First time attracted to a Libra and being confused...

So, long shot, but after searching and digging many pages with confusion that the Libra man gave me, I found out this forum and great to see the feedback from Libra people as well. To the topic, I am a Virgo with Libra moon, and currently in kind of something with a Libra man. Things happened very fast when we were pulled to each other, we talked the whole day and night even though we see each other in the office every day, and it's all started with a surprised kiss after 2 weeks when he wanted to know if his feeling is true and if I have something for him too. We decided we would go with the flow because I am single for a while and not really want to be in a relationship. We came to the stage when he told me all his troubles and the secrets which if I were him I would not be able to share to a person I just saw one month. He is very sensitive and cares for me a lot. I wouldn't be confused but this one thing really stuck in my mind. We hangout very often, but it was with our teams, and the private moments are only when he drove me home and we talked a bit, hugs and kisses goodbye. He has never asked for a private date, and I mentioned it once but it was during our jokes so he didn't give a serious answer. In his defense I know he has to go through lots of things in his life at the moment: new career, family issue, loan for new apartment, and lost of his counsin. I tried to be patient and understanding, because it's just more than 1 months, but learning from his past relationships (yeah he told me his past relationships and the reasons he broke up as well, which make me feel weird and honestly sad sometimes when I learnt how he was) he used to chase the girls and really had a dating life. I decided to give him space and took my trip alone, and seems he felt the distance I created and called me and talked like the good old days, so I took chance and asked him when a man likes a woman will he try any moment to be with her, and his answer was, well, majority would be like that, but there are some minorities like, it's the characteristic of the man not want to see the woman too much, or the man has a lot of packages to take care of atm, or simply he doesn't like it. If it was a face to face then I could confront him, but via call I don't want to make any argument, and it's really bugging me now. I feel like he sees me as a more than colleague less than girlfriend, but then it can't explain the lips kisses and the romantic hugs he gives me everytime we are together. Should I keep giving him space and time?

i hope i am wrong but i get a sense this is not going anywhere.

@Mayfly513

Yes I could feel it that we are both weighting if we should have a step further. And I actually rejected his French kisses twice even I didn't realize why I did it, I think it made him feel I am not ready or not like him.

After the recent talk with him I could go to sleep very well and not wonder if I still have any feeling for him, but the next morning it's like an empty hole. I hope it's just a normal reaction when things turned out not as I predicted.

For your advice, thanks so much and I fully agree to that, I must always put myself first, and independent and enjoy life are the two words people use to describe me and I am sure it was what attracted him. But these days due to stress of work and finance I turned to be vulnerable and insecure when i was with him, while he is so sensitive to sense it and I think it stressed him too that push him away. Anyhow it seems we rolled back to the friends stage now (or at least it's what I feel. From him I feel the consistency. When I was nervous he immediately take my hand and hold it tight, and we were in public and many colleagues were around us that time, and he told me he doesn't care if anybody has any opinion about his relationship with me.) so I think I should act just as a friend now right? I actually have a list of things that I like and dislike in him, when I considered if I would be happy with being with him, and the "like" are long, so I made them into appreciation cards and put them in my Xmas card. Now would it be like I am trying if I send him them? He seems lost confident easily these days so the original purpose of them is to cheer him up.

@Jeane:

My heart skipped a beat when read this, but yes it was my gut feeling too. Since we still see each other everyday at work, and I do have the feeling left and he does still care, I think the only option I have is to be patient and let it be...

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@Mayfly513

I'd advise you not to send the Xmas card with the list.

LIbras love to be in love, buT when they aren't certain or until they commit they are flighty and run if someone is too into them. You will probably scare him.

Stay as a friend and do you. That's my best advice

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Yeah I got it. Put me into his shoes I would do the same as well. Thanks a lot dear, you helped to save my weekend.

Honestly at the moment I wrote the post, I already asked myself, if he made me feel uncertain then why would I consider more, but yeah as a Virgo I can't do anything but to overthink and then need someone to talk and listen to so that I could finally get it out of my mind...

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@Mayfly513

I'd advise you not to send the Xmas card with the list.

LIbras love to be in love, buT when they aren't certain or until they commit they are flighty and run if someone is too into them. You will probably scare him.

Stay as a friend and do you. That's my best advice

Yeah I got it. Put me into his shoes I would do the same as well. Thanks a lot dear, you helped to save my weekend.

Honestly at the moment I wrote the post, I already asked myself, if he made me feel uncertain then why would I consider more, but yeah as a Virgo I can't do anything but to overthink and then need someone to talk and listen to so that I could finally get it out of my mind...

Trust me I get it. I'm a Virgo moon I over analyze everything.

Being with a libra, I'm constantly over thinking in just don't let him know. And this forum has helped

My libra self proclaims he's "hard to read"

That couldn't be more true.

But it's been 3 months and going well.

It's teaching me some independence and to go with the flow.

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That explains!

I feel myself sometimes very complicated, like I agreed to go with the flow but then I let the others normal dating scenarios bugged me why he doesn't ask for going out in weekend though seeing each other 5 days per week also not giving me much excitement to see him in weekend, but I still feel unwanted, luckily all are in thoughts and so far I still could keep patient voice. Any other tips I can learn from you? Being go with the flow is really really difficult for a Virgo 😢

I smiled at the Virgo trait of being thorough in overthinking, by writing a list of likes and dislikes. I picture it being laminated. 😉

I’m a libra female, and can as a libra put my two scents in.

