Lugeja
@Lugeja
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Posted by nanobyteTrue. How sad!
If he says that he just wants sex, assume that he just wants sex, and is doing whatever he can to get the sex.
Listen to men, they usually say what they want and mean. It's actually women who usually twist it around to mean something that it doesn't, getting their own hopes up, and then feeling a false sense of betrayal in the end.

Posted by nanobyteYou are wrong in many aspects here.Posted by GemitatiAside from your cap husband whom you've been with for 30+ years, and your Scorpio affair who you've been with for 10+ years, how much experience do you actually have with members of the opposite sex? How many men have you dated and been in happy and functional relationships with? I'm taking a stab in the dark and going to say 0. You're not happy with the cap and you're sure as hell not functional with the Scorpio.Posted by nanobyteTrue. How sad!
If he says that he just wants sex, assume that he just wants sex, and is doing whatever he can to get the sex.
Listen to men, they usually say what they want and mean. It's actually women who usually twist it around to mean something that it doesn't, getting their own hopes up, and then feeling a false sense of betrayal in the end.
But men don't say what they want - it's rare occurrence. You know that right?
You know that if you were smart, and chose truth over living your lie with the Scorpio, you could very easily find out what his intentions are, right? In a 10 minute meeting, face to face.
But you choose to continue to live in fantasy and delusion because the truth hurts, doesn't it? It hurts you to think that he could never want to be with you, so you just avoid that voice deep down telling you that's the truth, don't you?
If you are smart, and know what you are doing and know how to effectively communicate, men will be very upfront with you. You just have to be willing to accept the truth, and that's too hard for the majority of people.
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Posted by pinkbird03This^^^
His profile says he's a perfect guy with a few flaws.... he wants every girl to ask him what his flaws are so he can immediately open up about wanting sex...
He's not looking for a relationship
Posted by TaurusBull1977Haha, nice. Well, maybe I will try and challenge him. And myself. Let's see, how long can I say no or how long does he have patience 😄Posted by pinkbird03This^^^
His profile says he's a perfect guy with a few flaws.... he wants every girl to ask him what his flaws are so he can immediately open up about wanting sex...
He's not looking for a relationship
He's a seasoned player.
Advertise the best qualities.
Arouse their curiosity about the negative qualities.
State it.
Get what you want.
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Posted by nanobyteI didn't mean people don't divorce and remarried. How quickly people you know HAVE remarried? In a few months?Posted by GemitatiWell obviously the number of people I know who got divorced and remarried is a very large number.... but the number of people I know who got divorced and remarried to the side chick of 10+ years??Posted by nanobyteYou are wrong in many aspects here.Posted by GemitatiAside from your cap husband whom you've been with for 30+ years, and your Scorpio affair who you've been with for 10+ years, how much experience do you actually have with members of the opposite sex? How many men have you dated and been in happy and functional relationships with? I'm taking a stab in the dark and going to say 0. You're not happy with the cap and you're sure as hell not functional with the Scorpio.Posted by nanobyteTrue. How sad!
If he says that he just wants sex, assume that he just wants sex, and is doing whatever he can to get the sex.
Listen to men, they usually say what they want and mean. It's actually women who usually twist it around to mean something that it doesn't, getting their own hopes up, and then feeling a false sense of betrayal in the end.
But men don't say what they want - it's rare occurrence. You know that right?
You know that if you were smart, and chose truth over living your lie with the Scorpio, you could very easily find out what his intentions are, right? In a 10 minute meeting, face to face.
But you choose to continue to live in fantasy and delusion because the truth hurts, doesn't it? It hurts you to think that he could never want to be with you, so you just avoid that voice deep down telling you that's the truth, don't you?
If you are smart, and know what you are doing and know how to effectively communicate, men will be very upfront with you. You just have to be willing to accept the truth, and that's too hard for the majority of people.
You know that right?
When our affair begins - he told me that it will never become anything serious due to our marital status. I've agreed because it made sense back then.
Later when I think we both got more into each other than expected - we talked about ever being together. He asked me to imagine telling my husband I am leaving him. I've never got back to him with an answer. Because i couldn't imagine saying it. And I saw his smirking knowing that!
