@angie2080
9 Years
Can I ask a very personal question?
You are sexually incompatible
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want....I love a fiery man sexually but sadly you can't change people. I only ever met one that got me that way....he was a Scorpio dominant Aries 🔥. Before that the guys i were with were loving but not passionate enough sexually, except one with Mars in Aries.
Your boyfriend saying only sluts like rough sex sounds like something from the 1950 LOL...
Posted by angie2080Hi
I'm a little embarassed to talk about this but I need to ask something.
I believe there shouldn't be any rules when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom. Every person has their own taste and desires and something that really turns me on is rough sex. I like to play the role of a submissive woman dominated by a man. I get excited if the man pulls my hair or spanks me in a playful way, like dominating me.
My partner, however thinks it's not good that I like rough sex. He says only sluts are treated that way and that I should like slow/romantic type of sex. But what if it doesn't turn me on as much? He doesn't understand that I have my own sexual needs. Do you agree or disagree with him? Should he make an effort to please me? Sometimes he tells me he can't treat me like that in bed because he'll see me as a slut and not like a long-term partner.
What are your opinions?
I'm Pisces, we're freaks in sexual encounters....enough said... hahahahaa
I love the spanking, hairpulling, biting, using nails, bdsm ect...
Posted by emeraldgemThere are so many things that can be worked out. Sexual incompatibility is not one of them. And especially with this guy's attitude. You need to find someone who can rock your world.
I second this
My sex llfe was unfulfilling for too long but when I met my match i wondered why I'd tolerated going without for so long...
Posted by Mactavish_RPosted by PiscesGal76Posted by angie2080Hi
I'm a little embarassed to talk about this but I need to ask something.
I believe there shouldn't be any rules when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom. Every person has their own taste and desires and something that really turns me on is rough sex. I like to play the role of a submissive woman dominated by a man. I get excited if the man pulls my hair or spanks me in a playful way, like dominating me.
My partner, however thinks it's not good that I like rough sex. He says only sluts are treated that way and that I should like slow/romantic type of sex. But what if it doesn't turn me on as much? He doesn't understand that I have my own sexual needs. Do you agree or disagree with him? Should he make an effort to please me? Sometimes he tells me he can't treat me like that in bed because he'll see me as a slut and not like a long-term partner.
What are your opinions?
I'm Pisces, we're freaks in sexual encounters....enough said... hahahahaa
I love the spanking, hairpulling, biting, using nails, bdsm ect...
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Hahahahaaa what can I say... Pisces are sexual freaks.
Your partner is suffering from the Madonna/wh 0re complex. Your sex life is probably going to suck
Posted by Mactavish_RPosted by MyStarsShineYou are sexually incompatible
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want....I love a fiery man sexually but sadly you can't change people. I only ever met one that got me that way....he was a Scorpio dominant Aries 🔥. Before that the guys i were with were loving but not passionate enough sexually, except one with Mars in Aries.
Your boyfriend saying only sluts like rough sex sounds like something from the 1950 LOL...
Thank you. 🙃
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Congrats!
Can you have a talk with him and ask him why hair pulling and being spanked equals being a slut? Why HE associates that with being one? That maybe he needs to change his opinion on what an actual slut is?
He needs to be a little more open minded. Sluts have sex too, so does that mean you automatically are one, then?
You should have your needs fulfilled, but if you like him, have an open conversation and get to the core of why he associates certain acts with being a slut. Maybe that will help him out.
I have a twin brother who was having sex with his wife and she told him to treat her like a whore and to call her one and he said no, that was a line he couldn't cross because she was his wife. The fact that she wanted to be called a whore threw him off and disgusted him.
Posted by emeraldgemYou know - there's going to be a lot of comments (asking your sign/asking his sign/asking where your venus is....on and on) but it comes down to this. Incompatible in bed - the relationship is doomed. I speak from a vast pool of knowledge here. IT WILL NOT WORK EVER. Nope not never, ever, ever.
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How about sexual counselling...does that ever work to bridge the gap with sexual incompatibility...
