Are you doing serious?!

I just found out that one of my really good friends has been hanging out with me ex's new gf who ruined my life. There is no reason for them to be friends and I feel so back stabbed about it.

I thought there was loyalty...apparently not

She stole my bf and now infiltrating my friend group... absolutely not.

I'm shaking right now I'm so fucking bothered.

What the actual fuck!

I'd be really pissed off too....

Posted by Vicktoria

Maybe she's getting something out of it.

What is your friend's sign?

She's a Scorpio. Her and my ex have the same bday

Apparently they had a joint bday party this year. I was in Florida...glad I didn't go!

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Posted by Vicktoria

Maybe she's getting something out of it.

What is your friend's sign?

She's a Scorpio. Her and my ex have the same bday

Apparently they had a joint bday party this year. I was in Florida...glad I didn't go!

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How close a "friend" was she Boots?

Posted by HearttofTopazz

Ew. I’m sorry!

I’m sure your friend remembers who she is. Have you talked to them about it?

I just did.

I first flipped. Then apologized and said it's not her...I just didn't expect to see them having a mushy conversation on FB about "I'm so happy were friends. I love youuuuu!"

She said she's "sorry, was trying to be nice. It's a tough situation for her because her bf started hanging out with my ex" ...idfk...

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Posted by Vicktoria

Maybe she's getting something out of it.

What is your friend's sign?

She's a Scorpio. Her and my ex have the same bday

Apparently they had a joint bday party this year. I was in Florida...glad I didn't go!

How close a "friend" was she Boots?

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She is in my immediate top 5 friends.

I don't have many girlfriends. She's one of the only ones.

Her and I are hanging later to talk....

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Posted by Vicktoria

Maybe she's getting something out of it.

What is your friend's sign?

She's a Scorpio. Her and my ex have the same bday

Apparently they had a joint bday party this year. I was in Florida...glad I didn't go!

How close a "friend" was she Boots?

She is in my immediate top 5 friends.

I don't have many girlfriends. She's one of the only ones.

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Wow. Did she go behind your back being friends with her?

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Posted by Vicktoria

Maybe she's getting something out of it.

What is your friend's sign?

She's a Scorpio. Her and my ex have the same bday

Apparently they had a joint bday party this year. I was in Florida...glad I didn't go!

How close a "friend" was she Boots?

She is in my immediate top 5 friends.

I don't have many girlfriends. She's one of the only ones.

Wow. Did she go behind your back being friends with him?

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It wasn't her. Her bf decided to befriend him.

Obviously they knew him...but I figured they wouldn't stay in touch with him after we broke up.

Especially in the way it happened (him cheating on me with his current gf).

But apparently her bf started talking to him recently.

I had no idea. Tbh I haven't been around much to hang with my friends. But damn, I still love them.

Posted by blvckphvse

That's some bullshit. Cut her out.

Is this an old ex or the relationship you've been in most recently?

Old ex. We have been broken up nearly 3 years. Together 5.

Friends for 10.

So they obviously knew him...but like why start hanging with him now?

I'm not okay with that. They could have asked if it was cool

sorry; I know how much it hurts to be supportive of a best friend and then have that friend turn on you

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Posted by Vicktoria

Maybe she's getting something out of it.

What is your friend's sign?

She's a Scorpio. Her and my ex have the same bday

Apparently they had a joint bday party this year. I was in Florida...glad I didn't go!

How close a "friend" was she Boots?

She is in my immediate top 5 friends.

I don't have many girlfriends. She's one of the only ones.

Wow. Did she go behind your back being friends with him?

It wasn't her. Her bf decided to befriend him.

Obviously they knew him...but I figured they wouldn't stay in touch with him after we broke up.

Especially in the way it happened (him cheating on me with his current gf).

But apparently her bf started talking to him recently.

I had no idea. Tbh I haven't been around much to hang with my friends. But damn, I still love them.

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Talk to her about it....

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Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Vicktoria

Maybe she's getting something out of it.

What is your friend's sign?

She's a Scorpio. Her and my ex have the same bday

Apparently they had a joint bday party this year. I was in Florida...glad I didn't go!

How close a "friend" was she Boots?

She is in my immediate top 5 friends.

I don't have many girlfriends. She's one of the only ones.

Wow. Did she go behind your back being friends with him?

It wasn't her. Her bf decided to befriend him.

Obviously they knew him...but I figured they wouldn't stay in touch with him after we broke up.

