So my Sag and I just recently celebrated our first wedding anniversary. Does the second year get any better or it is just as much hard work?
Why is marriage so hard
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Posted by Aquarelle
It shouldn't be hard......
It shouldn’t but it is..I think he was way more romantic before we got married 😢
"Hard" work? Only is you two AREN'T really compatible.
Because you married a Sag 😄
There are worse things than "hard work" though....
There are worse things than "hard work" though....
Posted by Undine
Because you married a Sag 😄
There are worse things than "hard work" though....
😂😂😂. But he acted more like his Scorpio moon when we dated!!
Posted by Pisces1803Posted by Undine
Because you married a Sag 😄
There are worse things than "hard work" though....
😂😂😂. But he acted more like his Scorpio moon when we dated!!click to expand
What's your moon?
Posted by UndinePosted by Pisces1803Posted by Undine
Because you married a Sag 😄
There are worse things than "hard work" though....
😂😂😂. But he acted more like his Scorpio moon when we dated!!
What's your moon?click to expand
Aries
Relationships/marriage ARE supposed to be hard work, just like anything in life that gives you any kind of satisfaction. It is the most confronting type of thing you can ever do in life, and therefore the one that can make you grow as person in ways you couldn't otherwise.
Good luck with your marriage. There is always ebb and flow in life
You've got good sun-moon compatibility. Both ways. Hang on there.
Anyone that thinks marriage isn't hard work, aren't married
Lol
Lol
Some people stop trying when they get married, become complacent, and take each other for granted....I've seen people after years of marriage not being able to stand each other
It's great for companionship when you're old
It's great for companionship when you're old
Posted by MyStarsShine
Anyone that thinks marriage isn't hard work, aren't married
Lol
This
Posted by brianafayPosted by MyStarsShine
Anyone that thinks marriage isn't hard work, aren't married
Lol
Thisclick to expand
People are funny when they think they're experts on matters and have never experienced them 🤔
Marriage is hard work.. it’s day to day life not just all romance. It’s an adjustment. There will be ebb & flow though. Go on date nights, create romantic situations.
However I must say when I married a Pisces, I wanted out after 6 months 😳🤦♀️ He was a lot different before marriage... so what is making it so hard except the lack of romance?
However I must say when I married a Pisces, I wanted out after 6 months 😳🤦♀️ He was a lot different before marriage... so what is making it so hard except the lack of romance?
Posted by MyStarsShine
Anyone that thinks marriage isn't hard work, aren't married
Lol
I was married. Now I'm not. When I was married, it was difficult because he and I weren't truly compatible. When you're compatible, marriage isn't "hard" unless you're not 100% invested.
Posted by sweetpea2977Posted by MyStarsShine
Anyone that thinks marriage isn't hard work, aren't married
Lol
I was married. Now I'm not. When I was married, it was difficult because he and I weren't truly compatible. When you're compatible, marriage isn't "hard" unless you're not 100% invested.click to expand
In an ideal world two people would be 100% invested, in reality that doesn't happen
Posted by sweetpea2977Posted by MyStarsShine
Anyone that thinks marriage isn't hard work, aren't married
Lol
I was married. Now I'm not. When I was married, it was difficult because he and I weren't truly compatible. When you're compatible, marriage isn't "hard" unless you're not 100% invested.click to expand
Well yes & no. There are levels.. my two marriages were very different. It’s still work even in long term marriages. Just not as much as when you’re not compatible.
they say that the first year is always the hardest.
hang in there. remember why you promised to stay with this person forever.
hope things improve soon for both of you.
hang in there. remember why you promised to stay with this person forever.
hope things improve soon for both of you.
Some men marry to have a second mummy
Wife becomes mummy
Man looks for lover
This happens a lot when mummy has babies
I've known men feel so pushed out after babies are born, they go to another woman for "comfort" and when found out say "it didn't mean anything"..
