@ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
10 Years
Hello people of dxpnet
What made you think you're not a likeable person?
Posted by Jayc3on
Excited to see you? When did we become visible here?Who cares about who don't like you nor can you please everyone. Just post and go about your business.
I meant in real life, like relationships with the people I interact with on a daily basis. Obviously not through an Internet forum, but yes I can’t please everyone I just like getting along with people. Like I like to think I am close to people but I don’t know maybe I am just over thinking it.
Be. More. Ditzy.
And humble.
Posted by Dolluxxe
What made you think you're not a likeable person?
It’s the way people respond to me. For example when I talk to people irl, from my end I feel like I can conversate well but when I message people I always get short replies and ignored lol. I think I just don’t relate to people.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
are you ugly?Does your breath smell?
Are you critical?
Do you come off quiet?
Are you socially inept?
I am not ugly but I have a permanent baby face which isn’t all that, I make sure to have clean breath, I am self critical, I do come off as quiet and socially inept? It depends.
Posted by hellohowareyou
im not likable either, at all, there are very few that like me as a person... From me to you, I say just keep being yourself don't stop yourself from saying what you do acting like how you do... because you will find the group that does like you for who you are instead of befriending people that you have to change yourself for
I know I hear you, but maybe I just don’t have a niche which I’ll just have to live with. I just hate when people say be yourself because that obviously doesn’t work 😅.
Posted by Whorpio
Be. More. Ditzy.And humble.
I am humble and ditzy,ha ha. Is that what people like?
I’m just gonna throw this out there. You appear to be very well educated, just from the few posts I’ve read here. Have you thought maybe you’re surrounding yourself with people who aren’t quite as well-rounded as yourself? Or maybe they’re simply intimidated?
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Dolluxxe
What made you think you're not a likeable person?It’s the way people respond to me. For example when I talk to people irl, from my end I feel like I can conversate well but when I message people I always get short replies and ignored lol. I think I just don’t relate to people.
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Maybe you're just surrounded by assholes.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Hello everyone, I hope everyone is doing alright out there. So I would like to request some advice if anyone has any. It has come to my attention that I am not a likeable person. People don’t respond warmly to me and no one is excited to see me, like ever ha ha. I can rant on about how people don’t like me much but I would rather learn what I should do instead. Or should I just accept that I’ll never be well liked in life? Any advice is appreciated thank you.
Welcome to dxpnet!
You're not liked?? Well you've come to the right place!!
Even the most fucked up and mentally twisted types of people end up liked here. Complete fuck ups end up at the top of the chain. The only secret is logging in every day, subscribing, selling your Soul to the overloard as a puppet to the audience, subscribing, learning how to use alcohol as a enhancement to gain the likes, and subscribing.
Before you know it you will be rolling in the likes. Just like all these other fuck ups.
Welcome to the club!
Posted by ConsiderableMyth
I’m just gonna throw this out there. You appear to be very well educated, just from the few posts I’ve read here. Have you thought maybe you’re surrounding yourself with people who aren’t quite as well-rounded as yourself? Or maybe they’re simply intimidated?
Well thank you that means a lot. I’ve thought maybe it’s the kind of people that I try to reach out to, maybe we’re just on different planets. I don’t think I am very intimidating, I am only 5’2 ha ha.
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Posted by Dolluxxe
What made you think you're not a likeable person?It’s the way people respond to me. For example when I talk to people irl, from my end I feel like I can conversate well but when I message people I always get short replies and ignored lol. I think I just don’t relate to people.
Maybe you're just surrounded by assholes.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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I actually think I am the problem, I am not free of fault i just wish I knew how to fix it. What do you think makes a person likeable?
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Hello everyone, I hope everyone is doing alright out there. So I would like to request some advice if anyone has any. It has come to my attention that I am not a likeable person. People don’t respond warmly to me and no one is excited to see me, like ever ha ha. I can rant on about how people don’t like me much but I would rather learn what I should do instead. Or should I just accept that I’ll never be well liked in life? Any advice is appreciated thank you.Welcome to dxpnet!