As a libra I would personally feel a bit self-conscious receiving a list like that. But it could depend on how it’s written, we do enjoy our compliments… 😉

My first thought is that you said that you aren’t looking for a relationship right now. A libra will pick up on this immediately, since we are always closely observing what's mirrored back to us. Virgo’s aren’t alone in overt-thinking/over-analysing. How he is responding to you now, might be because of how you've been responding to him?

And going with the flow and not looking for a relationship, are two separate things. Going with the flow, for me as a libra anyway, is more about focusing on creating a bond of friendship and letting things unfold naturally. I’m always looking for potential for closeness, but I also need my space. He might have been testing the potential for closeness when he opened up to you.

As a libra female, I’m pretty laid-back in the initial stages of dating. I do enjoy charming my (potential) date silly, 😉 - but there will always be a beat in between as I’m observing him closely. I think a libra man is similar, he’ll be looking for closeness, but need his space before taking action.

You also say, that due to stress you became vulnerable and insecure in his company, and it might have pushed him away. Libras are sensitive, yes, but we are very tolerant and understanding, we're not easily scared away. It’s fine if someone has moments of vulnerability and insecurity, a libra will usually enjoy attempting to make it better, to take on the task to bring back harmony. A libra will want to hold your hand, as he did. But yes, if it’s at a level or volume (too early on) he might be thrown off balance. And when his precious scales swing a bit, the natural impulse will be to retract until he has gained ecuriblium again. He won’t want you to see his scales being unbalanced any way, he’ll want to appear perfectly charming all the time.

My advice is to focus on the friendship and show off the virgo independent qualities.

The qualities I as a libra like in my virgo friends, I would assume a libra man would find appealing in a virgo woman: Virgo women usually come across as women with a strong sense of self, and some can be a bit feisty with a “don’t mess with me” attitude. I think a typical, confident libra would have fun with the challenge of a virgo. Typically, virgos can also come across as very steady and characterized by routine / the “norm” of how to do things. And I think that side of virgos would inspire the mischievous side of a libra, and the libra would want to try to keep the virgo on her/his toes.

In my experience, many virgos have an incredibly goofy side to them as well, so I think there is potential for a lot of laughs.

As an air sign we’re ruled by the mind, so challenge your libra and pile up glimpses of the different and contrasting sides to your personality. Libras love contrasts, it’s more fun stuff to weigh on our scales! 😊 This could spark the inner curiosity of a typical libra, which could in turn make him want to spark a friendship into something more.

* until he has gained equilibrium again.

I feel like we're both interested in the same man. Word for word, I would have typed the same thing and the same experiences and the same conversations. I was single for 5 years when I met this libra. We clicked almost immediately and we chatted everyday. After a few months we both realized the attraction. But relationships scared me and I knew he wasn't ready. He had family troubles and his dad was sick and dying and money problems too. It was hard for me to ease my anxiety of letting somebody into my life and since he wasn't ready I decided to put some distance between us so that I can move on. Except we have mutual friends and hence ended up meetng up alot. he too would kiss my head and cheeks and sometimes kiss my lips too and would always have his hand on my shoulders lke I was his gf. he too told me everything about his life even though he never tells anybody else. I know all his friends and they all say he's very private and doesn't have a best friend per say. He too never asked me out on a date.. but the problems started when I started looking at other guys and one of his friends told me he liked me. After that he realized he may lose me by the time his issues were solved and would call me and come to my house very upset that I might move on from him. I asked him what he wanted and that I ready to take a chance and get to know someone and that i'd be glad if it was him.. but that it was up to him if he was ready. He lost his dad eventually and I left him alone. Although he would reach out to me when he was feeling down. Finally last month I gave up and blocked him from facebook and whatsapp and started getting to know this scopio dude.. he has been trying to call me now in a panic but I haven't answered his calls. I picked up an unknown number once and when I heard his voice I cut the line. I feel bad for what Im doing to him, but Ive waited 4 years for him to make up his mind and he hasn't. I still love him i guess, but unless I know he's ready, Im not going to give in to him, Libra's a known to be indecisive and I feel that by you giving him a chance, he will be toying with your feelings like my one did mine. Tell him straight up what u need from him and give him space. If he comes back to u, then he's urs if he doesn't then you always knew. I hope this long rant helps.

Libras sucks... not gonna lie.

From what I’ve observed from my Libra brother the girls he takes it slow with...develop a friendship with, have more of a hold in his life.

So either that or this libra isn’t interested in you ‘like that’.

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Libras sucks... not gonna lie.

Yeah I agree Libra females can cock hop with the best and they seem to be big players or they get the grass is always greener syndrome.

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I don't like other Libras majority of the time or they are uninteresting.

I'd probably hate me too 😂

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From what I’ve observed from my Libra brother the girls he takes it slow with...develop a friendship with, have more of a hold in his life.

This. 😊

The fact is anyway that he hasn't asked you out, just the two of you yet, And there is obviously a reason for that. No point in being confrontational or impatient about that. Likely to make a libra surly, real quick. By no means ignore him, but give him space and build on the friendship. A libra will find a way to charm YOU, if they like you.

