A question for THELIBRAN (Page 2)

hmmmmm....I say go if he is ignoring your texts. It is always good to remind men you have options. But I would have him go to the service shop first and then meet him there after he has been in there so it does not look like you are parading him around.....get my drift?

sure do. That is what i was thiking as well. While i would love nothing more than to get to hang with my libra cutie all the time and for him to snap the hell out of his little fog... i do think showing that i have options is ok..This younger boy is just...wow...lots of fun to be around, has cute little witty things to say and he is a hell of a lot of fun to flirt with. As soon as this boy walks into that shop all eyes are going to be on him. I think even the boys will be able to appreciate just how cute this little sucker is. You just can't help but like the guy.

LMAO...that is why you let him go first and then you saunter in after about 10 mins...so they can also see he has a cool personality and again so its not like youre parading him in front of libra on purpose!

yep! Well that damn libra is lucky i don't parade the hottie thru the dang shop. I am a libra and i can't even figure out one of my own.? WTF!! Libra boys...once they snag u on that damn platinum hook of theirs it sure is hard to wiggle yourself free. I think i need to find out what sign the hottie is. Hopefully not pisces....no offense to the pisces out there. The one i was married to was a total ass munch! The hottie seems like he could be an aquarius or virgo.

I cant figure em out either...I mean I can kinda figure out this crazy libra I hung out with....he likes me but is getting clowned by his friends..because it and I go against their "image." He didnt know how to express that he liked me so he acted out. He ignored me when I was supposed to go out with him because his friends were giving him crap about me and him being in love. he has no idea how to approach me because I am different from the girls he is used to dating...I have class!!!! etc etc etc

2libras you want my libra?
Cause I dont lmao.
And I say go with the cutie too, its the best cure for guy-your-crushing-on-is-a-flaming-idiot. 😛

That is grrrrreat (like the tiger hehe)!
Arian, its good that you let it out, and see? Now you got a hunk of man who talks to you and leaves you sore for a long time 😉
I would say thats a keeper lol.
Keep us informed 🙂
MORE...lol

Not really sure what i did. I answered some questions he asked and i told him i was going to be totally upfront and honest. Afterwards i asked if anything i had said was too terrible and he said not at all. He even opened up. Thats where i think the whole defense and backing away is to regain some balance. I think i totally threw him off balance.

How is it that these men can make us so mad that we don't know whether we want to beat their ass or rip their clothes off and jump their bones. This guy can just come and stand in my office doorway and if he smiles i could just throw him down on top of my desk and have my way with him right there and not even care who sees. That is not like me! Well kinda of not like me. Ha!!! Then he can make me mad as fire and i just want to kick his ass!! Grrrrrrr!!!

AC once i figure my libra out i will try to help u out with yours....but i think i will pass on taking him off your hands. One is ALL i can handle right now. Ha!!!

and how are you guys putting smileys in your comments?

usual yahoo or msn keys for smileys.
for eg ":" + ")" together gives 🙂 chk preview to make sure u got it right.

I think its more abt fear of getting too closer to you and then later getting hurt. You can easily sort it out by being a bit more direct with him. askin him simple questions like "why?" 😉

oooo I got rid of him libragyrl lol!
I called and told him about rescheduling, he got angry, said "whatever bro" and hung up.
I AM ELATED.
🙂
Now, yours, is another ball game with no hot dogs 🙂 hehe.
I still say dont text him anymore (if you havent done so already)

as of today it has been 5 days since the last text. So, we will see. Its fun flirting with him in person and text. Even though in person it is well more personal of course. What about getting breakfast. It is a normal routine that when i stop to get myself something on monday mornings i grab him something as well. Should i not do that tomorrow? I don't want him to think i have lost total interest but then again i don't want to look like a push over either. Hmmmmm.....

ooo I got rid of him libragyrl lol!
I called and told him about rescheduling, he got angry, said "whatever bro" and hung up.
I AM ELATED.

Now, yours, is another ball game with no hot dogs hehe.
I still say dont text him anymore (if you havent done so already)


Lol good for you..... I must forewarn you that you will hear from him again. Im being misunderstood with the texts.....they are not friendly by any means. See we learned in torts class that to avoid 100% liability for negligence or negligent acts you must give adequate warning. Therefore I gave him adequate warning so if the behavior happens again then if I run him over, kick his a $ $ etc....he was warned and contributed to my negligent behavior!

as of today it has been 5 days since the last text. So, we will see. Its fun flirting with him in person and text. Even though in person it is well more personal of course. What about getting breakfast. It is a normal routine that when i stop to get myself something on monday mornings i grab him something as well. Should i not do that tomorrow? I don't want him to think i have lost total interest but then again i don't want to look like a push over either. Hmmmmm.....


