@firebunny
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My friend is going to get married tomorrow.
I'm dumb. When we were dating in 2010, I got hospitalized. And then I stopped dating her coz I can't tell her all my secrets. I don't know why. And then times flew. Very fast. Until she found this other guy. And they fell in love. I thought I could still get her. That time in 2010, I know I like her but I wasn't attracted to her yet. In 2014 until today however, I find her beautiful. In and out. And I told myself, why didn't I feel attracted enough to her in 2010? And now, they're going to get married? Both of them are lawyers. I am not yet one. Still loveless today.
Posted by yupvirgoo
@firebunnyYou should've tried to make it work when you were dating.
This is what happens when you just let women walk away.
Let this be a lesson to you.
A really hard lesson. So should I go to the wedding? @_@ I want to see them happy but me sulking in the corner.
I like how you wrote. You wrote in short simple sentences. In a matter of fact way. Such a Virgo. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. Don't feel sad. Let go.
I'm dumb. I was like, I can't date her if I watch porn and stuff. And then I can't tell her my secrets. And then I wasn't attracted to her back then. But I know I was in LOVE. How could that be possible anyway? But we did date a couple of times. And those times were MAGIC. I don't know what to do now. I don't want to stop the wedding. I would be an ass if I do that.
"You should know cuz I care about you
And you deserve more than any truth
The dirt and soil, it’s still beneath my nails
Don’t know how to win, only how to fail
I have so many, so many flaws
If you take me, if you take me they’re yours
Oh if you see tomorrow I’ll give you it all
Take me, take me, I’m yours
Oh I wanna be a better man than I am
Oh I wanna be the one who says he understands
And you see tomorrow I’ll give you it all
Take me, take me, I’m yours"
And I'm a gay man madly in love with a straight guy, and there's nothing I can do about it. So I guess we got two choices. Live with it, or not.
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I'm dumb. When we were dating in 2010, I got hospitalized. And then I stopped dating her coz I can't tell her all my secrets. I don't know why. And then times flew. Very fast. Until she found this other guy. And they fell in love. I thought I could still get her. That time in 2010, I know I like her but I wasn't attracted to her yet. In 2014 until today however, I find her beautiful. In and out. And I told myself, why didn't I feel attracted enough to her in 2010? And now, they're going to get married? Both of them are lawyers. I am not yet one. Still loveless today.
Why were you hospitalized anyway?
What kind of secrets?
You let years go by? wtff
You had it coming for sitting on your azz.
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Things went out of control back then. Everything spiralled. I was hospitalized because of too much fatigue I guess. I was in law school back then and I had a terror prof. I was able to tell her my condition... but I can't tell her all my secrets. And then things just went up soooo fast. I couldn't date her while keeping myself focused on my studies. So I told myself that I should focus on myself first before focusing on her. When things came back to normal, she's now in love with another guy. How fast time flew! I was planning to rekindle our relationship and probably tell her all my secrets but then it's already too late.
I'm sorry for joking..
On a serious note, I'm sorry firebunny.. 😢 ..don't feel sad... it wasn't meant to be.. let go 🙂
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Do you guys even know why you're telling him to "let go" or is this just something that sounds good to say? Honest question.
I think I know 😢 ..IDK.. I'm sorry firebunny 😢(
Posted by sagsagsag
Uhmm I'm sorry to hear this happen to you.. Toughen up? if you truly love her, you need to be happy for her on her wedding day tomorrow 🙂I know it may sound cliche but there's nothing you can do right now but to accept things as they are..
You'll find yours when it's time 🙂
I want to be happy for her. And she needs my presence too I guess. She'll worry if I don't come. I want to say the nicest things to her at her wedding if given the chance. She's one of a kind.
It's okay Tiziani. I'm alright. I feel sad. This is not the worst day of my life. I'm not happy, yes, but the feelings are beautiful.
Guys, please don't argue. Just give me your thoughts.
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I feel like you only want her now because she's officially unavailable. Many people are like that. They're not interested in someone when they have the chance but as soon as that person is taken they're interested again.
No. I truly was in LOVE with her. But I wasn't attracted. That was the thing that kept me from pursuing her. And then in 2014, when I saw her again, I was like, oh my goodness, SHE'S GORGEOUS. 😢 At that time, she already has her boyfriend whom she's going to marry tomorrow. I didn't do a thing coz she's had boyfriend since 2011. Can you imagine that?!