Mummy and Lover
All their needs met
Wife becomes mummy
Man looks for lover
This happens a lot when mummy has babies
I've known men feel so pushed out after babies are born, they go to another woman for "comfort" and when found out say "it didn't mean anything"..
Mummy and Lover
All their needs met
Posted by MyStarsShine
Some men marry to have a second mummy
Wife becomes mummy
Man looks for lover
This happens a lot when mummy has babies
I've known men feel so pushed out after babies are born, they go to another woman for "comfort" and when found out say "it didn't mean anything"..
Mummy and Lover
All their needs met
This 💯...I can't even express how much this is on point!
Posted by MyStarsShine
Some men marry to have a second mummy
Wife becomes mummy
Man looks for lover
This happens a lot when mummy has babies
I've known men feel so pushed out after babies are born, they go to another woman for "comfort" and when found out say "it didn't mean anything"..
Mummy and Lover
All their needs met
Lol my first husband definitely wanted a second mom.. but it didn’t last long. Second husband was much better 😊
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
Relationships take work...whether your married or not. There really isn't any difference except your mind set.
Relationships take work...whether your married or not. There really isn't any difference except your mind set.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by sweetpea2977Posted by MyStarsShine
Anyone that thinks marriage isn't hard work, aren't married
Lol
I was married. Now I'm not. When I was married, it was difficult because he and I weren't truly compatible. When you're compatible, marriage isn't "hard" unless you're not 100% invested.
In an ideal world two people would be 100% invested, in reality that doesn't happenclick to expand
"In reality that DOESN'T happen."
🤔 Interesting perspective you have there.
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
People start seeing you as family. A unit. It's more permanent. If it wasn't, people wouldn't do it.click to expand
I would have to disagree with you. For one...nothing is permanent. For two...if you've been together for a long time prior to being married...I guarantee, people look at you just the same. Now it's different if you've been together for a short time... obviously.
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
People start seeing you as family. A unit. It's more permanent. If it wasn't, people wouldn't do it.
I would have to disagree with you. For one...nothing is permanent. For two...if you've been together for a long time prior to being married...I guarantee, people look at you just the same. Now it's different if you've been together for a short time... obviously.
Well, as a married person who has experienced how people treat you differently, I too have to disagree.click to expand
Well, as a person who was in a committed relationship for 10 years, and was treated like we were married...we will have to agree to disagree lol.
Posted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
Relationships take work...whether your married or not. There really isn't any difference except your mind set.
Omg!!! I lived with both husbands prior to marrying. My first husband did a complete 180 in behavior. After the wedding 😳😳😳 from normal to all these expectations out of nowhere. And much more controlling & demanding. Second one was the same before & afterTHANK GOD!!
It’s still an adjustment.. idk it’s not just a piece of paper.
Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
Relationships take work...whether your married or not. There really isn't any difference except your mind set.
Omg!!! I lived with both husbands prior to marrying. My first husband did a complete 180 in behavior. After the wedding 😳😳😳 from normal to all these expectations out of nowhere. And much more controlling & demanding. Second one was the same before & afterTHANK GOD!!
It’s still an adjustment.. idk it’s not just a piece of paper.click to expand
And how long were you with them prior to being married? People tend to hide their true self for a long ass time...I would say about 2 yrs in you should start to see it if not sooner. They could have always been that way but you missed the flags 🤷🏼♀️
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
People start seeing you as family. A unit. It's more permanent. If it wasn't, people wouldn't do it.
I would have to disagree with you. For one...nothing is permanent. For two...if you've been together for a long time prior to being married...I guarantee, people look at you just the same. Now it's different if you've been together for a short time... obviously.
Well, as a married person who has experienced how people treat you differently, I too have to disagree.
Well, as a person who was in a committed relationship for 10 years, and was treated like we were married...we will have to agree to disagree lol.
Since you didn't do it, you don't know what might have changed if you'd gotten the piece of paper.