Don't grab him anything. I bet he will contact you....just sit back and watch the show.

gotcha! Sucks to be hungry! Ha!

so how do you get an off balance libra male back in balance with you?

if that makes any sense? Honestly i am really starting to believe in the whole patience thing. If he is into me or if i am the one, chances are he already knows it and thats the reason for his behavior change. From what i have gotten from these libra men is that they know if u r the one and those are the ones that scare them the most

if that makes any sense? Honestly i am really starting to believe in the whole patience thing. If he is into me or if i am the one, chances are he already knows it and thats the reason for his behavior change. From what i have gotten from these libra men is that they know if u r the one and those are the ones that scare them the most

That is most men....as hard as it sounds try to slowly curtail the extras..like tomorrow don't bring him breakfast. If you do something else extra maybe wait a bit and curtail that. The key is right now he is having his cake and eating it too. You are bringing him breakfast etc. and there is no effort put forth on his part at all. If you are trying to establish a relationship with him then he needs to understand that a successful relationship is 50/50. If you don't do this early then you will be the pack mule for the duration of the relationship.

So try and go out and have some fun. Pull back to get yourself together but don't close the door. When he is ready he will walk through it! Trust me!

Yep!
He called last night twice.
Argh I didn't bother to pick up.
And I agree 2libras don't feed him lol

I think she is right! We are thinking way too much! But, thats how i do it. I weigh everything out and try to find the best solution

I do too

You know what Arianlatay...you are right! We women spend hours racking our brains about why he does this? why he does that? While the men that we are lamenting over are out booking ahead like Ike Turner! Who needs it! And honestly that is why I have started treating men the way they treat us.....lol! "What are u catchin' feelins now or somethin?"

YOU GIRLS ARE SO RIGHT. I AM DONE (FINALLY) RACKING MY BRAIN TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT HAPPENED. I KNOW IT WAS NOTHING THAT I HAD DONE SO I AM DONE WORRYING ABOUT IT. I KNOW WHAT I WAS ATTRACTED TO AND THAT WAS THAT BEAUTIFUL LIBRAN SMILE AND HIS CHARM. (WHEN HE SHOWED IT) LIKE I SAID THOUGH, I AM DONE. I AM NOT GOING TO WORRY ABOUT IT ANYMORE. HE BLEW HIS CHANCE AND THATS ALL IT COMES DOWN TO. I OPENED A WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY FOR HIM AND NOW IT IS SHUT FOR GOOD. THATS THAT!

Yay 2libras!
🙂
Mine wont stop calling, I am about to change my number. >😢

I've been through the bullshit for more than 2 couple of years.
Some good resolution tips:

1. Be honest. Don't mimic his evasiveness. This is the main thing that causes heartache.
2. Be straighttalking, and whatever thing you notice that you dislike in him, tell it to him straight.
3. Don't do the avoidance thing.. this is Libra territory.. it is never going to end. FACE UP TO IT ONCE AND FOR ALL. The dominoes will drop, but either way you'll get better understanding of where you're at.
4. Be nice and show consideration for him as well. It means appreciation.

Spica has good pointers.

My fiance is still and will always have an elusive side. You have to accept that about them if you want to be with them. If he's being elusive or vague, don't do it back as retaliation, it will backfire.

The most important thing I have learned is to be fair. No matter what faults my fiance has, I talk to him about them and I accept them.

Oh, and more thing, don't play games. Don't do the moody, whiney pouts - it will get you nowhere. Instead try to resolve things through talking. If you don't want to talk to him, don't avoid his calls. Instead, pick up the phone and tell him "Now isn't the best time to talk. I will talk to you, but I want to absorb things". My fiance accepts that and honors it. he knows i'm capable of some harsh verbal damage if you push me into the corner and make me say things I'm not ready to say...so he prefers that I be honest and tell him I'm not ready to talk.

This whole texting stuff is non-confrontational. If you have something serious to say, don't do it over text...do it in person or over the phone. Texting and emails have no emotional value and the reader can take the tone anyway he/she wants. If you want your point across, do it in person.

one more thing, don't assume he knows what you're thinking. my fiance has told me a lot that he isn't a mindreader. you have soemthing on your mind, don't be afraid to talk about it. Communication should be the foundation of any relationship.

"one more thing, don't assume he knows what you're thinking. my fiance has told me a lot that he isn't a mindreader. you have soemthing on your mind, don't be afraid to talk about it. Communication should be the foundation of any relationship."

I just told mine that the other day. I told him that I cannot read his mind!!!!! It got WAY better. He thinks I can read his mind, so he stays silent. And yes, a Taurus is basically a no bullshit sign, so you can be straight.

Basically I was playing the evasive, elusive, hide and seek game with him for years not knowing the solution is actually to be direct. It's all getting better now - up one level, so I am pleased.