Understanding a Libra man..

I'm an Aries (I suppose, born on the 20th of april) woman and i recently a libra man came into my life. I've never had any kind of relations with Libra men so i dont know if we are compatible or not. I felt the connection with guy from the moment we met. I felt that this guy was in my life like for ever. We have so many things in common. When we talk we talk for hours but when i suggest to do something together he answer is always no and he says to me that he is a loner. Ok i respect that and i always give him the space he wants. But when i see something or think something and it reminds me of him i just txt him and he always answers me back with excitment and from that we might end up talking all day. My issue is i'm emathetic and when he doesn't feel good my epathy levels are ten times worse than normal and if i txt him and say are you ok he goes so defencive on me and shuts down.On the other hand he opened to me and told me personal things that i suppose you dont go and tell it to everybody. I don't know how to act or react with this guy. I trully like him and i honestly i want him in my life even as friend. Every article i read about libra men says that doesnt like to be alone but this one he sure does or he is avoiding me?

Please help, any opinion would be much appreciated. Thanks

Don't get hooked (or at least, don't let them know you are)! Ignore him, it's the best trick in the book.

This is what I was thinking to do.. To distance myself.

The thing is I never showed him any sign of attraction because I’m in a point of my life that I need people in my life to communicate and he is one of them. I didn’t want to freak him out so I kept everything on a friendly level... so maybe he doesn’t find me exciting..!!

just be your normal Aries self. he’ll be after you soon enough. something about you Aries women keep a libras mental an physical attention.

go out and have fun with your girls

don’t be quick to grab random attention from another guy

invite him out again

Thank you guys you’re all so helpful. Oh and another thing that is confusing me. He is my personal trainer and when someone at the gym is next to me and we start a conversation, he has 360 transformation and all the kindness that he has in his eyes is replaced with a spiteful look and then he snaps at me as If I’m doing everything wrong. Where does this comes from? I don’t wanna believe that this is jealousy....

Posted by clockwisee
Idk if it’s jealousy or possessiveness. but if she’s my “baby girl” then she’s mine.

But idk if he is into me or not! Mixed signals! And my brain is so practical, this situation is not easy for me. I want to know... but I won’t!

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Posted by JadeAlexander
IMO if he is attracted to you, he’d hang out. He probably enjoys the conversation but isn’t interested in you.

Back off and see if he comes after you a bit.

I’m a Libra who enjoys a bit of chase and I flirt quite a bit just for fun. Some of gotten confused by my signals because I lappear interested when really... I am bored.

I second this. Libras enjoy teasing and flirting but it's not always that serious. It's just for fun.

I would check his moon sign also.

I don't share really personal and emotional things about me with people I'm just having fun with so the fact that he has is in your favor. However it could be that he feels close to you as a friend and friend only.

Libras don't like to be pushed so if you push too much you will push him away from you. Back off and he might come around if he is interested.

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What do you mean by push him too much..? 🤔

So far I’ve never showed him that I like him. I keep our relationship on a friendly level... I’m really confused by his behavior. He cares too much, he is some how possessive and then he backs off! And I just let him be... I don’t mind that he wants space as far as he tells me what he wants from me..!! I just want to know if he wants to stay friends or something more. That’s all! And yes I want him in my life so I wouldn’t mind just be friends with him.

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Posted by Timon

Posted by JadeAlexander
IMO if he is attracted to you, he’d hang out. He probably enjoys the conversation but isn’t interested in you.

Back off and see if he comes after you a bit.

I’m a Libra who enjoys a bit of chase and I flirt quite a bit just for fun. Some of gotten confused by my signals because I lappear interested when really... I am bored.

I second this. Libras enjoy teasing and flirting but it's not always that serious. It's just for fun.

I would check his moon sign also.

I don't share really personal and emotional things about me with people I'm just having fun with so the fact that he has is in your favor. However it could be that he feels close to you as a friend and friend only.

Libras don't like to be pushed so if you push too much you will push him away from you. Back off and he might come around if he is interested.

What do you mean by push him too much..? 🤔

So far I’ve never showed him that I like him. I keep our relationship on a friendly level... I’m really confused by his behavior. He cares too much, he is some how possessive and then he backs off! And I just let him be... I don’t mind that he wants space as far as he tells me what he wants from me..!! I just want to know if he wants to stay friends or something more. That’s all! And yes I want him in my life so I wouldn’t mind just be friends with him.

So you're just friends? Have you told him how you feel?

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No... I’m a really straight forward person. What I feel I say it.. But there’s is something holding me back with him.. What if he wants to be friends with me and telling him that I like him I will just freak him out... I’m afraid to do that... should I tell him that I like him..?

Posted by greylatern
Someone has to step up and say something before you friend zone each other. From your description it tells me there is real chemistry. He might be feeling it too and yes if a guy has no experience in this it can be very scary or unnerving. if you feel this way about him, your going to be hurt either way. From inaction and sitting on your feelings or from acting on them and it not work out. The difference is you will know for sure and tried.