If I were you, I think I'll go to the wedding. I'd try to sink in every detail n moment of the wedding. I'll take the damn pain n let it hit me hard. It'll be like a closure for me..a gruesome closure.That will help me to move on for good.
Lol on a serious note suck it up and I wouldn't go to that wedding if I were you been on that end of the stick.
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Posted by tiziani
Do you guys even know why you're telling him to "let go" or is this just something that sounds good to say? Honest question.Well...
What's the point of hanging on anyway she's getting married tomorrow, tiz?
They're friends, friends should come to each other's wedding. I never been in his position tbh, but if i were in his shoes I will go to her wedding to see her happy so I know she's in good hands so I can let go... When you truly love someone, you'd love to see them happy right?
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I understand everything you say. I want to go. I think it's the safest thing to do. I have this song for her. From tomorrow until forever, I can't sing that anymore coz it will never happen. It's entitled Forevermore by Side A. If you're interested enough, try to google it. It's a beautiful song and I sang it to her back in 2010. 😢
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wait a minute.. how can you be in love with a person and not attracted to them?
That's the reason why I didn't pursue her and stopped dating her. And then in 2014, I realized that I am actually ATTRACTED to her. What a weird world it is. 😢
Accept the loss and go to the wedding the sooner you do the better.
You need to attend for closure. Be there as her friend but let any romantic feelings for her die. Then you will be free to find real love. There is a perfect partner out there for you. Just be open and ready to accept her.
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@firebunnyYou need to attend for closure. Be there as her friend but let any romantic feelings for her die. Then you will be free to find real love. There is a perfect partner out there for you. Just be open and ready to accept her.
Thanks. That's what I'm planning to do.
I know that there's one out there for me. Even better. But as of now, where is she? Could it be that other LEO girl I'm presently dating but unofficially? What's with Leo women? 😢 Uggghhh...
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If I were you, I think I'll go to the wedding. I'd try to sink in every detail n moment of the wedding. I'll take the damn pain n let it hit me hard. It'll be like a closure for me..a gruesome closure.That will help me to move on for good.
That wedding could be the whole day.
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I'm so sorry firebunny!! I wouldn't have laughed.But this guy cracks me up!
N the longer it lasts, the better!! I like facing the pain head on.The more it makes me feel it,the more I will realize why I should move on.
Posted by tiziani
Hmm I don't think I've ever been in a situation like this one.
Made for TV movie.
I'm sorry firebunny for joking with you 😢
..TBH, I've never been in your shoes, so, I cannot say..
It is said, whatever happens, happens for a reason.. perhaps, it wasn't meant to be. What more can we do than resign ourselves to circumstances? These things aren't in our control.. You did whatever you felt was right for you, in the past.. and with time you will realise this, whatever happens only adds to perspective :-)
Best wishes.
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Do you guys even know why you're telling him to "let go" or is this just something that sounds good to say? Honest question.Well...
What's the point of hanging on anyway she's getting married tomorrow, tiz?
They're friends, friends should come to each other's wedding. I never been in his position tbh, but if i were in his shoes I will go to her wedding to see her happy so I know she's in good hands so I can let go... When you truly love someone, you'd love to see them happy right?
I understand everything you say. I want to go. I think it's the safest thing to do. I have this song for her. From tomorrow until forever, I can't sing that anymore coz it will never happen. It's entitled Forevermore by Side A. If you're interested enough, try to google it. It's a beautiful song and I sang it to her back in 2010. 😢
Awnn.. yeah I googled it, that's deep.. you sang it to her when you were dating? shiittt i'd never listen to that song ever again if i were you ?
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And it's my favorite song! I often sing it. I love that song. When I hear it, I remember her. 😢
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Do you guys even know why you're telling him to "let go" or is this just something that sounds good to say? Honest question.Well...
What's the point of hanging on anyway she's getting married tomorrow, tiz?
They're friends, friends should come to each other's wedding. I never been in his position tbh, but if i were in his shoes I will go to her wedding to see her happy so I know she's in good hands so I can let go... When you truly love someone, you'd love to see them happy right?
I suppose so. I'm not sure I know how I feel on situations like this, so I had to ask. I can't really relate to it because I've never been in that situation.
Sure you'd love to see someone happy but what if they were happier with you?
And what qualifies as "letting a woman walk away"?
