Am I wrong to break up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years because he DOES NOT like traveling?

Posted by saggurl88

Why don't you start planning girls trips without him? Why does he need to go?

Posted by LibraSupreme

You stated your a 25yr old and your partner dosen't want to share your passion. To easy for me to say.

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Posted by saggurl88

Why don't you start planning girls trips without him? Why does he need to go?

Most of my friends don’t have the money, and the ones that do would bring other guys & he is jealous.

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I was with a Gemini for a while and he didn't like going places either at first, so I would just leave him. He caught on though and started coming along and then I would just book stuff and he needed to pay for his half and we would go, with him complaining most of the time before the trip but then thanking me afterwards.

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Posted by saggurl88

Why don't you start planning girls trips without him? Why does he need to go?

Most of my friends don’t have the money, and the ones that do would bring other guys & he is jealous.

Well you should start planning, maybe it will entice him to come along. It's either sit and stay jealous or move that lazy ass.

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Posted by Raakac

I think you just want confirmation from people to leave the guy. Why did you have relationship with him in the 1st place? I think it's normal for people to be different and have a relationship, that being said i totally get why you wouldn't want a boyfriend like that, i travel loads and that's one of the reasons why i don't really want a relationship with someone. I don't know where i'll go next most of the time or where i'll stay for a longer period of time. For me life is about experiences, learning and growth, same shit with relationships, i need someone that is interested in the world, who loves experience's, traveling , learning, growing etc. I'd say you already made up your mind, you're just feeling guility because of all that time you spent together. Better 2 years than 20. Best of luck on whatever decision you make. Just because you like a person doesn't make you both compatible.

Posted by Purpleaqua01

I appreciate everyone’s suggestions, I’ve tried everything. He won’t move. It’s not just traveling tho. He’s not very ambitious either. He’s content with his life & I’m the type that always wants more. I love him but I think I’m done. I don’t even know what to say to him tho it sounds so fucked up. And I know how he is, if I tell him let’s just be friends he’ll hate me. So he wouldn’t talk to me. He’s almost 30 and very childish.

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Posted by saggurl88

I was with a Gemini for a while and he didn't like going places either at first, so I would just leave him. He caught on though and started coming along and then I would just book stuff and he needed to pay for his half and we would go, with him complaining most of the time before the trip but then thanking me afterwards.

Now that's great advice. I had an Aries ex idk moon who used your technique and more times than not I appreciated the experience. 🏆

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Posted by Purpleaqua01

I appreciate everyone’s suggestions, I’ve tried everything. He won’t move. It’s not just traveling tho. He’s not very ambitious either. He’s content with his life & I’m the type that always wants more. I love him but I think I’m done. I don’t even know what to say to him tho it sounds so fucked up. And I know how he is, if I tell him let’s just be friends he’ll hate me. So he wouldn’t talk to me. He’s almost 30 and very childish.

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Posted by saggurl88

I was with a Gemini for a while and he didn't like going places either at first, so I would just leave him. He caught on though and started coming along and then I would just book stuff and he needed to pay for his half and we would go, with him complaining most of the time before the trip but then thanking me afterwards.

Now that's great advice. I had an Aries ex idk moon who used your technique and more times than not I appreciated the experience. 🏆

I am not sure I would enjoy a trip with the other half complaining most of the time 🙂

would you?

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Posted by saggurl88

Why don't you start planning girls trips without him? Why does he need to go?

Most of my friends don’t have the money, and the ones that do would bring other guys & he is jealous.

Well you should start planning, maybe it will entice him to come along. It's either sit and stay jealous or move that lazy ass.

I’ve already tried that☹️ He just tells me to take pictures. I’ve been on 2 trips since meeting him.

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Posted by saggurl88

Why don't you start planning girls trips without him? Why does he need to go?

Most of my friends don’t have the money, and the ones that do would bring other guys & he is jealous.

Well you should start planning, maybe it will entice him to come along. It's either sit and stay jealous or move that lazy ass.