That being said look at his moon to understand his outbursts and Venus too to see his love stlye and expression. He might be insecure or a mutable sign there.

Lol people you are much more then your sun sign your a lot of things rolled into one. Someone needs to write a Astrology introduction guide and pin it to the forums home page.

I'm new in this. How am i suppose to see where his moon and his venus are?

As i said i prefer to know rather analizing in my head what he might or might not want.. I'll let him know how i feel and then is up to him to make a decision.

Posted by SpaceBird
A lot depends on the moon ....

I find they are similar to virgos.



Intelligent. Very caring partners. Good friends. Hard working. All round good people IMO 🙂

Similar to Virgo? Virgo don't have nearly as much passion about things

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Posted by JadeAlexander
IMO if he is attracted to you, he’d hang out. He probably enjoys the conversation but isn’t interested in you.

Back off and see if he comes after you a bit.

I’m a Libra who enjoys a bit of chase and I flirt quite a bit just for fun. Some of gotten confused by my signals because I lappear interested when really... I am bored.

I second this. Libras enjoy teasing and flirting but it's not always that serious. It's just for fun.

I would check his moon sign also.

I don't share really personal and emotional things about me with people I'm just having fun with so the fact that he has is in your favor. However it could be that he feels close to you as a friend and friend only.

Libras don't like to be pushed so if you push too much you will push him away from you. Back off and he might come around if he is interested.

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THIS!!!

I agree with not pushing. I detest it.

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Posted by Timon

Posted by JadeAlexander
IMO if he is attracted to you, he’d hang out. He probably enjoys the conversation but isn’t interested in you.

Back off and see if he comes after you a bit.

I’m a Libra who enjoys a bit of chase and I flirt quite a bit just for fun. Some of gotten confused by my signals because I lappear interested when really... I am bored.

I second this. Libras enjoy teasing and flirting but it's not always that serious. It's just for fun.

I would check his moon sign also.

I don't share really personal and emotional things about me with people I'm just having fun with so the fact that he has is in your favor. However it could be that he feels close to you as a friend and friend only.

Libras don't like to be pushed so if you push too much you will push him away from you. Back off and he might come around if he is interested.

THIS!!!

I agree with not pushing. I detest it.

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ok i get it no pushing... But what do u mean by pushing? Not to talk to him too much? what?

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Timon

Posted by JadeAlexander
IMO if he is attracted to you, he’d hang out. He probably enjoys the conversation but isn’t interested in you.

Back off and see if he comes after you a bit.

I’m a Libra who enjoys a bit of chase and I flirt quite a bit just for fun. Some of gotten confused by my signals because I lappear interested when really... I am bored.

I second this. Libras enjoy teasing and flirting but it's not always that serious. It's just for fun.

I would check his moon sign also.

I don't share really personal and emotional things about me with people I'm just having fun with so the fact that he has is in your favor. However it could be that he feels close to you as a friend and friend only.

Libras don't like to be pushed so if you push too much you will push him away from you. Back off and he might come around if he is interested.

THIS!!!

I agree with not pushing. I detest it.

ok i get it no pushing... But what do u mean by pushing? Not to talk to him too much? what?

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Push him to make a decision in being with you or entering a relationship with you. I know you have not done this, so it's not something you should worry about for now.

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Posted by Timon

Posted by JadeAlexander
IMO if he is attracted to you, he’d hang out. He probably enjoys the conversation but isn’t interested in you.

Back off and see if he comes after you a bit.

I’m a Libra who enjoys a bit of chase and I flirt quite a bit just for fun. Some of gotten confused by my signals because I lappear interested when really... I am bored.

I second this. Libras enjoy teasing and flirting but it's not always that serious. It's just for fun.

I would check his moon sign also.

I don't share really personal and emotional things about me with people I'm just having fun with so the fact that he has is in your favor. However it could be that he feels close to you as a friend and friend only.

Libras don't like to be pushed so if you push too much you will push him away from you. Back off and he might come around if he is interested.

THIS!!!

I agree with not pushing. I detest it.

ok i get it no pushing... But what do u mean by pushing? Not to talk to him too much? what?

Push him to make a decision in being with you or entering a relationship with you. I know you have not done this, so it's not something you should worry about for now.

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Thank you

Firstly, have you actually met? You say you talk for hours and you text and that leads to talking... texting is a form of communication but it’s NOT talking. Have you actually seen him in RL because he’s reluctant to hang out. Have you ever? Depending on your answer to these questions will actually change what I feel is happening here.

Posted by sweethearts
Firstly, have you actually met? You say you talk for hours and you text and that leads to talking... texting is a form of communication but it’s NOT talking. Have you actually seen him in RL because he’s reluctant to hang out. Have you ever? Depending on your answer to these questions will actually change what I feel is happening here.

Well yes. He is my personal trainer so I see him every day in the gym.

