what sign are you currently dating?

or are you riding solo? open? married? and how's it going?

Married to a Scorpio sun and moon with a Gemini rising.

been with my aqua for almost a year. we're best friends and it's going great.

going on 14 years (July 17) with a very strong and loving marriage with my wonderful Scorpio husband. In fact i'd be remiss if i didn't say that the more life throws at us, the stronger and more resolute we have become.

Marriage is interesting. There are different phases you progress through out your partnership. 1. attraction, lust, love, intrigue, romance, contemplation of commitment. 2. attraction, love, romance, friendship, communication. 3. love, romance, friendship, communication and total commitment. we are in #3, and although having two boys age 10, there are some things that are just better than even when we were just a couple before starting our family. it's about a type of maturity that goes beyond the physical phase and moves into the intellectual and spiritual one. It's an underlying connection that exists and only grows stronger in depth and energy as you both endeavor to live out your lives together as a couple, being that of a husband/wife or a father/mother.

I'm no expert on relationships. however, i truly believe that often the reason behind bad marriages/relationships is due to the fact that their relationship never develops throughout this obvious cycle of change and strengthening over the years together. Sure, we struggle at times and have our knock down, drag outs, but in the end, that connection always brings us back.

just my two cents worth.

Currently riding solo and taking this time to focus on me and what I really desire in a partnership blah blah. LOL.. who am I fooling I want to meet someone special, but it never happens when you want it! Most recently dated an Aqua, prior to that a Gemini( never again), and a Taurus ( stubborn!).

pisces 😄

^LOL

gemini! and going solo!

Sag/Cappy cusper. It's good, but gawd that Cappy in him drives me crazy sometimes and not in a good way, like today.

Cancer guy for 2+ years now

Aquarius. At peace 🙂

Embarked in the best voyage ever with an amazing Virgo man...the waves get rough at times but I wouldn't have it any other way with anyone other than him. Everything about him is intense. I love my Virgo. I always thought that the bull would be the one for me to spend the last days of my life, But that's only because I had not met my Virgo yet. Here I am 1 Virgo later. The most giving, loving,understanding ,caring,passionate man alive,greatest father ever and the best boyfriend a woman can ask for. So protective of those he loves.Should I go on?
For those ladies that do have a Virgo in their lives, You know why Im so excited

Good luck to all!

Fellow Gem here, married to a Libra for almost 20 years, didn't last, then started seeing his Cappy friend and my ex boyfriend from my late teens, that was a VERY BAD IDEA!! Caps are very sweet,quiet,caring people, but man, they hold grudges FOREVER!! Never again. I'm going to hang out with myself for awhile and stop hunting for the next great love of my life.

Posted by gemini64
going on 14 years (July 17) with a very strong and loving marriage with my wonderful Scorpio husband. In fact i'd be remiss if i didn't say that the more life throws at us, the stronger and more resolute we have become.

Marriage is interesting. There are different phases you progress through out your partnership. 1. attraction, lust, love, intrigue, romance, contemplation of commitment. 2. attraction, love, romance, friendship, communication. 3. love, romance, friendship, communication and total commitment. we are in #3, and although having two boys age 10, there are some things that are just better than even when we were just a couple before starting our family. it's about a type of maturity that goes beyond the physical phase and moves into the intellectual and spiritual one. It's an underlying connection that exists and only grows stronger in depth and energy as you both endeavor to live out your lives together as a couple, being that of a husband/wife or a father/mother.

I'm no expert on relationships. however, i truly believe that often the reason behind bad marriages/relationships is due to the fact that their relationship never develops throughout this obvious cycle of change and strengthening over the years together. Sure, we struggle at times and have our knock down, drag outs, but in the end, that connection always brings us back.

just my two cents worth.

It's interesting that communication is in your second phase. How long does the first phase usually last?

It's interesting that communication is in your second phase. How long does the first phase usually last?



I think communication came for us in the second phase due to friendship becoming stronger and allowing us to both open up and be more vulnerable. I can't speak for everyone, and certainly didn't intend to; i was only speaking on behalf of my relationship. MOST people don't open up 100% early on due to fear of being rejected or losing that person. you have to build the foundation to allow that communication to develop naturally. If you force it, it's not real; it's contrived and meaningless in the end.