Why is letting someone walk away while dating seen as careless? While letting them walk away to get married right in front of you on their wedding day seen as a loving act?
These are just questions I'm asking out loud. It's all right if no one's interested.
Letting a woman walk away is knowing that you are in love, heavily invested emotionally, could totally see yourself being with that person on a long-term basis and totally just choosing to sit on your azz coz you're "tired."
It's careless when you're dating coz that's when you can still work on things, where you're supposedly more in control of the situation. And you letting them go to wherever and whoever gave would be able to give them the happiness that you couldn't at one point is a genuine, pure loving act because it doesn't have anything to do with your selfish desires, motivations and urges. It is a love that prizes the "other" by restraining the "self."
Isn't that just treating someone like a child? I get it though. What you're saying makes sense. But I think can it be (not always) very toxic to communication between two grown adults to being applying a concept like selfless love between them.
Also, while what you're saying makes a lot of sense, he said he didn't know how he felt today back then. By what you're written, he never let her walk away as much as it just was bad timing.
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Yeah Tiz. I think it really was just bad timing. I was on my knees back in 2010. I was struggling in law school. Got hospitalized because of too much fatigue... so I felt like I had to focus on myself first. When everything went back to normal, she's already dating the guy she's going to marry tomorrow!
Posted by RumiL
I'm sorry firebunny for joking with you 😢..TBH, I've never been in your shoes, so, I cannot say..
It is said, whatever happens, happens for a reason.. perhaps, it wasn't meant to be. What more can we do than resign ourselves to circumstances? These things aren't in our control.. You did whatever you felt was right for you, in the past.. and with time you will realise this, whatever happens only adds to perspective :-)
Best wishes.
Bub chill out!! I thought that was pretty hilarious tbh ? It was just a light-hearted jest.
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Do you guys even know why you're telling him to "let go" or is this just something that sounds good to say? Honest question.Well...
What's the point of hanging on anyway she's getting married tomorrow, tiz?
They're friends, friends should come to each other's wedding. I never been in his position tbh, but if i were in his shoes I will go to her wedding to see her happy so I know she's in good hands so I can let go... When you truly love someone, you'd love to see them happy right?
I suppose so. I'm not sure I know how I feel on situations like this, so I had to ask. I can't really relate to it because I've never been in that situation.
Sure you'd love to see someone happy but what if they were happier with you?
And what qualifies as "letting a woman walk away"?
Why is letting someone walk away while dating seen as careless? While letting them walk away to get married right in front of you on their wedding day seen as a loving act?
These are just questions I'm asking out loud. It's all right if no one's interested.
Letting a woman walk away is knowing that you are in love, heavily invested emotionally, could totally see yourself being with that person on a long-term basis and totally just choosing to sit on your azz coz you're "tired."
It's careless when you're dating coz that's when you can still work on things, where you're supposedly more in control of the situation. And you letting them go to wherever and whoever gave would be able to give them the happiness that you couldn't at one point is a genuine, pure loving act because it doesn't have anything to do with your selfish desires, motivations and urges. It is a love that prizes the "other" by restraining the "self."
Isn't that just treating someone like a child? I get it though. What you're saying makes sense. But I think can it be (not always) very toxic to communication between two grown adults to being applying a concept like selfless love between them.
Also, while what you're saying makes a lot of sense, he said he didn't know how he felt today back then. By what you're written, he never let her walk away as much as it just was bad timing.
Yeah Tiz. I think it really was just bad timing. I was on my knees back in 2010. I was struggling in law school. Got hospitalized because of too much fatigue... so I felt like I had to focus on myself first. When everything went back to normal, she's already dating the guy she's going to marry tomorrow!
That's more than understandable. In all honesty and no joke, law school can kill even the best relationship.
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I promise I won't mention law school tomorrow. Everything's going to be positive. I think we're still meeting each other up again in the future like nothing happened. She was my best bud in law school so why should I forget? Lol.
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If I were you, I think I'll go to the wedding. I'd try to sink in every detail n moment of the wedding. I'll take the damn pain n let it hit me hard. It'll be like a closure for me..a gruesome closure.That will help me to move on for good.
That wedding could be the whole day.
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I'm so sorry firebunny!! I wouldn't have laughed.But this guy cracks me up!
N the longer it lasts, the better!! I like facing the pain head on.The more it makes me feel it,the more I will realize why I should move on.
