What happens..

This topic was created in the Libra forum by truecap on Saturday, September 10, 2016 and has 10 replies.

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@truecap
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When you tell a libra what they don't want to hear? What happens when you voice an opinion they don't agree with?

Talking about a work situation with a libra boss.

How do you speak the honest truth without libra turning into the "mean girl" and turning against you?

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@RemixGeneralFishy
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You can't. Libras have a very thin skin and do NOT take criticism well at all. God forbid if you point out they're wrong about something. You might as well call them fugly to their face.

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@wagtail
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Depends what it ish.

I've had a Libra boss for many years now. My approach in these situations is pretty simple-

I tell him to expect an email about something I want to discuss,

then I outline the issue in the email after a couple of revisions on my end.

I keep it to one paragraph and then wait for his follow up.

This way he has my concerns on the radar, but in terms of initiating the conversation the ball is in his court - (in terms of how he wants to approach it with meh for example) and I can take my cue from there.

It seems less confrontational that way but we both have all the facts

Good luck 😎

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@pinkbird03
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The one I dated became upset and pouted like a baby as he still tried to get his way. I'd say he was very bad at handling problems (minor problems at that) and compromising.

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@rabidtalker
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My libra friend has a few strong opinions and if you disagree with her on them (politics, religion, etc) she'll just repeat herself in different ways but saying the same thing. This will go on for days at a time until she gets tired of doing it. Sometimes I will just get a message with the same statement, I dont argue but I dont agree and it eventually ends.

Her latest was anti-vaccinations (she's anti-vac).

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Posted by truecap

Posted by jeane
is it work related or personal?

Work

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i can't attest to how others perceive me. my reactions might seem unreasonable to others but i don't feel that is the case. anyway as a libra i would like it if you said whatever you wanted say in an appropriate forum but not spring it on me where i could be humiliated or make it seem like an attack. i'd prefer a one on one conversation in a casual setting if possible.

frame it plainly, explain how it affects you (makes things harder etc) and then suggest a solution. it should expressed a matter of factly a possible. if it is something that is not factual, then be prepared to justify your opinion with logical reasoning.

regardless of sign, i wouldn't tell my boss something they didn't want to hear unless absolutely necessary. if they do or you think they will take it personally, then reassure them that it isn't the case, that your intention is x and leave them to it.

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@Librasaurusrex
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Posted by Libra82
Don't get agressive. Use logic. Libras tend to want to see both sides.

This. Keep it logical and have some chill. Use reason and communicate from a place of intellectual strategy.

Hopefully it's "good" Libra.

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@LibraLovesHim
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Don't be too rude/direct about it. Be tactful in you're approach. Words like I think that's a good way to handle it but this may be a better way....not "You're wrong"