You're not liked?? Well you've come to the right place!!
Even the most fucked up and mentally twisted types of people end up liked here. Complete fuck ups end up at the top of the chain. The only secret is logging in every day, subscribing, selling your Soul to the overloard as a puppet to the audience, subscribing, learning how to use alcohol as a enhancement to gain the likes, and subscribing.
Before you know it you will be rolling in the likes. Just like all these other fuck ups.
Welcome to the club!
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Yay! The club I never wanted to join 😅
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Hello everyone, I hope everyone is doing alright out there. So I would like to request some advice if anyone has any. It has come to my attention that I am not a likeable person. People don’t respond warmly to me and no one is excited to see me, like ever ha ha. I can rant on about how people don’t like me much but I would rather learn what I should do instead. Or should I just accept that I’ll never be well liked in life? Any advice is appreciated thank you.Welcome to dxpnet!
You're not liked?? Well you've come to the right place!!
Even the most fucked up and mentally twisted types of people end up liked here. Complete fuck ups end up at the top of the chain. The only secret is logging in every day, subscribing, selling your Soul to the overloard as a puppet to the audience, subscribing, learning how to use alcohol as a enhancement to gain the likes, and subscribing.
Before you know it you will be rolling in the likes. Just like all these other fuck ups.
Welcome to the club!
Yay! The club I never wanted to join 😅
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No one ever "wants to joint"
The waves of life just wash you up here then you can't escape.
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Hello everyone, I hope everyone is doing alright out there. So I would like to request some advice if anyone has any. It has come to my attention that I am not a likeable person. People don’t respond warmly to me and no one is excited to see me, like ever ha ha. I can rant on about how people don’t like me much but I would rather learn what I should do instead. Or should I just accept that I’ll never be well liked in life? Any advice is appreciated thank you.Welcome to dxpnet!
You're not liked?? Well you've come to the right place!!
Even the most fucked up and mentally twisted types of people end up liked here. Complete fuck ups end up at the top of the chain. The only secret is logging in every day, subscribing, selling your Soul to the overloard as a puppet to the audience, subscribing, learning how to use alcohol as a enhancement to gain the likes, and subscribing.
Before you know it you will be rolling in the likes. Just like all these other fuck ups.
Welcome to the club!
Yay! The club I never wanted to join 😅
No one ever "wants to joint"
The waves of life just wash you up here then you can't escape.
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Yeah buddy, I am looking for that life saver though. We need more success stories from here.
Posted by Lioness18881
What's wrong with you? Are you selfish, dishonest, uncaring, self absorbed, aggressive, manipulative, arrogant, a murderer, an animal torturer...What sign are you? Maybe we can dissect it based on how shit your zodiac sign is and remould you into someone you're not 🤷
I can be selfish, uncaring and aggressive but that doesn’t happen very often.
I am a Pisces. What’s the rating for how shitty that zodiac sign is?
I’m starting to feel like I know who you are. 🤣
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Lioness18881
What's wrong with you? Are you selfish, dishonest, uncaring, self absorbed, aggressive, manipulative, arrogant, a murderer, an animal torturer...What sign are you? Maybe we can dissect it based on how shit your zodiac sign is and remould you into someone you're not 🤷
I can be selfish, uncaring and aggressive but that doesn’t happen very often.
I am a Pisces. What’s the rating for how shitty that zodiac sign is?
You're probably overthinking thing and just insecure. People probably do like you and this is just in your head. You don't feel like you fit in or belong because people aren't like you. Just know your worth, your value and focus on what's good about yourself and the things that are good and lovable about yourself, then what you think people think, wont matter because you know who you are.
Don't be sad little fishy. You're perfect the way you are.
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That’s right lioness, I know who I am I just wish it was enough. I’ll keep the focus on myself.
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Lioness18881
What's wrong with you? Are you selfish, dishonest, uncaring, self absorbed, aggressive, manipulative, arrogant, a murderer, an animal torturer...What sign are you? Maybe we can dissect it based on how shit your zodiac sign is and remould you into someone you're not 🤷
I can be selfish, uncaring and aggressive but that doesn’t happen very often.