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I smiled at the Virgo trait of being thorough in overthinking, by writing a list of likes and dislikes. I picture it being laminated. 😉

I’m a libra female, and can as a libra put my two scents in.

As a libra I would personally feel a bit self-conscious receiving a list like that. But it could depend on how it’s written, we do enjoy our compliments… 😉

My first thought is that you said that you aren’t looking for a relationship right now. A libra will pick up on this immediately, since we are always closely observing what's mirrored back to us. Virgo’s aren’t alone in overt-thinking/over-analysing. How he is responding to you now, might be because of how you've been responding to him?

And going with the flow and not looking for a relationship, are two separate things. Going with the flow, for me as a libra anyway, is more about focusing on creating a bond of friendship and letting things unfold naturally. I’m always looking for potential for closeness, but I also need my space. He might have been testing the potential for closeness when he opened up to you.

As a libra female, I’m pretty laid-back in the initial stages of dating. I do enjoy charming my (potential) date silly, 😉 - but there will always be a beat in between as I’m observing him closely. I think a libra man is similar, he’ll be looking for closeness, but need his space before taking action.

You also say, that due to stress you became vulnerable and insecure in his company, and it might have pushed him away. Libras are sensitive, yes, but we are very tolerant and understanding, we're not easily scared away. It’s fine if someone has moments of vulnerability and insecurity, a libra will usually enjoy attempting to make it better, to take on the task to bring back harmony. A libra will want to hold your hand, as he did. But yes, if it’s at a level or volume (too early on) he might be thrown off balance. And when his precious scales swing a bit, the natural impulse will be to retract until he has gained ecuriblium again. He won’t want you to see his scales being unbalanced any way, he’ll want to appear perfectly charming all the time.

My advice is to focus on the friendship and show off the virgo independent qualities.

The qualities I as a libra like in my virgo friends, I would assume a libra man would find appealing in a virgo woman: Virgo women usually come across as women with a strong sense of self, and some can be a bit feisty with a “don’t mess with me” attitude. I think a typical, confident libra would have fun with the challenge of a virgo. Typically, virgos can also come across as very steady and characterized by routine / the “norm” of how to do things. And I think that side of virgos would inspire the mischievous side of a libra, and the libra would want to try to keep the virgo on her/his toes.

In my experience, many virgos have an incredibly goofy side to them as well, so I think there is potential for a lot of laughs.

As an air sign we’re ruled by the mind, so challenge your libra and pile up glimpses of the different and contrasting sides to your personality. Libras love contrasts, it’s more fun stuff to weigh on our scales! 😊 This could spark the inner curiosity of a typical libra, which could in turn make him want to spark a friendship into something more.

Thank you!

The list is about very small thing he did attracted me, like, "...when you put your hand around my back to protect me when we cross the streets" "...when you immediately notice and help the new joinee in our company". Actually it was not the original idea to bring up a list, because they were prepared as appreciation cards for him, when I saw him lost his confidence during the time of struggling with many stressful days. I added the dislike thing when I felt distance and wanted to know if these dislikes will bother me or I can live with it 🙂 Unfortunately I didn't have chance to give him the cards 2 weeks ago so I thought about putting it in the Xmas greetings.

And I realized one thing I might mis-explained. When he kissed me suddenly and said he wants to find back the feeling of kissing someone deep and starting a relationship, he asked me if I have any concern, and I told him since things are too fast, I am worry if I am in a bet again about who can win me (it happened once and it's really hurt, and I am kind of the hot girl of our company, who is described by colleagues as an idol with beauty, talents, confidence and charms, and so far I didn't show any interest to the guys in the same company after 6yrs working here) so he said it means I don't have enough trust, then we should take it naturally and go with the flow like I said.

Yes I know it's also me and some negative stories around me made me changed and be less understanding towards him - I just read our conversations log and realized it. And I do feel thankful to him for giving me space when I am moody and then come back when he sees I am fine. That's what I did to him before my trip, to tell him I am by his side if he needs a chit chat to get away from stress, he said okay he got it and wished me nice trip, and I stopped the initial contact mode, just respond to him. Is it a correct way to give a space to a Libra? And is it common answer of a Libra for everything: "it depends"? And I think a Libra is a very confident sign as well, but he seems still not think I do multi-dating or at least accepting all the other guys chasing me.

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@Jeane:

My heart skipped a beat when read this, but yes it was my gut feeling too. Since we still see each other everyday at work, and I do have the feeling left and he does still care, I think the only option I have is to be patient and let it be...

No, if something is bugging you then talk to him. That's the only way you'll have the answer you need

" Let it be " will lead you nowhere with some Libras, especially if you rejected him two times before

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I want the answer when we are in good mood good environment so I am still finding the suitable timing dear. I do it because I know myself would just throw an answer to let things done if I am not ready but the other one push me.