You should of just said
“Ohhhh yes daddy... I’m a total slut. Fuck me like a slut needs to get fucked”
And then bent over and waited. If he didn’t do anything I woulda just kicked him out.
Is he a Virgo??
Lol
Posted by saggurl88Can you have a talk with him and ask him why hair pulling and being spanked equals being a slut? Why HE associates that with being one? That maybe he needs to change his opinion on what an actual slut is?
He needs to be a little more open minded. Sluts have sex too, so does that mean you automatically are one, then?
You should have your needs fulfilled, but if you like him, have an open conversation and get to the core of why he associates certain acts with being a slut. Maybe that will help him out.
I have a twin brother who was having sex with his wife and she told him to treat her like a whore and to call her one and he said no, that was a line he couldn't cross because she was his wife. The fact that she wanted to be called a whore threw him off and disgusted him.
Your brother told you about his sex??
😲
Tell him you ARE his little slut
Posted by PiscesGal76Posted by angie2080Hi
I'm a little embarassed to talk about this but I need to ask something.
I believe there shouldn't be any rules when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom. Every person has their own taste and desires and something that really turns me on is rough sex. I like to play the role of a submissive woman dominated by a man. I get excited if the man pulls my hair or spanks me in a playful way, like dominating me.
My partner, however thinks it's not good that I like rough sex. He says only sluts are treated that way and that I should like slow/romantic type of sex. But what if it doesn't turn me on as much? He doesn't understand that I have my own sexual needs. Do you agree or disagree with him? Should he make an effort to please me? Sometimes he tells me he can't treat me like that in bed because he'll see me as a slut and not like a long-term partner.
What are your opinions?
I'm Pisces, we're freaks in sexual encounters....enough said... hahahahaa
I love the spanking, hairpulling, biting, using nails, bdsm ect...
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Hahaha *high five
You like a man that’s dominant in bed. Nothing wrong with that. You are just not compatible and he won’t be able to change. They have to have it in them naturally.
For me is nothing better than a man that’s passionate and in touch with his animalistic self 😂 Romantic is nice every now and then but not sexually fulfilling.
Posted by GobbyJust kick him to the kerb. Don't look back.
Btw, I'm here for you... 😈
Hahaha
I don't know if others have asked you, or if you mention as I reply from the first page of reading only, but has he even tried what you like? You could always in the moment ask him to give you a little smack and see where it leads from there, it could be a case that he is a little shy and more than likely has never tried this out before.
My motto in life is you can never say you don't like something unless you have tried it out first?
I don't know how long you have been together but as others have mentioned sexual incompatibility is more often than not something you wont be able to keep up long term.
Try spice things up a little first, I know you say you prefer being submissive but perhaps take a dominant role and tease his taste buds a little with the things you like by performing the acts on him, to show him its not as degrading as he is making it out to be?
It is also very difficult for someone who is sexually submissive naturally to take on a dominant role, you yourself may know this if you prefer the sub role yourself. Start of with something simple and take it from there
Posted by alexscariesPosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesI don't know if others have asked you, or if you mention as I reply from the first page of reading only, but has he even tried what you like? You could always in the moment ask him to give you a little smack and see where it leads from there, it could be a case that he is a little shy and more than likely has never tried this out before.
My motto in life is you can never say you don't like something unless you have tried it out first?
I don't know how long you have been together but as others have mentioned sexual incompatibility is more often than not something you wont be able to keep up long term.
Try spice things up a little first, I know you say you prefer being submissive but perhaps take a dominant role and tease his taste buds a little with the things you like by performing the acts on him, to show him its not as degrading as he is making it out to be?
It is also very difficult for someone who is sexually submissive naturally to take on a dominant role, you yourself may know this if you prefer the sub role yourself. Start of with something simple and take it from there
I respect your opinion, but he sounds so far away from what she desires he will never satisfy her even with years of training.
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I completely get what you are saying, but the same could be said if she is unable to reverse "roles" too though, perhaps?
