Did u have strict parents and how did you react...

..when you were out of their "custody", so to speak?
Did you kind of go the other way.....like anarchy....?

Posted by bricklemark
..when you were out of their "custody", so to speak?
Did you kind of go the other way.....like anarchy....?

Terribly strict... it was ridiculous.

And yes, I did... of course I did-- what the hell, my curfew was earlier than anyone

elses, I wasn't allowed to drive, and I was utterly micro-managed into complete

and all-consuming frustration.


I couldn't wait to get out... and I went overboard trying to make up for lost time.

Sometimes, I'm still surprised I lived. 😄

Nope, mom let me be free to do whatever I wanted and dad didn't want to piss me off, so he naturally just let me be. Lets just say, I will be the total opposite.

This is embarrassing but I was made to go to bed at 8:30 every night till I was half way through 16

My mum was strict as hell and that made me really toxic I turned into a toxic thistle in her iron grip so to speak, she let go in the end because I broke her.

Posted by Gooober
Nope, mom let me be free to do whatever I wanted and dad didn't want to piss me off, so he naturally just let me be. Lets just say, I will be the total opposite.

Well... there's a happy medium to be had. 🙂

Teaching kids how to handle the so-called freedom that will inevitably

be forced upon them, at some point, is really the way to go.

Neither extreme is good.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
This is embarrassing but I was made to go to bed at 8:30 every night till I was half way through 16

My mum was strict as hell and that made me really toxic I turned into a toxic thistle in her iron grip so to speak, she let go in the end because I broke her.

I wonder if that kind of control isn't borne out of fear.

:/

+1 for toxic thistle

😄

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Posted by Gooober
Nope, mom let me be free to do whatever I wanted and dad didn't want to piss me off, so he naturally just let me be. Lets just say, I will be the total opposite.

Well... there's a happy medium to be had. 🙂

Teaching kids how to handle the so-called freedom that will inevitably

be forced upon them, at some point, is really the way to go.

Neither extreme is good.

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I agree. Now that I look back on how they went about things, I could never be that kind of parent. It's just so irresponsible.

without strict parents we wouldn't have strippers today

Posted by HouseCleaning
without strict parents we wouldn't have strippers today

lmao

oh that's good.

liberation!!!

Posted by HouseCleaning
without strict parents we wouldn't have strippers today

OMFG that is so damn funny.

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Posted by HouseCleaning
without strict parents we wouldn't have strippers today

OMFG that is so damn funny.

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I dont think so...

Posted by Gooober
Nope, mom let me be free to do whatever I wanted and dad didn't want to piss me off, so he naturally just let me be. Lets just say, I will be the total opposite.

You'll be strict...with your kids? And in your own life?

Posted by Prince_Pisces
Not really. I pretty much got everything I wanted LOL!

Dude...you seem relaxed thats for sure

Nope, my Cappy dad let me be. I worked hard starting at age 14 at a local grocery store. He never put a curfew on me, but I always came home by midnight out of respect.

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Posted by Gooober
Nope, mom let me be free to do whatever I wanted and dad didn't want to piss me off, so he naturally just let me be. Lets just say, I will be the total opposite.

You'll be strict...with your kids? And in your own life?

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Exactly except I'd go about in my own unique way.

does your mom bring you your hot pockets

I'm a parent and completely non strict.. What's the point, just be a good parent and role model

Beyond Super strict/abusive and dysfunctional.

i live 1200+ miles away from my family and my life was improved ten fold the day i moved away.

I speak to my mom once in awhile. i don't speak to my dad. I attempted to rebuild our relationship several times over the years but we could only get so far and the BS would start all over. i had to do what was healthy for me and that was keep him at a distance.

Posted by RumiLove
In my society, my parents are a perfect blend of liberal and traditional..

My father was strict...wrt my ATTITUDE, my manners, my habits, never much with regard to career.. He really showed pros and cons of everything and left the decision for me to make. However, my attitude in general, my sincerity, originality, rootedness to the ground would always be put to test. If I wavered he was very severe with me.

I am very happy.. I dont feel suffocated or having missed out on anything. Infact I worry when he doesn't care as much as he should...

Ok now on please state your age and midheaven sign...

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Posted by justagirl
Beyond Super strict/abusive and dysfunctional.

i live 1200+ miles away from my family and my life was improved ten fold the day i moved away.

I speak to my mom once in awhile. i don't speak to my dad. I attempted to rebuild our relationship several times over the years but we could only get so far and the BS would start all over. i had to do what was healthy for me and that was keep him at a distance.

what's your midheaven sign?

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Virgo

I had a Sagittarius male step dad and a Virgo mom. I was independent and sarcastic early on. But always put in my place. Haha I tried being an adult instead of a kid. I grew up too fast. I Don't remember much. One person taught me to be smart and independent, and even strict discipline. The other taught me to love, be careful, caring, kind, cook, and clean, and do nurturing stuff. Both taught me to be a hard worker type, make sure I have a roof and food over my head and some money.

Oh yeah had to be in by the time the street lights went on exactly.. So time changes in the fall back and then again time changes in the spring forward. Haha man I loved spring time changes. I always hated fall back. Because the sun goes down at 430pm. And I still had to be in before the street lights went on.

I couldn't wear makeup and had horrible outfits. Yea I rebelled afterwards.

I had to watch every whatever movie rating it was.. so literally G, PG, PG13, and R rated movies. In that order. Of course I always wanted to see what the adults were watching.. and etc life goes on.

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Posted by RumiLove
In my society, my parents are a perfect blend of liberal and traditional..

