
rockyroadicecream
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Posted by rockyroadicecreamIntelligence is very important in a relationship. Not only for conversations, but for other aspects as well. for example 😄umb people don't understand that a man needs to go out with his friends sometimes. and.......and ........
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What's your take on people's intelligence and the role it plays in your relationships? Would you even have a relationship with someone who was really dumb?

Posted by AquasticYou'd think intelligence would have to match at some level, right? That's why I've always been baffled by the example I gave above. He's much, much more intelligent. I've seen him talk to her about "intellectual" type of things and none of it seems to register. You can tell by the look on her face when she's listening.Posted by rockyroadicecreamIntelligence is very important in a relationship. Not only for conversations, but for other aspects as well. for example 😄umb people don't understand that a man needs to go out with his friends sometimes. and.......and ........
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What's your take on people's intelligence and the role it plays in your relationships? Would you even have a relationship with someone who was really dumb?click to expand

Posted by libraqueenPlease don't talk to my girlfriend like that. Rocky is a sweet heart. Sorry if you can't see eye to eye with her. It's really tough for her to be smart.
Maybe she has a mental disability? You're rude. This thread says more about you than the girl in question, though.

Posted by starwarsWell yeah. But you have to be able to connect at some sort of level. If they can't keep up with you intellectually (or you lower yourself to their level constantly), it's kind of a moot point isn't it?
LOL!
maybe shes not that way with him, or he simply doesn't care about that or see grammar as too little of an issue, maybe he even like it.
I'm trying to learn and keep reminding myself that not whatever that effect me and bothers me is going to effect and bother other people.
maybe she has a lot more to offer, as you said shes sweet. so maybe that makeup for everything else. or maybe she's smart in others area.
I think everyone is smart or have some type of intelligence whether its emotionally or educational or artistically intelligent. even those with no talents who are all over the internet and get hundreds of dollars for being "dumb" as people call them, are actually smart cause they are making money out of having no talent or actual job. like who the fuck is able to do that?

Posted by AquasticYeah it was just an example I gave because she speaks like an idiot as well.
I think the speaker here is talking about people who can't think, those who don't use common sense.I don't think he/she is necessarily worried about grammar. Intelligence is not measured by how good your spelling is or how many degrees you hold, but it's how well you understand situations, how is your decision making, and unfortunately there are people who are born without those characters.


Posted by CopperDovePeople like that ARE dangerous to have so close. They end up sucking you into their issues and now their problems become your problems. I constantly have to remind my brother about this because he's in business with someone like this. Dude's intelligent, but he's a fucking moron with common sense and I'm like dude, he's going to fuck you over- not intentionally, but with his lack of common sense about things.
Yes, with close relationships, I need compatible intelligence, is the best way that I can put it. A key part of what I enjoy about interacting with people I'm close to is conversations about many different topics and if our intellects aren't compatible it doesn't work. Common sense is essential too. It can actually be quite dangerous to be very close with someone who lacks common sense - decision they make can have very negative consequences.
I had a friend who wanted to date me and one of the big reasons I didn't want to is because he was very gullible and always falling for get rich quick schemes and things of that sort. He would sometimes ask me, and others, for advice about the schemes, then he wouldn't heed it and he ended up in a lot of debt. What was very obvious to us, using common sense, wasn't to him.

I also had a friend who dated a guy who was liked the get rich quick schemes. Both of the actually did. so can u imagine the kind of things these two people are capable of.And if you try to warn them not to fall for such schemes they will cut u out of their lives before u finish your sentence.OMG WHAT IF THEY REPRODUCED—
they are both black listed because of those kind of schemes. And they are still continuing with them and no one is gonna stop them. I really don't trust those two anymore.