Posted by alexscariesPosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by alexscariesPosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesI don't know if others have asked you, or if you mention as I reply from the first page of reading only, but has he even tried what you like? You could always in the moment ask him to give you a little smack and see where it leads from there, it could be a case that he is a little shy and more than likely has never tried this out before.
My motto in life is you can never say you don't like something unless you have tried it out first?
I don't know how long you have been together but as others have mentioned sexual incompatibility is more often than not something you wont be able to keep up long term.
Try spice things up a little first, I know you say you prefer being submissive but perhaps take a dominant role and tease his taste buds a little with the things you like by performing the acts on him, to show him its not as degrading as he is making it out to be?
It is also very difficult for someone who is sexually submissive naturally to take on a dominant role, you yourself may know this if you prefer the sub role yourself. Start of with something simple and take it from there
I respect your opinion, but he sounds so far away from what she desires he will never satisfy her even with years of training.
I completely get what you are saying, but the same could be said if she is unable to reverse "roles" too though, perhaps?
Got to be worth a goal. It is quite difficult if someone is hard wired a certain way. I've been submissive and it is very enjoyable, but I can only do it every so often as it feels a bit like I am forcing myself to act out of character. I could be way wrong as I've never met the guy, but he sounds really uncomfortable with his own sexual identity; usually men who slut shame are bitter.
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Yeah its not exactly the term you want to call a girlfriend who is just open about their sexuality I agree. BUT and its a huge but, everyone is different. With some guys, I preferred a dominant role, while others I preferred a submissive role. Personally I think it all depends on the type of Chemistry you share together, but you have hit the nail on the head where I think he is uncomfortable with himself.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShineYou are sexually incompatible
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want....I love a fiery man sexually but sadly you can't change people. I only ever met one that got me that way....he was a Scorpio dominant Aries 🔥. Before that the guys i were with were loving but not passionate enough sexually, except one with Mars in Aries.
Your boyfriend saying only sluts like rough sex sounds like something from the 1950 LOL...
We haven't met.
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Life is way too damn short to not be getting your sexual needs fulfilled.
Never understood why some people associate rough sex with "having issues". I could see maybe any type of name calling being uncomfortable for some but the rough stuff...naw, put that belt around my neck and gimme that diiiick!
Sorry...I need to get laid 🤷🏼♀️😂
Posted by alexscariesPosted by SjessYou should of just said
“Ohhhh yes daddy... I’m a total slut. Fuck me like a slut needs to get fucked”
And then bent over and waited. If he didn’t do anything I woulda just kicked him out.
Is he a Virgo??
Lol
Virgos are sluts.
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Posted by alexscariesPosted by LostinmyMind11Life is way too damn short to not be getting your sexual needs fulfilled.
Never understood why some people associate rough sex with "having issues". I could see maybe any type of name calling being uncomfortable for some but the rough stuff...naw, put that belt around my neck and gimme that diiiick!
Sorry...I need to get laid 🤷🏼♀️😂
With name calling I ask if it's OK before hand, for obvious reasons some people are uncomfortable with it. People have issues with anything they don't understand, they don't know pain can release adrenaline and endorphins.
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Exactly the reason why I only get with guys that are on the same page as me when it comes to sexual stuff...if not, it's never going to work.
I only had one guy (a cancer) who was more or less shy when it came to the rougher stuff...he was afraid he'd hurt me. We were very much still sexually compatible...I just had to show him how to be more comfortable in that area and he was more than willing to try because I knew deep down inside.. he was a freak himself 😂
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShineYou are sexually incompatible
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want....I love a fiery man sexually but sadly you can't change people. I only ever met one that got me that way....he was a Scorpio dominant Aries 🔥. Before that the guys i were with were loving but not passionate enough sexually, except one with Mars in Aries.
Your boyfriend saying only sluts like rough sex sounds like something from the 1950 LOL...
We haven't met.
Not trying to boost my own ego ... or am I? Did you find he could draw sexuality out of you and you felt really aroused around him all the time?