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I feel like we're both interested in the same man. Word for word, I would have typed the same thing and the same experiences and the same conversations. I was single for 5 years when I met this libra. We clicked almost immediately and we chatted everyday. After a few months we both realized the attraction. But relationships scared me and I knew he wasn't ready. He had family troubles and his dad was sick and dying and money problems too. It was hard for me to ease my anxiety of letting somebody into my life and since he wasn't ready I decided to put some distance between us so that I can move on. Except we have mutual friends and hence ended up meetng up alot. he too would kiss my head and cheeks and sometimes kiss my lips too and would always have his hand on my shoulders lke I was his gf. he too told me everything about his life even though he never tells anybody else. I know all his friends and they all say he's very private and doesn't have a best friend per say. He too never asked me out on a date.. but the problems started when I started looking at other guys and one of his friends told me he liked me. After that he realized he may lose me by the time his issues were solved and would call me and come to my house very upset that I might move on from him. I asked him what he wanted and that I ready to take a chance and get to know someone and that i'd be glad if it was him.. but that it was up to him if he was ready. He lost his dad eventually and I left him alone. Although he would reach out to me when he was feeling down. Finally last month I gave up and blocked him from facebook and whatsapp and started getting to know this scopio dude.. he has been trying to call me now in a panic but I haven't answered his calls. I picked up an unknown number once and when I heard his voice I cut the line. I feel bad for what Im doing to him, but Ive waited 4 years for him to make up his mind and he hasn't. I still love him i guess, but unless I know he's ready, Im not going to give in to him, Libra's a known to be indecisive and I feel that by you giving him a chance, he will be toying with your feelings like my one did mine. Tell him straight up what u need from him and give him space. If he comes back to u, then he's urs if he doesn't then you always knew. I hope this long rant helps.

Oh dear yes it seems the two are so similar! And I hope opening the story again to share with me didn't give you any bad feeling about memorizing what's in the past.

I do still think that our story is way too fast. Even though I met him two months before and he knows me, I didn't have any memory about it, till the time only small group hangout for drinking, and we clicked immediately and two weeks later he kissed and asked to start. And now it's just near to two months but all the stuffs.

We see each other Mon to Fri, having lunch and getting coffee together, and weekends are usually 3 hrs talk on Fri and Sat nights, after we are both back from socializing with our friends, and Sunday is like no contact day unless one of us has something and need mental comfort. I can read his pattern and I can get his response immediately when I want, but the thinking about how much effort he put when chased the other girls (last one was 2yrs ago) and now make me feel sad. A mature version of me thinks, no he does put effort for me too. We live exactly across the city, and driving me home from the company after work sometimes when he has no appointment and after every time we hangout and drink means he needs to drive a big circle around the city, and (thanks to this forum I learnt it is Libra trait to be sensitive) he notices immediately when I had bad meetings or bad works because he sit behind me, and always come around to make sure I have him to talk if I want. And he canceled the dinners with his family and friends (I still feel uncomfortable about me for making him do it) because I was not in good mood so he stayed with me. But a younger version of me, seeing how other guys putting effort on me, tell me he is not ready or not that much interested yet.

He did ask me one, if I hangout and flirt with someone because that person has flirted with me (and he described the flirt in the way that it was him flirting with me by learning all the special things I love and do it my way), but not thinking about a long term aka serious relationship, so I told him I still can enjoy life vey well and not miss chances to things I like even though I am single, so if I start with someone I of course being prepared to commit not just play. And I repeated that to him again, when on that night he was tired and asked me instead driving to home can we stay in a hotel but I said if he is tired he gets the hotel, I will stay awhile to make sure he is fine and I take the cab to home. The result is he drove me home, then say sorry to me because he was so selfish, since when he asked me if I want to sleep with him, I said I want to be intimate yes but at a level of a relationship not one night stand because I respect both of us and our colleague-ship to not jump into bed too early.

I an trying to find a suitable timing for us to have the talk in a way not stressing both of us. I still do not know how I see him next Monday when I am back. I hope the gut feelings can tell me something so that I can decide easier if I do want stay.

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I feel like we're both interested in the same man. Word for word, I would have typed the same thing and the same experiences and the same conversations. I was single for 5 years when I met this libra. We clicked almost immediately and we chatted everyday. After a few months we both realized the attraction. But relationships scared me and I knew he wasn't ready. He had family troubles and his dad was sick and dying and money problems too. It was hard for me to ease my anxiety of letting somebody into my life and since he wasn't ready I decided to put some distance between us so that I can move on. Except we have mutual friends and hence ended up meetng up alot. he too would kiss my head and cheeks and sometimes kiss my lips too and would always have his hand on my shoulders lke I was his gf. he too told me everything about his life even though he never tells anybody else. I know all his friends and they all say he's very private and doesn't have a best friend per say. He too never asked me out on a date.. but the problems started when I started looking at other guys and one of his friends told me he liked me. After that he realized he may lose me by the time his issues were solved and would call me and come to my house very upset that I might move on from him. I asked him what he wanted and that I ready to take a chance and get to know someone and that i'd be glad if it was him.. but that it was up to him if he was ready. He lost his dad eventually and I left him alone. Although he would reach out to me when he was feeling down. Finally last month I gave up and blocked him from facebook and whatsapp and started getting to know this scopio dude.. he has been trying to call me now in a panic but I haven't answered his calls. I picked up an unknown number once and when I heard his voice I cut the line. I feel bad for what Im doing to him, but Ive waited 4 years for him to make up his mind and he hasn't. I still love him i guess, but unless I know he's ready, Im not going to give in to him, Libra's a known to be indecisive and I feel that by you giving him a chance, he will be toying with your feelings like my one did mine. Tell him straight up what u need from him and give him space. If he comes back to u, then he's urs if he doesn't then you always knew. I hope this long rant helps.