Posted by rockyroadicecreamVery true. And they like money too much and not afraid to borrow from everyone! The same people I mentioned , borrowed my car at some point, but I refused, cause I didn't want them to think I will always give them my car when they needed it. Who knows what they would do to my car for quick money.Posted by CopperDovePeople like that ARE dangerous to have so close. They end up sucking you into their issues and now their problems become your problems. I constantly have to remind my brother about this because he's in business with someone like this. Dude's intelligent, but he's a fucking moron with common sense and I'm like dude, he's going to fuck you over- not intentionally, but with his lack of common sense about things.
Yes, with close relationships, I need compatible intelligence, is the best way that I can put it. A key part of what I enjoy about interacting with people I'm close to is conversations about many different topics and if our intellects aren't compatible it doesn't work. Common sense is essential too. It can actually be quite dangerous to be very close with someone who lacks common sense - decision they make can have very negative consequences.
I had a friend who wanted to date me and one of the big reasons I didn't want to is because he was very gullible and always falling for get rich quick schemes and things of that sort. He would sometimes ask me, and others, for advice about the schemes, then he wouldn't heed it and he ended up in a lot of debt. What was very obvious to us, using common sense, wasn't to him.
...those fucking Leo egos, man haha.
I call people like that liabilities. You keep them at an arm's length.click to expand

Posted by rockyroadicecreamlol, true. Very scary!I also had a friend who dated a guy who was liked the get rich quick schemes. Both of the actually did. so can u imagine the kind of things these two people are capable of.And if you try to warn them not to fall for such schemes they will cut u out of their lives before u finish your sentence.OMG WHAT IF THEY REPRODUCED—
they are both black listed because of those kind of schemes. And they are still continuing with them and no one is gonna stop them. I really don't trust those two anymore.
That's even scarier haha.click to expand


Posted by Crabrabut you're a man...
Ok, now in all seriousness. I can and have dated "dumb". What they lack in intelligence they make up for in other areas. Most are generally extremely sweet, caring, happy, fun-loving, and slow to piss off. Many are feminine and very pretty, and have healthy lifestyles. So their values are found both internally and superficially.
I do agree that being able to maintain an intellectually stimulating conversation is important, and these girls typically have A LOT to talk about, so it is kind of finding similar ground. Problems occur if their lifestyle conflicts with your sense of security, as it usually will. They can be very unaccommodating and stubborn, in these cases and I have felt frustration beyond belief with it.
Overall, if you can find some common ground, then a good relationship is certainly possible with these types.

Posted by lisabethur8Oh God! You're really going to go there?Posted by Crabrabut you're a man...
Ok, now in all seriousness. I can and have dated "dumb". What they lack in intelligence they make up for in other areas. Most are generally extremely sweet, caring, happy, fun-loving, and slow to piss off. Many are feminine and very pretty, and have healthy lifestyles. So their values are found both internally and superficially.
I do agree that being able to maintain an intellectually stimulating conversation is important, and these girls typically have A LOT to talk about, so it is kind of finding similar ground. Problems occur if their lifestyle conflicts with your sense of security, as it usually will. They can be very unaccommodating and stubborn, in these cases and I have felt frustration beyond belief with it.
Overall, if you can find some common ground, then a good relationship is certainly possible with these types.
so your 2nd head is thinking for you isnt it?
it's hard for us ladies to understand, because we lack the male component.
men have Always told me this, that for men, they think SEX.
and im like, wtf...why—?? you can't think of sex all the time when you're walkng down the street.
so basically if you're having fun for a short while, it's tolerable. Or maybe just a side thing, cause can you see yourself LIVING with that everyday?
or maybe it's cool because your 2nd head is thinking for you.click to expand