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Will be back later AlexScorpio
Brace
Yourself
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Tell him not to knock it till he tries it.
I'm 75% time totally submissive to my man in the bedroom and we both love it.
Start subtle. Don't tell him....just lure him.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShineYou are sexually incompatible
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want....I love a fiery man sexually but sadly you can't change people. I only ever met one that got me that way....he was a Scorpio dominant Aries 🔥. Before that the guys i were with were loving but not passionate enough sexually, except one with Mars in Aries.
Your boyfriend saying only sluts like rough sex sounds like something from the 1950 LOL...
We haven't met.
Not trying to boost my own ego ... or am I? Did you find he could draw sexuality out of you and you felt really aroused around him all the time?
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Aries....ego? Surely not? 😛
Yes he did and I did for him....two ways street, double trouble
It was compelling, obsessive and extreme. A man I'd met on an Astro forum who was a Uni lecturer and Astrologer told me he'd never seen such chemistry between two charts and he felt it was a once in a lifetime thing.
I'd prayed to meet my match and i did....we could not keep our hands off each other for almost five years...
Posted by alexscariesPosted by SjessYou should of just said
“Ohhhh yes daddy... I’m a total slut. Fuck me like a slut needs to get fucked”
And then bent over and waited. If he didn’t do anything I woulda just kicked him out.
Is he a Virgo??
Lol
Virgos are sluts.
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Except maybe Mother Theresa ....
Posted by alexscariesPosted by LostinmyMind11Life is way too damn short to not be getting your sexual needs fulfilled.
Never understood why some people associate rough sex with "having issues". I could see maybe any type of name calling being uncomfortable for some but the rough stuff...naw, put that belt around my neck and gimme that diiiick!
Sorry...I need to get laid 🤷🏼♀️😂
With name calling I ask if it's OK before hand, for obvious reasons some people are uncomfortable with it. People have issues with anything they don't understand, they don't know pain can release adrenaline and endorphins.
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The Aries guy i was with didn't want to call me names, only positive ones, he just wanted to be inside of me all the time. It was very passionate, deep and on the edge, but not the porn style name calling, etc. I don't need that
Asking someone if you can name call them sounds premediated and contrived....
Still Pretty positive her bf is a Virgo
Posted by emeraldgemYou know - there's going to be a lot of comments (asking your sign/asking his sign/asking where your venus is....on and on) but it comes down to this. Incompatible in bed - the relationship is doomed. I speak from a vast pool of knowledge here. IT WILL NOT WORK EVER. Nope not never, ever, ever.
Yes. This is the reason people are parting ways later in life when they had realized it was a mistake being together.
Posted by SilveradoI'm willing to accommodate my partner up to a certain point. That being said, I never intend to draw blood. After that, anything is fair game and I'm willing to try anything once.
How you feel or what turns you on is your business and he should respect that.
You are man! How can you say that man must become fierce if he is in fact sensual or vise versa?
If he doesn’t feel fierce? What is he supposed to do? Pull some act? Explain please...
Posted by maidenAnyone else noticed that the OP hasn't answered anyone's questions and you've all been talking amongst yourselves for about 4 pages
We usually need a toy to be thrown so we can play with it...who cares as long as ball is rolling...😂😂
Posted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoI'm willing to accommodate my partner up to a certain point. That being said, I never intend to draw blood. After that, anything is fair game and I'm willing to try anything once.
How you feel or what turns you on is your business and he should respect that.
You are man! How can you say that man must become fierce if he is in fact sensual or vise versa?
If he doesn’t feel fierce? What is he supposed to do? Pull some act? Explain please...
I'm a man and I've rarely had any problems. 🤷🏻♂️
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If you haven’t done hair pulling how do you know that it’s too rough if her hair is still in your hand after pulling? 🤷♀️
Posted by alexscariesPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoI'm willing to accommodate my partner up to a certain point. That being said, I never intend to draw blood. After that, anything is fair game and I'm willing to try anything once.
