Behave like a wife in the hope of becoming one or...

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rockyroadicecream
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Good lord, you're fucking pathetic.

However, this explains why you keep tormenting us with details about your relationship.

Sad, pathetic women use a relationship to validate their existence and to use as a status symbol as if they've achieved something in life.

You are going to continue being a miserable soul until you learn how to be happy with yourself, sans relationship.
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Posted by beautifulsoul74
OP, if you want to be a wife...act like one...but for you and not a man. No man gives you that "status." Being a wife is the same as being mature and responsible...you have to be that even before you meet a man. If you haven't learned to love and respect yourself first, it'll be difficult to get married. Good luck
Thank you, I loved this! Alot of self love and reflection has gone on with me after my mid 20s. I was a nut previously! Lol!
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i don't think i ever "behaved" like a wife until i actually became a wife.

i had put myself first, until i wanted to put him first. had my own plans, until they became our plans.

my mindset has been for us to always grow together happily, so that's what i strive for. 🙂
This is the kind of response I was looking for. Maybe I should have mentioned single girls who've gotten married should comment lol. Yes so I was previously also more selfish, even in previous relationships. I'm feeling very nurturing with my current and it feels strange for me! I guess i'm growing up, finally...
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Posted by beautifulsoul74
I hate the word "wifey"...it sounds so childish and not to be taken seriously...like two people are playing house. I usually see it used in relationships that are a train wreck. If you accept that term from a man, he's not taking you seriously.
Apologies for my choice of word. I should have put " "

And he doesnt use it, I did. I shall add that to my list of things to go! lol!
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Posted by beautifulsoul74
I hate the word "wifey"...it sounds so childish and not to be taken seriously...like two people are playing house. I usually see it used in relationships that are a train wreck. If you accept that term from a man, he's not taking you seriously.
It makes me cringe

Silly and immature...as though the person saying it, dare not say *wife*



OP ~ just be yourself, that is all you can do.
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What, like do the dishes more?

LOL
No, so for example. I am also looking to get hired-is it encouraged to humbly enter the interview showing my knowledgeability and with a self belief that I already have the job?

Just an example 😉
Be hilarious.
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how do women do that?



not everyone is Ellen DeGeneres, Sarah silverman, Margaret Cho or Rosanne Barr.

and only certain men like those types. Unless they are lesbian like that of Ellen, there's no chance.
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What, like do the dishes more?

LOL
No, so for example. I am also looking to get hired-is it encouraged to humbly enter the interview showing my knowledgeability and with a self belief that I already have the job?

Just an example 😉
Be hilarious.
how do women do that?



not everyone is Ellen DeGeneres, Sarah silverman, Margaret Cho or Rosanne Barr.

and only certain men like those types. Unless they are lesbian like that of Ellen, there's no chance.
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Hmm you're right, some chicks just are naturally funny, and yeah there are a lot of men who don't think chicks can be funny, or who think only men should be funny, and I feel like they are the kinds of guys who think men should get all that kind of attention, sounds like insecurity to me, and sexist. Not someone you want to date anyway.

In the end be yourself, I guess I have always been a bit of a class clown and I am also an ESFP so I am always "performing" and love to make people laugh or brighten their day, it comes natural to me but you are right there are a lot of people who aren't, for whatever reasons.

I guess what you do is just be you, always, be the best version of YOU as much as you can. Because you want to attract someone who likes your qualities, not what you are pretending to be, because once you relax and drop those qualities several months into the relationship they will be like hey, who the hell are you?
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Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by GuardianAnu
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Posted by GuardianAnu
What, like do the dishes more?

LOL
No, so for example. I am also looking to get hired-is it encouraged to humbly enter the interview showing my knowledgeability and with a self belief that I already have the job?

Just an example 😉
Be hilarious.
how do women do that?



not everyone is Ellen DeGeneres, Sarah silverman, Margaret Cho or Rosanne Barr.

and only certain men like those types. Unless they are lesbian like that of Ellen, there's no chance.
Hmm you're right, some chicks just are naturally funny, and yeah there are a lot of men who don't think chicks can be funny, or who think only men should be funny, and I feel like they are the kinds of guys who think men should get all that kind of attention, sounds like insecurity to me, and sexist. Not someone you want to date anyway.

In the end be yourself, I guess I have always been a bit of a class clown and I am also an ESFP so I am always "performing" and love to make people laugh or brighten their day, it comes natural to me but you are right there are a lot of people who aren't, for whatever reasons.

I guess what you do is just be you, always, be the best version of YOU as much as you can. Because you want to attract someone who likes your qualities, not what you are pretending to be, because once you relax and drop those qualities several months into the relationship they will be like hey, who the hell are you?
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everything you wrote, I can't find any fault in it. so I agree. lol

good sense you have on your brain.