@boxcarmirnta
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Ugh! I invited my crush to visit...
Do Leos Like to Make the First Move in Relationships
Leos often enjoy taking the initiative in romantic pursuits but appreciate genuine effort. They value confidence and enthusiasm, and being pursued can be flattering. However, they also appreciate sincerity and respect for their independence, especially early in a relationship.
Bright side is you'll now find out how serious he is about this crush. Less wasted time. A win in my book.
U did the right thing
Posted by infires
leebs like to make the first move
But if he said ok - then it's ok or strangers on Internet know better?
Posted by infires
leebs like to make the first move
Shit. I kinda tried to back track and make it seem like not a date or anything.... Like just 'my town is awesome'... Sigh..
Posted by LadyNeptune
Bright side is you'll now find out how serious he is about this crush. Less wasted time. A win in my book.
That is true.... And he didn't say no!
If he said yes, why are you stressing?
Posted by infires
leebs like to make the first moveBut if he said ok - then it's ok or strangers on Internet know better?
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I juat have a habit of acting on my feelings immediately and really wish i would pace myself better as to not scare anyone off.... He did say ok though!
Posted by pinkbird03
If he said yes, why are you stressing?
Well i guess cuz saying and doing are two different things...... He may now feel uncomfortable or obligated... And then making conversations weird and forced.. I dunno! I never get crushes so when i do im super nervous like a bumbling idiot jerkface
What does fearing his reaction benefit you? If it was fun then good times - let em roll. Nothing is set in stone
Posted by infires
leebs like to make the first moveShit. I kinda tried to back track and make it seem like not a date or anything.... Like just 'my town is awesome'... Sigh..
the next time, maybe you should let him intiate :3
you still have a chance
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Yes.. I will not bring it up again! See what he does *facepalm*
Posted by pinkbird03
If he said yes, why are you stressing?Well i guess cuz saying and doing are two different things...... He may now feel uncomfortable or obligated... And then making conversations weird and forced.. I dunno! I never get crushes so when i do im super nervous like a bumbling idiot jerkface
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If he wasn't interested, he would have made up some excuse to not meet you. I think you should be more worried about the actual date coming up. Do you have it planned out? That's the bad thing. It seems like you're courting him. But maybe he will turn it around. Let him pay for everything and allow him to make the moves, not you.
Posted by pinkbird03
If he said yes, why are you stressing?Well i guess cuz saying and doing are two different things...... He may now feel uncomfortable or obligated... And then making conversations weird and forced.. I dunno! I never get crushes so when i do im super nervous like a bumbling idiot jerkface
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2 young people on a date! What's the problem? Enjoy.
Posted by pinkbird03
If he said yes, why are you stressing?Well i guess cuz saying and doing are two different things...... He may now feel uncomfortable or obligated... And then making conversations weird and forced.. I dunno! I never get crushes so when i do im super nervous like a bumbling idiot jerkface
If he wasn't interested, he would have made up some excuse to not meet you. I think you should be more worried about the actual date coming up. Do you have it planned out? That's the bad thing. It seems like you're courting him. But maybe he will turn it around. Let him pay for everything and allow him to make the moves, not you.
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No plans at all.... Id like to forget it ever happened quite frankly.. I never trust men to do what they say they're gonna do... Hopefully he will court my ass.. The ball is literally in his court!!
Posted by pinkbird03
If he said yes, why are you stressing?Well i guess cuz saying and doing are two different things...... He may now feel uncomfortable or obligated... And then making conversations weird and forced.. I dunno! I never get crushes so when i do im super nervous like a bumbling idiot jerkface
2 young people on a date! What's the problem? Enjoy.
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First off.. Not young.. Second..... It will likely never happen... Why? Cuz i made it happen too soon..
Posted by Algol-Rising
Why are you facepalming about making the first move. He said yes?
Yes.. Bc i assume he felt pressured and it will never actually happen.. Cuz i pulled the trigger too soon!
Posted by Lunabee
What does fearing his reaction benefit you? If it was fun then good times - let em roll. Nothing is set in stone
Bc its too much pressure throws the whole thing off... Jumped the gun etc blah blah...
You let him know that you are interested in meeting him. He will acknowledge this, probably won't mention anything about it anyway, but he knows his path is open now. If he likes you, he can ask you out anytime without fearing for a refusal. Maybe what you did is actually beneficial 🙂
You should stop overthinking. Be natural, we like this.