How you feel or what turns you on is your business and he should respect that.
You are man! How can you say that man must become fierce if he is in fact sensual or vise versa?
If he doesn’t feel fierce? What is he supposed to do? Pull some act? Explain please...
I'm a man and I've rarely had any problems. 🤷🏻♂️
If you haven’t done hair pulling how do you know that it’s too rough if her hair is still in your hand after pulling? 🤷♀️
Hair pulling is easy. Using a riding crop is difficult.
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Riding crop? What’s that? 🤷♀️
Posted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoI'm willing to accommodate my partner up to a certain point. That being said, I never intend to draw blood. After that, anything is fair game and I'm willing to try anything once.
How you feel or what turns you on is your business and he should respect that.
You are man! How can you say that man must become fierce if he is in fact sensual or vise versa?
If he doesn’t feel fierce? What is he supposed to do? Pull some act? Explain please...
I'm a man and I've rarely had any problems. 🤷🏻♂️
If you haven’t done hair pulling how do you know that it’s too rough if her hair is still in your hand after pulling? 🤷♀️
Stop asking me questions.
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Because you are cornered?
Posted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoI'm willing to accommodate my partner up to a certain point. That being said, I never intend to draw blood. After that, anything is fair game and I'm willing to try anything once.
How you feel or what turns you on is your business and he should respect that.
You are man! How can you say that man must become fierce if he is in fact sensual or vise versa?
If he doesn’t feel fierce? What is he supposed to do? Pull some act? Explain please...
I'm a man and I've rarely had any problems. 🤷🏻♂️
If you haven’t done hair pulling how do you know that it’s too rough if her hair is still in your hand after pulling? 🤷♀️
Stop asking me questions.
Because you are cornered?
No, because you're annoying and you make no sense most of the time. And this is coming from a guy just drunk as hell. 😑
Go obsess over somebody else.
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Maybe you are too drunk as supposed to I am annoying
he is the weird one, most guys like rough sex ( i think)
Posted by angie2080Hi
I'm a little embarassed to talk about this but I need to ask something.
I believe there shouldn't be any rules when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom. Every person has their own taste and desires and something that really turns me on is rough sex. I like to play the role of a submissive woman dominated by a man. I get excited if the man pulls my hair or spanks me in a playful way, like dominating me.
My partner, however thinks it's not good that I like rough sex. He says only sluts are treated that way and that I should like slow/romantic type of sex. But what if it doesn't turn me on as much? He doesn't understand that I have my own sexual needs. Do you agree or disagree with him? Should he make an effort to please me? Sometimes he tells me he can't treat me like that in bed because he'll see me as a slut and not like a long-term partner.
What are your opinions?
I don't think wanting a dominant man and rough sex makes you a "slut". Without saying too much, my wife is my submissive so I may be bias. If he doesn't give you what you feel like you need, I'd suggest not cheating, instead leave him. Subspace is something most people don't understand.
If he loves you, I feel like he should be willing to go out of his comfort zone to please you.
Posted by MyStarsShineYou are sexually incompatible
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want....I love a fiery man sexually but sadly you can't change people. I only ever met one that got me that way....he was a Scorpio dominant Aries 🔥. Before that the guys i were with were loving but not passionate enough sexually, except one with Mars in Aries.
Your boyfriend saying only sluts like rough sex sounds like something from the 1950 LOL...
We aries mars are the best
Posted by alexscariesPosted by Foot_In_MouthPosted by angie2080Hi
I'm a little embarassed to talk about this but I need to ask something.
I believe there shouldn't be any rules when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom. Every person has their own taste and desires and something that really turns me on is rough sex. I like to play the role of a submissive woman dominated by a man. I get excited if the man pulls my hair or spanks me in a playful way, like dominating me.
My partner, however thinks it's not good that I like rough sex. He says only sluts are treated that way and that I should like slow/romantic type of sex. But what if it doesn't turn me on as much? He doesn't understand that I have my own sexual needs. Do you agree or disagree with him? Should he make an effort to please me? Sometimes he tells me he can't treat me like that in bed because he'll see me as a slut and not like a long-term partner.
