PiscesGuy123
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Apologizing to a libra lady
i don't know if other libran women would also feel this way, but if you did this to me, you can shove your apology. nothing you could say or do would make a jot of difference.
if you wanted to apologise you would be doing it to solely make yourself feel better.
if you wanted to apologise you would be doing it to solely make yourself feel better.
Posted by UnicornSagWithout getting into too many details, I was basically being used as a rebound for 2 months and I responded in anger. I'm not justifying what I did, in hindsight I should have walked away from the situation. I can't change the past, and I'm not going to try. Anyways, if people think a sincere apology is my own way of feeling better, then maybe it's best that I walk away from it.
Yes there is a way. Use your words and write down your feelings. I don't know why people don't do this more often. She may not even read it but at least you did your part and said what you had to say.
Next time be more careful. What's the point in offending another person really? Specially if it's someone who you care for in any way
If you believe she used you as a rebound, you are actually lying to yourself. You talked for a while, but you didn't click when meeting face to face. You liked her, she didn't. This has nothing to do with her still having feelings about her ex or not. The chemistry should be there, or not. In your case, she felt nothing. You got angry not because of her ex, but because you felt rejected. Attraction cannot be forced. You should apologize, but forget about her anyway afterwards.
Posted by compycompy, out of interest, what's your venus?
If you believe she used you as a rebound, you are actually lying to yourself. You talked for a while, but you didn't click when meeting face to face. You liked her, she didn't. This has nothing to do with her still having feelings about her ex or not. The chemistry should be there, or not. In your case, she felt nothing. You got angry not because of her ex, but because you felt rejected. Attraction cannot be forced. You should apologize, but forget about her anyway afterwards.
Posted by jeaneScorpio.Posted by compycompy, out of interest, what's your venus?
If you believe she used you as a rebound, you are actually lying to yourself. You talked for a while, but you didn't click when meeting face to face. You liked her, she didn't. This has nothing to do with her still having feelings about her ex or not. The chemistry should be there, or not. In your case, she felt nothing. You got angry not because of her ex, but because you felt rejected. Attraction cannot be forced. You should apologize, but forget about her anyway afterwards.click to expand
Posted by jeaneTruth!
i don't know if other libran women would also feel this way, but if you did this to me, you can shove your apology. nothing you could say or do would make a jot of difference.
if you wanted to apologise you would be doing it to solely make yourself feel better.
Nothing you can say is going to make much difference, I might accept it to keep the peace but chances are I've written you off right after you spat your vile words at me!
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by jeaneTruth!
i don't know if other libran women would also feel this way, but if you did this to me, you can shove your apology. nothing you could say or do would make a jot of difference.
if you wanted to apologise you would be doing it to solely make yourself feel better.
Nothing you can say is going to make much difference, I might accept it to keep the peace but chances are I've written you off right after you spat your vile words at me!
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Posted by SpaceBirdHaha, thanks this is probably what worked the best. I did my best to explain to her why I lost it, and I think she actually had felt guilty about using me the way she did. I dont know if she forgave me a 100% , but I think I did make her feel less outraged about it. I left things and moved on after that, and while she did reach out to me a couple of times after that on text (just casual "hi how are you") I didn't really converse much with her. After about a month, she called me out of the blue asking why I had just vanished and whether I wanted to be friends?Posted by PiscesGuy123Just as you put yourself. Tell her exactly this 🙂
Is there a real way to convince her that I was just an idiot and that I do value her despite what I said?click to expand
It was a little weird, we did have a genuine connection when we talked to each other before meeting but maybe there was no "spark" in our meeting from her POV. We talked about our dating life since we had last met and how she thinks she's not ready to be in something serious yet and is only casually dating. I guess my question is, why is she reaching out to me all of a sudden? Why the sudden need to be friends with someone you rejected a couple of months ago? Is she just bored and being a tease again because I stopped pursuing her? I really can't figure this out, considering we still are long distance.