Posted by Crabra...is that Jessica Alba's face photoshopped on to that body??![]()
😎 😎
Posted by unknown2uIntelligent people don't write in caps lock like that, either.
INTELLIGENT POPLE DON’T BRAG HOW SMART THEY ARE
OR CALL OTHER PEOPLE DUMB. MY FATHER ONCE ME
“NO MATTER IF A PERSON IS INTELLIGENT OR DUMB
WHEN YOU LAY WITH THEM YOU BECOME HER EQUAL”
SO NO MATTER HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THEM,
IT’S ALSO A REFLECTION OF YOU YOURSELF.
NOW IF YOU REALLY WANT AN ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION, WHY DON’T YOU ASK A NEUROPHYSISIST, OR AN IVY LEAGUE GRADUATE IF THEY WOULD DATE YOU?? OH, AND LETS NOT FORGET THAT EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS RELATIVE.
JUST A THOUGHT!click to expand

Posted by FloBwahaha.
I don't date dumb. My vaginal lips would dry up and convert into dust..


Posted by MontgomeryThank God my parents taught me not to settle with someone who thinks "gived" is a word.
That's not funny.
Thank God your parents didn't teach you that *gived*
is a word.
Idk wtf is wrong with some of you.

Posted by rockyroadicecreamNo. It's model Vida Guerra. That's her body, but her boobs were blown up in that pic. Sadly, she's just a DD 😉Posted by Crabra...is that Jessica Alba's face photoshopped on to that body??![]()
😎 😎
Posted by unknown2uIntelligent people don't write in caps lock like that, either.
INTELLIGENT POPLE DON’T BRAG HOW SMART THEY ARE
OR CALL OTHER PEOPLE DUMB. MY FATHER ONCE ME
“NO MATTER IF A PERSON IS INTELLIGENT OR DUMB
WHEN YOU LAY WITH THEM YOU BECOME HER EQUAL”
SO NO MATTER HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THEM,
IT’S ALSO A REFLECTION OF YOU YOURSELF.
NOW IF YOU REALLY WANT AN ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION, WHY DON’T YOU ASK A NEUROPHYSISIST, OR AN IVY LEAGUE GRADUATE IF THEY WOULD DATE YOU?? OH, AND LETS NOT FORGET THAT EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS RELATIVE.
JUST A THOUGHT!click to expand

Posted by CrabraI'll have what he's having.
Yes, sex with these types is great, and fun, but it's more than that. I can't speak for all men, but for me, I find these to be 'earthy' girls. They are generally more sensual, happy, and easy to get along with. They have an uncanny ability to withstand emotional turbulence and mood swings. Theirs, as well as mine, which is a kind of armor that will hold up well with my crabbiness.
Basically it is granting more of an emotional/sexual connection at the cost of an intellectual one. But yeah, if she's totally helpless, she might want to move back home.

Posted by MontgomeryYes, I've known a lot of people who grew up hearing words like that so now they use them because they seem normal to them. I have a few friends who I consider to be very intelligent who make mistakes like that sometimes.
That's not funny.
Thank God your parents didn't teach you that *gived*
is a word.
Idk wtf is wrong with some of you.

Posted by GetMistedThat's what happens when you work around "people" all day long: all that absorbed shit needs dumping somewhere. I can relate.Posted by rockyroadicecreamThis is why you're single..
I have a hard time understanding this because dumb people are a total turn off to me. Ignorant about stuff is one thing, but literally a DUMB person who is just... gah.
I know of someone who's been dating this chick. She's nice enough, but she's fucking stupid, man. It's hard to keep a convo with her because she essentially has the conversation skills of a kindergartener. She also cannot speak properly nor can she understand basic concepts of anything, really. She's mid 20s and doesn't seem to want to grow up beyond high school mentality of life. I think he gets off on having someone "lesser" than him because it makes his ego feel so high and mighty that he's smarter and can always tell her things and impress her with his intelligence.
Example of something she said today "I gived it to him."
...If someone is nice enough, I generally will overlook the dumb because they're just so sweet so it's like okay whatever. But I could NOT be in a relationship with that. I'd feel like I'd have to constantly babysit someone like that because they need adult supervision at all times due to their lack of common sense. Nevermind I find stupid a total turn off, so it's not like I would even get as far as considering a relationship, you know?
What's your take on people's intelligence and the role it plays in your relationships? Would you even have a relationship with someone who was really dumb?
You bitch waaaaaay too much.click to expand