Posted by compy
You let him know that you are interested in meeting him. He will acknowledge this, probably won't mention anything about it anyway, but he knows his path is open now. If he likes you, he can ask you out anytime without fearing for a refusal. Maybe what you did is actually beneficial 🙂You should stop overthinking. Be natural, we like this.
Ok! Thank you... I will keep this in mind and not stress.... Haha.. Such a bafoon i am.. 🙂
Wtf are you fretting about, exactly?
My experience told me that they are absolutely treetrunking useless if they like you..... they won't suggest nothing, and in the end you will because well, they like you to do things like that. Patient they be. Lead the way, make the moves and then, when they get bored, they can't be blamed 🙂
Do what you feel is right and if in the end it doesn't work out, don't feel bad about having made an effort, they are real lazy anyway 😉
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Wtf are you fretting about, exactly?
She is a Pisces...... fretting is us no?!
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Wtf are you fretting about, exactly?She is a Pisces...... fretting is us no?!
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She's being retarded.
Fret over something that ACTUALLY happened.
"OH MAH GAWD, I INITIATED. IT'S THE END OF THE WORLD!"
Shut the fuck up, gawd. I fret too, but not over inane shit like this. Stay away from the opposite gender if you're this damned neurotic before anything has actually happened. :/
Short answer- she needs to calm her tits. Life's NOT that difficult.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Wtf are you fretting about, exactly?She is a Pisces...... fretting is us no?!
She's being retarded.
Fret over something that ACTUALLY happened.
"OH MAH GAWD, I INITIATED. IT'S THE END OF THE WORLD!"
Shut the fuck up, gawd. I fret too, but not over inane shit like this. Stay away from the opposite gender if you're this damned neurotic before anything has actually happened. :/
Short answer- she needs to calm her tits. Life's NOT that difficult.
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Shut up. I haven't had a crush in years?? I can fret about whatever the fuck i want. I can be nervous i can vent i can ask for help.. Whatever. This is all brand fucking new to me and I'm not gonna feel even the tiniest bit bad for feeling like a goddamn kid again. Also i seem to recall you and i getting along swimmingly not that long ago.. So maybe you should calm your tits? Hmmm?
Posted by Pisces_Daydreamer
My experience told me that they are absolutely treetrunking useless if they like you..... they won't suggest nothing, and in the end you will because well, they like you to do things like that. Patient they be. Lead the way, make the moves and then, when they get bored, they can't be blamed 🙂Do what you feel is right and if in the end it doesn't work out, don't feel bad about having made an effort, they are real lazy anyway 😉
Theyre useless IF they like you? Yikes sounds like a raw deal.. Haha... See that's EXACTLY what i don't want and was afraid of! As soon as he knows i'm interested it's all over..... He doesn't even have to work for it, like you said.... Fuuhhhhhk that!
@rockyroadicecream - aaaahhhh love that attitude!!
@boxcarmirnta - well...... they are also always capable of pulling you back in too..... I haven't spoken to mine for a couple of weeks because I was fed up with his whining about this and that, always something wrong health wise and he looks after his health too, go figure!! But I know, if he calls, and he will...... well, we will chat like nothing happened....... they are just strange 🙂
rockyroad.... is right though, stop with the fretting.... I am guilty of the same at times, overthinking, doubting etc but that has only been when I have had something to worry about, like he actually did something to make me reassess.. before that it was great! So, just literally enjoy the moment, it's ok for women to do some initiating these days, so don't worry about it!
Should say that although he was the one leading the initial 'messaging' part of the relationship, I actually eventually instigated our first meeting because he ordered some stuff from the UK that I bought back to where we both live...... so it would have happened anyway, but he was absolutely crap at being the one to start it...... once I had done that well then he set us on a routine...... so..... don't worry again!
Posted by Lunabee
What does fearing his reaction benefit you? If it was fun then good times - let em roll. Nothing is set in stoneBc its too much pressure throws the whole thing off... Jumped the gun etc blah blah...
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That's what I mean, there is no benefit from worrying. It's the past. Hakuna matata : )
Posted by infires
leebs like to make the first moveShit. I kinda tried to back track and make it seem like not a date or anything.... Like just 'my town is awesome'... Sigh..