How long does the first phase last? i have no idea. i can't even tell you if my "phases" are based on months or years. It's just what i consider to be a good illustration of how our relationship and marriage has developed over the course of our 14 years. I think everyone's relationship is unique as we are all unique individuals. It's not apples to apples. Life is ebb and flow; so too are relationships. btw, if i could tell you how long the first phase lasts, I'd be doing that professionally making some serious $ $ $ $ . I'm on DXP, so it would be safe to assume I don't do this professionally. 😉

best advice to you, however.....Always be yourself. People don't want fake. You will ONLY attract someone who sees you for the real you and not a phony version. MOST people are intelligent enough to see through the smoke and mirrors. Always be true to yourself....meaning, don't do anything to hang onto to someone that undermines your integrity and principles. Finally, learn the art of listening....as a gemini, i can rattle out words faster than my husband can think them up. It's not a fair fight. However, I have realized through thick and thin, what men really want is to be listened to. When you give them that side of you, they will open up more easily. The fastest thing you can do to shut them down is yell at them non stop and nag. Men can not understand how we women think; it's a scientific fact. We are wired differently. Men are literal. Women are emotional. We attach emotion to our conversation because we need to "feel" while men simply want to digest information. So if you're going to talk to him about serious issues, talk to him as a guy would and don't think it's like talking to one of your female friends. Keep it simple. Try to keep the over the top emotion out of it. And listen to his POV. It works.

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Posted by gemini64
going on 14 years (July 17) with a very strong and loving marriage with my wonderful Scorpio husband. In fact i'd be remiss if i didn't say that the more life throws at us, the stronger and more resolute we have become.

Marriage is interesting. There are different phases you progress through out your partnership. 1. attraction, lust, love, intrigue, romance, contemplation of commitment. 2. attraction, love, romance, friendship, communication. 3. love, romance, friendship, communication and total commitment. we are in #3, and although having two boys age 10, there are some things that are just better than even when we were just a couple before starting our family. it's about a type of maturity that goes beyond the physical phase and moves into the intellectual and spiritual one. It's an underlying connection that exists and only grows stronger in depth and energy as you both endeavor to live out your lives together as a couple, being that of a husband/wife or a father/mother.

I'm no expert on relationships. however, i truly believe that often the reason behind bad marriages/relationships is due to the fact that their relationship never develops throughout this obvious cycle of change and strengthening over the years together. Sure, we struggle at times and have our knock down, drag outs, but in the end, that connection always brings us back.

just my two cents worth.

Awwwwwwwww, that's beautiful. I am so happy for you two 🙂

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Thanks!! it's not been wine and roses, but i'm lucky....nothing better than having a man of high character, solid convictions, and a genuine heart.

gemini64 - I was actually thinking in reference to your scorp relationship/s. you put commuication in your second phase, so I assumed thats when good/better communication came about.. what you're saying does make sense, I have been/am being me though trust me.. but i do do things i feel confused him/gave him the wrong idea? even felt like i've hurt him with some of the things I've done.

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gemini64 - I was actually thinking in reference to your scorp relationship/s. you put commuication in your second phase, so I assumed thats when good/better communication came about.. what you're saying does make sense, I have been/am being me though trust me.. but i do do things i feel confused him/gave him the wrong idea? even felt like i've hurt him with some of the things I've done.

we all do things that hurt our BF, husband, GF, wife etc....it's part of human nature. this is done mostly, imho, because of an inner conflict. as the saying goes "we hurt most the ones we love."...why? simple: we know they will put up with it and not walk away.

we all get confused, trust me. I still get that way even after 14 years. I think it's more my perception of believing he doesn't "get me" when the reality is, he does. I've learned that often men "get you" but don't reveal that to you. they always want the "upper hand" and so you often have to just accept that you got through to them. the key is do they stay or leave? if they are there by your side, nothing more needs to be said. Men don't like using all the words and adding emotions to their words every time. As I stated prior, men communicate to gain and share information, not emotions. So if you are confused about what you said and/or think you may have hurt him, you are deriving those assumptions from YOUR perspective of communication. Because YOU add emotion to your communication. He does not. Or I should say, most of the time, he will not. Often men go quiet just to analyze, not to judge. Just as we often don't understand how they think, the same holds true for men. they have no clue because they are literal, not emotional. If you haven't read the book, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" do....another great choice is "The Women Men Adore".....both will give you a better understanding how both genders communicate and think, and how to utilize that information to make your relationship stronger.

