She died last night

My grandmother died last night. She was laughing and smiling on Saturday but took a turn for the worse sometime Sunday. I got a call yesterday evening that hospice was already involved and they were only giving her a day or two.

It was shocking to see her. She looked a million times different than she had just a few days before. Her skin had an odd blueish color to it and she looked so thin. The morphine had her barely conscious and she couldn't make a sound but when she heard my voice her lips started moving like she was trying to tell me something. She mouthed my name several times and then my uncle's name who was there too. I will never know what she was trying to tell me but I'm glad that I got to say goodbye. When I left, I put a medal of a saint under her pillow for protection. My uncle stayed the night because only one visitor was allowed after 10pm. She passed shortly after I left.

Maybe he knew this time it's another story? By instinct.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how painful it is to lose a loved one. Sending you and your loved ones my deepest condolences.

my condolences, and I am glad you got to say goodbye and was able to see her before her transition

I'm ok. Thank you everyone. She was suffering and I know that she is out of pain now. I'm worried about my grandfather though. Everything was planned and she wants no services, no funeral, no wake. She wants to be cremated and buried in a family plot. They planned and prepaid 20 years ago.

I'm in charge of writing the obituary. I found this online and I think it describes her perfectly.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,

I am not there… I do not sleep.

I am the thousand winds that blow…

I am the diamond glints on snow…

I am the sunlight on ripened grain…

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you waken in the morning’s hush,

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of gentle birds in circling flight…

I am the soft star that shines at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry—

I am not there… I did not die.

* * *

Unfortunately one set of grandparents and another grandpa of mine died before I was born. My maternal grandmother lived too far and I got to see her like once every year or two so there was no bond there. She died over a decade ago. So I can't relate to your grief. Best I can do is:

the writing sounds romantic.

Sorry to hear this. Hugs

My condolences. I'm so sorry to hear about this. At least she died seeing family. May she rest in peace.

😢

Sooo sorry to hear this. Prayers with you and your family. 😢

I'm sorry for your loss DeeDee.

I'm the one to write my Grandmom's obituary too. We lost her last year in may. I'd say she has been liberated.She lived her life to the fullest. Most importantly she raised a wonderful family.

I hope you find strength n take pride in what she has left behind. *Hugs*

Sorry to hear this. Losing a loved one blows, especially like that.

As callus as it sounds, it may put you at ease a bit to know that she was so drugged up on morphine, chances are what she was trying to say may not have been significant or something important, so try not to fret too much over not knowing. Death is NOTHING like it's portrayed in the media.

Just be sure to provide lots of support and presence in your grandfather's life. Men tend to not do so well when their spouse dies.

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
You're lucky you had her this long. I lost my grandparents young

I never had any basically. Seperated by war

This isn't about you.

Posted by Deedee86
My grandmother died last night. She was laughing and smiling on Saturday but took a turn for the worse sometime Sunday. I got a call yesterday evening that hospice was already involved and they were only giving her a day or two.

It was shocking to see her. She looked a million times different than she had just a few days before. Her skin had an odd blueish color to it and she looked so thin. The morphine had her barely conscious and she couldn't make a sound but when she heard my voice her lips started moving like she was trying to tell me something. She mouthed my name several times and then my uncle's name who was there too. I will never know what she was trying to tell me but I'm glad that I got to say goodbye. When I left, I put a medal of a saint under her pillow for protection. My uncle stayed the night because only one visitor was allowed after 10pm. She passed shortly after I left.

... sooooo sorry ...

Posted by LuckyLibra979
Im so sorry for your loss.....I know your pain. A few years ago my granny passed hours after I left her to go to work......I came back to see her cold and stiff with Grey eyes.......broke my heart in two she raised me

Stay strong and you are in my prayers

awwww - so sorry - she did a good job in raising you !

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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
You're lucky you had her this long. I lost my grandparents young

I never had any basically. Seperated by war

This isn't about you.

But people really don't realize what they have

So to me it's like why are you crying about

You had a grandmother

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Hey, socially retarded,

When someone has just LOST a relative to DEATH, the appropriate response is "I'm sorry to hear that" or some other form of condolences, because a loss is a loss. You do NOT counter it with "well at least you had a grandma. I didn't."

Gtfo of here with that ish you tacky troglodyte.

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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
You're lucky you had her this long. I lost my grandparents young

I never had any basically. Seperated by war

This isn't about you.

But people really don't realize what they have

So to me it's like why are you crying about

You had a grandmother

Hey, socially retarded,

When someone has just LOST a relative to DEATH, the appropriate response is "I'm sorry to hear that" or some other form of condolences, because a loss is a loss. You do NOT counter it with "well at least you had a grandma. I didn't."

Gtfo of here with that ish you tacky troglodyte.

You could just leave it alone, you know. You don't have to turn this into one those threads.

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Could say the same for you, as I was done saying my bit to the village idiot.

Way to go.

My deepest sympathies go out to your and your family during this difficult time.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Thank you everyone.

I'm ok. My grandfather is a mess though. This morning he was threatening to jump off a cliff, then he spent hours sobbing and suddenly he decided he had to get rid of her clothes and started throwing all her stuff down the stairs.

My uncles took him to fill out paperwork and will spend the night at his house.

My condolences to you and your family.

Posted by Deedee86
Thank you everyone.

I'm ok. My grandfather is a mess though. This morning he was threatening to jump off a cliff, then he spent hours sobbing and suddenly he decided he had to get rid of her clothes and started throwing all her stuff down the stairs.

My uncles took him to fill out paperwork and will spend the night at his house.

People go through weird shit when in grief or in a bind like that.

I look back on the "automatic pilot" mode I fell into after my mom died and I have no idea how I did it. I just got into this kind of mindset of just getting everything done and taken care of immediately so it could be out of sight out of mind early on so it wouldn't drag out months down and just rehash everything.

Your poor grandpa is going to be doing some strange stuff for a couple of weeks as he copes. I'm not all that surprised he's been so erratic. He's trying to cope. Chucking her clothes down the stairs doesn't surprise me the least bit. I kinda did the same thing with some of my mom's stuff.

Poor guy. Hope he manages through all the stages okay.

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I look back on the "automatic pilot" mode I fell into after my mom died and I have no idea how I did it. I just got into this kind of mindset of just getting everything done and taken care of immediately so it could be out of sight out of mind early on so it wouldn't drag out months down and just rehash everything.

this isn't about YOU

Sorry for your loss

Old people die everyday b, you'll be alright, you tough right?

Posted by black_kevorkian
Old people die everyday b, you'll be alright, you tough right?

Thanks. I'm fine. I'm sad but I was prepared.