Especially in the way it happened (him cheating on me with his current gf).

But apparently her bf started talking to him recently.

I had no idea. Tbh I haven't been around much to hang with my friends. But damn, I still love them.

Talk to her about it....

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Yeah I need to

Idk, I get very hermity this time of year and start just kind of falling off the face of the Earth. It's a bad habit but I lack energy and I get a lil depressed...so I guess my friends suddenly feel like I don't like them and they all sort of move on and forget about me.

Prob my own fault...

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Posted by Vicktoria

Maybe she's getting something out of it.

What is your friend's sign?

She's a Scorpio. Her and my ex have the same bday

Apparently they had a joint bday party this year. I was in Florida...glad I didn't go!

How close a "friend" was she Boots?

She is in my immediate top 5 friends.

I don't have many girlfriends. She's one of the only ones.

Wow. Did she go behind your back being friends with him?

It wasn't her. Her bf decided to befriend him.

Obviously they knew him...but I figured they wouldn't stay in touch with him after we broke up.

Especially in the way it happened (him cheating on me with his current gf).

But apparently her bf started talking to him recently.

I had no idea. Tbh I haven't been around much to hang with my friends. But damn, I still love them.

Talk to her about it....

Yeah I need to

Idk, I get very hermity this time of year and start just kind of falling off the face of the Earth. It's a bad habit but I lack energy and I get a lil depressed...so I guess my friends suddenly feel like I don't like them and they all sort of move on and forget about me.

Prob my own fault...

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Yes to be fair, that could be true....evenso, I'd talk to her...

Posted by emeraldgem

Ouch! Hope you can talk it out. She may no know how much this hurts you.

I mean unless she hit her heas, I doubt she forgot.

I was crushed for a long time after him and I broke up. She was there holding my hand and we bashed the shit out of this girl. Who befriended me to betray me.

Like I heard they moved an hour away and that made me relived. I blocked both of them on social media. I ditched one friend group because they were his friends, and I figured she could have them. I miss those people everyday. But no, she is not allowed to now take my only remaining friends. I don't have that many .

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Posted by blvckphvse

That's some bullshit. Cut her out.

Is this an old ex or the relationship you've been in most recently?

Old ex. We have been broken up nearly 3 years. Together 5.

Friends for 10.

So they obviously knew him...but like why start hanging with him now?

I'm not okay with that. They could have asked if it was cool

Yeah, I wouldn't be too impressed about that. I was only asking if it was an old ex cause I've seen you post about your current guy and you guys seem so cute and happy together, so was hoping it wasn't him. Haha

I'd cut her out without a word. Ghost the bitch

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Lol no, me and my current guy are great! Thank you

I know it seems so petty, but I'm not over the way my old relationship went down. I'm still healing from it. Over the relationship, just not the betrayal.

I don't just ghost friends...but I need to talk to her

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@Boots1313 - I meant not that she forgot how upset you were when you broke up but upset at her actions.

Sometimes people do things without considering how it may impact someone else. Talk it out!

Yeah ibtexted my friend and said ...

"Are you kidding me *girls name*? Dude, you called her a "good hearted person" did you forget she ruined my life?"

My friend: omg im so sorry, I was trying to be nice. I know I shouldn't have done that. I was very emotional yesterday and just loving everyone and everything"

Me: I'm sorry, it's not you, I just really didn't need to read that or see it. You know how hurt she made me and how betrayed I felt"

Her: " I know. I'm not okay with what she did to you either. This situation is just hard because *her bfs name* doesn't have many friends and he really likes *my exe' name*

Me: I know. Again I'm sorry, dont mean to take my hurt out on you. Just shaking rn. Want to hangout later and talk?"

Her: busy tonight, tomorrow?

How does she know your ex's new girlfriend?

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Posted by blvckphvse

That's some bullshit. Cut her out.

Is this an old ex or the relationship you've been in most recently?

Old ex. We have been broken up nearly 3 years. Together 5.

Friends for 10.

So they obviously knew him...but like why start hanging with him now?

I'm not okay with that. They could have asked if it was cool

Yeah, I wouldn't be too impressed about that. I was only asking if it was an old ex cause I've seen you post about your current guy and you guys seem so cute and happy together, so was hoping it wasn't him. Haha

I'd cut her out without a word. Ghost the bitch

Lol no, me and my current guy are great! Thank you

I know it seems so petty, but I'm not over the way my old relationship went down. I'm still healing from it. Over the relationship, just not the betrayal.