I understand where you're coming from. Just a few months ago, I said a few things to a very close male friend of mine. After a week of thought, I felt terrible. I knew I had probably hurt him because his response to me via email was extremely brief and to the point. in my mind, there was no indication of being ok and moving on. i read it as he was hurt, PO'd at me, and probably never going to speak with me again. I told my husband about this and he said, don't worry about it. Men don't hang onto stuff like that. They get over it. Unlike us women, we tend to hold onto the "emotional" aspect of anything involving a relationship, whether it be a BF or a close male friend. We are so afraid of losing that bond, we want to make everything alright again, even if it means owning the entire ordeal when in reality, it may have been a mutual conflict.

1. Get the books and read them. 2. Stop blaming yourself or feeling guilty about things you can't control or comments you may have said. I've been there, done that. Playing the blame game and feeling guilty eats you up inside. I know from personal experience. You want to know how your guy feels/thinks? Simply ask him in a non emotional, concise manner. The key to this is speaking with him when neither one of your is in a bad state of mind. Do it in a relaxed conversation. He will appreciate the fact that you care enough to ask him. 3. RE: my husband being a scorpio, honestly i don't see a lot of his sign in him. Although i enjoy this site, I look at him as a person first, a sign second. Everyone is unique.

btw, you asked about trust issues.....trust is earned through action, not words. you can't ask someone to trust you. they have to see it and you have to be consistent. hope this helps.

^ wise words.

I'm dating a Saggie for under a year now. We live together in peace & harmony. I find him soo irresistable. He is a sag moon, taurus rising. More street smarts than book smarts. Most loving, caring and giving soul/boyfriend I've ever had. We love to explore together. Venus in Scorpio too, yum.

Thanks 64 - Maybe it is just emotional projection..

Btw +1 for riding solo, over here. Forgot to answer..

I've only been with two men. My ex was a Leo and my current man is a Saggie. I was browsing at HMV in my dorky Christmas sweater when I first met him lol

i'm currently dancing around a scorpio. we've went out and it's starting to bud hopefully

I was seeing an Aries and there's still something there. I find him soooooo attractive. And there is my Libra ex who never really disappears from my head 😢 that was true love. But I like to keep my options open and have got two or three "possibles" in the bag too... I like to flirt and have banter, I love the chase, I find that uncomplicated, simple, reciprocated relationships with too available guys bore me and the minute guys show a strong interest that doesn't wane I get bored and dance off to the next potential love interest... 😛

Aquarius, 8 months, never once have we had a conversation about it, or ever put a label on it, we see each other on & off

Drives me insane sometimes. It's not a very romantic arrangement, we're quite good friends, who happen to have this very incredible chemistry. Sex is amazing though, despite how much he p*sses me off. just totally mindblowingly spectacular.

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
oh wait!!! Why am I on the Gemini forum— Sorry.... 😢

Because you love us 🙂

In a relationship with Aries but its not working out and his temper is really terrible.

Had a sort of serious fling with a Cancer guy but I broke it off with him because I'm still with Aries 😢 😢 😢 I miss Mr Cancer soooo much though. He's a real sweetheart.

I am an Aries gal and I am dating a Gemini man!~

cancer 12years cancer on the side 3years...lol..dont judge me🙂

lol...wrong forum my bad gems

Dating a Capricorn. Has been 10months. Was going PERFECT until last week, we had violent domestics.

She has an Aries moon and a sag mars.

I have a libra moon and a cancer mars.

Yes I'm dating a female.

Gemini/Taurus cusper here; seeing an amazing Virgo man. He's everything I've ever wanted in a man and then some. Almost 1 yr I've been seeing him and I have to say he's irresistable! He just declared he loves me! I'm crazy about him and I hope this lasts forever....

Wow look at all the Gem's with water signs. Isn't that crazy? Well to me it is. Like I said before I think water signs just gravitate towards us. We are everything they are not.

Right now dating a Scorpio with Aries rising and Cappy moon. It's been up and down for a while. We shall see how this pans out eventually. I am Gem with Libra rising and Libra moon.