Anyway, I seriously doubt the OP is asking for a pissing contest about what marriage means.click to expand
Again that's all mind set... you're literally letting a piece of paper change things and if that's the case...why get married?!
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
Relationships take work...whether your married or not. There really isn't any difference except your mind set.
Omg!!! I lived with both husbands prior to marrying. My first husband did a complete 180 in behavior. After the wedding 😳😳😳 from normal to all these expectations out of nowhere. And much more controlling & demanding. Second one was the same before & afterTHANK GOD!!
It’s still an adjustment.. idk it’s not just a piece of paper.
And how long were you with them prior to being married? People tend to hide their true self for a long ass time...I would say about 2 yrs in you should start to see it if not sooner. They could have always been that way but you missed the flags 🤷🏼♀️click to expand
First one a year and half.. 8 months of it living together. Nope I think he freaked out after marriage cuz he wasn’t really ready & mature enough. He didn’t act like this at all when we lived together. Relationship was 4 year total. 2 1/2 years married. Pisces.
Second one 3 1/2 years, and he was what you see is what you get! Much more honest all the way around. Relationship 20 years & 2 kids. Aries.
This is what scares me about marriage. Losing my identity and independence. Just being known as someone's wife.
Where does the *you* go when you get married.. Have children... Ect.
Another reason why marrying after years /decade of being together sounds better to me.
Where does the *you* go when you get married.. Have children... Ect.
Another reason why marrying after years /decade of being together sounds better to me.
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
People start seeing you as family. A unit. It's more permanent. If it wasn't, people wouldn't do it.
I would have to disagree with you. For one...nothing is permanent. For two...if you've been together for a long time prior to being married...I guarantee, people look at you just the same. Now it's different if you've been together for a short time... obviously.
Well, as a married person who has experienced how people treat you differently, I too have to disagree.
Well, as a person who was in a committed relationship for 10 years, and was treated like we were married...we will have to agree to disagree lol.
Since you didn't do it, you don't know what might have changed if you'd gotten the piece of paper.
Anyway, I seriously doubt the OP is asking for a pissing contest about what marriage means.
Again that's all mind set... you're literally letting a piece of paper change things and if that's the case...why get married?!
It's a great deal more than a piece of paper to me. It's a life-time commitment, made publicly and legally to intentionally seal it and make it more difficult to walk away from.
After we got married my father-in-law started calling me daughter and saying he loved me. Our work places began inviting us to things we weren't invited to before and paying for us. Lots of little things changed.click to expand
But you can be life-time committed to someone without getting married too. I'm not knocking people who get married...that's what you want to do then that's cool but I'm still not seeing this adjustment thing. Your examples are more of the outside not inside the marriage. So is marriage more for others or for you? (Not you per se.. just in general)
Posted by Phantom_Dangus
@LostinmyMind11
I don't see serious long-term relationships between people who aren't married as less than mine or anything like that. I hope I'm not coming off like that. The only problem with those is figuring out what to call them. My mom has been with her dude as long as I've been with mine, and they're in their 70s. "Boyfriend" seems silly. Anyway, he's family, and we'll try to take care of him if she goes first. If he'll let us. He's a double Scorpio.
Oh no...I don't think that at all and I hope you don't think I'm knocking the being married thing either. In my eyes...we are discussing the differences. All love here 😊
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
People start seeing you as family. A unit. It's more permanent. If it wasn't, people wouldn't do it.
I would have to disagree with you. For one...nothing is permanent. For two...if you've been together for a long time prior to being married...I guarantee, people look at you just the same. Now it's different if you've been together for a short time... obviously.
Well, as a married person who has experienced how people treat you differently, I too have to disagree.
Well, as a person who was in a committed relationship for 10 years, and was treated like we were married...we will have to agree to disagree lol.
Since you didn't do it, you don't know what might have changed if you'd gotten the piece of paper.
Anyway, I seriously doubt the OP is asking for a pissing contest about what marriage means.
