Dating a gamer smile

Let me start by stating I have never had the pleasure of being interested in video gaming. It was a completely alien hobby that hadn't crossed my path. Well, all that changed this year when I fell into a lovely relationship with my gorgeous boyfriend.
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  • wagtail
    Leo- Can't sleep, clowns will eat me...
    from Australia
    Let me start by stating I have never had the pleasure of being interested in video gaming. It was a completely alien hobby that hadn't crossed my path.
    Well, all that changed this year when I fell into a lovely relationship with my gorgeous boyfriend.
    Ladies, this may surprise you to hear but dating a gamer has MANY benefits and in my opinion the pros outweigh the cons.

    Initially of course you are probably aware they spend some of their downtime playing. Typically in the new stages of a relationship it may not quite sink in HOW MUCH since you spend a lot of your time on dates -going out or staying in watching movies- it's when things have become more long term or perhaps you start living together that the true extent of their passion becomes apparent!

    Don't despair, here is just a couple of things I have learned that in fact demonstrate why exactly all that gamer couch time is really okay.

    Firstly, theyre easy to find, evenings are not spent wondering where he/she is or when they'll be home. Chances are he's where he always is. In his gaming cornerLaughing
    Second, they understand the need for uninterrupted me time. They aren't clingy or offended by you wanting to hang with friends spend hours on the phone or reading or pursuing your own interests.
    Third PATIENCE he's been levelling up for years. Staring at load screens or playing and replaying missions to get that reward or goal, hours spent waiting for squads to get together at weird hours this plays right into relationship territory - if you take hours to get ready never fear he'll use that time to level up or defeat that Boss it's win win!
    This plays into fourth, problem solving. If there are issues in your love life a gamer will take those seriously and will not give up until resolution has been reached. They are great communicators too, team playing missions via headset has taught them how to hash things out so everybody gets to the finish line and they'll translate that right into making things work with you and you heart too smile

    Next. They are often tech savvy so you'll rarely have to worry about internet probs they've got that stuff covered

    Finally, if you're feeling a little neglected or starting to feel like a third wheel - always competing with his game for attention or quality time
    SAY something! their love for you is mutually exclusive from their passion for the game. They understand how all consuming the hobby is but they ALSO understand and want to put the same investment time into their relationship with you- compromises can always be reached and you never know, sometimes jumping in to play with your gamer dude/gal might be a lot of fun they will love showing you the ropes so don't be shy if you're not great: like any activity people love when you show a little interest
    Anyway I just wanted to put this here because I'd noticed there was a lot of negative feedback online from partners of gamers who were/are struggling to reconcile their feels in this situation but if you think about it a little bit you might find yourself with an amazing sweet funny partner if you just give it a chance.
  • Harukka
    I wish that we're birds, and fly together forever

    Date me, I'm gamer tooLaughing kidding


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    Yeah I like it..its true.
  • justagirl
    Crime fighting on rooftops by night.
    Welcome to the other side Tongue


    Nerds are hot! Winking
  • hydorah
    - Top Intellect
    46 years old male
    how does it work? do you ride him while he's playing fifa? asking for a firned
  • hydorah
    - Top Intellect
    46 years old male
    he must be the absolute boss online
    "yeah guys, after that game, I'm going to spend some time with my giiiiirlfriiiend, and I will, like, touch her boobs."
  • wagtail
    Leo- Can't sleep, clowns will eat me...
    from Australia
    Couple of other things to note- far from being stereotypically reclusive gamers and the world of gaming is really social.
    Also girls I forgot to mention- dexterity. Have you ever watched someone really blowing butter away in a game it can be just like watching a movie right? Everything is so fluid and moving thru the storyline so fast!
    Let's just say those hand eye coordination skills really come into their own in the bedroom Winking
    My dude is a pro skateboarder and surfs on the reg so the traditional 'nerd' image is so overplayed as well. Ladies these guys can be such keepers for so many reasons smile
  • lol

    It's still new and fresh, but wait until that butter starts seeping into relationship time and you're made left to wait around or are ignored for the sake of gaming.

    It's the extreme though. I have no issue with guys being gamers. But my ex got into it after our relationship started by playing COD obsessively. It became a HUGE problem and I even walked out one night because of his inconsiderate butter. He didn't even notice, he was too busy playing that ish, it was so bad. His roommates had to tell him what was up because he was so derpy.

    Overall, if they're good about keeping everything well balanced, woot. If not, then run for the treetrunking hills.
  • hydorah
    - Top Intellect
    46 years old male
    Did you know some people date videogame characters?
    @scorpio84
  • EtherealTraveler
    If light cannot escape me, what hope have you?
    18 years old male
    I dunno, I mean I treat gaming as a sin so...
  • WarAngel1
    The man, the legend.
    38 years old male from San Antonio, TX, USA
    I got away from competitive gaming, maybe one day I'll dominate noobs again. Dating is my focus now.
  • Posted by TheTinMan
    I just can't believe I red that whole entire text post. Bored much? I'll say. It seems some gamers (dudes especially) are more in to their games than anything it makes me wonder sometimes if they'll ever get a girl/boy. Like my sagittarius nephew whos old enough to have some kind of woman in his life. It seems he'll never get a girlfriend. I doubt his dick ever even get hard. I can't see how that doesn't bother him.


    Probably gets hard when he levels up.
  • wagtail
    Leo- Can't sleep, clowns will eat me...
    from Australia
    Look I'm not saying that this particular relationship dynamic doesn't have its challenges. But I am becoming aware the challenges are somewhat unique and not necessarily deal breakers that you find in more standard dating situations.
    All I'm saying is if you ARE reading this because it's relevant to you you are not alone and all is not lost Big Grin
  • justagirl
    Crime fighting on rooftops by night.
    Posted by TheTinMan
    I just can't believe I red that whole entire text post. Bored much? I'll say. It seems some gamers (dudes especially) are more in to their games than anything it makes me wonder sometimes if they'll ever get a girl/boy. Like my sagittarius nephew whos old enough to have some kind of woman in his life. It seems he'll never get a girlfriend. I doubt his dick ever even get hard. I can't see how that doesn't bother him.


    Not true, most of the guys i have dated have been gamers and they were very involved in the relationship and life. They were not the sterotype live in a basement virgin and don't interact with people lol Gamers dudes get more dick than many people even realize.

  • justagirl
    Crime fighting on rooftops by night.
    Posted by wagtail
    Look I'm not saying that this particular relationship dynamic doesn't have its challenges. But I am becoming aware the challenges are somewhat unique and not necessarily deal breakers that you find in more standard dating situations.
    All I'm saying is if you ARE reading this because it's relevant to you you are not alone and all is not lost Big Grin


    Nerds are hot, right?!?!? Tongue
  • sultrykitty
    Leo Sun/Cap Moon/Aquarius rising
    female from USA
    Mr Aqua isn't a hard core gamer, but he does spend a fair bit of time on DC Universe. Supposedly has a high rep there. If he's not gaming, he's in the shop working on games (pinball). We have meals and spend time watching shows and movies we like.

    Not a problem at all with me.
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