I’ve already tried that☹️ He just tells me to take pictures. I’ve been on 2 trips since meeting him.

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Posted by saggurl88

I was with a Gemini for a while and he didn't like going places either at first, so I would just leave him. He caught on though and started coming along and then I would just book stuff and he needed to pay for his half and we would go, with him complaining most of the time before the trip but then thanking me afterwards.

Posted by Boots1313

My boyfriend doesn't like to travel either .

He does much better if it's planned and not spur of the moment.

I've been planning things, telling him it's already paid for, and then he's more apt to go.

We always end up having a great time.

I think however there are other things going on in the relationship than just this issue. To me it's a no brainer, I wouldn't leave my good relationship just because of this. I would go solo, with friends or what I said above. So what else is up? Why aren't you happy?

Btw both my bf and I are taurus. He is much more homebody than I, I'm Gem dominat

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Posted by saggurl88

I was with a Gemini for a while and he didn't like going places either at first, so I would just leave him. He caught on though and started coming along and then I would just book stuff and he needed to pay for his half and we would go, with him complaining most of the time before the trip but then thanking me afterwards.

you need to have a heart to heart talk and tell him what you've just told us - I was a stay around home until I met my ex husband who loved to travel and I gave in willingly and learned that I loved it - but he loved it so much and I couldn't always go so he went himself - and that was mainly to visit cross country with his children so I know he wasn't with someone else - sometimes you have to give it a go once in awhile for a relationship to work - it's not always about what one person wants … you'll never change him completely but if you want it to work you will both need to compromise a bit

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Posted by saggurl88

I was with a Gemini for a while and he didn't like going places either at first, so I would just leave him. He caught on though and started coming along and then I would just book stuff and he needed to pay for his half and we would go, with him complaining most of the time before the trip but then thanking me afterwards.

you need to have a heart to heart talk and tell him what you've just told us - I was a stay around home until I met my ex husband who loved to travel and I gave in willingly and learned that I loved it - but he loved it so much and I couldn't always go so he went himself - and that was mainly to visit cross country with his children so I know he wasn't with someone else - sometimes you have to give it a go once in awhile for a relationship to work - it's not always about what one person wants … you'll never change him completely but if you want it to work you will both need to compromise a bit

You quoted the wrong person but she will still see it since she is the OP

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Posted by saggurl88

I was with a Gemini for a while and he didn't like going places either at first, so I would just leave him. He caught on though and started coming along and then I would just book stuff and he needed to pay for his half and we would go, with him complaining most of the time before the trip but then thanking me afterwards.

you need to have a heart to heart talk and tell him what you've just told us - I was a stay around home until I met my ex husband who loved to travel and I gave in willingly and learned that I loved it - but he loved it so much and I couldn't always go so he went himself - and that was mainly to visit cross country with his children so I know he wasn't with someone else - sometimes you have to give it a go once in awhile for a relationship to work - it's not always about what one person wants … you'll never change him completely but if you want it to work you will both need to compromise a bit

You quoted the wrong person but she will still see it since she is the OP

ty - where am I - lol

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Posted by saggurl88

I was with a Gemini for a while and he didn't like going places either at first, so I would just leave him. He caught on though and started coming along and then I would just book stuff and he needed to pay for his half and we would go, with him complaining most of the time before the trip but then thanking me afterwards.

you need to have a heart to heart talk and tell him what you've just told us - I was a stay around home until I met my ex husband who loved to travel and I gave in willingly and learned that I loved it - but he loved it so much and I couldn't always go so he went himself - and that was mainly to visit cross country with his children so I know he wasn't with someone else - sometimes you have to give it a go once in awhile for a relationship to work - it's not always about what one person wants … you'll never change him completely but if you want it to work you will both need to compromise a bit

You quoted the wrong person but she will still see it since she is the OP

ty - where am I - lol

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Posted by Boots1313

My boyfriend doesn't like to travel either .

He does much better if it's planned and not spur of the moment.