Posted by jeanesame goes for this Taurus woman as well - especially as I had a Pisces ex husband who did similar throughout our marriage and was on the list of reasons we got divorced
i don't know if other libran women would also feel this way, but if you did this to me, you can shove your apology. nothing you could say or do would make a jot of difference.
if you wanted to apologise you would be doing it to solely make yourself feel better.
best bet is to work on that and try not to do that because it is very shitty indeed
Posted by PiscesGuy123
Is she just bored and being a tease again because I stopped pursuing her?
Most likely. I would really not expect her feelings to have changed. I think she enjoys your company and may just want to keep you around for the emotional benefits of the relationship, even if she doesn't want to go any further.
If you don't want that situation, then you're perfectly entitled to excuse yourself. You can say something like, “I’m sorry, but I need a bit of space and time before I can be just friends. I hope you understand.”
Anyway, can't speak for all Leebs, but if I didn't feel a spark the first time around, its not likely to ever happen.
Yeah, I agree. I'm not really trying to pursue anything romantic anymore. But I also don't want to get caught up with someone who is trying to figure themselves out and is using me as the emotional crutch in the meantime.
Posted by PiscesGuy123If she is a fair Libra she should have expected that response, nobody would like to hear this. Try telling a Leeb woman this, how would she like it? I'm not even sure you should be apologizing for a response to a pretty shitty (albeit honest) statement. SHE should be understanding of it.Posted by UnicornSagWithout getting into too many details, I was basically being used as a rebound for 2 months and I responded in anger. I'm not justifying what I did, in hindsight I should have walked away from the situation. I can't change the past, and I'm not going to try. Anyways, if people think a sincere apology is my own way of feeling better, then maybe it's best that I walk away from it.
Yes there is a way. Use your words and write down your feelings. I don't know why people don't do this more often. She may not even read it but at least you did your part and said what you had to say.
Next time be more careful. What's the point in offending another person really? Specially if it's someone who you care for in any wayclick to expand
I can say with a little shame I wouldnt be impressed if you came to me apologizing after I had told you this, it makes you prey. Stand up for yourself. Make her respect you. Never play sad sam to a Leeb. Ever!
LibraLovesHim,
I respect your opinion, and honestly I typically wouldn't go and apologize. She wasted my time and money when she knew she wasn't ready and was still into someone else (she admitted this when we met) and wasn't honest about it from the get go. I think the only reason I apologized is because we did talk daily for 2 months (for hours a day) and I did like her and didn't mean what I said to her in anger. It was for both my own dignity and respect for her that I did apologize. I couldn't care less anymore whether she is impressed withe me or not. With that said, I didn't let go what happened between us and that's why I was unsure why she now wants to be friends with me. I've lost trust in her words, but just need to make sure.
PS what is butterty?
I respect your opinion, and honestly I typically wouldn't go and apologize. She wasted my time and money when she knew she wasn't ready and was still into someone else (she admitted this when we met) and wasn't honest about it from the get go. I think the only reason I apologized is because we did talk daily for 2 months (for hours a day) and I did like her and didn't mean what I said to her in anger. It was for both my own dignity and respect for her that I did apologize. I couldn't care less anymore whether she is impressed withe me or not. With that said, I didn't let go what happened between us and that's why I was unsure why she now wants to be friends with me. I've lost trust in her words, but just need to make sure.
PS what is butterty?
Sounds like an immature Libran. When I was younger, I "played" one of my best guy friends, who, awkwardly enough was also a Pisces. And whenever I reflect back on it, I realized that while I did value his friendship (we practically grew up together), I played with his emotions because I liked the attention. However, when another one of my Libra friends was about to break his heart, I pretty much ripped hers out of her chest for him ;x (My immature idea of justice at the time.) And made sure everyone knew what a terrible person she was.
