will the libran man I met come back!!

Hey I met a Libran guy about 3 months ago...when we first met he wanted to start dating immediately and I thought it was way too fast...so I took my time to get to know him, well it's a long distance relationship, so we would meet about twice a month ( long weekends). after we used to meet he would go quiet and I couldn't handle it as I like communication in a relationship..I mean who wouldn't. he was hell bent upon going for a holiday which I gave into after a lot of thought...again he goes quiet for almost 10 days..(P.s we had a little fight there, and knowing me I like to finish talking then and there instead of carrying matters forward). He comes back after 10 days and says he missed me and how much he cares for me and that I should not fight and blah blah...we met again and went out for the weekend...again a little fight which was blown out of proportion...well I believe every action receives and equal reaction...when we fight he just goes quiet...we spoke about it the next day...everything was normal...he left saying we will try...I didnt bother messaging him, and one day I did saying I miss him....and asked him if the relationship had any scope...he said he cant handle my drama and its best if we move on....a very open ended closure....come to think of it, I think I have fallen for him....and just wondering reading all the posts about Libran men doing the disappearing act...will he come back...he has said that he does not want to take it forward...shall I move on or give this a chance...

Libras dont like fights or confrontation. U have to be so smart to listen to
What he expects if u and through communication compromise. Ure on the test no matter how much he
Shows hes interested in u. Dont run after him hell run the other way. Dont blame him hell cut u completely off. It happened to me! No second chance
Though he looked sooo into me. Relax and get ur self back together and try talking to him as a friend
With very friendly way and tell him what he thinks would be best to get over the fightings and wirk together
In making it work. Show him u care but not desperate, he will be so harsh on u if u nag, dramatize or show weakness. Just be calm and sympathetic.
Ive been doing a 10 months readings of posts on libra and they have this thing of breaking women,s hearts
As soon as they know theyve got her. They have this thing that sweeps u off ur feet and can be very hurtful if u go out of limits.
They want a classy feminine confident woman who can take care of herself and doesnt lose her dignity for anything. Be classy and compationate.
If ure mistaken admit it geniunely but if ure right never tell him hes wrong coz to him he never is.
I think they are too easy to deal with but dont get too comfortable cause if u dont treat them the way they expect u to, or with all respect. Ure out of their system which
Will make u wonder was it a lie or an illusion. They move on too fast if they dont love u or if they had enough and have a big pride and ego. Then u are left with sweet memories and how better u couldve
Behaved in this and that situation. They take u to heaven and the drop u in hell. Be cateful in ur approach to get him! Best of luck, a libra always leaves a scar behind, from my personal experience
And from what ive read! and update us!

when we first met he wanted to start dating immediately and I thought it was way too fast

Dating is a way of getting to know someone to see if they are a perfect partner so I don't see why you think it is too fast to or too soon to start dating someone...seems to me right from the start you were on edge/uneasy/suspicious or had your doubts about this man and with your constant arguing probably over trivial things you've proved this to him without doubt!

It also sounds to me that he has pick up on this very fast and has made the choice to end the relationship. You won't change because you started out this way for whatever reason so he knows it will be pointless to carry on.

Next time around with any man try not to bring previous relationships/hangups into new ones. Trust each person until you get to know them for who they are.

@ sweetheart and Stuck 79- right I was at the edge, cause I met this guy online, but I gave it a chance...and I gave it my all, we met about 3 times after we established that yes let's give it a try and the guy used to disappear after every meeting of ours and then come back and behave like nothing happened. The fights that we had were trivial, yeah a bit blown out of proportion, we are both very strong individuals, however I would come around, and he would be the one who used nag just after we spoke out the problem. Like I mentioned before we spoke and he very well knew that I was totally into him, I couldn't understand what more he wanted, his talks were confusing, one minute he wants to take it to the next level and the next minute he would act indifferent.

Even after we had the fight I initiated the chat with him, he sounded a little confused, and didn't want to take the blame, hence I spoke and asked him, what he wanted out of it, should we try and work things out or move on, to which he replied yeah let's do that...that's it...and I left it at that.

Should I consider it off...and move on!! its just that we had so much in common, the chemistry was intense and when I asked him about his disappearing act he said our bond was too strong to have been affected, should I read between the lines or just let go...

From what ive read about libra , and men in general, when ure happy and dont show weakness they always come back. On the other hand, once a girl falls for libra, they dont know what to do, keep her or run away from the relationship. Do notdo my mistake and follow him, chances are better when u keep urself together and check on him from time to time neutrally so u dont lose communication. Just to keep the door open. At the same time dont hope too much, cross ur finguers and disappear for a while so u dont do any mistakes when ure in a bad state if mind.
I have another friend having same problem with her libra man. They had baught the house and furnished it to get married and he suddenly disappeared when she got angry over his hot and cold behavior and later told her he doesnt want to get married. With her trials to say sorry and the i love yous, he downgraded her and asked her to just leave him alone! They are so confusing and hard to deal with despite their charm!