I don't just ghost friends...but I need to talk to her

You know what is right for you and how you feel inside. Talking to her is the best option if you're not a cold ass mofo like me. Haha

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I mean as I get older I'm definitely getting colder. And by nature I am reclusive. But I think it also benefits having a few friends in my circle.

I only have about 5...

Posted by Sag898

How does she know your ex's new girlfriend?

Apparently my friends boyfriend decided to befriend my ex recently because he wanted guy friends (ever see the movie I love you man? That's my friends bf)

I haven't seen my friend in a month or so...but her and I text quite often. Figured that would have come up somewhere along the way...

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Posted by Sag898

How does she know your ex's new girlfriend?

Apparently my friends boyfriend decided to befriend my ex recently because he wanted guy friends (ever see the movie I love you man? That's my friends bf)

I haven't seen my friend in a month or so...but her and I text quite often. Figured that would have come up somewhere along the way...

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That's why I honestly don't mix my social groups often. Very messy

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How does she know your ex's new girlfriend?

Apparently my friends boyfriend decided to befriend my ex recently because he wanted guy friends (ever see the movie I love you man? That's my friends bf)

I haven't seen my friend in a month or so...but her and I text quite often. Figured that would have come up somewhere along the way...

That's why I honestly don't mix my social groups often. Very messy

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It's hard when you are with a person 5 years to not interwind groups.

After him and I broke up he remained friends with his original guy friend group and I remained friends with my girlfriend group.

No one intertwined until now.

Posted by seraph

I’ll inject some unsolicited big-picture thinking, if you don’t mind.

Your reliance on friends acting according to your personal likes and dislikes sounds exhausting (because it is.)

Your preferences imposed on relationships are a source of almost constant mental and emotional disturbance, are they not? I’m guessing they are, QED your thread(s) about this stuff.

You can’t control what others do. You either let them be who they are and just enjoy the “cream off the top” — don’t dive to deeply, which will then encourage you to turn inward for a lot of the support you normally seek outside of yourself (a good thing), or you get yourself new friends. Some of your friends don’t sound very like-minded.

I don't seek outward validation. I have actually sort of distanced myself from my friends recently in order to grow on my own and not be as reliant. However, I think in friendship there should be a certain loyalty that is unspoke of. In this situation I wouldn't care if this was some random exes gf. However since it was my ltr and this girl was the woman whom my bf cheated on me with, I'm not okay with this friendship. Say my ex was dating a random girl and my friend befriended her, fine and dandy. She has nothing not do with me.

I don't ask my friends to behave in a certain way. Of course when I see something I don't like or I feel as though they are causing harm to themselves or others I will speak up.

I'm just starting to think I just shouldn't have friends. It is emotionally and mentally draining keeping up with it all.

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Posted by Boots1313

I just found out that one of my really good friends has been hanging out with me ex's new gf who ruined my life. There is no reason for them to be friends and I feel so back stabbed about it.

I thought there was loyalty...apparently not

She stole my bf and now infiltrating my friend group... absolutely not.

I'm shaking right now I'm so fucking bothered.

What the actual fuck!

Try to calm yourself, first!! Especially from the body shakes... this isn’t fair to your health.

How did you find out?



What is your friend’s sun sign? I’ve had Aqua’s, Gem’s, Sag and Libra do that to me... They have very different rules about loyalty, sometimes.

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I short of jumped the gun and texted my friend right off the bat all crazy.

Both my ex and my friend are 11/8 Scorpios.

The gf of my ex is an aqua. Her and I were acquaintance s even at one point "friends" for 10 years, until she cheated with my bf, now ex.

I found out by seeing a very mushy and lovely FB post and comment.

My friend called the girl " a good hearted person" and" I'm so glad we met and became friends" and it continues on and on with them gushing about eachothert...I didn't read on because I was about to vomit.

Good hearted? Lmfao...my friend of all people should know she is trash for what she did to me.

I'm hurt because I though I had rid both of them from my life.

They moved away, friend groups not interwind. Deleted them and all associates on FB.

I could just go about my day and not see their faces or hear their names.

But then today I see her name, while scrolling through fb ..on not just a random persns post, but my really close friends.

Just my heart sank

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Posted by seraph

I’ll inject some unsolicited big-picture thinking, if you don’t mind.

Your reliance on friends acting according to your personal likes and dislikes sounds exhausting (because it is.)