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Lol ☝️️☝️️☝️️She's right I think the same way.
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I'm dumb. I was like, I can't date her if I watch porn and stuff. And then I can't tell her my secrets. And then I wasn't attracted to her back then. But I know I was in LOVE. How could that be possible anyway? But we did date a couple of times. And those times were MAGIC. I don't know what to do now. I don't want to stop the wedding. I would be an ass if I do that.
I don't understand.. you weren't attracted to her yet you fell in love with her?
But I really hope you'll stay strong and to understand that the person who's meant to be with you isn't her. Without pain, we can't appreciate happiness. Maybe the universe is just preparing you to meet the one for you. Who knows ?
This isn't icing on the cake I'm saying but we're talking about a possibility here. Can't be that bad.
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I don't understand myself either. That's why I didn't pursue her right away. But I feel attracted to her now. Wow. Just wow.
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@tiziani
"Sure you'd love to see someone happy but what if they were happier with you?"
"with you" does not necessarily means to be together right. I can also mean, still being friends and being there for them.
"And what qualifies as "letting a woman walk away"?Why is letting someone walk away while dating seen as careless? While letting them walk away to get married right in front of you on their wedding day seen as a loving act?"
Because it is too late and selfish if he decided to act on his feelings now. The girl could probably struggled moving on from him back then and when she's finally happy, isnt it selfish to wreck what she has been building?
One of my friend, R, went thru this 2 years ago with a girl he's in love with but he never made an effort to reconcile. He promised her a ring when they were together. Came to her house 2 days before her wedding and gave her a ring.. She asked why? he said: "I promised you a ring". He got a good slapping by doing that. And it's exactly what I would do if I were in her shoes ?
LOL the story.
What if she were hurt that he never said anything at all and let her get married? (As an idea, not in reference to firebunny)
We get a lot of people in my work, answering surveys and there's one particular relationship profile we qualify people under where they adopt a "selfless love" approach to their partner.
The mentality is generally: "I don't want to hold them back, so I'll let them figure it out on their own. If they love me, they'll be with me. If they love someone else, I love them enough to let them go where they want."
What these people don't necessarily see is that their partner doesn't seem it anywhere nearly as honourable as that. And the lack of communication there actually destroy's the other person's world, leaving them devastated. Now causing that amount of pain to someone else - it happens. But the lack of communication is probably just as selfish as anything.
I can only see a negative outcome in this.
I understand the romanticism behind it and admit I was tempted to suggest he communicate but the Virgo in me wants to be sensible.
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so what do you suggest? That I don't say anything?
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I'm dumb. I was like, I can't date her if I watch porn and stuff. And then I can't tell her my secrets. And then I wasn't attracted to her back then. But I know I was in LOVE. How could that be possible anyway? But we did date a couple of times. And those times were MAGIC. I don't know what to do now. I don't want to stop the wedding. I would be an ass if I do that.
I don't understand.. you weren't attracted to her yet you fell in love with her?
But I really hope you'll stay strong and to understand that the person who's meant to be with you isn't her. Without pain, we can't appreciate happiness. Maybe the universe is just preparing you to meet the one for you. Who knows ?
This isn't icing on the cake I'm saying but we're talking about a possibility here. Can't be that bad.
I don't understand myself either. That's why I didn't pursue her right away. But I feel attracted to her now. Wow. Just wow.
So what you need to focus on now isn't her but how to reveal the hidden aspect or subconscious of yours that led you acted that way to her from way back. Then maybe you would find some sort of a realization about everything relates to her and your past interactions with her.
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What do I tell her tomorrow? Or should I say something at all?
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@tiziani
"Sure you'd love to see someone happy but what if they were happier with you?"
"with you" does not necessarily means to be together right. I can also mean, still being friends and being there for them.
"And what qualifies as "letting a woman walk away"?Why is letting someone walk away while dating seen as careless? While letting them walk away to get married right in front of you on their wedding day seen as a loving act?"
Because it is too late and selfish if he decided to act on his feelings now. The girl could probably struggled moving on from him back then and when she's finally happy, isnt it selfish to wreck what she has been building?
One of my friend, R, went thru this 2 years ago with a girl he's in love with but he never made an effort to reconcile. He promised her a ring when they were together. Came to her house 2 days before her wedding and gave her a ring.. She asked why? he said: "I promised you a ring". He got a good slapping by doing that. And it's exactly what I would do if I were in her shoes ?