What are your opinions?
I don't think wanting a dominant man and rough sex makes you a "slut". Without saying too much, my wife is my submissive so I may be bias. If he doesn't give you what you feel like you need, I'd suggest not cheating, instead leave him. Subspace is something most people don't understand.
If he loves you, I feel like he should be willing to go out of his comfort zone to please you.
Subspace is incredibly difficult. I've only had a few girls go into subspace, usually I pull them out quickly.
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Aftercare is needed, play responsibly.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShineYou are sexually incompatible
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want....I love a fiery man sexually but sadly you can't change people. I only ever met one that got me that way....he was a Scorpio dominant Aries 🔥. Before that the guys i were with were loving but not passionate enough sexually, except one with Mars in Aries.
Your boyfriend saying only sluts like rough sex sounds like something from the 1950 LOL...
We haven't met.
Not trying to boost my own ego ... or am I? Did you find he could draw sexuality out of you and you felt really aroused around him all the time?
Aries....ego? Surely not? 😛
Yes he did and I did for him....two ways street, double trouble
It was compelling, obsessive and extreme. A man I'd met on an Astro forum who was a Uni lecturer and Astrologer told me he'd never seen such chemistry between two charts and he felt it was a once in a lifetime thing.
I'd prayed to meet my match and i did....we could not keep our hands off each other for almost five years...
Thanks for sharing I know it is difficult to do. What was the conversation like? Was it a meeting of minds? Did it feel like he is in your thoughts all the time? Were there a lot of compliments? How did you know it was love and not lust? Did it start off with sexual conversations early on?
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Thanks Alex❤️
It seemed to be serious from the start. He was very shy but with an underlying intense passion I’d never experienced. He wasn’t a flatterer so I believed his words were genuine. He started off by saying “you’re so hot and you’re a ride (Irish expression) but graduated to other things when he was hooked. He asked me “what are you doing to me” and I could see he was falling deeply but trying to stop himself. Love and lust all rolled into one. I don’t do the lust only thing too well...I become attached emotionally and deeply.
We had sex on the first meeting...something I’d never done before and I said to him that it couldn’t last as there was a big distance and age gap between us......almost 5 years later and by then him being in a different country and a plane journey and two trains to catch, he still persisted. Finishing was one of the hardest things I ever did 💜
Hope that answered your questions?
Posted by alexscariesPosted by GemitatiPosted by alexscariesPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoI'm willing to accommodate my partner up to a certain point. That being said, I never intend to draw blood. After that, anything is fair game and I'm willing to try anything once.
How you feel or what turns you on is your business and he should respect that.
You are man! How can you say that man must become fierce if he is in fact sensual or vise versa?
If he doesn’t feel fierce? What is he supposed to do? Pull some act? Explain please...
I'm a man and I've rarely had any problems. 🤷🏻♂️
If you haven’t done hair pulling how do you know that it’s too rough if her hair is still in your hand after pulling? 🤷♀️
Hair pulling is easy. Using a riding crop is difficult.
Riding crop? What’s that? 🤷♀️
A crop jockeys use to make to get horses to go faster by whipping them. But in the bedroom it is an alternative to a whip, but quite difficult as it has a small surface area and is quite sharp.
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Scorpio Mars Sadist
Posted by alexscariesPosted by SjessStill Pretty positive her bf is a Virgo
Probably cancer.
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Not likely. Cancer men are normally into bdsm
Posted by RaakacIt depends. I love to try different things in bed, rough,romantic, fun, adventurous. But if you would only want rough sex i would get bored, i need variety. That being said what he said is stupid,he sounds boring.
Oh me too...variety is the spice of life
Repetitive sex bores the shit out of me
The thought of having to be submissive every time i had sex with a guy would make me yawn. Every now and then okay, but every time....oh God no 😬
Mix it up and surprise me 🔥🎡🎉💃🏼
Posted by alexscariesPosted by GemitatiPosted by alexscariesPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoI'm willing to accommodate my partner up to a certain point. That being said, I never intend to draw blood. After that, anything is fair game and I'm willing to try anything once.