I've been planning things, telling him it's already paid for, and then he's more apt to go.

We always end up having a great time.

I think however there are other things going on in the relationship than just this issue. To me it's a no brainer, I wouldn't leave my good relationship just because of this. I would go solo, with friends or what I said above. So what else is up? Why aren't you happy?

Btw both my bf and I are taurus. He is much more homebody than I, I'm Gem dominat

lol that was me and the ex pisces husband - he planned every detail and would pack his bags weeks before and set his bag at the door lol - I told him to tell me when we were leaving and I'd be ready and I was ready

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Posted by Boots1313

My boyfriend doesn't like to travel either .

He does much better if it's planned and not spur of the moment.

I've been planning things, telling him it's already paid for, and then he's more apt to go.

We always end up having a great time.

I think however there are other things going on in the relationship than just this issue. To me it's a no brainer, I wouldn't leave my good relationship just because of this. I would go solo, with friends or what I said above. So what else is up? Why aren't you happy?

Btw both my bf and I are taurus. He is much more homebody than I, I'm Gem dominat

lol that was me and the ex pisces husband - he planned every detail and would pack his bags weeks before and set his bag at the door lol - I told him to tell me when we were leaving and I'd be ready and I was ready

It works out fine for us.

I think he wants to go, but gets all annoyed by planning and he hits one small road block and he's done

I love to organize and research places to stay and what has the best deals.

So initially he says no because he doesn't have patience, but I think if it's all set up and he just has the time, day and place. Then he's all in.

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Posted by AbbyNormal

The way I see it you both have the right to be happy. You have your own likes and dislikes, and compromise can lead to both parties feeling unhappy. If you both are mature, maybe you can be happy with compromise. There is a difference if he does not like traveling, yet goes because he knows you love it.... a labor of love so to speak. But if he never steps outside of his own little happiness box for you, if he can't be happy you are happy, that's a problem for me. Because lord knows I do all sorts of things I don't necessarily want to do out of love.

Posted by AbbyNormal

The way I see it you both have the right to be happy. You have your own likes and dislikes, and compromise can lead to both parties feeling unhappy. If you both are mature, maybe you can be happy with compromise. There is a difference if he does not like traveling, yet goes because he knows you love it.... a labor of love so to speak. But if he never steps outside of his own little happiness box for you, if he can't be happy you are happy, that's a problem for me. Because lord knows I do all sorts of things I don't necessarily want to do out of love.

Posted by emeraldgem

My brother and his g/f are like this. She travels all over with her family/friends and he has no interest and stays home. They are both perfectly fine with it.

Posted by Purpleaqua01

Lollll it was so long,

Moral of the story is he’s been putting me thru a lot of bullshit, and because of that now I’m complaining all the time, and low key depressed because I gave up so much. Hes cheated before on me, and then switched up out of randomness. It broke my heart. Basically you just know your mans patterns.. and they’re off. He doesn’t answer the phone, doesn’t want to spend time with me, steps out of the room to talk on the phone and leaves first thing in the morning. But yet he says I’m tripping because “he gives me everything I want”. I know he cares about me but I could get money off of any man tbh. I love him. We’re going on vacay soon that’s already paid for and we’ve broken up a million times in one week. At this point I just want to be alone. But it’s like I’m scared I’m making the wrong decisions. He says that this is where he wants to be but I’m so connected to him that this draining me so much to where all I do is sleep & cry. Help

Posted by Purpleaqua01

I just want to die. I have nothing going on and everyone around me is pressuring me to stop dancing when I don’t know how. I have bills and yes he helps me but I should be straight without him. ESP when we go thru these phases of whatever it is. I admitted to him I started that fight when I was drunk on purpose because I was stressed out. I had a miscarriage, and lost my dog of 9 years within 1 month. Now I’m alone fr. Idk what to do and I have this big decision in April to move in with him, or to go back home to my fam out of state and try to get my life together. Which would prob make me even more miserable. I’m lost in the sauce right now. & I’m crying all the time and I don’t want to be worried about him I see him trying but things aren’t the same..