Oh dear yes it seems the two are so similar! And I hope opening the story again to share with me didn't give you any bad feeling about memorizing what's in the past.

I do still think that our story is way too fast. Even though I met him two months before and he knows me, I didn't have any memory about it, till the time only small group hangout for drinking, and we clicked immediately and two weeks later he kissed and asked to start. And now it's just near to two months but all the stuffs.

We see each other Mon to Fri, having lunch and getting coffee together, and weekends are usually 3 hrs talk on Fri and Sat nights, after we are both back from socializing with our friends, and Sunday is like no contact day unless one of us has something and need mental comfort. I can read his pattern and I can get his response immediately when I want, but the thinking about how much effort he put when chased the other girls (last one was 2yrs ago) and now make me feel sad. A mature version of me thinks, no he does put effort for me too. We live exactly across the city, and driving me home from the company after work sometimes when he has no appointment and after every time we hangout and drink means he needs to drive a big circle around the city, and (thanks to this forum I learnt it is Libra trait to be sensitive) he notices immediately when I had bad meetings or bad works because he sit behind me, and always come around to make sure I have him to talk if I want. And he canceled the dinners with his family and friends (I still feel uncomfortable about me for making him do it) because I was not in good mood so he stayed with me. But a younger version of me, seeing how other guys putting effort on me, tell me he is not ready or not that much interested yet.

He did ask me one, if I hangout and flirt with someone because that person has flirted with me (and he described the flirt in the way that it was him flirting with me by learning all the special things I love and do it my way), but not thinking about a long term aka serious relationship, so I told him I still can enjoy life vey well and not miss chances to things I like even though I am single, so if I start with someone I of course being prepared to commit not just play. And I repeated that to him again, when on that night he was tired and asked me instead driving to home can we stay in a hotel but I said if he is tired he gets the hotel, I will stay awhile to make sure he is fine and I take the cab to home. The result is he drove me home, then say sorry to me because he was so selfish, since when he asked me if I want to sleep with him, I said I want to be intimate yes but at a level of a relationship not one night stand because I respect both of us and our colleague-ship to not jump into bed too early.

I an trying to find a suitable timing for us to have the talk in a way not stressing both of us. I still do not know how I see him next Monday when I am back. I hope the gut feelings can tell me something so that I can decide easier if I do want stay.

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I think we're also both very much alike. I told him I haven't done it with anyone in many years and I won't end up in a one night stand with anyone unless I know he's going to be serious with me. My libra though never tried to be alone with me after that. Stating that he didn't want me to break my principles and that he respected me for who I am. After a year and half of being friends it happened on my initiation. He wasn't willing to but I said I was ready and that regardless of his issues he was facing that I trusted him and wanted to be intimate with someone and it was that I trusted. So it happened. But After that he felt like shit and said he doesn't ever want to use me for sex and that unless he was willing to be with me that he wouldn't do it again, even if he wanted to.. I agreed too and it never happened again. He would come and see me but never alone. Always with friends and make sure he left before anything happened. I hope it works out for you, but I had to take the hard step and block him as I felt he was only holding me back from meeting someone else that could make happy. No I am not upset about talking about it. I'm over it. Always am.. I hope it works out for you. Libra's are really caring and sensitive and if you can get them to decide and settle down, they will be the most amazing friends/partners you can have. Wish you luck.

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I feel like we're both interested in the same man. Word for word, I would have typed the same thing and the same experiences and the same conversations. I was single for 5 years when I met this libra. We clicked almost immediately and we chatted everyday. After a few months we both realized the attraction. But relationships scared me and I knew he wasn't ready. He had family troubles and his dad was sick and dying and money problems too. It was hard for me to ease my anxiety of letting somebody into my life and since he wasn't ready I decided to put some distance between us so that I can move on. Except we have mutual friends and hence ended up meetng up alot. he too would kiss my head and cheeks and sometimes kiss my lips too and would always have his hand on my shoulders lke I was his gf. he too told me everything about his life even though he never tells anybody else. I know all his friends and they all say he's very private and doesn't have a best friend per say. He too never asked me out on a date.. but the problems started when I started looking at other guys and one of his friends told me he liked me. After that he realized he may lose me by the time his issues were solved and would call me and come to my house very upset that I might move on from him. I asked him what he wanted and that I ready to take a chance and get to know someone and that i'd be glad if it was him.. but that it was up to him if he was ready. He lost his dad eventually and I left him alone. Although he would reach out to me when he was feeling down. Finally last month I gave up and blocked him from facebook and whatsapp and started getting to know this scopio dude.. he has been trying to call me now in a panic but I haven't answered his calls. I picked up an unknown number once and when I heard his voice I cut the line. I feel bad for what Im doing to him, but Ive waited 4 years for him to make up his mind and he hasn't. I still love him i guess, but unless I know he's ready, Im not going to give in to him, Libra's a known to be indecisive and I feel that by you giving him a chance, he will be toying with your feelings like my one did mine. Tell him straight up what u need from him and give him space. If he comes back to u, then he's urs if he doesn't then you always knew. I hope this long rant helps.

Oh dear yes it seems the two are so similar! And I hope opening the story again to share with me didn't give you any bad feeling about memorizing what's in the past.