LOL the story.
What if she were hurt that he never said anything at all and let her get married? (As an idea, not in reference to firebunny)
We get a lot of people in my work, answering surveys and there's one particular relationship profile we qualify people under where they adopt a "selfless love" approach to their partner.
The mentality is generally: "I don't want to hold them back, so I'll let them figure it out on their own. If they love me, they'll be with me. If they love someone else, I love them enough to let them go where they want."
What these people don't necessarily see is that their partner doesn't seem it anywhere nearly as honourable as that. And the lack of communication there actually destroy's the other person's world, leaving them devastated. Now causing that amount of pain to someone else - it happens. But the lack of communication is probably just as selfish as anything.
I can only see a negative outcome in this.
I understand the romanticism behind it and admit I was tempted to suggest he communicate but the Virgo in me wants to be sensible.
so what do you suggest? That I don't say anything?
That's the decent and sensible thing to do.
But if you're fine with taking risks, then write a letter to her or see her in person but I caution you that this is unwise. And may lead to your semi-decent relationship with her to turn into a pile of ashes. Heck, attend the wedding even so that you can finally pulverize your heart and make a new one. #rootcanalfeels
If only you had put in this much work in thinking of a way to win her over at the last minute instead of all those looonnnngggg years doing absolutely nothing.
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I wanted to win her over but I think she was all set. I was also busy studying. Education first before Love was my mantra. I keep on saying to myself that there are other women out there anyway but there's only one out there for me. I posted threads about her here in DXP. Nobody replied. LOL.
Posted by TheLibraMudra
Don't go to the wedding.
Why?
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I'm sorry firebunny for joking with you 😢..TBH, I've never been in your shoes, so, I cannot say..
It is said, whatever happens, happens for a reason.. perhaps, it wasn't meant to be. What more can we do than resign ourselves to circumstances? These things aren't in our control.. You did whatever you felt was right for you, in the past.. and with time you will realise this, whatever happens only adds to perspective :-)
Best wishes.
Also welcome back 🙂
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thankyou 😄
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I'm dumb. I was like, I can't date her if I watch porn and stuff. And then I can't tell her my secrets. And then I wasn't attracted to her back then. But I know I was in LOVE. How could that be possible anyway? But we did date a couple of times. And those times were MAGIC. I don't know what to do now. I don't want to stop the wedding. I would be an ass if I do that.
I don't understand.. you weren't attracted to her yet you fell in love with her?
But I really hope you'll stay strong and to understand that the person who's meant to be with you isn't her. Without pain, we can't appreciate happiness. Maybe the universe is just preparing you to meet the one for you. Who knows ?
This isn't icing on the cake I'm saying but we're talking about a possibility here. Can't be that bad.
I don't understand myself either. That's why I didn't pursue her right away. But I feel attracted to her now. Wow. Just wow.
So what you need to focus on now isn't her but how to reveal the hidden aspect or subconscious of yours that led you acted that way to her from way back. Then maybe you would find some sort of a realization about everything relates to her and your past interactions with her.
What do I tell her tomorrow? Or should I say something at all?
Does it have any benefits in doing so?
If it really can lift off some burden by saying so, you may need to tell her. But do you have to say it tomorrow? No. Tomorrow is her day. I think it's best to support her happiness.
That's just what I think, of course. You may want something different and that's perfectly fine. As long as you'd be considerate for her AND yourself.
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Thanks. Should I go to the wedding?
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Don't go to the wedding.
Why?
Just keep your sad energy out of her special day
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Okay. Thank you for the response. This is her day so I should keep out.
unless you know that you are the love of her life (then finally do something u slow arse virgo), please wish her well as a good friend should be and take your love for her to the grave. otherwise, your risk of losing her as a friend forever is 99%
she the cap?
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Don't go to the wedding.
Why?
Just keep your sad energy out of her special day
Okay. Thank you for the response. This is her day so I should keep out.
Are you close to her man as well?
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No. I'm only close to her.
Posted by yupvirgooThe impulsive signals and lack of stability does not make a woman feel secure. And why should she be when a man can't make up his mind? Ships sail and sink. Why plant seeds of doubt in the mind of a woman who is clearly happy and has already chosen a man to build her life with?