Your preferences imposed on relationships are a source of almost constant mental and emotional disturbance, are they not? I’m guessing they are, QED your thread(s) about this stuff.

You can’t control what others do. You either let them be who they are and just enjoy the “cream off the top” — don’t dive to deeply, which will then encourage you to turn inward for a lot of the support you normally seek outside of yourself (a good thing), or you get yourself new friends. Some of your friends don’t sound very like-minded.

I don't seek outward validation. I have actually sort of distanced myself from my friends recently in order to grow on my own and not be as reliant. However, I think in friendship there should be a certain loyalty that is unspoke of. In this situation I wouldn't care if this was some random exes gf. However since it was my ltr and this girl was the woman whom my bf cheated on me with, I'm not okay with this friendship. Say my ex was dating a random girl and my friend befriended her, fine and dandy. She has nothing not do with me.

I don't ask my friends to behave in a certain way. Of course when I see something I don't like or I feel as though they are causing harm to themselves or others I will speak up.

I'm just starting to think I just shouldn't have friends. It is emotionally and mentally draining keeping up with it all.

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Of course there should be loyalty.....there's no friendship without it..

I'd feel the same way. I'd cut her out immediately. That's inexcusable when she knows the whole story especially if you're close. My other friends would actually give me shit if I didn't. It's weak move on her part and it would show me lack of judgment, character, and care. Me personally, I can't keep around supposed close friends that are only considerate when it suits them.

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I just found out that one of my really good friends has been hanging out with me ex's new gf who ruined my life. There is no reason for them to be friends and I feel so back stabbed about it.

I thought there was loyalty...apparently not

She stole my bf and now infiltrating my friend group... absolutely not.

I'm shaking right now I'm so fucking bothered.

What the actual fuck!

Try to calm yourself, first!! Especially from the body shakes... this isn’t fair to your health.

How did you find out?



What is your friend’s sun sign? I’ve had Aqua’s, Gem’s, Sag and Libra do that to me... They have very different rules about loyalty, sometimes.

I short of jumped the gun and texted my friend right off the bat all crazy.

Both my ex and my friend are 11/8 Scorpios.

The gf of my ex is an aqua. Her and I were acquaintance s even at one point "friends" for 10 years, until she cheated with my bf, now ex.

I found out by seeing a very mushy and lovely FB post and comment.

My friend called the girl " a good hearted person" and" I'm so glad we met and became friends" and it continues on and on with them gushing about eachothert...I didn't read on because I was about to vomit.

Good hearted? Lmfao...my friend of all people should know she is trash for what she did to me.

OMG... she’s a Scorpio 🤭, wtf!!!!!

Was she good friends with your boyfriend before any of this happened?

So, you texted her - what did you say?



Has she responded yet?

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My ex and I were together for 5 years.

They always got along because they were birthday buddies and my friend bf liked him.

But after him and I broke up all ties were severed.

I had posted somehere here excally y what I said to her. And her response..

She apologized and we are meeting up later this week to talk and hangout.

Tbh I've been negligent as a friend, I can fall off this time of year so it's much needed to hangout and talk.

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I'd feel the same way. I'd cut her out immediately. That's inexcusable when she knows the whole story especially if you're close. My other friends would actually give me shit if I didn't. It's weak move on her part and it would show me lack of judgment, character, and care. Me personally, I can't keep around supposed close friends that are only considerate when it suits them.

My friend group is always very interwined. In other situations, not this one we have remained friendly with others exes. However the main difference being, we have a don't show, don't tell relationship.

For ex: my friend S and K broke up. But my bf was still friends with K. They were friends since HS I couldn't just tell my bf to ditch him.

I never posted pics, comments or spoke to my friend about him and vice versa. Technically kept it silent.

I'm also mad at the exes gf because she knows who this friend is. And I feel he is befriending her just to rub it in my face more.

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Posted by seraph

I’ll inject some unsolicited big-picture thinking, if you don’t mind.

Your reliance on friends acting according to your personal likes and dislikes sounds exhausting (because it is.)

Your preferences imposed on relationships are a source of almost constant mental and emotional disturbance, are they not? I’m guessing they are, QED your thread(s) about this stuff.

You can’t control what others do. You either let them be who they are and just enjoy the “cream off the top” — don’t dive to deeply, which will then encourage you to turn inward for a lot of the support you normally seek outside of yourself (a good thing), or you get yourself new friends. Some of your friends don’t sound very like-minded.

