by xghy
I'm 20% capricorn

I'm like 70% Capricorn... is this why I'm so hard in myself?

Posted by Whorpio
You're hot. Where are you from? We should link up.

Lmao, thank you. But girl don't want any of this!

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Posted by Whorpio
You're hot. Where are you from? We should link up.

Lmao, thank you. But girl don't want any of this!

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I hope you don't mind me sayin you could be a stripper. Specifically I'd see you as a Diamond Doll ?

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Posted by Wineaux15

Posted by Whorpio
You're hot. Where are you from? We should link up.

Lmao, thank you. But girl don't want any of this!

I hope you don't mind me sayin you could be a stripper. Specifically I'd see you as a Diamond Doll ?

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What is a Diamond Doll?

@Whorpio...nevermind I get it now. I'm so slow. Girl don't be trying to pimp me out ?.

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Posted by Whorpio
I hope you don't mind me sayin you could be a stripper. Specifically I'd see you as a Diamond Doll ?

What is a Diamond Doll?

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The worlds finest exotic dancers who dance for any club part of the 'King of Diamonds' franchise!!

Posted by Wineaux15
@Whorpio...nevermind I get it now. I'm so slow. Girl don't be trying to pimp me out ?.

Damn okay sorry mami. I just think you're hot hot. 10/10 would bang —‍❤️‍?‍?

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Posted by Whorpio
I hope you don't mind me sayin you could be a stripper. Specifically I'd see you as a Diamond Doll ?

What is a Diamond Doll?

The worlds finest exotic dancers who dance for any club part of the 'King of Diamonds' franchise!!

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I'll take that as a compliment.

Posted by Rozaeon
I don't understand what " looksmax " means, and i don't have a problem with how i look nor give a fuck about what people has to say

However i have a big big problem regarding body image for like 10 years, and even if i'm underweight i'm obsessed with it, and i feel you 100% when you said that you are too hard on yourself, i am too ( and Capricorn as one of my dominant sign too haha )

Yes it's a true issue for me. It's a curse because I'm always criticizing myself. I wouldn't even consider it a blessing.

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Posted by Wineaux15
@Whorpio...nevermind I get it now. I'm so slow. Girl don't be trying to pimp me out ?.

Damn okay sorry mami. I just think you're hot hot. 10/10 would bang —‍❤️‍?‍?

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Awwww how sweet!

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Posted by Rozaeon
I don't understand what " looksmax " means, and i don't have a problem with how i look nor give a fuck about what people has to say

However i have a big big problem regarding body image for like 10 years, and even if i'm underweight i'm obsessed with it, and i feel you 100% when you said that you are too hard on yourself, i am too ( and Capricorn as one of my dominant sign too haha )

Yes it's a true issue for me. It's a curse because I'm criticizing myself. I wouldn't even consider it a blessing.

I know right

Have you try to read some self help or personal development book on this subject ? I'm currently reading some of them and it helps. The progress are not instant but even baby steps are good ^^

Also you're right to be suspicious to post pictures on this website

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I haven't, but I'm open. What books are you currently reading?

Posted by Wineaux15
Yeah..... it hurt and I'm taking it too personally. I'm used to being small. Even after 4 kids I was at my biggest a size 7... now I have a few people make that comment... I checked my weight and I gained 7 pounds. I'm more irritated with myself for caring though.

4 kids o.O

7 pounds on a small person looks like more.

That's all.

I gained 5 awhile back but it's pretty much gone

by now... Idk how, and I don't care, but I will tell

that it coincided with putting the damned

Butterfingers down.

Twice the crap as regular goodies.

Point being, it's probably something small...

just have a look at what you may be doing

differently now than you were before.

Don't give it more weight (lol) than it deserves.

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Posted by Wineaux15
Lately I've been obsessed with my looks. I'm miserable! Usually I don't give a f*#% what others think of me, but nowadays if someone says... "you've gained a bit" or whatever they may say it really hurts my feelings and gets to me. Next thing you know I'm obsessing to "looksmax" or "Maxmilla". I put photos in my photos section but only for a bit before I delete... soon I'll take them down because I'm so suspicious. Is anyone else going through this? What are you doing to get through this shallow period! It's soooo not me and killing me slowly.

I gene heard Aquas are going through weird stuff right now. Blame it on a planet. LOL

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I am going through some weird ish right now! Truly weird.

I care about my looks all the time, I get it.. sometimes it can get out of hand.. that's when I step back, breathe & say to myself stop obsessing lol

Posted by SofiaV87
I care about my looks all the time, I get it.. sometimes it can get out of hand.. that's when I step back, breathe & say to myself stop obsessing lol

I wish I could do that. It'd be so much easier for me. I always try to sit and reflect daily and the other day I was reflecting on why image is so important. When I look at my mom's side of the family( my mom and my mom's mom) they're like size 2's and still look young. I have a baby face, but I'm working out daily to be 7,8, or size 9 sometimes! I'm trying to measure up to them and I'm failing miserably.