U might want to read my post on libra, how far i tried to correct it and how he reacted to it.

but I haven't gone after him at all...u know Leo's...a bit egoistic on that front....and I havent bothered texting him or calling him....I just wanted to know....any chance of him coming back...or should I just drop everything.

Why do I have a feeling you two are the same person...

bang on...he behaves the same way...one minute he says he is thinking of a future and the other minute...god he s just so confusing...but he has left me wanting for him...and now I dont know what to do....!!!

@ rockyradioicecream - I didnt get you!!!

Personally, I would drop him a note and say that you respect his decision and enjoyed the time that you shared together and will always remember him. Then go about your own life and occupy yourself and tend to you. One of two things will happen: he will either stop and think about the fact that you did have a good time together and wonder if he should reach out again or he will allow you to move on and you will heal within the time he needs to re-think this. It's not instant and could be several weeks. Either way you will be fine.

But as stuck says, DO NOT badger/nag or constantly contact him, ho

Who do you think it is Rocky?? Lisa?

I cant hold responsibility of what to do. Logic says, drop it, if he comes back then ure lucky and ull have to be very hatd working for it to work, theyre so sensitive are u willing to deal with that on the long run? And if he doesnt come back ull still be lucky because u will not have allowed yourself to be too sad to the extent of depression. I know how hard it is i can feel u, but i dont really know cause its already been 10 months for me and im still in shocke! He had asked me to fall for him, he wont hurt me like my ex did and as soon as i fall he will catch me.. He let me hit the bottom!

is it ok to send him a note after 2 weeks of no communication??

hmmm sorry...are you a leo too??

If ure referring to me im a scorpio and i had doubts sometimes he was inlove with me because of his non stop contact and because he gave me the authority to reject or accept him and was too scared taht i was gonna hurt him!! ?

guys I was just analyzing the whole situation, and it occurred to me that he did give the relationship a fair chance by coming down the second time after our first fight...and now that he has backed off, do you think I should make the move, though my ego is stopping me from doing it.

There was a time when he had lied to me about something he should have mentioned right at the start and I let go off it, dont you think he should it give it a chance, I dont want to come across as needy, but still want to give it a chance, as there was nothing major that went wrong between the two of us...

Please advice...if yes how do I go about doing it?

Posted by leo80
P.s we had a little fight there, and knowing me I like to finish talking then and there instead of carrying matters forward). He comes back after 10 days and says he missed me and how much he cares for me and that I should not fight and blah blah...we met again and went out for the weekend...again a little fight which was blown out of proportion...well I believe every action receives and equal reaction...when we fight he just goes quiet

Why do you fight with him so much?

If it's just a "little fight" why did you bang away at it insisting you finish talking right then and there?

Why did you not take him at his word that you shouldn't fight and proceed to get into another fight with him that very same weekend after he said it?

He probably thinks this is just too much of a hassle, and way too much drama for an occasional, long distance relationship.

hmmmm....but Atsirk69 am not to be blamed for the fight....he is the one who started it....anyway the point is that if its a typical Libran trait to shut off and not give the relationship a chance, I'll just back off.

From my experience and knowledge of Librans's they do have a lot of patience, and I did not see it, infact inspite of the fights I was still positive and tried to work things out.

From all the posts above I just feel that this is over...

Posted by leo80
hmmmm....but Atsirk69 am not to be blamed for the fight....he is the one who started it....anyway the point is that if its a typical Libran trait to shut off and not give the relationship a chance, I'll just back off.

From my experience and knowledge of Librans's they do have a lot of patience, and I did not see it, infact inspite of the fights I was still positive and tried to work things out.

From all the posts above I just feel that this is over...

And it's typical Leonine trait to always play the victim, cannot admit to any wrongdoing, and then pin it on the other person.

well radio it takes two for any fight right.,...if you read my above post, am not pinning it on him, rather trying to see if it works...and if it does,I am ready to even start afresh. One of the leo traits is having a huge ego...and if am letting that go then where does the typical leo trait come in!!!

Tbh, just reading your op again...a man that disappears for 10 days..no explanation, why would you bother? You allow him to treat you this way, it will continue. Have some respect for yourself. If he wants you, let him come after you and prove himself worthy! That's me and I'm a Libra and I won't be taken for granted!

Well that's exactly what I was thinking....that let him chase if he wants it....anyway thanks for all the advice....if it's meant to be it will find its way 🙂