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it's ok - you sort of threw it out there so now lets see if he takes it from there ...
Posted by pinkbird03
If he said yes, why are you stressing?Well i guess cuz saying and doing are two different things...... He may now feel uncomfortable or obligated... And then making conversations weird and forced.. I dunno! I never get crushes so when i do im super nervous like a bumbling idiot jerkface
2 young people on a date! What's the problem? Enjoy.
First off.. Not young.. Second..... It will likely never happen... Why? Cuz i made it happen too soon..
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Don't call stuff on yourself! Everything going to be ok. Not all men created equally stupid! Lol
Posted by pinkbird03
If he said yes, why are you stressing?Well i guess cuz saying and doing are two different things...... He may now feel uncomfortable or obligated... And then making conversations weird and forced.. I dunno! I never get crushes so when i do im super nervous like a bumbling idiot jerkface
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Dude same lmfao. It doesn't happen often but when I have a crush it's like my personality goes out the window and I act like a moron lmao.
Posted by Pisces_Daydreamer
@rockyroadicecream - aaaahhhh love that attitude!!@boxcarmirnta - well...... they are also always capable of pulling you back in too..... I haven't spoken to mine for a couple of weeks because I was fed up with his whining about this and that, always something wrong health wise and he looks after his health too, go figure!! But I know, if he calls, and he will...... well, we will chat like nothing happened....... they are just strange 🙂
rockyroad.... is right though, stop with the fretting.... I am guilty of the same at times, overthinking, doubting etc but that has only been when I have had something to worry about, like he actually did something to make me reassess.. before that it was great! So, just literally enjoy the moment, it's ok for women to do some initiating these days, so don't worry about it!
Yea.. That was just like right after it happened and i was kicking myself!! Time will tell... I expect very little from dudes so...... Meh. How long have you been with yours? I hate whiners!
Posted by pinkbird03
If he said yes, why are you stressing?Well i guess cuz saying and doing are two different things...... He may now feel uncomfortable or obligated... And then making conversations weird and forced.. I dunno! I never get crushes so when i do im super nervous like a bumbling idiot jerkface
Dude same lmfao. It doesn't happen often but when I have a crush it's like my personality goes out the window and I act like a moron lmao.
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Omg exactly... I'm like who tf am i right now?!? I'm trying to retain some semblance of normalcy.....
i can pretty much guarantee the dude will not be initiating contact again.... ERRRRRGHHHH...
when did men forget to have a little chivalry and common courtesy? sorry dudes..
Posted by boxcarmirnta
i can pretty much guarantee the dude will not be initiating contact again.... ERRRRRGHHHH...when did men forget to have a little chivalry and common courtesy? sorry dudes..
He went MIA?
Posted by boxcarmirnta
i can pretty much guarantee the dude will not be initiating contact again.... ERRRRRGHHHH...when did men forget to have a little chivalry and common courtesy? sorry dudes..
He went MIA?
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it's been a couple days.. which i realize isn't THAT much.... i'll give him a couple more and then i'll never reach out again.... this has happened too many times to count. not waiting around... over it.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
i can pretty much guarantee the dude will not be initiating contact again.... ERRRRRGHHHH...when did men forget to have a little chivalry and common courtesy? sorry dudes..
He went MIA?
it's been a couple days.. which i realize isn't THAT much.... i'll give him a couple more and then i'll never reach out again.... this has happened too many times to count. not waiting around... over it.
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If you can do it it means you aren't hooked and CAN move on! Best of luck girl!
Posted by boxcarmirnta
i can pretty much guarantee the dude will not be initiating contact again.... ERRRRRGHHHH...when did men forget to have a little chivalry and common courtesy? sorry dudes..
He went MIA?
it's been a couple days.. which i realize isn't THAT much.... i'll give him a couple more and then i'll never reach out again.... this has happened too many times to count. not waiting around... over it.
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Good girl!
Good luck'
Well i was right... Fears totally warranted.. Haven't heard a thing. NEXT.
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He lives out of town.. I was tired and loopy, I swore i wasn't gonna make the first move! Now i feel embarrassed and stupid.. Did i destroy the spontaneity and momentum of a budding relationship? We've only been talking for like ten days.... Do leebs like to make the first move? Did i fuck it up? Do they like being pursued?