My father was strict...wrt my ATTITUDE, my manners, my habits, never much with regard to career.. He really showed pros and cons of everything and left the decision for me to make. However, my attitude in general, my sincerity, originality, rootedness to the ground would always be put to test. If I wavered he was very severe with me.

I am very happy.. I dont feel suffocated or having missed out on anything. Infact I worry when he doesn't care as much as he should...

Ok now on please state your age and midheaven sign...

Why?

21 years old and Pisces MC. I have cancer rising ƒ

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Well you sounded young...and you are. I can't really relate to what you say. Your narrative about it will change in 10 to 15 years, in ways you can't think of now..

Posted by LittleStar
Went crazy.

I should have been so succinct. 🙂


I know you have Taurus ASC-- do you also have Saturn in 4th?

My mom was very forgiving- and encouraged independence and self reliance.

There were times i would mess up- and as i was confessing my mistakes- She would interrupt my confession with some sort of excuse or justification of my action. I was never grounded or disciplined.

She is Libra Sun/Taurus Moon

My Father- Was VERY Strict, and controlling. He was excellent at exploiting my passions and interests, using them against me to keep me in line. I rebelled of course. :p When i was 15 he had someone from a military school come over to "talk some sense into me" I knew it was a ruse. He would never let me go. My room was also searched by my step mother on a daily basis. If she found anything that was out of bounds of whatever my grounding was- she would literally come to school to pull me out and confront me.

My father is Scorpio sun/Moon/Mercury/Mars/and Venus :p -Step mom is Scorpio sun- i'm not sure f the rest

I was the envy of all of my friends growing up. I never had curfews or was questioned about my whereabouts. I remember at some point I left for a prolonged weekend to the seaside. When I came back, they just glanced at me "Were you away?". I would just generally come and go as I pleased. In the 5th grade I left for 10 days to a basketball summer camp and only 7 days in they called me "Where are you??". "Um, in the mountains, basketball camp remember?" "Oh right, ok, enjoy yourself then".

Going to school in the first grade...my dad took me to school for a week and then he was like "Well you know the road, you don't need me now".

I know their mindset was about fostering independence and they knew they gave me a good mindset so I wouldn't just abuse my freedom at my own expense. But it did left me feeling some sort of way...I would've preferred a more hands on approach. A call from time to time "Hey, where are you at? Are you even in this city? Are you alive?". I told my father once if a car hit me they wouldn't even make it in time to the hospital to say goodbye because they'd have no knowledge of it. I loved their trust in me but the way they went about things was a bit risky to me. They say they knew I had a good head on my shoulders, I say they were more focused about being good friends to me than guiding me in one direction and being more of a parent.

did leave me*

Posted by Damnata
I was the envy of all of my friends growing up. I never had curfews or was questioned about my whereabouts. I remember at some point I left for a prolonged weekend to the seaside. When I came back, they just glanced at me "Were you away?". I would just generally come and go as I pleased. In the 5th grade I left for 10 days to a basketball summer camp and only 7 days in they called me "Where are you??". "Um, in the mountains, basketball camp remember?" "Oh right, ok, enjoy yourself then".

Going to school in the first grade...my dad took me to school for a week and then he was like "Well you know the road, you don't need me now".

I know their mindset was about fostering independence and they knew they gave me a good mindset so I wouldn't just abuse my freedom at my own expense. But it did left me feeling some sort of way...I would've preferred a more hands on approach. A call from time to time "Hey, where are you at? Are you even in this city? Are you alive?". I told my father once if a car hit me they wouldn't even make it in time to the hospital to say goodbye because they'd have no knowledge of it. I loved their trust in me but the way they went about things was a bit risky to me. They say they knew I had a good head on my shoulders, I say they were more focused about being good friends to me than guiding me in one direction and being more of a parent.

That sounds insane....did they really care about you or not have a clue? Maybe tey know something most people dont...how are you doing today? Do you take care of yourself, have a job, and/or relationship etc?

Posted by killerwhalemoon
My poor Taurus sun cancer moon father tried to ground me when I was 13 I flipped him off and didn't come home for a month. I was very responsible I stayed in school got a job at 15 moved out at 16. I'm an Aquarius so first sign of being tied down and I'm out. I turned out better than most the kids I used to hang with who I heard are stuck on icp and doing coke as adults. . . things change. I no longer speak to any of my family members except my aunt. They crash.

Wow thats totally kick azs....go Aqua ! 🙂

Posted by dontgetmewrong
My virgo mom was - sometimes I'd start laughing when she got mad...don't know why but I couldn't contain it.

Then she'd get even more mad and try to tighten the reigns even more..she's an asian virgo too so that makes it worse.

Eventually, as I got older she lightened up...or gave up...one of the two. ..

She'd wait up for me to come home just to look at my eyes to see if I had been doing drugs or drinking ...lol, ahh good ole days.

Funny, sounds like what happened to me. lol ha ha ha ha My Cancer mom was very strict, but at the same time, she just didn't have good parenting skills. When she was dependent on me to help raise my youngest brother, that's when the dynamics changed. She pretty much gave up on trying to get me to "obey" and only looked out for certain indicators. She literally threw her hands up by the time I was 15. She even came home from a trip once and gave me all of her small liquor bottles. She was like, "I know you drink...so here." and she walked away. I laughed behind her back. lol ha ha ha ha ha

By the time I moved out, I'd progressed to mouthing off even after she hit me. The last time she hit me, I called her a hoe afterwards. LMBO!!!! I was so serious though.