Again that's all mind set... you're literally letting a piece of paper change things and if that's the case...why get married?!
It's a great deal more than a piece of paper to me. It's a life-time commitment, made publicly and legally to intentionally seal it and make it more difficult to walk away from.
After we got married my father-in-law started calling me daughter and saying he loved me. Our work places began inviting us to things we weren't invited to before and paying for us. Lots of little things changed.
But you can be life-time committed to someone without getting married too. I'm not knocking people who get married...that's what you want to do then that's cool but I'm still not seeing this adjustment thing. Your examples are more of the outside not inside the marriage. So is marriage more for others or for you? (Not you per se.. just in general)
Both, honestly. We didn't have a big ceremony. We informed everyone at the last minute and eloped. There is a weird safety that comes with having a husband. I don't like that that's the case in this world, but it is. I like the legal security of it. If something were to happen to him or me, we'd have authority to make decisions.click to expand
I can understand that but you can also do that (depending on your state laws...like common law marriage, getting power of attorney, becoming a beneficiary etc) without being married too.
Bottom line ...when you have someone sharing your life with you ...it's gonna take work. Should it take a lot of work... probably not, then I would be questioning if I made the right decision.
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
People start seeing you as family. A unit. It's more permanent. If it wasn't, people wouldn't do it.
I would have to disagree with you. For one...nothing is permanent. For two...if you've been together for a long time prior to being married...I guarantee, people look at you just the same. Now it's different if you've been together for a short time... obviously.
Well, as a married person who has experienced how people treat you differently, I too have to disagree.
Well, as a person who was in a committed relationship for 10 years, and was treated like we were married...we will have to agree to disagree lol.
Since you didn't do it, you don't know what might have changed if you'd gotten the piece of paper.
Anyway, I seriously doubt the OP is asking for a pissing contest about what marriage means.
Again that's all mind set... you're literally letting a piece of paper change things and if that's the case...why get married?!
It's a great deal more than a piece of paper to me. It's a life-time commitment, made publicly and legally to intentionally seal it and make it more difficult to walk away from.
After we got married my father-in-law started calling me daughter and saying he loved me. Our work places began inviting us to things we weren't invited to before and paying for us. Lots of little things changed.
But you can be life-time committed to someone without getting married too. I'm not knocking people who get married...that's what you want to do then that's cool but I'm still not seeing this adjustment thing. Your examples are more of the outside not inside the marriage. So is marriage more for others or for you? (Not you per se.. just in general)
Both, honestly. We didn't have a big ceremony. We informed everyone at the last minute and eloped. There is a weird safety that comes with having a husband. I don't like that that's the case in this world, but it is. I like the legal security of it. If something were to happen to him or me, we'd have authority to make decisions.
I can understand that but you can also do that (depending on your state laws...like common law marriage, getting power of attorney, becoming a beneficiary etc) without being married too.
Bottom line ...when you have someone sharing your life with you ...it's gonna take work. Should it take a lot of work... probably not, then I would be questioning if I made the right decision.
I disagree. Mine has been very hard work at times, and now I'm reaping the rewards.click to expand
At times it will...I'm not and wouldn't question that but all the time...then yes, something isn't right there if that's the case.
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by LostinmyMind11
Obviously I've never been married (thank God lol) but I don't understand what the big adjustment is? Majority of people have been living with each other before they got married so unless you didn't...what exactly makes it any different? A piece of paper? Your last names are the same now? What's this big adjustment??
People start seeing you as family. A unit. It's more permanent. If it wasn't, people wouldn't do it.
I would have to disagree with you. For one...nothing is permanent. For two...if you've been together for a long time prior to being married...I guarantee, people look at you just the same. Now it's different if you've been together for a short time... obviously.
Well, as a married person who has experienced how people treat you differently, I too have to disagree.
Well, as a person who was in a committed relationship for 10 years, and was treated like we were married...we will have to agree to disagree lol.