Posted by Purpleaqua01

My first love and I have been drifting apart lately. He’s not putting in enough effort anymore & every time I try to leave he gets on his hands and knees and begs me to stay. WHY? Lol. We’ve been so disrespectful to each other and it’s both of our faults. I broke up with him a few days ago because I felt he just didn’t respect me anymore.. so the next day he comes into my job(I’m an exotic dancer) and he starts tipping other girls right in front of me. My heart is in pieces. I would have rather of caught him cheating than him be ok with watching dance on other men. He knows how important it is for me to know that he see’s me as more than my job. He comes up to me at work like it was nothing and said hi. I flipped on him for being there. And all he said was “i can’t tell him where to go anymore “ so I leave my job, crying. I explain to him that yes we were broken up since yesterday but now I know I made the right decision. & that I never wanted to speak to him again. He’s been hysterically calling me, begging me to forgive him. He sent this text yesterday... “You mean so much to me, I know things have rocky lately & what I did the night before was totally unacceptable. I can’t stand the thought of not being with you, I can’t say sorry enough I love you blank, I fucked up a good relationship we built. Your good to me blank & I don’t want to lose you”. HOW COULD HE. How could he come to my job and see me like this if he loves me so much? He claims he did it out of spite and was mad. I can understand that but I told him to NEVER come to my job if he wants to be with me. I’m starting 2 businesses at once right now so hopefully I’ll be out this year.... I need help because I love him so much but I need advice from ppl who don’t know him or I. I’m scared to death of getting hurt again. So with all this in your opinion do you think he’s being genuine? Could a man be so mad that he watches the girl he “loves” dance for money.

I’m an aqua sun, Leo moon, aqua Venus

He’s a Gemini, Aries moon, Taurus Venus

Posted by Purpleaqua01

So he’s a Virgo, sag moon, and Leo Venus? I’m an aqua, Leo moon, aqua Venus. So he’s a pro athlete and he hollered at me thru my friend. Here’s the thing. He won’t give me his real phone number, or follow me on insta. So because of this without letting him know I don’t take him serious, I’ve had plenty of athletes tried to get at me before and their all pretty much the same, cocky & huge cheaters. So he blows up my phone wanting to talk all day all night and he finally confronts me saying how after a few conversations he wants me to be his girl & take him more seriously. I told him if he wants that he should give me his REAL number(not a fake app number) & we should actually meet in person. He agreed to meeting in person and he has a trip planned already in a few weeks. He says he won’t give me his real number yet because basically he’s a celebrity and doesn’t know who I am just yet. We’ve been talking for 2 months. I get it he’s playing the field. So as more time passes it kind of just starts bothering me. Esp since he followed some girl with millions of followers & still hasn’t proven to me anything. So now are trip is coming up and I already know he’s going to try to have sex w me. If you were me what would you do? & does anyone have any experience dealing with opposite Venus signs? I like him a lot now 🙄 but everyone is telling me to give it a chance... he’s been calling me less & less because of summer league and also cause he knows I’m upset I don’t have any proof what he’s saying is truth. Any Virgo advice? Anything lol

Posted by Purpleaqua01

My boyfriend is clearly losing feelings for me it’s not hard to tell lol. My question is why hasn’t he broken it off yet? It’s almost like he wants me to break up with him but I refuse because I don’t want to break up w him. I want things to go back to how they were but he’s barely trying anymore. We were supposed to move in together but he said he doesn’t want to do that anymore, because of all the arguing. I asked him can he please just tell me to get lost & that it would set me free knowing I did all I could do.. but he says he doesn’t want to break up. He cheated on me on a dating site 2 months ago and I’ve been insecure af ever since. He says he doesn’t like where we’re at right now but he doesn’t want to break up. I’m going back home to FL for a couple weeks, I told him I’d move back home & he BEGGED ME to stay !! Whyyyy. What should I do. If I leave him I’ll feel like I gave up on everything we worked so hard for.. we’ve been through so much together.