I am a Pisces. What’s the rating for how shitty that zodiac sign is?
You're probably overthinking thing and just insecure. People probably do like you and this is just in your head. You don't feel like you fit in or belong because people aren't like you. Just know your worth, your value and focus on what's good about yourself and the things that are good and lovable about yourself, then what you think people think, wont matter because you know who you are.
Don't be sad little fishy. You're perfect the way you are.
That’s right lioness, I know who I am I just wish it was enough. I’ll keep the focus on myself.
It is enough. Don't seek external validation, you don't need it. Love yourself for your heart, your kindness, your honesty and who you are. People will love the you, you love. It must first exist within you, before it can come out
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Acceptance is key
Posted by ConsiderableMyth
I’m starting to feel like I know who you are. 🤣
What do you mean?
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Whorpio
Be. More. Ditzy.And humble.
I am humble and ditzy,ha ha. Is that what people like?
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People like people they can pity.
Or people they can relate to. Be more relatable.
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Lioness18881
What's wrong with you? Are you selfish, dishonest, uncaring, self absorbed, aggressive, manipulative, arrogant, a murderer, an animal torturer...What sign are you? Maybe we can dissect it based on how shit your zodiac sign is and remould you into someone you're not 🤷
I can be selfish, uncaring and aggressive but that doesn’t happen very often.
I am a Pisces. What’s the rating for how shitty that zodiac sign is?
You're probably overthinking thing and just insecure. People probably do like you and this is just in your head. You don't feel like you fit in or belong because people aren't like you. Just know your worth, your value and focus on what's good about yourself and the things that are good and lovable about yourself, then what you think people think, wont matter because you know who you are.
Don't be sad little fishy. You're perfect the way you are.
That’s right lioness, I know who I am I just wish it was enough. I’ll keep the focus on myself.
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Stop this trash talk. Yes it's enough. Just stop overthink and seeking validation. This just magnet narcissist in your life and they will show you how not to care about being likeable or not.
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Hello everyone, I hope everyone is doing alright out there. So I would like to request some advice if anyone has any. It has come to my attention that I am not a likeable person. People don’t respond warmly to me and no one is excited to see me, like ever ha ha. I can rant on about how people don’t like me much but I would rather learn what I should do instead. Or should I just accept that I’ll never be well liked in life? Any advice is appreciated thank you.
How are your conversational skills like? Do you show interest in people when you're having a conversation with them, like asking them questions? Are you generally relatable or relate to other people?
Maybe you just haven't met the right people or you're not making/building strong enough connections to other people. It's how we relate to others that make them like us
I would say to try to put yourself out there and meet more new people who share the same interests and values as you. Don't worry too much about people who don't really matter because at the end of the day, you can't have everybody like you
I like you.
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Whorpio
Be. More. Ditzy.And humble.
I am humble and ditzy,ha ha. Is that what people like?
People like people they can pity.
Or people they can relate to. Be more relatable.
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Oh no, I don’t want to be a pity case, I’ll work on my relateability.
Posted by tiziani
If you ever figure out the answer, share the secret with the rest of the class.
Well I don’t think I am finding the answer on here so that’s a clue.
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Lioness18881
What's wrong with you? Are you selfish, dishonest, uncaring, self absorbed, aggressive, manipulative, arrogant, a murderer, an animal torturer...What sign are you? Maybe we can dissect it based on how shit your zodiac sign is and remould you into someone you're not 🤷
I can be selfish, uncaring and aggressive but that doesn’t happen very often.
I am a Pisces. What’s the rating for how shitty that zodiac sign is?
You're probably overthinking thing and just insecure. People probably do like you and this is just in your head. You don't feel like you fit in or belong because people aren't like you. Just know your worth, your value and focus on what's good about yourself and the things that are good and lovable about yourself, then what you think people think, wont matter because you know who you are.
Don't be sad little fishy. You're perfect the way you are.