Since you didn't do it, you don't know what might have changed if you'd gotten the piece of paper.
Anyway, I seriously doubt the OP is asking for a pissing contest about what marriage means.
Again that's all mind set... you're literally letting a piece of paper change things and if that's the case...why get married?!
It's a great deal more than a piece of paper to me. It's a life-time commitment, made publicly and legally to intentionally seal it and make it more difficult to walk away from.
After we got married my father-in-law started calling me daughter and saying he loved me. Our work places began inviting us to things we weren't invited to before and paying for us. Lots of little things changed.
But you can be life-time committed to someone without getting married too. I'm not knocking people who get married...that's what you want to do then that's cool but I'm still not seeing this adjustment thing. Your examples are more of the outside not inside the marriage. So is marriage more for others or for you? (Not you per se.. just in general)
Both, honestly. We didn't have a big ceremony. We informed everyone at the last minute and eloped. There is a weird safety that comes with having a husband. I don't like that that's the case in this world, but it is. I like the legal security of it. If something were to happen to him or me, we'd have authority to make decisions.
I can understand that but you can also do that (depending on your state laws...like common law marriage, getting power of attorney, becoming a beneficiary etc) without being married too.
Bottom line ...when you have someone sharing your life with you ...it's gonna take work. Should it take a lot of work... probably not, then I would be questioning if I made the right decision.
I disagree. Mine has been very hard work at times, and now I'm reaping the rewards.
At times it will...I'm not and wouldn't question that but all the time...then yes, something isn't right there if that's the case.
Yeah. We're using such vague terms we might be arguing the exact same thing and not know it. lol
OP needs to come back and tell us what's up.click to expand
Lol Agreed
Posted by La_MariposaPosted by thuggyschizo
Marriage sucks. I cant commit to it. Especially to a man. They change after you get married. Overgrown children I say!
Your perception of marriage is what you choose to see. If you're used to viewing unhealthy, toxic marriage with immature men or women then, of course, it's going to suck but, what about the couples who don't have those issues. The ones who treat each other with love and respect, and have lasted decades with one another?click to expand
I think she is being realistic...
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Silverado
Since I'm not married, I can't help you. But I wish you the best of luck and pray to the Lord Almighty, that I don't go through a whole lot of trouble myself. 🙏🏼
Leo moons should marry each other
We hate drama in our personal lives and seek mates to share adventures with
Please don’t fuking bore me in the first yearclick to expand
Please don’t fuking bore me in the first year
😆
There's a huge difference between saying marriage is hard and marriage is hard work. Hard work is more often than not, rewarding. You have to work hard for your happiness regardless whether you're married or not.
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Black-MambaPosted by Silverado
Since I'm not married, I can't help you. But I wish you the best of luck and pray to the Lord Almighty, that I don't go through a whole lot of trouble myself. 🙏🏼
Leo moons should marry each other
We hate drama in our personal lives and seek mates to share adventures with
Please don’t fuking bore me in the first year
Please don’t fuking bore me in the first year
😆
I mean the whole point of marriage for me would be someone to do things withclick to expand
Exactly, but some people become too comfortable and don’t want to make the effort to either be spontaneous or do anything
I've been with my husband 25 years. In the beginning, the most difficult part for me was sharing consequences. He could make a mistake and I had to pay too. It made me want to be single.
Other than that, I was infatuated with him for a long time. And, sexual attraction was intense even longer and to the point of distraction - a much needed distraction.
Other than that, I was infatuated with him for a long time. And, sexual attraction was intense even longer and to the point of distraction - a much needed distraction.
marriages hard because compromising is a pain in the ass.
Posted by Pisces1803Posted by Aquarelle
It shouldn't be hard......
It shouldn’t but it is..I think he was way more romantic before we got married 😢click to expand
The honeymoon period was always gonna end.
