1st houser vs. 7th houser

im kinda blazed rn so idk if this is deep or stupid:

1 houser needs everyone around them to conform to their identity. thinks about themselves as the centre with everyone else jn periphery. alone time is cool because own identity is assertive.

7th houser conforms to everyone else’s identity. blends in with anything and anyone. absorbs character. alone time is horrible because an empty feeling comes on. who am i? what is my character? how can i, be, all alone?

in relationships: 7th houser becomes their partner; 1st houser has dominated 7th houser and is annoyed at 7th houser’s lack of identity. perhaps 1st houser wants to be identity-dominated or at least identity-matched in a relationship, as a change from other times in life. 7th houser can teach them about the idea of duality/perspective/compromise.

7th houser sees relationship as two identites becoming one; a union? wants someone to conform to. 1st houser can teach them about enjoying the benefits of distance and one’s own identity.

hmmm as a first Houser I have a supper strong grasp of who I am and my identify separate from others, if others see that as selfish or self absorbed. *shrug*. I do have my me, me ego driven moments, but everyone does and they are lying if they say they don't.

I cant speak to 7th house as that's empty for me.

I don't really get the point of the thread. Its seems more like an observation to me.

I am a 1st houser. With Venus, Neptune, Jupiter and Uranus in 1st.

Also Mars conjuct the Ascendant from 2° into the 12th.

I have difficulty to compromise.

Maybe quite a big idea of myself.

I want a relationship a lot but I am very picky and even in the relationship I put myself first.

I am working on these tendencies though.

Oh and I also have 12th house personal planets so things get even worst as for opening up to others.

How do you know what "Houser" you are? I don't know what I am. 😢

Posted by saggurl88

How do you know what "Houser" you are? I don't know what I am. 😢

where are your stelliums etc. i have a stellium in 7th

Awkward

Posted by RooSagicorn

Hmmm as a first houser ( stellium) I don’t relate. I’m the one who lost who I was.. who was concerned how others saw me & tried to be the image.. it never works. My hobbies were his hobbies etc.

Then midlife crisis happens and I had to figure out who I was & not care about image anymore. I was called selfish by people who liked the unhealthy me. Life is better when you love yourself enough to be you.

Kinda seems opposite from what you’re saying. I have no 7th house planets.

interesting. i experience what you described but i have a 7th house stellium and nothing in first

Posted by besarlalluvia

Posted by saggurl88

How do you know what "Houser" you are? I don't know what I am. 😢

where are your stelliums etc. i have a stellium in 7th

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Awww, ok Thanks

I found out I'm a 3rd Houser, which is in Sag anyways, so apparently I very Saggey and maybe saggy 😄

Posted by Waterbearerwearer

They do things in groups. So in a sense you’re right... they need that attention but it’s not group mentality as such.

It’s straight up insecurity.

7th house is abit different. They want harmony where as 1st have no use for it if it doesn’t bridge their deficits. So many to count.

are you talking to me? i don’t understand what you mean by doing things in groups. or you mean it’s an attempt to dominate the others; be in a group to assert themselves over others?

Posted by bumboklatt

depends what planet or what your referrng to

sun would be most important followed by moon

suns house dwarfs nearly all other houses

and a womans moon house makes a big deal too

😒

Posted by besarlalluvia

im kinda blazed rn so idk if this is deep or stupid:

1 houser needs everyone around them to conform to their identity. thinks about themselves as the centre with everyone else jn periphery. alone time is cool because own identity is assertive.

7th houser conforms to everyone else’s identity. blends in with anything and anyone. absorbs character. alone time is horrible because an empty feeling comes on. who am i? what is my character? how can i, be, all alone?

in relationships: 7th houser becomes their partner; 1st houser has dominated 7th houser and is annoyed at 7th houser’s lack of identity. perhaps 1st houser wants to be identity-dominated or at least identity-matched in a relationship, as a change from other times in life. 7th houser can teach them about the idea of duality/perspective/compromise.

7th houser sees relationship as two identites becoming one; a union? wants someone to conform to. 1st houser can teach them about enjoying the benefits of distance and one’s own identity.

I agree.

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by besarlalluvia

im kinda blazed rn so idk if this is deep or stupid:

1 houser needs everyone around them to conform to their identity. thinks about themselves as the centre with everyone else jn periphery. alone time is cool because own identity is assertive.

7th houser conforms to everyone else’s identity. blends in with anything and anyone. absorbs character. alone time is horrible because an empty feeling comes on. who am i? what is my character? how can i, be, all alone?

in relationships: 7th houser becomes their partner; 1st houser has dominated 7th houser and is annoyed at 7th houser’s lack of identity. perhaps 1st houser wants to be identity-dominated or at least identity-matched in a relationship, as a change from other times in life. 7th houser can teach them about the idea of duality/perspective/compromise.

7th houser sees relationship as two identites becoming one; a union? wants someone to conform to. 1st houser can teach them about enjoying the benefits of distance and one’s own identity.

I agree.

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thank you