Runaway Leo's? Why?

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I know that capricorn and scorpio are good at dissapearing but why leos? Is it a pride thing?

I attract a lot of them and i notice quite often they dissapear if something is bothering them. I find that a lot of them rather dissapear than actually tell you whats wrong or even stick around to resolve it.

Now i admit they do give you warnings when something is off. Perhaps because of my moon im more the kind thats willing to stick it out than run. I find leos really dont like confrontation. They rather leave.

So just curious at what your motives are behind the dissapearing act. Now these leos i know will usually cut everybody off then come back.
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I find the 'pride' thing to be a myth and an amateur description from a lack of knowing leos. .-. Everyone has pride in something. And with leos it's just that they want to celebrate what they value. Be it an object or a friendship. Maybe that's why some leo guys wanted to show off their gf (sometimes misguidedly).

But anyway,

I want to avoid confrontation if the person that the problem is with, is someone I care about /:

it would just hurt to see them upset or upset at me.

Sometimes I just want space. And I really enjoy alone time. I find some people expect me to let them know where I am everyday and that's actually soul-draining. Then they complain I didn't let them know what I was doing in the time that I didn't talk...like..wtf.

It doesn't mean I care any less.

But someone who expells a lot of energy,

also needs a lot of rest.

Which is one way to look at "sun-people". xD

Here are my two threads that are close to this topic:

(They're more about someone wanting time to themselves than avoiding something)

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/how-serious-are-the-words-you-say-6020919/

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/leo-migrating-hybernating-seasons-5369075/

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If it's about confrontation- I disappear to avoid saying saying something hurtful that I'll regret later.

Basically, even if I think I'm right I want to consider that the strength of my feelings on the matter may not match the other persons feelings.

I may be more upset or they may be more upset than I. So I take space out so when I DO express my thoughts, they are balanced and hopefully taking into account the other point of view.

If I run through the conversation time and time again and I don't see a resolution occurring despite imagining all the concessions I might make, then I disappear - seemingly for good.

If you're talking in general. Then yesh, I am rarely around. Just coz. If something is bothering me I'd rather work through it alone than hash it out. People thrive on negativity and they love to see you suffer.

That's been my experience, even sympathy from others has that dash of schadenfreud to it. That element of 'there but for the grace of God go I' mentality.

Not from everyone, but often enough.

Finally, I am a loner as a rule. The people I have in my life fit that rule for me. This doesn't detract from the depth or richness of our relationship but it is who I am as a definition and so, I surround myself with people who can handle that without question. 😎
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Posted by KittyKnitter
generally leos don't like conflict, not that we are weak or scared. we just don't like to hurt or be hurt in anger. when forced to fight, we don't back down once we have given free rein to our temper. so beware. the more i care about someone or the deeper the issue is, the more likely i am to try to avoid confrontation. if i am hurt, i will need time to lick my wounds and decide the next step.sometimes taking time to myself is about decompressing so i don't strike out at the people i care about. sometimes things just get crazy in my life and i worry about saying or doing something in irritation or frustration that i cannot take back. then it's best to let me be because when i feel in control again i will be back.


Wow you just described me to a T. I thought it was the Pisces in me that makes me fall off the face of the planet when I get hit by the pitch.

Another thing about me is if I care about the person, then how they view me is very important to me, so when I get criticism, or the person says hurtful things, I get very defensive. Now if it's some random person, or a person I'm not too close to, my reaction is pfft! I'm not wasting my time with your peasant opinions! That happen to you?
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Don't like to show we've been hurt either. It's easier to take a break...much easier to think on a relaxed mind. give leos time to regain their composure. Usually forgiving people. a prideful sign with a sensitive ego, it takes alot to anger a leo person and they usually end up shocking the hell out of people when they lose it.

I always say

"I ain't no killer but don't push me."