I do still think that our story is way too fast. Even though I met him two months before and he knows me, I didn't have any memory about it, till the time only small group hangout for drinking, and we clicked immediately and two weeks later he kissed and asked to start. And now it's just near to two months but all the stuffs.

We see each other Mon to Fri, having lunch and getting coffee together, and weekends are usually 3 hrs talk on Fri and Sat nights, after we are both back from socializing with our friends, and Sunday is like no contact day unless one of us has something and need mental comfort. I can read his pattern and I can get his response immediately when I want, but the thinking about how much effort he put when chased the other girls (last one was 2yrs ago) and now make me feel sad. A mature version of me thinks, no he does put effort for me too. We live exactly across the city, and driving me home from the company after work sometimes when he has no appointment and after every time we hangout and drink means he needs to drive a big circle around the city, and (thanks to this forum I learnt it is Libra trait to be sensitive) he notices immediately when I had bad meetings or bad works because he sit behind me, and always come around to make sure I have him to talk if I want. And he canceled the dinners with his family and friends (I still feel uncomfortable about me for making him do it) because I was not in good mood so he stayed with me. But a younger version of me, seeing how other guys putting effort on me, tell me he is not ready or not that much interested yet.

He did ask me one, if I hangout and flirt with someone because that person has flirted with me (and he described the flirt in the way that it was him flirting with me by learning all the special things I love and do it my way), but not thinking about a long term aka serious relationship, so I told him I still can enjoy life vey well and not miss chances to things I like even though I am single, so if I start with someone I of course being prepared to commit not just play. And I repeated that to him again, when on that night he was tired and asked me instead driving to home can we stay in a hotel but I said if he is tired he gets the hotel, I will stay awhile to make sure he is fine and I take the cab to home. The result is he drove me home, then say sorry to me because he was so selfish, since when he asked me if I want to sleep with him, I said I want to be intimate yes but at a level of a relationship not one night stand because I respect both of us and our colleague-ship to not jump into bed too early.

I an trying to find a suitable timing for us to have the talk in a way not stressing both of us. I still do not know how I see him next Monday when I am back. I hope the gut feelings can tell me something so that I can decide easier if I do want stay.

I think we're also both very much alike. I told him I haven't done it with anyone in many years and I won't end up in a one night stand with anyone unless I know he's going to be serious with me. My libra though never tried to be alone with me after that. Stating that he didn't want me to break my principles and that he respected me for who I am. After a year and half of being friends it happened on my initiation. He wasn't willing to but I said I was ready and that regardless of his issues he was facing that I trusted him and wanted to be intimate with someone and it was that I trusted. So it happened. But After that he felt like shit and said he doesn't ever want to use me for sex and that unless he was willing to be with me that he wouldn't do it again, even if he wanted to.. I agreed too and it never happened again. He would come and see me but never alone. Always with friends and make sure he left before anything happened. I hope it works out for you, but I had to take the hard step and block him as I felt he was only holding me back from meeting someone else that could make happy. No I am not upset about talking about it. I'm over it. Always am.. I hope it works out for you. Libra's are really caring and sensitive and if you can get them to decide and settle down, they will be the most amazing friends/partners you can have. Wish you luck.

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Thanks dear, yours and others' comments here help me to put myself calm and patient again. Being away was the way I thought can help me to distant from him but turned out I couldn't resist from answering him and we communicate daily as usual. I hope I do not have to take the hard step. Our friends actually think in reverse way that I am the one doesn't want to bring this forward and rejected him. I just learnt it and I must solve it when I am back, but I do still afraid of confronting him as it might push he away forever.

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Posted by Alexa_JP

Posted by Starslikeyou
I smiled at the Virgo trait of being thorough in overthinking, by writing a list of likes and dislikes. I picture it being laminated. 😉

I’m a libra female, and can as a libra put my two scents in.

As a libra I would personally feel a bit self-conscious receiving a list like that. But it could depend on how it’s written, we do enjoy our compliments… 😉

My first thought is that you said that you aren’t looking for a relationship right now. A libra will pick up on this immediately, since we are always closely observing what's mirrored back to us. Virgo’s aren’t alone in overt-thinking/over-analysing. How he is responding to you now, might be because of how you've been responding to him?

And going with the flow and not looking for a relationship, are two separate things. Going with the flow, for me as a libra anyway, is more about focusing on creating a bond of friendship and letting things unfold naturally. I’m always looking for potential for closeness, but I also need my space. He might have been testing the potential for closeness when he opened up to you.

As a libra female, I’m pretty laid-back in the initial stages of dating. I do enjoy charming my (potential) date silly, 😉 - but there will always be a beat in between as I’m observing him closely. I think a libra man is similar, he’ll be looking for closeness, but need his space before taking action.

You also say, that due to stress you became vulnerable and insecure in his company, and it might have pushed him away. Libras are sensitive, yes, but we are very tolerant and understanding, we're not easily scared away. It’s fine if someone has moments of vulnerability and insecurity, a libra will usually enjoy attempting to make it better, to take on the task to bring back harmony. A libra will want to hold your hand, as he did. But yes, if it’s at a level or volume (too early on) he might be thrown off balance. And when his precious scales swing a bit, the natural impulse will be to retract until he has gained ecuriblium again. He won’t want you to see his scales being unbalanced any way, he’ll want to appear perfectly charming all the time.