Then I asked him to try to work out his rs with his wife. After a week he said it's not an option.
So we ARE talking about it all the time.
It's just our contacts are so sporadic and only happening since last April.
How many married people you know who have met and divorced and remarried?
It's stupid! We are an adults! We are getting to know each other and both of us want to be together. However you don't just take off and leave after so many years!
I know exactly what is going to happen!
I am not sure when but he will leave.
He is losing it! His emotional state is far from normal and one can only take so much! For last month he lost 2 sizes!
But he is strong enough to take crap for a long time but not forever.
Don't worry. I'll keep you posted.
Or I will just dissapear due to not enough time to post🙂
I never met one of those before, so 0.
Are you saying that you believe you will be the first?
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Posted by nanobyteWell. We've met for business. He was my supplier. And we were meeting at least 3 times per week.Posted by GemitatiWell you are a side chick of 5 years then. How can you not know for the first 5 years though, when he told you that it would be just sex due to marital status at the start of the affair? Where did you even meet this guy? When you talk about him, I picture you as a receptionist or cleaning lady, and he as a UPS guy or mail man dropping off a package at your place of employment or something.Posted by nanobyteI didn't mean people don't divorce and remarried. How quickly people you know HAVE remarried? In a few months?Posted by GemitatiWell obviously the number of people I know who got divorced and remarried is a very large number.... but the number of people I know who got divorced and remarried to the side chick of 10+ years??Posted by nanobyteYou are wrong in many aspects here.Posted by GemitatiAside from your cap husband whom you've been with for 30+ years, and your Scorpio affair who you've been with for 10+ years, how much experience do you actually have with members of the opposite sex? How many men have you dated and been in happy and functional relationships with? I'm taking a stab in the dark and going to say 0. You're not happy with the cap and you're sure as hell not functional with the Scorpio.Posted by nanobyteTrue. How sad!
If he says that he just wants sex, assume that he just wants sex, and is doing whatever he can to get the sex.
Listen to men, they usually say what they want and mean. It's actually women who usually twist it around to mean something that it doesn't, getting their own hopes up, and then feeling a false sense of betrayal in the end.
But men don't say what they want - it's rare occurrence. You know that right?
You know that if you were smart, and chose truth over living your lie with the Scorpio, you could very easily find out what his intentions are, right? In a 10 minute meeting, face to face.
But you choose to continue to live in fantasy and delusion because the truth hurts, doesn't it? It hurts you to think that he could never want to be with you, so you just avoid that voice deep down telling you that's the truth, don't you?
If you are smart, and know what you are doing and know how to effectively communicate, men will be very upfront with you. You just have to be willing to accept the truth, and that's too hard for the majority of people.
You know that right?
When our affair begins - he told me that it will never become anything serious due to our marital status. I've agreed because it made sense back then.
Later when I think we both got more into each other than expected - we talked about ever being together. He asked me to imagine telling my husband I am leaving him. I've never got back to him with an answer. Because i couldn't imagine saying it. And I saw his smirking knowing that!
Then I asked him to try to work out his rs with his wife. After a week he said it's not an option.
So we ARE talking about it all the time.
It's just our contacts are so sporadic and only happening since last April.
How many married people you know who have met and divorced and remarried?
It's stupid! We are an adults! We are getting to know each other and both of us want to be together. However you don't just take off and leave after so many years!
I know exactly what is going to happen!
I am not sure when but he will leave.
He is losing it! His emotional state is far from normal and one can only take so much! For last month he lost 2 sizes!
But he is strong enough to take crap for a long time but not forever.
Don't worry. I'll keep you posted.
Or I will just dissapear due to not enough time to post🙂
I never met one of those before, so 0.
Are you saying that you believe you will be the first?
Should you live together after getting out of unsuccessful marriage?
And no! I am a not side chick for 10 years!
I had no idea for first 5!!!
And atter that things were moving so slow - it's been only 1 year of serious rs.
And what gets me every time is how few people here seems living my life with me.
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I don't think I would care that much if anyone here had an affair to the point you guys do. Why is that? Curiosity?