How you feel or what turns you on is your business and he should respect that.
You are man! How can you say that man must become fierce if he is in fact sensual or vise versa?
If he doesn’t feel fierce? What is he supposed to do? Pull some act? Explain please...
I'm a man and I've rarely had any problems. 🤷🏻♂️
If you haven’t done hair pulling how do you know that it’s too rough if her hair is still in your hand after pulling? 🤷♀️
Hair pulling is easy. Using a riding crop is difficult.
Riding crop? What’s that? 🤷♀️
A crop jockeys use to make to get horses to go faster by whipping them. But in the bedroom it is an alternative to a whip, but quite difficult as it has a small surface area and is quite sharp.
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Aries and their riding crops smh...good times tho lol 😉
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by alexscariesPosted by GemitatiPosted by alexscariesPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoPosted by GemitatiPosted by SilveradoI'm willing to accommodate my partner up to a certain point. That being said, I never intend to draw blood. After that, anything is fair game and I'm willing to try anything once.
How you feel or what turns you on is your business and he should respect that.
You are man! How can you say that man must become fierce if he is in fact sensual or vise versa?
If he doesn’t feel fierce? What is he supposed to do? Pull some act? Explain please...
I'm a man and I've rarely had any problems. 🤷🏻♂️
If you haven’t done hair pulling how do you know that it’s too rough if her hair is still in your hand after pulling? 🤷♀️
Hair pulling is easy. Using a riding crop is difficult.
Riding crop? What’s that? 🤷♀️
A crop jockeys use to make to get horses to go faster by whipping them. But in the bedroom it is an alternative to a whip, but quite difficult as it has a small surface area and is quite sharp.
Aries and their riding crops smh...good times tho lol 😉
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Mine didn't have one.....it would have ended up where the Sun don't shine lol
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShineYou are sexually incompatible
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want....I love a fiery man sexually but sadly you can't change people. I only ever met one that got me that way....he was a Scorpio dominant Aries 🔥. Before that the guys i were with were loving but not passionate enough sexually, except one with Mars in Aries.
Your boyfriend saying only sluts like rough sex sounds like something from the 1950 LOL...
We haven't met.
Not trying to boost my own ego ... or am I? Did you find he could draw sexuality out of you and you felt really aroused around him all the time?
Aries....ego? Surely not? 😛
Yes he did and I did for him....two ways street, double trouble
It was compelling, obsessive and extreme. A man I'd met on an Astro forum who was a Uni lecturer and Astrologer told me he'd never seen such chemistry between two charts and he felt it was a once in a lifetime thing.
I'd prayed to meet my match and i did....we could not keep our hands off each other for almost five years...
Thanks for sharing I know it is difficult to do. What was the conversation like? Was it a meeting of minds? Did it feel like he is in your thoughts all the time? Were there a lot of compliments? How did you know it was love and not lust? Did it start off with sexual conversations early on?
Thanks Alex❤️
It seemed to be serious from the start. He was very shy but with an underlying intense passion I’d never experienced. He wasn’t a flatterer so I believed his words were genuine. He started off by saying “you’re so hot and you’re a ride (Irish expression) but graduated to other things when he was hooked. He asked me “what are you doing to me” and I could see he was falling deeply but trying to stop himself. Love and lust all rolled into one. I don’t do the lust only thing too well...I become attached emotionally and deeply.
We had sex on the first meeting...something I’d never done before and I said to him that it couldn’t last as there was a big distance and age gap between us......almost 5 years later and by then him being in a different country and a plane journey and two trains to catch, he still persisted. Finishing was one of the hardest things I ever did 💜
Hope that answered your questions?
Thanks for the honest response. It sounds very powerful.
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No problem Alex, yes it was very powerful and life changing for me. Did you ever experience this at all?