My advice is to focus on the friendship and show off the virgo independent qualities.

The qualities I as a libra like in my virgo friends, I would assume a libra man would find appealing in a virgo woman: Virgo women usually come across as women with a strong sense of self, and some can be a bit feisty with a “don’t mess with me” attitude. I think a typical, confident libra would have fun with the challenge of a virgo. Typically, virgos can also come across as very steady and characterized by routine / the “norm” of how to do things. And I think that side of virgos would inspire the mischievous side of a libra, and the libra would want to try to keep the virgo on her/his toes.

In my experience, many virgos have an incredibly goofy side to them as well, so I think there is potential for a lot of laughs.

As an air sign we’re ruled by the mind, so challenge your libra and pile up glimpses of the different and contrasting sides to your personality. Libras love contrasts, it’s more fun stuff to weigh on our scales! 😊 This could spark the inner curiosity of a typical libra, which could in turn make him want to spark a friendship into something more.

Thank you!

The list is about very small thing he did attracted me, like, "...when you put your hand around my back to protect me when we cross the streets" "...when you immediately notice and help the new joinee in our company". Actually it was not the original idea to bring up a list, because they were prepared as appreciation cards for him, when I saw him lost his confidence during the time of struggling with many stressful days. I added the dislike thing when I felt distance and wanted to know if these dislikes will bother me or I can live with it 🙂 Unfortunately I didn't have chance to give him the cards 2 weeks ago so I thought about putting it in the Xmas greetings.

And I realized one thing I might mis-explained. When he kissed me suddenly and said he wants to find back the feeling of kissing someone deep and starting a relationship, he asked me if I have any concern, and I told him since things are too fast, I am worry if I am in a bet again about who can win me (it happened once and it's really hurt, and I am kind of the hot girl of our company, who is described by colleagues as an idol with beauty, talents, confidence and charms, and so far I didn't show any interest to the guys in the same company after 6yrs working here) so he said it means I don't have enough trust, then we should take it naturally and go with the flow like I said.

Yes I know it's also me and some negative stories around me made me changed and be less understanding towards him - I just read our conversations log and realized it. And I do feel thankful to him for giving me space when I am moody and then come back when he sees I am fine. That's what I did to him before my trip, to tell him I am by his side if he needs a chit chat to get away from stress, he said okay he got it and wished me nice trip, and I stopped the initial contact mode, just respond to him. Is it a correct way to give a space to a Libra? And is it common answer of a Libra for everything: "it depends"? And I think a Libra is a very confident sign as well, but he seems still not think I do multi-dating or at least accepting all the other guys chasing me.

Im only speaking for myself but I never did the bet to to see who can win her crap, I also do say it depends a lot.

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Yes I do know that not every man is like the bastard I met before, and it was just what i told him from beginning, but I do now believe it was all destiny that we were pulled to each other.

Posted by 2Moon
Maybe this can help:

https://www.blackbook.one/virgo-woman-libra-man-romance/



The informations on this website used to be different.. like a month or two ago.

I guess the owner of the website updated some stuff...

Time to read everything again.

lol

Hmm, the Libra woman-taurus male is eerily accurate. Most accurate post about this couple I have read yet. Kudos.

So, an update. We had the talk, I didn't plan to have it yet but he suddenly brought up the topic by saying he doesn't understand something, like it is destiny and there is feeling, but he can't go ahead, so I decided to ask him about us, and he said the feeling for me is still there but he can't reach yet the switch point to make it a relationship and he feels it will waste my time. I told him it's very normal because relationship needs time to be developed, and he said he doesn't want to go back to friends because he likes me more than friends. I sensed he was so confused, and he doesn't have enough confidence that he cans bring me what I want because he thinks he is selfish and not care for me enough, and I took it as annexcuse and told him we should stop here, and he said maybe it's a good decision. I am glad it came at the moment when I finally over my stress and be me again, confident and brave enough to accept this. Just it's hard to face each other daily when my feeling is still there, and his, too, through his actions and the touches even though he tried to hold it after I am back from my trip. But I think I will overcome it well. Thanks to everybody for the nice tips about getting back myself first. Sadly it didn't work out but I believe for any man any sign, a worry and losing confident girl isn't attractive. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Posted by LadyNeptune
From what I’ve observed from my Libra brother the girls he takes it slow with...develop a friendship with, have more of a hold in his life.

So either that or this libra isn’t interested in you ‘like that’.

This is 150% true. The slower the friendship or courtship the stronger the chances of winning my heart.

Posted by Alexa_JP
So, an update. We had the talk, I didn't plan to have it yet but he suddenly brought up the topic by saying he doesn't understand something, like it is destiny and there is feeling, but he can't go ahead, so I decided to ask him about us, and he said the feeling for me is still there but he can't reach yet the switch point to make it a relationship and he feels it will waste my time. I told him it's very normal because relationship needs time to be developed, and he said he doesn't want to go back to friends because he likes me more than friends. I sensed he was so confused, and he doesn't have enough confidence that he cans bring me what I want because he thinks he is selfish and not care for me enough, and I took it as annexcuse and told him we should stop here, and he said maybe it's a good decision. I am glad it came at the moment when I finally over my stress and be me again, confident and brave enough to accept this. Just it's hard to face each other daily when my feeling is still there, and his, too, through his actions and the touches even though he tried to hold it after I am back from my trip. But I think I will overcome it well. Thanks to everybody for the nice tips about getting back myself first. Sadly it didn't work out but I believe for any man any sign, a worry and losing confident girl isn't attractive. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Even though it didn't work out, it was handled well. Sensible Virgo woman and smooth Libra man. 🙂

You are a friend, who he deems easy to talk to. We are cardinals signs - leaders - we initiate action when we want something easily and effortlessly. We are direct unlike the mutable signs and some fixed signs. We do not move sideways like the cancer, or offer subtle hints like the earth, we are direct leaders. When a Libra likes you, there will be no second-guessing.