I don't seek outward validation. I have actually sort of distanced myself from my friends recently in order to grow on my own and not be as reliant. However, I think in friendship there should be a certain loyalty that is unspoke of. In this situation I wouldn't care if this was some random exes gf. However since it was my ltr and this girl was the woman whom my bf cheated on me with, I'm not okay with this friendship. Say my ex was dating a random girl and my friend befriended her, fine and dandy. She has nothing not do with me.

I don't ask my friends to behave in a certain way. Of course when I see something I don't like or I feel as though they are causing harm to themselves or others I will speak up.I'm just starting to think I just shouldn't have friends. It is emotionally and mentally draining keeping up with it all.

I understand. And especially in terms of that last bit: I’ll submit that other people and what they do aren’t the problem. Your expectations are the problem. Because ultimately it’s yourself and your response over which you have any control.

It’s also reasonable to assume that your friend whom communicated with the person you don’t like had no idea what they were doing was wrong in your eyes, and likely didn’t do it to hurt you. That is, they had no ill intentions. Some people either just don’t know any better or had a completely different idea in mind that had nothing to do with you.

Anyway, this is just based on what you’ve written. I can’t make any big assumptions since I don’t know you well enough and I can’t know what you go through moment to moment. Nor did you explicitly invite any analysis, so if all this feels invasive the fault is mine.

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.no, no, I appreciate a different perspective.

You are correct that only I can control the way I respond.

My friend I know didn't mean I'll intent, just a lapse of judgement. But I needed to make it known to her that it hurts to see this.

She apologized and saw the error.

I apologized for getting upset at her, because it's not her whom I'm upset with at the end of the day.

Still have a lot of growing to do you know

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I just found out that one of my really good friends has been hanging out with me ex's new gf who ruined my life. There is no reason for them to be friends and I feel so back stabbed about it.

I thought there was loyalty...apparently not

She stole my bf and now infiltrating my friend group... absolutely not.

I'm shaking right now I'm so fucking bothered.

What the actual fuck!

Try to calm yourself, first!! Especially from the body shakes... this isn’t fair to your health.

How did you find out?



What is your friend’s sun sign? I’ve had Aqua’s, Gem’s, Sag and Libra do that to me... They have very different rules about loyalty, sometimes.

I short of jumped the gun and texted my friend right off the bat all crazy.

Both my ex and my friend are 11/8 Scorpios.

The gf of my ex is an aqua. Her and I were acquaintance s even at one point "friends" for 10 years, until she cheated with my bf, now ex.

I found out by seeing a very mushy and lovely FB post and comment.

My friend called the girl " a good hearted person" and" I'm so glad we met and became friends" and it continues on and on with them gushing about eachothert...I didn't read on because I was about to vomit.

Good hearted? Lmfao...my friend of all people should know she is trash for what she did to me.

OMG... she’s a Scorpio 🤭, wtf!!!!!

Was she good friends with your boyfriend before any of this happened?

So, you texted her - what did you say?



Has she responded yet?

My ex and I were together for 5 years.

They always got along because they were birthday buddies and my friend bf liked him.

But after him and I broke up all ties were severed.

I had posted somehere here excally y what I said to her. And her response..

She apologized and we are meeting up later this week to talk and hangout.

Tbh I've been negligent as a friend, I can fall off this time of year so it's much needed to hangout and talk.

Ok... I read your text to her. My advice when you see her, be as honest as possible. Let your hurt show and how you felt betrayed. You let go very fast on text, and that could be just bc it’s text... but be much more thorough when you see her. She will understand your hurt and feeling of betrayal more than most.

Your friend was in a tight position and she wanted to be adult about the matter.... but texting lovey-dovey was not necessary!!

Don’t give up on her, she needs to know your side of the story and she will work with you, her responses to you showed that she cared, so she will care to understand you better and be a better friend to you.

And about neglecting... that is a bit hurtful to water signs. Friendship is a give and take...

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Thank you for the advice.

I know my friend didn't mean to do anything to hurt me. Just a lapse in judgement.

I will certainly let her know my feelings when I see her in person.

And yes, I need to make more of an effort with all my friends.

It's funny I have one friend who is a Scorpio and we can go a year without talking and pick up right where we left off

This particular friend we have a more of a rocky relationship. We are on and off a lot, not because of anything major, just because life go off the path and then merge again up ahead lol.

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Ew. I’m sorry!

I’m sure your friend remembers who she is. Have you talked to them about it?