If one of my wife's exes comes knocking on the door, you better believe there will be blood.
I can't respect men who don't go after what they want, whine and bytch about things that have already passed and feels cheated by the universe for not handing out things to them on a silver platter when they can't even protect what's already at hand. They made their damned beds, they might as well sleep on them since snoozing is what they're good at.
I agree that it's too little, too late. If I have accepted his marriage proposal, you best believe I love him and intend to follow through with that promise. I take that kind of commitment very seriously. There's no way I would jilt him at the altar because some ex decided to reach a revelation plenty years later. I couldn't trust him (not to discredit the OP's feelings), and this is the kind of thing that could really ruin someone. I can't even begin to fathom the levels of devastation I would feel if this were done to me.
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I'm dumb. When we were dating in 2010, I got hospitalized. And then I stopped dating her coz I can't tell her all my secrets. I don't know why. And then times flew. Very fast. Until she found this other guy. And they fell in love. I thought I could still get her. That time in 2010, I know I like her but I wasn't attracted to her yet. In 2014 until today however, I find her beautiful. In and out. And I told myself, why didn't I feel attracted enough to her in 2010? And now, they're going to get married? Both of them are lawyers. I am not yet one. Still loveless today.
you had 5ish years to make her yours after 2010 but you didn't...
I say, people tend to want what they can't have. it's normal though.
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I can't make her mine if she's taken. Duh. How would I do it?
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I'm dumb. When we were dating in 2010, I got hospitalized. And then I stopped dating her coz I can't tell her all my secrets. I don't know why. And then times flew. Very fast. Until she found this other guy. And they fell in love. I thought I could still get her. That time in 2010, I know I like her but I wasn't attracted to her yet. In 2014 until today however, I find her beautiful. In and out. And I told myself, why didn't I feel attracted enough to her in 2010? And now, they're going to get married? Both of them are lawyers. I am not yet one. Still loveless today.
you had 5ish years to make her yours after 2010 but you didn't...
I say, people tend to want what they can't have. it's normal though.
I can't make her mine if she's taken. Duh. How would I do it?
thought she didn't meet her husband to be until 2014??
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No. They were together since 2011. @_@
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Let's crash their wedding
It's already done dude. But it's okay. I'm soooo happy I didn't go to the wedding. I saw their pictures and all of my friends who went there were in very formal clothes! 🙂
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I'm dumb. When we were dating in 2010, I got hospitalized. And then I stopped dating her coz I can't tell her all my secrets. I don't know why. And then times flew. Very fast. Until she found this other guy. And they fell in love. I thought I could still get her. That time in 2010, I know I like her but I wasn't attracted to her yet. In 2014 until today however, I find her beautiful. In and out. And I told myself, why didn't I feel attracted enough to her in 2010? And now, they're going to get married? Both of them are lawyers. I am not yet one. Still loveless today.
You want someone you're not attracted too
You sound crazy
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Why do you say that? If I was having a great time with her, why not?
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Posted by firebunny
I'm dumb. When we were dating in 2010, I got hospitalized. And then I stopped dating her coz I can't tell her all my secrets. I don't know why. And then times flew. Very fast. Until she found this other guy. And they fell in love. I thought I could still get her. That time in 2010, I know I like her but I wasn't attracted to her yet. In 2014 until today however, I find her beautiful. In and out. And I told myself, why didn't I feel attracted enough to her in 2010? And now, they're going to get married? Both of them are lawyers. I am not yet one. Still loveless today.
you had 5ish years to make her yours after 2010 but you didn't...
I say, people tend to want what they can't have. it's normal though.
I can't make her mine if she's taken. Duh. How would I do it?
thought she didn't meet her husband to be until 2014??
No. They were together since 2011. @_@
im sorry, man
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It's okay. I know she's in good hands 🙂
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I feel bad for myself. I like her a lot and wanted to date her. We dated a couple of times before... but things just went uncontrollable. I can't keep her. I can't tell her my flaws. That was the end. And then she fell in love with another guy. And now they're going to get married. Tomorrow. If only I found her attractive enough back then, I would've changed my mind. And heart. Now they're going to get married. I can see her soooo happily married. I was invited to come to their wedding. I want to come but I don't want to come. I am happy for her. But sad for myself. I know she'll be sad too if she sees me sad. Because I love her. And maybe she loves me too. But there can only be one. Just one. And I'm not that one.