We live for love, so, no earth quake, hurricane, tsunami, or any other reason you are giving to deny the harsh reality of his lack of interest, will stop us. So love yourself enough to accept this rejection and keep it pushin.

I'm having an similar problem with a Libra man that I've been dealing with for about 3 to 4 years when I first seen him me and my friend went to his house and my friend was dating his friend to make a long story short he started feeling me I was crying in front of him because I just had and bad breakup with my ex he held me I was so drunk so we went to sleep at night cuddled up he didn't try to have sex with me so after you left from each other you can start by saying how much he liked me but I didn't think he was serious so I used to block him from texting me and calling me then he will call me from someone else number besides the one on he will contact me when he wanted to I didn't seem like he was serious and I didn't want to get my feeling so long so I'll just keep blocking him after that I'll take him serious off and on until he makes me mad he wasn't consistent he's like hell just tell me what I wanted to hear but reminding you we only have sex 4 times one day we chill together and I told him I didn't want to 2 mess with him no more and he went off and had sex with my friend I forgave him and he still lying about it to this day so now I told him that I have a boyfriend so he can leave me alone and that hurt my feelings anymore that he already have he still sticks around text me everyday asking me what I'm doing but the last time I was with him I seen a girl text him like basically the same thing he was telling me that he likes me and stuff like that she was telling him how he only hit her up at night he hardly called her if he claims you what if I'd say like you say you do you act like it so I'm just thinking to myself like he was telling me the same thing he told everybody I don't know what to do I really like him he tells me how you feel about me all the time he said that he want me to have his baby and he just keep popping messed up and then out I believe that is my fault because I just keep letting him do it but now that I told him I have a boyfriend it's like we don't talk about nothing all he did was ask me what I'm doing same thing you don't have a normal conversation it's so boring I wonder what he wants for me

Posted by Metaworld
You are a friend, who he deems easy to talk to. We are cardinals signs - leaders - we initiate action when we want something easily and effortlessly. We are direct unlike the mutable signs and some fixed signs. We do not move sideways like the cancer, or offer subtle hints like the earth, we are direct leaders. When a Libra likes you, there will be no second-guessing.

We live for love, so, no earth quake, hurricane, tsunami, or any other reason you are giving to deny the harsh reality of his lack of interest, will stop us. So love yourself enough to accept this rejection and keep it pushin.

Truer words couldn't be spoken. When a Libra wants you nothing else is on our minds until that happens. I am a Libra, was married to one and have a Libra brother and 2 Libra sisters. My ex husband was in high pursuit just after he met me with gifts, fancy restaurants, concerts, the sky was the limit. My brothers are the same way when they really want a girl. The problem with my brothers is they lose interest fast with women and start looking for others. My sisters cheat on their boyfriends as there is always other guys waiting for them. I hate to say this but we Libra's do suck.

I don't think Libra and Scorpio is a good match at all. Libra's are sometimes unfaithful, bore easily and like to give attention to whomever they find interesting. This can set Scorpio off and may set the scene for a homicide.

Posted by Emani2014
I'm having an similar problem with a Libra man that I've been dealing with for about 3 to 4 years when I first seen him me and my friend went to his house and my friend was dating his friend to make a long story short he started feeling me I was crying in front of him because I just had and bad breakup with my ex he held me I was so drunk so we went to sleep at night cuddled up he didn't try to have sex with me so after you left from each other you can start by saying how much he liked me but I didn't think he was serious so I used to block him from texting me and calling me then he will call me from someone else number besides the one on he will contact me when he wanted to I didn't seem like he was serious and I didn't want to get my feeling so long so I'll just keep blocking him after that I'll take him serious off and on until he makes me mad he wasn't consistent he's like hell just tell me what I wanted to hear but reminding you we only have sex 4 times one day we chill together and I told him I didn't want to 2 mess with him no more and he went off and had sex with my friend I forgave him and he still lying about it to this day so now I told him that I have a boyfriend so he can leave me alone and that hurt my feelings anymore that he already have he still sticks around text me everyday asking me what I'm doing but the last time I was with him I seen a girl text him like basically the same thing he was telling me that he likes me and stuff like that she was telling him how he only hit her up at night he hardly called her if he claims you what if I'd say like you say you do you act like it so I'm just thinking to myself like he was telling me the same thing he told everybody I don't know what to do I really like him he tells me how you feel about me all the time he said that he want me to have his baby and he just keep popping messed up and then out I believe that is my fault because I just keep letting him do it but now that I told him I have a boyfriend it's like we don't talk about nothing all he did was ask me what I'm doing same thing you don't have a normal conversation it's so boring I wonder what he wants for me

is this just one sentence?