That’s right lioness, I know who I am I just wish it was enough. I’ll keep the focus on myself.
Stop this trash talk. Yes it's enough. Just stop overthink and seeking validation. This just magnet narcissist in your life and they will show you how not to care about being likeable or not.
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I am not seeking validation per se, I seek a connection. I never really cared about being liked but the way things are get a little old.
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Hello everyone, I hope everyone is doing alright out there. So I would like to request some advice if anyone has any. It has come to my attention that I am not a likeable person. People don’t respond warmly to me and no one is excited to see me, like ever ha ha. I can rant on about how people don’t like me much but I would rather learn what I should do instead. Or should I just accept that I’ll never be well liked in life? Any advice is appreciated thank you.How are your conversational skills like? Do you show interest in people when you're having a conversation with them, like asking them questions? Are you generally relatable or relate to other people?
Maybe you just haven't met the right people or you're not making/building strong enough connections to other people. It's how we relate to others that make them like us
I would say to try to put yourself out there and meet more new people who share the same interests and values as you. Don't worry too much about people who don't really matter because at the end of the day, you can't have everybody like you
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When I conversate generally it goes something like I share something and ask the other person a question to see if they have any input. I’ll ask them about their life and just general questions. Yeah I am starting to realize I am not very relatable which makes it a little difficult but not impossible. I know I can’t get everyone to like me, I am open to other people and hang out with them and go to new places but friendships never really solidify.
Posted by AerialView
I like you.
I wish this could mean more but this a Internet forum, thank you though.
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Whorpio
Be. More. Ditzy.And humble.
I am humble and ditzy,ha ha. Is that what people like?
People like people they can pity.
Or people they can relate to. Be more relatable.
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You're genius.
Posted by Juliiette
tbh i don't one person that is really liked by no one. some people are unusual, not talkative, so others have no idea how to deal with you. are you one of them?
Good god, I am both of those and I know it’s a problem. Sometimes when I think of myself as a stranger I think of how I wouldn’t really want to befriend myself either.
Posted by Juliiette
the people who aren't responding to you, do you really like them? having something in common?
Yes I do like them. What I don’t get is how when I talk to them face to face it’s fine but when I try to link up with them or you know just reach out to them I get snubbed so that leaves me pretty confused. I don’t pretend to like anybody.
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
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Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Lioness18881
What's wrong with you? Are you selfish, dishonest, uncaring, self absorbed, aggressive, manipulative, arrogant, a murderer, an animal torturer...What sign are you? Maybe we can dissect it based on how shit your zodiac sign is and remould you into someone you're not 🤷
I can be selfish, uncaring and aggressive but that doesn’t happen very often.
I am a Pisces. What’s the rating for how shitty that zodiac sign is?
You're probably overthinking thing and just insecure. People probably do like you and this is just in your head. You don't feel like you fit in or belong because people aren't like you. Just know your worth, your value and focus on what's good about yourself and the things that are good and lovable about yourself, then what you think people think, wont matter because you know who you are.
Don't be sad little fishy. You're perfect the way you are.
That’s right lioness, I know who I am I just wish it was enough. I’ll keep the focus on myself.
Stop this trash talk. Yes it's enough. Just stop overthink and seeking validation. This just magnet narcissist in your life and they will show you how not to care about being likeable or not.
I am not seeking validation per se, I seek a connection. I never really cared about being liked but the way things are get a little old.
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"Connection"
Such a Pisces thing to say...
🙂
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by Juliiette
the people who aren't responding to you, do you really like them? having something in common?Yes I do like them. What I don’t get is how when I talk to them face to face it’s fine but when I try to link up with them or you know just reach out to them I get snubbed so that leaves me pretty confused. I don’t pretend to like anybody.
i didn't think you pretend. i like some people who i don't have anything in common with. but there's not that connection.
you mean you want to hang out and they don't get it or don't invite you? maybe your interest is not clear. idk, i would have to see that chat to tell you.
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No I know you’re not saying that.