I just did.

I first flipped. Then apologized and said it's not her...I just didn't expect to see them having a mushy conversation on FB about "I'm so happy were friends. I love youuuuu!"

She said she's "sorry, was trying to be nice. It's a tough situation for her because her bf started hanging out with my ex" ...idfk...

Seriously how old are they 12? To write such a comment on FB. I wouldn't trust my friend anymore tbh

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Ugh, I'd rather just not see it.

Like you can be friends...just don't show and tell.

I have this twisted idea also that the gf secretly just wants to infiltrate into my whole life.

I think she gets off on befriending my friends.

She does it on purpose I swear. Not the first time, and not the last.

She's an evil cunning human.

I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

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I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

and we had been friends for 35 years

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I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

Damn that's terrible.

Yeah I know. Trust me I've had alottt of betrayal.

I'm surprised about this friend because on the past she has always been so transparent. Like she ran into them one time before a few years back and told me about it.

Idk...I'm feeling very lonely in my life atm.

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Posted by notreally

I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

and we had been friends for 35 years

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Jesus Christ....some people are something else 👎🏻😐

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I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

Damn that's terrible.

Yeah I know. Trust me I've had alottt of betrayal.

I'm surprised about this friend because on the past she has always been so transparent. Like she ran into them one time before a few years back and told me about it.

Idk...I'm feeling very lonely in my life atm.

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don't feel blue - it's the time of year

If it was me, I would set her free (for you). The longer she hangs with Ms. Thang, the more information she will divulge and this is what I didn't want. It wasn't either of their business "how" I was and "what" I was up to - neither had access to me so neither could say shit. Let them live on the last thing they did to me as a remembrance. Fuck um.

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I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

Damn that's terrible.

Yeah I know. Trust me I've had alottt of betrayal.

I'm surprised about this friend because on the past she has always been so transparent. Like she ran into them one time before a few years back and told me about it.

Idk...I'm feeling very lonely in my life atm.

don't feel blue - it's the time of year

If it was me, I would set her free (for you). The longer she hangs with Ms. Thang, the more information she will divulge and this is what I didn't want. It wasn't either of their business "how" I was and "what" I was up to - neither had access to me so neither could say shit. Let them live on the last thing they did to me as a remembrance. Fuck um.

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And I don't mean that you have to let her go in a bad way. It's just upsetting for you now and it will be from now on. You will be wondering what they are doing and what is being said about you. Tell her you love her but it hurts too bad and so you have to end the friendship for now. No Contact. That way you won't ever have to wonder if she's being 2 faced or loyal to you. It just doesn't work that way.

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I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

and we had been friends for 35 years

Jesus Christ....some people are something else 👎🏻😐

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you got that right - she was unhappy and jealous and turned on me and I never saw it coming until it was too late. And to then turn it back on me blew me the fuck out of the park

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Ew. I’m sorry!

I’m sure your friend remembers who she is. Have you talked to them about it?

I just did.

I first flipped. Then apologized and said it's not her...I just didn't expect to see them having a mushy conversation on FB about "I'm so happy were friends. I love youuuuu!"

She said she's "sorry, was trying to be nice. It's a tough situation for her because her bf started hanging out with my ex" ...idfk...

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She's not sorry.

Honestly her bf hanging out with your ex has 0 to do with the two of you.

She's just a bad friend with little consideration for you.

Cut her out.

she might just be trying to be nice but she's also caught in the middle - and we know which side she will stay on whether or not she likes it or not - and that will include discussions about you for which her loyalty to the group will need to be proved in order to establish trust there - tell her you love her and no hard feelings - it is what it is - but no more contact …

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I just found out that one of my really good friends has been hanging out with me ex's new gf who ruined my life. There is no reason for them to be friends and I feel so back stabbed about it.

I thought there was loyalty...apparently not

She stole my bf and now infiltrating my friend group... absolutely not.

I'm shaking right now I'm so fucking bothered.

What the actual fuck!

Try to calm yourself, first!! Especially from the body shakes... this isn’t fair to your health.

How did you find out?



What is your friend’s sun sign? I’ve had Aqua’s, Gem’s, Sag and Libra do that to me... They have very different rules about loyalty, sometimes.

I short of jumped the gun and texted my friend right off the bat all crazy.

Both my ex and my friend are 11/8 Scorpios.

The gf of my ex is an aqua. Her and I were acquaintance s even at one point "friends" for 10 years, until she cheated with my bf, now ex.