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Posted by sweethearts
Firstly, have you actually met? You say you talk for hours and you text and that leads to talking... texting is a form of communication but it’s NOT talking. Have you actually seen him in RL because he’s reluctant to hang out. Have you ever? Depending on your answer to these questions will actually change what I feel is happening here.

Well yes. He is my personal trainer so I see him every day in the gym.

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I own a gym. Firstly it does happen but mostly it’s a professional situation and maybe you are hoping for more. Our PT’s are treated like therapists. Their clients talk about all their problems and their personal lives all the time. My trainers clients call them regularly outside of hours and a lot of the times it’s personal not business. They accept this as their job in hope they gain clients or keep the money coming in, it’s a really tough line of job. Secondly if a trainer was getting involved personally with a client or member of my gym, I’d certainly pull them aside and have words, mainly to make sure they aren’t crossing lines with married folk and just because it’s crossing professional boundaries. Yes it happens all the time but most of those trainers are the puffed up jerks that are more in love with themselves and it’s a knotch on their belt.

Yours is holding back and I would bet for any of the professional reasons I have just stated.

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Posted by sweethearts
Firstly, have you actually met? You say you talk for hours and you text and that leads to talking... texting is a form of communication but it’s NOT talking. Have you actually seen him in RL because he’s reluctant to hang out. Have you ever? Depending on your answer to these questions will actually change what I feel is happening here.

Well yes. He is my personal trainer so I see him every day in the gym.

I own a gym. Firstly it does happen but mostly it’s a professional situation and maybe you are hoping for more. Our PT’s are treated like therapists. Their clients talk about all their problems and their personal lives all the time. My trainers clients call them regularly outside of hours and a lot of the times it’s personal not business. They accept this as their job in hope they gain clients or keep the money coming in, it’s a really tough line of job. Secondly if a trainer was getting involved personally with a client or member of my gym, I’d certainly pull them aside and have words, mainly to make sure they aren’t crossing lines with married folk and just because it’s crossing professional boundaries. Yes it happens all the time but most of those trainers are the puffed up jerks that are more in love with themselves and it’s a knotch on their belt.

Yours is holding back and I would bet for any of the professional reasons I have just stated.

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Yeah you are maybe right but still he is the one who initiated all this thing! And as I said in a previous comment when is some guy next to me at the gym and we start having a conversation he snaps on me like I’m the worst person! That’s why I’m confused by him! Mixed signals! I don’t know..

keep your relationship with your pt professional. yeah be friendly but know the boundaries.

if you are texting him stuff "when something reminds you of him" then you are also behaving inappropriately.

he's nice to you because you pay him. if you want to see if there is something outside of a paid service then get a different pt and see if you can continue whatever you have now away from a gym environment.

but if he is telling you he is a loner (excuse) and shuts down on you then that's not a great sign that he is interested in anything more than friends.

telling each other personal things happen when between pt and client. my trainer and i share personal things about each other's lives but it doesn't mean we want to get into the other's pants.

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Posted by sweethearts
Firstly, have you actually met? You say you talk for hours and you text and that leads to talking... texting is a form of communication but it’s NOT talking. Have you actually seen him in RL because he’s reluctant to hang out. Have you ever? Depending on your answer to these questions will actually change what I feel is happening here.

Well yes. He is my personal trainer so I see him every day in the gym.

I own a gym. Firstly it does happen but mostly it’s a professional situation and maybe you are hoping for more. Our PT’s are treated like therapists. Their clients talk about all their problems and their personal lives all the time. My trainers clients call them regularly outside of hours and a lot of the times it’s personal not business. They accept this as their job in hope they gain clients or keep the money coming in, it’s a really tough line of job. Secondly if a trainer was getting involved personally with a client or member of my gym, I’d certainly pull them aside and have words, mainly to make sure they aren’t crossing lines with married folk and just because it’s crossing professional boundaries. Yes it happens all the time but most of those trainers are the puffed up jerks that are more in love with themselves and it’s a knotch on their belt.

Yours is holding back and I would bet for any of the professional reasons I have just stated.

Yeah you are maybe right but still he is the one who initiated all this thing! And as I said in a previous comment when is some guy next to me at the gym and we start having a conversation he snaps on me like I’m the worst person! That’s why I’m confused by him! Mixed signals! I don’t know..

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why are you chatting to other people during a session? either your there to train or to pull. at least have the respect for your trainer to not cultivate a social life when you are supposed to be training. that's very disrespectful to their time.

When someone gives their undivided attention to another person it blows the ego of that person... if they are throwing it to everyone or even one or two others, it makes you feel territorial. It’s the cat mouse game.

If this guy is truely interested, there wouldn’t be “ loner” excuses he’d be the one chasing you up to get some alone time. We all want and Read way too much into situations To suit our wants... been doing that myself recently but truth is... they are really not that into us!

why are you chatting to other people during a session? either your there to train or to pull. at least have the respect for your trainer to not cultivate a social life when you are supposed to be training. that's very disrespectful to their time.

I would think trying out the “jealousy card?”