Meaning they’ll say things like oh we should hang out and then I’ll reach out to hang out, then nothing. I get it I am not the most interesting person in the world but maybe if they wouldn’t suggest it, the thought would never cross my mind.
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Posted by Lioness18881
What's wrong with you? Are you selfish, dishonest, uncaring, self absorbed, aggressive, manipulative, arrogant, a murderer, an animal torturer...What sign are you? Maybe we can dissect it based on how shit your zodiac sign is and remould you into someone you're not 🤷
I can be selfish, uncaring and aggressive but that doesn’t happen very often.
I am a Pisces. What’s the rating for how shitty that zodiac sign is?
You're probably overthinking thing and just insecure. People probably do like you and this is just in your head. You don't feel like you fit in or belong because people aren't like you. Just know your worth, your value and focus on what's good about yourself and the things that are good and lovable about yourself, then what you think people think, wont matter because you know who you are.
Don't be sad little fishy. You're perfect the way you are.
That’s right lioness, I know who I am I just wish it was enough. I’ll keep the focus on myself.
Stop this trash talk. Yes it's enough. Just stop overthink and seeking validation. This just magnet narcissist in your life and they will show you how not to care about being likeable or not.
I am not seeking validation per se, I seek a connection. I never really cared about being liked but the way things are get a little old.
"Connection"
Such a Pisces thing to say...
🙂
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*Insert stereotypical quote about how I am not a stereotypical Pisces here 😆
Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
Posted by hellohowareyou
im not likable either, at all, there are very few that like me as a person... From me to you, I say just keep being yourself don't stop yourself from saying what you do acting like how you do... because you will find the group that does like you for who you are instead of befriending people that you have to change yourself forI know I hear you, but maybe I just don’t have a niche which I’ll just have to live with. I just hate when people say be yourself because that obviously doesn’t work 😅.
To be likable, you gotta like yourself more. Its not just about being yourself but also loving yourself. They dont like you? Fine. As long as they dont disrupt your work nd affect your performance, who cares? If you want them to like you, you must have something they want. If youre doing a job that only you can do in the office, make sure they recognize that. If they need a fsvor they will come to you anyway. If they are giving you short replies in emails try to talk to them outside of the working hours. They must be busy at work. Who knows. But seriously, the way you see yourself is the way others see you too. So if you look down on yourself, people will look down on you too. Its our subconscious telling us the person doesnt see her worth so why should we? Think about that 🙂
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You’re right I don’t really like myself. How do I change that, like truly change that?
Posted by Whorpio
People like people they can pity.Or people they can relate to. Be more relatable.
You're genius.
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Posted by ArkhamAsylum_HarleenQuinzel
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Posted by Juliiette
the people who aren't responding to you, do you really like them? having something in common?Yes I do like them. What I don’t get is how when I talk to them face to face it’s fine but when I try to link up with them or you know just reach out to them I get snubbed so that leaves me pretty confused. I don’t pretend to like anybody.
i didn't think you pretend. i like some people who i don't have anything in common with. but there's not that connection.
you mean you want to hang out and they don't get it or don't invite you? maybe your interest is not clear. idk, i would have to see that chat to tell you.
No I know you’re not saying that.
Meaning they’ll say things like oh we should hang out and then I’ll reach out to hang out, then nothing. I get it I am not the most interesting person in the world but maybe if they wouldn’t suggest it, the thought would never cross my mind.
you seem interesting enough!
anyway, don't be scared to be more pushy. i guess you don't want to be boring. people today are mostly whatever until they have fun with someone. lol it takes only once to connect with them. find something concrete to do, concert or whatever is in with you guys.
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I am actually scared to be pushy because it scares people away 😢. But i think you’re on to something with the having fun part first.
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Hello everyone, I hope everyone is doing alright out there. So I would like to request some advice if anyone has any. It has come to my attention that I am not a likeable person. People don’t respond warmly to me and no one is excited to see me, like ever ha ha. I can rant on about how people don’t like me much but I would rather learn what I should do instead. Or should I just accept that I’ll never be well liked in life? Any advice is appreciated thank you.