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Posted by SofiaV87
I care about my looks all the time, I get it.. sometimes it can get out of hand.. that's when I step back, breathe & say to myself stop obsessing lol

I wish I could do that. It'd be so much easier for me. I always try to sit and reflect daily and the other day I was reflecting on why image is so important. When I look at my mom's side of the family( my mom and my mom's mom) they're like size 2's and still look young. I have a baby face, but I'm working out daily to be 7,8, or size 9 sometimes! I'm trying to measure up to them and I'm failing miserably.

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Cuz the world we live in is obsessively image conscious , it's disturbing but it's the disturbing truth.. i see women with great bodies in all those sizes.. don't worry about the size , I know u wanna feel good but don't make it about the size

Posted by Fortuna
Get your endorphins going...get outside, be active. Give yourself some 'me' time, do something nice for yourself. it'll make you feel better. At least you're doing things for yourself to improve whatever it is you're currently unhappy about.

The way you view yourself is more important than anyone else.

I do yoga with my daughter every morning outside. That does make me feel better.

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Posted by SofiaV87
I care about my looks all the time, I get it.. sometimes it can get out of hand.. that's when I step back, breathe & say to myself stop obsessing lol

I wish I could do that. It'd be so much easier for me. I always try to sit and reflect daily and the other day I was reflecting on why image is so important. When I look at my mom's side of the family( my mom and my mom's mom) they're like size 2's and still look young. I have a baby face, but I'm working out daily to be 7,8, or size 9 sometimes! I'm trying to measure up to them and I'm failing miserably.

Just saw that you are working out. Maybe invest in a trainer if you can. Or change up your work out routines, you may need to trick your body, if it gets used to the same workouts

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I think I do need to trick my body. I think my body is accustomed to what I've been doing.

My mom and friends always criticize me and says I look good. They think I'm going crazy.

Posted by Fortuna
Get your endorphins going...get outside, be active. Give yourself some 'me' time, do something nice for yourself. it'll make you feel better. At least you're doing things for yourself to improve whatever it is you're currently unhappy about.

The way you view yourself is more important than anyone else.

Yea what she said, the way U view yourself is more important than anyone else ..I live by that

Posted by Wineaux15
Lately I've been obsessed with my looks. I'm miserable! Usually I don't give a f*#% what others think of me, but nowadays if someone says... "you've gained a bit" or whatever they may say it really hurts my feelings and gets to me. Next thing you know I'm obsessing to "looksmax" or "Maxmilla". I put photos in my photos section but only for a bit before I delete... soon I'll take them down because I'm so suspicious. Is anyone else going through this? What are you doing to get through this shallow period! It's soooo not me and killing me slowly.

Being obsessed with one's looks is an Aqua trait.

Posted by Wineaux15

Posted by Rozaeon
I don't understand what " looksmax " means, and i don't have a problem with how i look nor give a fuck about what people has to say

However i have a big big problem regarding body image for like 10 years, and even if i'm underweight i'm obsessed with it, and i feel you 100% when you said that you are too hard on yourself, i am too ( and Capricorn as one of my dominant sign too haha )

Yes it's a true issue for me. It's a curse because I'm always criticizing myself. I wouldn't even consider it a blessing.

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Don't be too hard on yourself. Cause 10, 20, 30 years from now your gonna be thinking back and wishing you had enjoyed it more.

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Posted by Wineaux15

Posted by Rozaeon
I don't understand what " looksmax " means, and i don't have a problem with how i look nor give a fuck about what people has to say

However i have a big big problem regarding body image for like 10 years, and even if i'm underweight i'm obsessed with it, and i feel you 100% when you said that you are too hard on yourself, i am too ( and Capricorn as one of my dominant sign too haha )

Yes it's a true issue for me. It's a curse because I'm always criticizing myself. I wouldn't even consider it a blessing.

Don't be too hard on yourself. Cause 10, 20, 30 years from now your gonna be thinking back and wishing you had enjoyed it more.

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As always, you're right

My sister is an Aqua (with a lot of cap too) and she was just telling me the other day she felt fat!

This girl has never been fat in her life!

Everyone feels that way sometimes. But you just have to remind yourself that there is no one in this world like you and whatever someone says is more of a reflection of how they feel about themselves anyway.

You look good by the way! Sucks to feel that way. Don't let it get you down for too long. Just take care of yourself when needed.