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Withholding Sex As Punishment
Understanding Withholding Sex as Punishment in Relationships
Withholding sex as punishment is a controllive behavior that can harm relationship trust and intimacy. It often stems from unresolved conflicts or power struggles. Recognizing this pattern is essential for healthy communication and seeking solutions that foster mutual respect and understanding.
Well why?
hahah @ pot head! Hey Its not me, a friend of mine and I was discussing an incident. ANd she said after that Im not giving up anything!
I say bring it!
You'd be punishing yourself more than me *mwah* 😄
Witholdin sex as a punishment while you mess round with the next man? Hahaha... jokes on you!
There always more from where it comes from.
Sex should never be used as a weapon 😢
The idea of punishment implies that one partner is trying to take control of the other. I think that both partners should always be on equal footing.
Withholding sex sounds like abusive behavior to me.
Sex shouldn't be a commodity in a relationship. :/
That is the stupidest punishment LOL!
Well eventually if you are in a long enough relationship and its rocky sex will come into the fray.
As will all things. When having sex with your partner feels as a reward for bad behavior or you don't feel like it and still maybe hurt from from whatever and this feeling continues on. Its time to start the exit because it will probably never get better.
Now if your angry but not hurt and you carry it on longer and then use sex as a weapon then the other partner should start the exit plan. Once you get a taste for the nuclear device its hard not to pull it out of the emotional arsenal.
Do it right back to her! Women like sex just as much as men its just media like to make us men into sex thirsty, raping, pillaging, perverted, dick for brain fools!
...or just take the easier route, liquor her up and she'll forget about withholding.
Posted by tiziani
The only time I've come across this personally was when my two friends were going out with one another for about 2-3 years, he cheated on her. I can't remember if he admitted to sleeping with a woman or something else. But anyway her punishment was for him not to touch her at all for 2 weeks.Long term, they didn't work out.
2 weeks, that's it?
LOL a couple I know, the guy cheated on her, she found out a few years back, she's still punishing him. She must've withheld sex for months. I don't know why they stay together.
He's a scorp, she's a virgo.
Ive gotten upset and didnt innitiate, but they didnt either for about a week. But I never said HEY NO SEX.
Posted by Andalusia
Sex should never be used as a weapon 😢
...unless you're a Scorpio 😄
Scorpios Enjoy sex wayyy too much for me to belive that ^^ this scorp was NOT getting it elsewhere.
Ive heard Virgo women are a bit boring in the bedroom so withoholding sex may not have been a problem. They are very into themselves.
Posted by Andalusia
Sex should never be used as a weapon 😢...unless you're a Scorpio 😄
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LOL, Good thing I'm a boring Virgo then 😛
Posted by Andalusia
Sex should never be used as a weapon 😢...unless you're a Scorpio 😄
LOL, Good thing I'm a boring Virgo then 😛
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Doesn't matter, I'll find "chores" for you either way.
Posted by tiziani
The only time I've come across this personally was when my two friends were going out with one another for about 2-3 years, he cheated on her. I can't remember if he admitted to sleeping with a woman or something else. But anyway her punishment was for him not to touch her at all for 2 weeks.Long term, they didn't work out.
2 weeks, that's it?
LOL a couple I know, the guy cheated on her, she found out a few years back, she's still punishing him. She must've withheld sex for months. I don't know why they stay together.
He's a scorp, she's a virgo.
Funny, she was a Scorp. He was a Leo, but I suspect with a lot of Virgo because I'm always thinking of him as one.
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What behavior makes him more a virgo?
yeah, that's annoying about virgos... for some strange reason I attract them, they must like my upbeat, optimistic nature but it's draining
My Capricorn friend was with a Virgo for about 6 years.
And he would constantly look for reasurance from her, would always discuss how he disliked promiscuous women, but after the relationship became promiscuous.
she felt like she was raising her child instead of a relationship.
Yes it's real. Absolutely all Virgo stereotypes are true for ALL Virgos. We consider it our personal duties in life to behave like frigid cardboard in the bedroom and aspire to have the most mundane of semi-motionless missionary sex because anything else could be enjoyable. What's enjoyable could upset our knitting needles and get messy. Don't even think about trying to get fresh outside of your scheduled day and time for biological recreation.
As always it's a BYOL affair.
(Bring Your Own Lysol)
Its abuse.
Never had a woman pull that on me, but if she did, I would be eyeing the nearest exit.
Withholding Sex As Punishment ??
...expect someone else to be punished with sex
.....and loving it 😉
At what point does it become punishment because I personally won't sleep with someone if I'm angry with them. It's not about "punishing", it just means I'm too cross to find you sexually arousing right now.
Yeah that's not punishment.
Punishment is when you withold sex on general principle for days, weeks or months at a time... and not because you're simply not feeling like it. That is unless the latter is not some sort of passive-aggressive punishment stance. lol
Posted by tiziani
I can't remember if he admitted to sleeping with a woman or something else.
Damn Tiz, what something else? -.-
It's 4 pm and I am scurred.
It boggles my mind that you'd even ask why.
As if you have no common sense and actually have to ask this question.
What a dumbfuck
Yes it's real. Absolutely all Virgo stereotypes are true for ALL Virgos.
It's true. See ^^^^^^ even the Virgos know it's true.
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Its abuse.
Never had a woman pull that on me, but if she did, I would be eyeing the nearest exit.
+ 1
Posted by tiziani
I can't remember if he admitted to sleeping with a woman or something else.Damn Tiz, what something else? -.-
It's 4 pm and I am scurred.
Well, flirting with the woman? Talking with her suggestively? I have no idea what went on. But in today's society people get mad at "emotional cheating" so it doesn't take much for the horse to bolt from the stable a long time ago.
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I read that as "with a woman or something else" => something else = a dog/a ghost/anything other than a woman.
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