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Posted by _Dazed

^^^In case anyone wants to read her messy, drama queen, stripper, back story.

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^^^In case anyone wants to read her messy, drama queen, stripper, back story.

Lmao congrats you took the time to go thru my past stories of dealing with him. And your point is exactly? When I was talking to the Virgo me & my ex were on a break. He even knows about him. We’ve worked thru it. And I’m not a stripper anymore. Amen to that!! :*

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Posted by Purpleaqua01

And I thank my Leo moon for me being dramatic lol. I still can’t believe you took time out of your day to dig those up. That’s comedy and I hope one day you find something else to do besides trolling on the internet.

Posted by Purpleaqua01

I’m in a point in my life where I’m really trying to go for what I want. My boyfriend on the other hand is completely content with his life even though he could be doing so much better... the first year of our relationship it was me & him against the world. We’re like family at this point. But I have a HUGE problem that he never wants to leave the city. Even when he knows he has a few days off I’ll BEG him to take a trip somewhere. He always says no & we do something in town. Before I got with him I was never in one place for to long, and that’s just how I like it. Recently I moved back to my hometown just for the summer to figure out what I wanted in life and he was very patient with me. I traveled and got more done in a few months than in a year I was with him. What do I do? I’m only 25 and I’m not about to give up traveling for him. It’s my passion. And before anyone ask yes both of us are pretty well off when it comes to money. But most of my friends aren’t. I feel terrible for wanting to leave him because we’ve been through a lot together. But I’m just not happy. Help.

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I’m in a point in my life where I’m really trying to go for what I want. My boyfriend on the other hand is completely content with his life even though he could be doing so much better... the first year of our relationship it was me & him against the world. We’re like family at this point. But I have a HUGE problem that he never wants to leave the city. Even when he knows he has a few days off I’ll BEG him to take a trip somewhere. He always says no & we do something in town. Before I got with him I was never in one place for to long, and that’s just how I like it. Recently I moved back to my hometown just for the summer to figure out what I wanted in life and he was very patient with me. I traveled and got more done in a few months than in a year I was with him. What do I do? I’m only 25 and I’m not about to give up traveling for him. It’s my passion. And before anyone ask yes both of us are pretty well off when it comes to money. But most of my friends aren’t. I feel terrible for wanting to leave him because we’ve been through a lot together. But I’m just not happy. Help.

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Posted by Purpleaqua01

Geesh. Sounds like a personal problem.

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My family is kind of separated, they all have their own friends and tbh they are not so much travelers. My friends do invite me whenever they go somewhere but tbh there will always be single guys they invite along & I never want to put myself in that position. Now I’m kind of considering. He won’t even come to FL to meet my family. Every time I ask he just says soon. He’s not a risk taker, he stays in his comfort zone. & it effects me. I’ve been stuck in the same place since me & him have been together & I HATE that. I’ve been LAZY. Recently this summer I got a deal to post on SM for a fashion line & I get PAID for it. PAID!! & he whines and moans whenever I ask him to take my pic. In PUBLIC. He doesn’t support me!! He thinks everything I do is dumb. I think he’s jelly that I go for what I want and he doesn’t. He tries all the time to get me pregnant so he trap me in the house even more. I think I made up my mind. But I’m so so scared. He is a good guy, has been there for me, wants a FUTURE with me. I feel SELFISH. I will literally break his heart. And mostly I think I’ll regret it. He’s my twin flame/other half. But I can’t give up my passion... I want the best life that I can have... I haven’t tried just planning a trip. I don’t know his work schedule and neither does he most of the time & I ask him all the time just please take 3 days off for me. He can if he wanted to. He’s loves his money too much lol.

No wonder you're unhappy. He's boring, lazy, doesn't support you, is jealous of you, doesn't want to meet your parents but wants a future with you? 🤔 Girl, run. Don't get pregnant!

He's not your twin flame, he's a hindrance! You need to actually light a huge flame under his lazy ass.

Go do you!

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