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Leo sun Leo Rising here ... If we run (it's not really running in our mind) more like about facing and knowing our worth ..... it's a regal thing ... call it ego .... either way ... pride tells us we deserve better ... and usually we end up right back with another looser .. so pride is big with me ....we don't belittle ourselves with peasants ..... so we will just leave ... unless (and this is huge) it involves someone we truly care for and love .... like children, parents, siblings, or husband or boyfriend ..... or even a close friend..... anything else we shut it down real quick and take our playful sunny energy elsewhere ... remember they have no problem with making new conversations at all ..... they are attractive and have magnetism ...... we are ruled by the sun ...... so think of how the suns illuminates things ..... us leos can toss to the side easily because we have no problem having replacements fall into our lap ... that simple ..... but ..... we are fixed ... if we love you .... we have a very very very hard time letting something go with ya even if it may be unhealthy to us.... we are strong enough to handle it ... hope this helps
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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Agree with all the Leo responders above. If pushed into conflict, we will fight 'til the end, but it's not what we want. A Leo prefers peace. Our silence can mean we're hurt, angry, exhausted or depressed.
Its sounds familiar what happened to me and my bf leo man. He doesn't want to talk to me its been 3 weeks. And I have no idea to do with that. Should I just move on? Is he will come back? I have no idea
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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Agree with all the Leo responders above. If pushed into conflict, we will fight 'til the end, but it's not what we want. A Leo prefers peace. Our silence can mean we're hurt, angry, exhausted or depressed.
Its sounds familiar what happened to me and my bf leo man. He doesn't want to talk to me its been 3 weeks. And I have no idea to do with that. Should I just move on? Is he will come back? I have no idea
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Send him a message and say that you're thinking of him and hoping he's doing ok. If he answers, it's a good sign. If he doesn't, then you might want to think about whether he's worth your energy.

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Agree with all the Leo responders above. If pushed into conflict, we will fight 'til the end, but it's not what we want. A Leo prefers peace. Our silence can mean we're hurt, angry, exhausted or depressed.
Its sounds familiar what happened to me and my bf leo man. He doesn't want to talk to me its been 3 weeks. And I have no idea to do with that. Should I just move on? Is he will come back? I have no idea
Send him a message and say that you're thinking of him and hoping he's doing ok. If he answers, it's a good sign. If he doesn't, then you might want to think about whether he's worth your energy.

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He does replied me he told me he having hard time. His dog died/ he has to work around Europe and he enable to come back to see me this month. He supposed to come back. I think he felt bad because he promised me to come back. After he explained everything I sent wrote him back.. I gave tons of motivation and positive energy but he doesn't reply been 3 weeks. I just think he needs space. He doesn't hurt jusst act like this.. I just miss him, I am sure he miss me too but I have no idea when he will write back to me

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@MermaidMelody, you didn't answer this post before deleting your thread. Just really curious how you're thinking



this is what you wrote: "I know we are pisces is easly to get hurt and sometimes I feel like my leo man don't know that he hurt me" 

and now you write: "No, he didn't hurt me . I doNt feel either. I just miss him a lot and worried. He does explain everything to me.. " 

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Posted by MermaidMelody
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Agree with all the Leo responders above. If pushed into conflict, we will fight 'til the end, but it's not what we want. A Leo prefers peace. Our silence can mean we're hurt, angry, exhausted or depressed.
Its sounds familiar what happened to me and my bf leo man. He doesn't want to talk to me its been 3 weeks. And I have no idea to do with that. Should I just move on? Is he will come back? I have no idea
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Pfft I've been with my girl for 4 yrs! Once we got so mad at each other, we didn't talk for 4 weeks. It happens, but we have always made up, and our bond grew stronger.
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yes, im in that mode with my gf. I dont like confrontation, she likes. Im in a situation that i can´t control her, or us, and i am in silence. Its not pride. I agree with SunflowerTrilogy, i did that before, but i am with someone i truly care now, and i am "hurt" because of her selfish personality, we confronted several times in similar situations, but i am tired, since my goals were ok in my eyes. I fought and confronted her when my believes of reason told me to act, i see no results, or very few, so i quit.

If i disappear, in my case could be because of several situations: one of them, is the keen to explore. Believe it or not, i like to do that. Driving my car alone, have a coffee etc. This happens in both modes, when im ok, happy, hurt or angry. Secondly, because someone hurt me or didn´t respect my views, personality, i have no time for them, and i start to think i m better alone, but i know i will find asap someone to replace, for sure. In the other cases i disapear when i found that im boring and i need to have a fresh air. I don´t have time to stupid conversations about him or her, i prefer to enjoy landscapes.. dreaming, play a video game, surf. When is someone i realy like, (family, girlfriend) i forget almost everything but its normal to have these behaviour u told.