People here are interested because this is what you post about here, gemitati. You have created this level of intrigue for the people of dxp. Maybe they too are considering an affair or something. Maybe they already have one themselves. I don't know. Me... I am just bored.
I don't care much about your situation. But when you make posts saying "men don't say what they want, you know that right?" I have to consider the source...... and why you are saying that, and should you be telling other people these things based on your bizarre situation..... In general, I am trying to help you understand your truth. It is clear to so many. The sooner you realize that it's never going to happen, the sooner you can begin to live your life afresh. How long will you wait around for this guy to divorce his wife?
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Posted by nanobyteYeah, I know my Pisces moon... I also considered not meeting the guy at all, due to exactly what you said - my Moon. but then I thought I feel sorry for him if I don't go 😄 I put this on my Moon too. But yeah, I think I'm gonna go and maybe bang him too, cause I'm seriously tired of my Moon issues and what my aqua to live for once. I'll try to keep everything in mind what you people have said here and try to shut my Moon up 😄Posted by LugejaYou're an aquarian, so it should be easy for you. But I also see that you have a very unfortunate moon placement - sorry! That is probably why the FWB thing doesn't work for you, so I would not recommend it to you, ignorantly so basing it on astrology, which is why we are here in the first place. Pisces moon.. emotions and delusion and friends with benefit? That's just a cocktail that shouldn't be mixed. I get anxiety and annoyed just thinking about what a mess that would be.
Hey! How does the only sex thing works? I've never done that. Maybe I should consider it. I mean, is it like we just meet up, have sex, go our separate ways, no communication, expectations, then we just meet up again, have sex and again and again? How do you avoid the feelings and stuff? I mean, I cannot promise I don't get feelings, or neither can he promise that. What if one of the two gets feelings and the other one doesn't?
Btw, I asked the dude, has he ever found someone on the dating site this way. He said yes, but not for a long time, because it usually has turned out that they do not suit to eachother and it has been both-sided.
Well.. I actually thought that if one just wants to have sex, it really doesn't matter with who one is having it with 😄 but yeah, I don't know, cause I've never wanted or needed just and only sex.
The way you describe it in the first few sentences of your post is how it normally works, yes. You aren't guaranteed that you (or he) won't gain feelings, that's just the thing. Usually one party does, yes I have been on the receiving end of that nasty emotional blow.
It sounds like you already made your mind up about the gemini though. You are going to meet him and probably bang him. Just remember if you choose that route, that it was your choice, and he can't be demonized because the dude straight up told you that he wanted sex.
Just my two cents~
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Posted by LugejaYou seem like neurotic type. Are you giggling all the time?
So I just met the guy 😄 at night, he was coming from work. Asked me out so I finally decided to go. Nothing happened, just talked about half an hour. Really funny guy. Absolutely not my type, so I would never consider having a relationship with him, but so funny that I will definitely consider having the no strings attached kind of fun 😄

Posted by nanobyteGemini man: I want to wine and dine and fuck you
If he says that he just wants sex, assume that he just wants sex, and is doing whatever he can to get the sex.
Listen to men, they usually say what they want and mean. It's actually women who usually twist it around to mean something that it doesn't, getting their own hopes up, and then feeling a false sense of betrayal in the end.
Posted by GemitatiOnly when I'm texting, writing in forums. Not so much in real life.Posted by LugejaYou seem like neurotic type. Are you giggling all the time?
So I just met the guy 😄 at night, he was coming from work. Asked me out so I finally decided to go. Nothing happened, just talked about half an hour. Really funny guy. Absolutely not my type, so I would never consider having a relationship with him, but so funny that I will definitely consider having the no strings attached kind of fun 😄
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Posted by LadyNeptuneYep, that's me. Been with an alcoholic and other mentally rather unstable guys due to that trait of mine. Someone has to save the world, right?Posted by nanobyteGemini man: I want to wine and dine and fuck you
If he says that he just wants sex, assume that he just wants sex, and is doing whatever he can to get the sex.
Listen to men, they usually say what they want and mean. It's actually women who usually twist it around to mean something that it doesn't, getting their own hopes up, and then feeling a false sense of betrayal in the end.