Doesn't reflect well on me, but the three of us have moved past this. However, at the time, when things finally ended with my Pisces best friend, it ended because I fell in love with him (or what I thought was love at 13) and he didn't know what to do with it and he broke me into a million pieces. After highschool, we reconnected for a little while as he liked to go to me for advice because he trusted my judgement on people. His girlfriend in college broke him in the equivalent of what he imagined he had done to me and he admitted that he was sorry and that he knew he probably would never find a girl who would give him as much as I did when I realized I was done playing with his emotions and finally "loved" him.
Needless to say, today, he's quite the successful bachelor back home - and has given up on searching for the one, for now, but he's happy.
To answer your question, it's true, write your Libra a letter and don't leave a single thing out - start off by saying that you want to apologize for what you said and then acknowledge that she also hurt you. A Libra won't like the idea of having it put in their face that they caused someone pain, especially if in the end, she knows she played a conscious part in the mess. She will also respect someone who can admit that they were hurt and who can diplomatically put her in her place as well.
Doesn't reflect well on me, but the three of us have moved past this. However, at the time, when things finally ended with my Pisces best friend, it ended because I fell in love with him (or what I thought was love at 13) and he didn't know what to do with it and he broke me into a million pieces. After highschool, we reconnected for a little while as he liked to go to me for advice because he trusted my judgement on people. His girlfriend in college broke him in the equivalent of what he imagined he had done to me and he admitted that he was sorry and that he knew he probably would never find a girl who would give him as much as I did when I realized I was done playing with his emotions and finally "loved" him.
Needless to say, today, he's quite the successful bachelor back home - and has given up on searching for the one, for now, but he's happy.
To answer your question, it's true, write your Libra a letter and don't leave a single thing out - start off by saying that you want to apologize for what you said and then acknowledge that she also hurt you. A Libra won't like the idea of having it put in their face that they caused someone pain, especially if in the end, she knows she played a conscious part in the mess. She will also respect someone who can admit that they were hurt and who can diplomatically put her in her place as well.
Just out of curiosity where are y'all sitting now? And did she know you had even liked her in a romantic way?
Hi Libragirl321, yes she knew I was interested. I don't know the history with her and her ex, but clearly she wasn't over something. I'm not sure if she was fooling herself or me, or both of us when we talked, but I like to think that we did have some sort of an emotional connection before we met. Anyways, she did forgive me, though I think she just wanted to be friends at this point. I backed off completely, and she has reached out to me a couple of times asking why I suddenly disappeared compared to before when I might have come on too strong (I am a pisces afterall, I don't know any better). I think she's still figuring out things for herself, and does have some immaturity issues. I just don't have time to play games, or waste time on her if she is only talking to me because I was giving her attention.
Hmm.....well thank you for responding. I was trying to gain some insight from your perspective as a Pisces. Your story sounds eerily familiar to a situation i encountered awhile ago. But for me I don't believe immaturity had anything to do with it. Sometimes dealing with your own internal ideas on something is harder than you could possibly imagine. Trying to balance my head and my heart was my downfall. Wanting someone way more than i could fathom but then trying to hold back because when it started both individuals felt the same about not wanting a relationship......so what do you do? Say something or just cut your emotions off and pretend you don't feel them just to make the fade away easier.....I chose the second.
It’s 50/50 fault here.
She is now acting friendly for several reasons none of which is good to be friends.
However...later if you did liked her so much - maybe give her a second chance.
Maybe she is cured from her past or maybe she can’t find anyone else and coming back to you because she ‘knows’ you and feeling alone and scared to stay alone.
Good luck.
She is now acting friendly for several reasons none of which is good to be friends.
However...later if you did liked her so much - maybe give her a second chance.
Maybe she is cured from her past or maybe she can’t find anyone else and coming back to you because she ‘knows’ you and feeling alone and scared to stay alone.
Good luck.
Everything I've heard about Libras is that while some will forever close the doors, some will sometimes come back if you give them their space and show them that you're fine without them. I think it's the air and slightly flakiness that causes them to never shut someone off for good?
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