Marriage has never been about romance
People got wed years ago for financial security and survival...not for love...
People got wed years ago for financial security and survival...not for love...
Posted by 7thHousePosted by MyStarsShine
Marriage has never been about romance
People got wed years ago for financial security and survival...not for love...
Although I agree that it does happen, I guess I'm just happy I married for love hahaha and I feel my husband did too. Been with him for years and he just keeps impressing me by being the same kind man I knew. He still showers me with respect and offers me support. Probably its our strong aspects as a couple? We got the venus saturn in 7th house going 😂 and very compatible venus, Mars and Mercury.click to expand
Awwww
Do you have children?
Posted by 7thHousePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by 7thHousePosted by MyStarsShine
Marriage has never been about romance
People got wed years ago for financial security and survival...not for love...
Although I agree that it does happen, I guess I'm just happy I married for love hahaha and I feel my husband did too. Been with him for years and he just keeps impressing me by being the same kind man I knew. He still showers me with respect and offers me support. Probably its our strong aspects as a couple? We got the venus saturn in 7th house going 😂 and very compatible venus, Mars and Mercury.
Awwww
Do you have children?
Yes 🙂 and he's been the best at being a dad. Which makes me love him even more. I wouldn't say the hard part was about us. The harder part was being a parent because we want to do it right. Not for us. But our kids. Our marriage is really good. Our parenting well, I think nobody knows if they are good at it. Hahaha. So I think as a married couple, this is more challenging than keeping the romance alive. It's raising children. Doing it as a team. Making sure they grow up to be good people and at the same time being very scared they might be too good that they get taken advantage of by others lolclick to expand
I love this ❤️
Well done to you both 👍👍
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
There's a huge difference between saying marriage is hard and marriage is hard work. Hard work is more often than not, rewarding. You have to work hard for your happiness regardless whether you're married or not.
Bingo
I don’t think marriage is much harder work than a regular long term committed relationship
But it is different somehow and I can’t really explain why
I have been with my husband since we were 16 years old. There has been a lot of growing during that time and with growth often comes pain.
We didn’t marry until just a couple years ago when we had already been together 14 years, and had been living together for a few of those years.
I didn’t think it would change anything because we already were so far deep in this already...more committed than some marriages...but I’m not gonna lie, that first year did bring up some shit and it was hard. (Of course we had our first child last year - that was bound to cause a stir)
Anyway, it is most definitely something you have to work at. It’s not a Disney fairytale.
I highly recommend counseling - sometimes it takes a professional to help you learn how to effectively communicate with each other.
You tend to start to take each other for granted and develop bad habits the longer you’re together...and sometimes it takes a neutral third party to point it out and help you correct your behavior.
And as several others pointed out, life is a constant ebb and flow/ give and take. If you’re meant to be with each other you’ll get through this and grow together instead of apart. You may not feel head over heels in love with him everyday, but you will feel that way about him again and hopefully fall harder each time.
But it is different somehow and I can’t really explain why
I have been with my husband since we were 16 years old. There has been a lot of growing during that time and with growth often comes pain.
We didn’t marry until just a couple years ago when we had already been together 14 years, and had been living together for a few of those years.
I didn’t think it would change anything because we already were so far deep in this already...more committed than some marriages...but I’m not gonna lie, that first year did bring up some shit and it was hard. (Of course we had our first child last year - that was bound to cause a stir)
Anyway, it is most definitely something you have to work at. It’s not a Disney fairytale.
I highly recommend counseling - sometimes it takes a professional to help you learn how to effectively communicate with each other.
You tend to start to take each other for granted and develop bad habits the longer you’re together...and sometimes it takes a neutral third party to point it out and help you correct your behavior.
And as several others pointed out, life is a constant ebb and flow/ give and take. If you’re meant to be with each other you’ll get through this and grow together instead of apart. You may not feel head over heels in love with him everyday, but you will feel that way about him again and hopefully fall harder each time.
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