Posted by alexscariesPosted by Foot_In_MouthPosted by angie2080Hi
I'm a little embarassed to talk about this but I need to ask something.
I believe there shouldn't be any rules when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom. Every person has their own taste and desires and something that really turns me on is rough sex. I like to play the role of a submissive woman dominated by a man. I get excited if the man pulls my hair or spanks me in a playful way, like dominating me.
My partner, however thinks it's not good that I like rough sex. He says only sluts are treated that way and that I should like slow/romantic type of sex. But what if it doesn't turn me on as much? He doesn't understand that I have my own sexual needs. Do you agree or disagree with him? Should he make an effort to please me? Sometimes he tells me he can't treat me like that in bed because he'll see me as a slut and not like a long-term partner.
What are your opinions?
I don't think wanting a dominant man and rough sex makes you a "slut". Without saying too much, my wife is my submissive so I may be bias. If he doesn't give you what you feel like you need, I'd suggest not cheating, instead leave him. Subspace is something most people don't understand.
If he loves you, I feel like he should be willing to go out of his comfort zone to please you.
Subspace is incredibly difficult. I've only had a few girls go into subspace, usually I pull them out quickly.
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Out? Of their misery? 🤦♀️
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShineYou are sexually incompatible
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want....I love a fiery man sexually but sadly you can't change people. I only ever met one that got me that way....he was a Scorpio dominant Aries 🔥. Before that the guys i were with were loving but not passionate enough sexually, except one with Mars in Aries.
Your boyfriend saying only sluts like rough sex sounds like something from the 1950 LOL...
We haven't met.
Not trying to boost my own ego ... or am I? Did you find he could draw sexuality out of you and you felt really aroused around him all the time?
Aries....ego? Surely not? 😛
Yes he did and I did for him....two ways street, double trouble
It was compelling, obsessive and extreme. A man I'd met on an Astro forum who was a Uni lecturer and Astrologer told me he'd never seen such chemistry between two charts and he felt it was a once in a lifetime thing.
I'd prayed to meet my match and i did....we could not keep our hands off each other for almost five years...
Thanks for sharing I know it is difficult to do. What was the conversation like? Was it a meeting of minds? Did it feel like he is in your thoughts all the time? Were there a lot of compliments? How did you know it was love and not lust? Did it start off with sexual conversations early on?
Thanks Alex❤️
It seemed to be serious from the start. He was very shy but with an underlying intense passion I’d never experienced. He wasn’t a flatterer so I believed his words were genuine. He started off by saying “you’re so hot and you’re a ride (Irish expression) but graduated to other things when he was hooked. He asked me “what are you doing to me” and I could see he was falling deeply but trying to stop himself. Love and lust all rolled into one. I don’t do the lust only thing too well...I become attached emotionally and deeply.
We had sex on the first meeting...something I’d never done before and I said to him that it couldn’t last as there was a big distance and age gap between us......almost 5 years later and by then him being in a different country and a plane journey and two trains to catch, he still persisted. Finishing was one of the hardest things I ever did 💜
Hope that answered your questions?
Thanks for the honest response. It sounds very powerful.
No problem Alex, yes it was very powerful and life changing for me. Did you ever experience this at all?
I'm still not sure.
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I think you’d be sure if it happened...it knocks your sox off mister 😳
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Hi
I'm a little embarassed to talk about this but I need to ask something.
I believe there shouldn't be any rules when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom. Every person has their own taste and desires and something that really turns me on is rough sex. I like to play the role of a submissive woman dominated by a man. I get excited if the man pulls my hair or spanks me in a playful way, like dominating me.
My partner, however thinks it's not good that I like rough sex. He says only sluts are treated that way and that I should like slow/romantic type of sex. But what if it doesn't turn me on as much? He doesn't understand that I have my own sexual needs. Do you agree or disagree with him? Should he make an effort to please me? Sometimes he tells me he can't treat me like that in bed because he'll see me as a slut and not like a long-term partner.
What are your opinions?