I found out by seeing a very mushy and lovely FB post and comment.

My friend called the girl " a good hearted person" and" I'm so glad we met and became friends" and it continues on and on with them gushing about eachothert...I didn't read on because I was about to vomit.

Good hearted? Lmfao...my friend of all people should know she is trash for what she did to me.

ewwww aqua women are fuking cunts - just disgusting - you never know where their head is at

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Yup, never got along with a single one of them.

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Maybe she's getting something out of it.

What is your friend's sign?

She's a Scorpio. Her and my ex have the same bday

Apparently they had a joint bday party this year. I was in Florida...glad I didn't go!

How close a "friend" was she Boots?

She is in my immediate top 5 friends.

I don't have many girlfriends. She's one of the only ones.

Wow. Did she go behind your back being friends with him?

It wasn't her. Her bf decided to befriend him.

Obviously they knew him...but I figured they wouldn't stay in touch with him after we broke up.

Especially in the way it happened (him cheating on me with his current gf).

But apparently her bf started talking to him recently.

I had no idea. Tbh I haven't been around much to hang with my friends. But damn, I still love them.

Talk to her about it....

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This is really messed up situation.

It’s 10 years of them all known each other.

Do you know how sometimes you SEE your friends faults - you just don’t tell them...and they might understand why he cheated on her...but they would t tell...

So they are on the fence...liking her and him the same...knowing that she wouldn’t approve...not wanting drama.

It’s hard to judge from where we all are...at Dxp. 🧐

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How does she know your ex's new girlfriend?

Apparently my friends boyfriend decided to befriend my ex recently because he wanted guy friends (ever see the movie I love you man? That's my friends bf)

I haven't seen my friend in a month or so...but her and I text quite often. Figured that would have come up somewhere along the way...

That's why I honestly don't mix my social groups often. Very messy

It's hard when you are with a person 5 years to not interwind groups.

After him and I broke up he remained friends with his original guy friend group and I remained friends with my girlfriend group.

No one intertwined until now.

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I hear you. You just seem like a vulnerable person and it's probably better you have a upper hand in situations

joint bday party?

it's over.

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I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

Shit did you get “Shania Twain-d”?

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? not sure what that's about tho

Been betrayed by someone I thought was a friend as well, so I understand how you are feeling. I would be very guarded around her, so what's the point of maintaining a friendship if you can't be 100% ?

PS- Want me to come help you jack them up? I'm in...

this sucks bro...time to tap into that venus in gemini and detach IMO...I would cut ties fast....at a minimum, its just awkward...

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I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

Shit did you get “Shania Twain-d”?

? not sure what that's about tho

Your bestfriend and husband had an affair behind your back, and he left you for her?

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no, no affair; they were talking negatively behind my back which is what set in motion my ending/divorce with my best girl friend as she was not supporting me during the trouble I was having with my then husband who eventually I divorced within a year after that as well

she took his side after knowing me for 35 years and me always supporting her on a monthly basis with her dickhead scorpio husband and all her libra drama with her kids and shit; and he said he would not support me in ending my friendship with her . as in . he still insisted it was his prerogative to remain friends with her / them - even if I didn't

they both betrayed me for the so called great friendship they had which was nothing after all - he's still trying to get back with me but I'm not having it and says he dropped the friendship with our old friends right after he and I divorced

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I asked my then husband and best friend to stop talking about me negatively behind my back and they both refused and said it was their right and that I was nosing into their business. I divorced them both. Neither will ever know how or what I am doing or have the pleasure of my company again. I have moved on and I'm more than perfectly content with that.

You never know about a "friend". Never.

Shit did you get “Shania Twain-d”?

? not sure what that's about tho

Your bestfriend and husband had an affair behind your back, and he left you for her?

no, no affair; they were talking negatively behind my back which is what set in motion my ending/divorce with my best girl friend as she was not supporting me during the trouble I was having with my then husband who eventually I divorced within a year after that as well

she took his side after knowing me for 35 years and me always supporting her on a monthly basis with her dickhead scorpio husband and all her libra drama with her kids and shit; and he said he would not support me in ending my friendship with her . as in . he still insisted it was his prerogative to remain friends with her / them - even if I didn't

they both betrayed me for the so called great friendship they had which was nothing after all - he's still trying to get back with me but I'm not having it and says he dropped the friendship with our old friends right after he and I divorced

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what is her sign