Op: Hmmm he must be a sex addict and this is his cry for help. I KNOW I can save him.
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Posted by LugejaStaaaapPosted by LadyNeptuneYep, that's me. Been with an alcoholic and other mentally rather unstable guys due to that trait of mine. Someone has to save the world, right?Posted by nanobyteGemini man: I want to wine and dine and fuck you
If he says that he just wants sex, assume that he just wants sex, and is doing whatever he can to get the sex.
Listen to men, they usually say what they want and mean. It's actually women who usually twist it around to mean something that it doesn't, getting their own hopes up, and then feeling a false sense of betrayal in the end.
Op: Hmmm he must be a sex addict and this is his cry for help. I KNOW I can save him.
*gets emotionally invested*click to expand
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I do not have a specific question or a problem. I’m just writing to share my experience and thoughts 🙂
So I have been chatting with a guy I met online. He seemed a sweet and funny guy. He said in his profile that he is perfect man with a few minor flaws. So I asked about what makes a man perfect and which are his flaws. We managed to send only a few messages, when he disappeared for 2 weeks or so. Then he came back, saying he had some problems with his account and mentioned that his flaw is he is kind of a sex addict. So I took it as a total joke and kind of joked around and made fun of it, like how does he relieve his addiction etc. So he said that he thought I could help him out etcetc, so he basically is talking about massages and wine and so on and always hinting we should have sex, though sometimes I’m not even sure about him hinting about sex, maybe I jus think he is hinting it 😄. Still, I’m taking it as a joke. He does not seem to be one of those guys out there just for sex, but who knows. So I told him I’m not that kind of a girl and maybe I could go out with him to have a tea in a public place, but it would be in June, when I have more time in my hands. But we kept on messaging. Anyway, I have no idea what kind of guy he is, I have no intention sleeping with him, but I’m just curious about the humanbeing. I have a hard time believing that he is only after sex, just the joking way he is writing and that someone would stick around so long (we’ve been chatting now for a week, every day he comes to say hey, what’s up and good night etc). Especially that he has like more than a thousand friends in facebook (it’s a huge number in our country) and he could take who ever on the dating site. So I thought maybe we could do the meeting sooner, offered this weekend to him, but apparently he has to work. Fine by me. I’m just so curious, what would he be in real life 😄 Especially that he said he is all talk in messenger but rather shy in person at first, who knows, maybe maybe not.
Anyway, he is 27. He has Gemini sun, Taurus moon, Taurus Mercury, Aries venus and Pisces mars. Gemini sun should be rather player and adventurous guy, right, and Aries venus should be all about the chase, fun, sex, but also should get bored easily? But would the Taurus and pisces placements soften those traits a bit?
I am 27, too. I have sun in Aqua, thus my curiosity about meeting this weird guy I guess. My pisces moon should go well with his Taurus moon. Not so sure about my Capricorn placements though (mercury, venus and mars).
I once dated a Gemini sun, Leo moon, Taurus mercury, Aries venus and Gemini mars man for 2 years. It was a great relationship, we had lots of fun, he was very adventurous, fun, caring and loving (though not in a suffocating way). He was also rather romantics, lit candles sometimes etc, his idea was to go take some pictures of us etc. but he never brought me flowers or gifts. Once, for my birthday he gave me flowers, but thats all. We both knew we really liked and loved each other, but we never actually spoke about our feelings. We said once we love each other. Okey, once or twice he did confess to me, saying how deeply in he is, tears falling down and all, but he was drunk and it was after a fight. He was 24-25 at the time and I was his first girl in terms of relationship and sex. I was really surprised when I found out about it, because he seemed like a guy who was very experienced and could talk out any girl. Anyway, eventually it did not work out, because he got rather jealous with no reason (Leo moon perhaps?) and it hurt me, then I realized we actually lacked emotional connection too and he did not like the idea of me going to a university in another city, which I did anyway. So being a month in Uni, I decided to broke it off. Sometimes I regret it, because he was such a nice guy. He has a new girl and a kid now, six years later 🙂 So, the story got me think about what I have read about gemini sun and also aries venus.
Are they really such players and looking for a lot of sex and get bored easily?