@WateryGem
12 Years1,000+ Posts
Whats your relationship like with your ex?
I ignore him. When it comes to him texting me that he misses me, etc., I IGNORE and/or block his messages. He left me for his live in girlfriend and NOW he's HER trash! Dudette didn't know how he was and NOW she does. Divorce decree indicates drop off/pick up point is at the police station and he is NOT to come near my home (he left me everything in the home and garage); all he took was his truck, his clothes, and his freedom! Friends? PFT! We discuss our 11 year old and that's it!!! He left me penniless for over a year; no worries, I had a good lawyer and he had to pay his arrears. This isn't my FIRST rodeo! 🍹
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
I ignore him. When it comes to him texting me that he misses me, etc., I IGNORE and/or block his messages. He left me for his live in girlfriend and NOW he's HER trash! Dudette didn't know how he was and NOW she does. Divorce decree indicates drop off/pick up point is at the police station and he is NOT to come near my home (he left me everything in the home and garage); all he took was his truck, his clothes, and his freedom! Friends? PFT! We discuss our 11 year old and that's it!!! He left me penniless for over a year; no worries, I had a good lawyer and he had to pay his arrears. This isn't my FIRST rodeo! 🍹
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Respectful, kind, supportive, good friends
I worked my arse off to make sure if was always harmonious......it was and always will be about our son and not our egos
We probably get on a lot better than some parents that live together
He is one of my closest friends and I trust my life with him
Um... Truthfully I havent found the right footing... My ex... When we fight(I mean argue) we really really go at it... When we are friendly we are just a little to friendly.. (If you catch my drift) alot of time he just ignores me which I ignore him back (cause I'm petty and its alot easier lmao)
Posted by WateryGem
If you have kids with your ex-spouse or partner. What is it like? do you guys ever spend time together, chit chat? Is it just like a business relationship it's only about the kids? Is it friendly and kind? What is the norm?
Love your kids more than you hate your ex.
My ex may have done some really crappy things to me while we were married, but he (nor anyone) should be defined for their mistakes. We had our issues, and our fights, and our dysfunction, but we both have worked very hard to move into a friendship that those issues are in the past. He is the father of my son, therefore, I will always care for him and respect him, because without him, I wouldn't have my son. We don't talk everyday, and we don't text everyday, but if either of us every truly needs the other, we can call. We co-parent amazingly, and if there is any issue, we can sit down like adults to talk like it. He is the father of my son, and my friend. Because we want our son to see that parents can have beautiful, healthy, relationships without being together. As a matter of fact, even though we have every other year holidays, we still get together, if possible, and celebrate it together still. Not all people can do this, but for us, as ex-partners, we always wanted it that our son would never have to feel like he had to choose one family over the other. It just means my family (new partner), and his family (his new partner) all consider each other one extended family unit.
Posted by EvatheDiva
I ignore him. When it comes to him texting me that he misses me, etc., I IGNORE and/or block his messages. He left me for his live in girlfriend and NOW he's HER trash! Dudette didn't know how he was and NOW she does. Divorce decree indicates drop off/pick up point is at the police station and he is NOT to come near my home (he left me everything in the home and garage); all he took was his truck, his clothes, and his freedom! Friends? PFT! We discuss our 11 year old and that's it!!! He left me penniless for over a year; no worries, I had a good lawyer and he had to pay his arrears. This isn't my FIRST rodeo! 🍹🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Yikes, that's CRAZY!! It must have gotten pretty bad if the drop off and pick up is at a police station. EEK!!
He sounds like a doozy!! So sorry. 😢
Posted by MyStarsShine
Respectful, kind, supportive, good friendsI worked my arse off to make sure if was always harmonious......it was and always will be about our son and not our egos
We probably get on a lot better than some parents that live together
He is one of my closest friends and I trust my life with him
This is what I want my ex and I to be, I pray one day that the peace and understanding will happen between us. That's wonderful that you have this.
Posted by MyStarsShine
Respectful, kind, supportive, good friendsI worked my arse off to make sure if was always harmonious......it was and always will be about our son and not our egos
We probably get on a lot better than some parents that live together
He is one of my closest friends and I trust my life with him
This is what all of the exes with children in my family are like except for one cousin and her ex (he's a giant butthole who sells meth). I think it goes back to my grandmother always insisting that once someone was family, they would always be family.
Except for meth dealers who beat my cousin.
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I've always told my ex he will always be family to me! I'm not sure how to get through to him, but it makes my heart very heavy b/c I didn't grow up with parents that didn't speak or whatever. It hurts deeply..
It's a deep long term goal for me.
Posted by infires
blocked each other, we don't talk anymore..i don't know whats going on his life
do you have kids with him?
Cordial
Posted by MyStarsShine
Respectful, kind, supportive, good friendsI worked my arse off to make sure if was always harmonious......it was and always will be about our son and not our egos
We probably get on a lot better than some parents that live together
He is one of my closest friends and I trust my life with him
This is what I want my ex and I to be, I pray one day that the peace and understanding will happen between us. That's wonderful that you have this.
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Thank you...there was a lot of work in it
I said to my husband that he could either let his ego take lead and have our son think his dad was an idiot for not being able to act with respect around his mum or be strong and focus on the good
Thankfully, he did. I have no idea what it would have been like if i had chosen a different path. I guess our lad would have been somewhat screwed up? I often tell him how good his Dad always was/is to me and that despite his faults, he was one of the people in my life i respected and cared about the most
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If you have kids with your ex-spouse or partner. What is it like? do you guys ever spend time together, chit chat? Is it just like a business relationship it's only about the kids? Is it friendly and kind? What is the norm?