Posted by CrabraWow. Her eyes/eyebrows look so much like Alba's in that pic haha.
No. It's model Vida Guerra. That's her body, but her boobs were blown up in that pic. Sadly, she's just a DD 😉
Posted by CopperDoveLike how you hear people use "supposably" because dipshit number two uses it?Posted by MontgomeryYes, I've known a lot of people who grew up hearing words like that so now they use them because they seem normal to them. I have a few friends who I consider to be very intelligent who make mistakes like that sometimes.
That's not funny.
Thank God your parents didn't teach you that *gived*
is a word.
Idk wtf is wrong with some of you.
Posted by HarukaaInsecure men who are threatened by women who could possibly be their equal, yes.
You don't know that men love dumb woman ?
Or let's say prefer to marry her .
dumb people are happy.
It's god gift for them.click to expand

Posted by FloSame here. It's like how people have a preference for specific traits, yet here comes the butthurt brigade, taking personal offense to something that, I hope, doesn't apply to them. Depending on the situation, the intelligence bit can be the deal breaker.
Personally, it's just not my taste. I'm not shallow about looks though.



Posted by AkumoHappier... yes, absolutely.
Iand enfant terrible, if someone is stupid does that make them happy?

Posted by Akumonope. Virgos.....
I don't think that intelligence is the be all and end all of anything, being understood and appreciated by your partner is the most important thing.
If they don't understand you or appreciate what you do for them then what is the point of being with someone no matter how intelligent they are?
As for grammar, I know that not everyone is perfect, so I overlook those things but will try and help out if I think that it is worth the effort,
However I did LOL at the OP
Aquastatic I see you were the first to respond and now I see why you dated a Virgo,we are afterall the smartest of all the signs? 😉
And if you argue and say Aqua is the most intelligent then I have that covered as well 😉
and enfant terrible, if someone is stupid does that make them happy?
Posted by enfant_terriblei dont think being smart makes a person happy though.
Does being smart make you happy?

Posted by lisabethur8Which is it? Leo or Virgo?Posted by Akumonope. Virgos.....
I don't think that intelligence is the be all and end all of anything, being understood and appreciated by your partner is the most important thing.
If they don't understand you or appreciate what you do for them then what is the point of being with someone no matter how intelligent they are?
As for grammar, I know that not everyone is perfect, so I overlook those things but will try and help out if I think that it is worth the effort,
However I did LOL at the OP
Aquastatic I see you were the first to respond and now I see why you dated a Virgo,we are afterall the smartest of all the signs? 😉
And if you argue and say Aqua is the most intelligent then I have that covered as well 😉
and enfant terrible, if someone is stupid does that make them happy?
hands down.
my man is virgo dominant.
and his father double virgo....
genius.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by GenniePosted by lisabethur8Posted by Floif it's not natural....
I love that man, but the problem is me. Every time he's around me he turns into this teenage boy who can't control his emotions. Happy laughing smiling playful joking.. He's so funny. He starts showing me affection kissing me hugging me groping my thigh.. But me? Sometimes I'm like a rock. I can tell its hurts him deeply because I won't budge and I want too, really really bad.
How do I break out of this mold? 😢 😢
i dont see how you can change that about yourself.
plus, i dont know why he sticks around if you're not affectionate to him.
not trying to be a party pooper but you probably need a different type of man.
i dont know, but when a child (another example) wants your attention and love,
are you going to ignore him/her??
that's awful.he/she will RESENT you.
my man is leo dominant.click to expand

Posted by lisabethur8But then can you really call them dominant? It never would have caught my eye except you and I have been butting posts all over.
i go by THREE dominant top signs.

Posted by GreyWizOh sweetie, no I'm not.
I just read your posts and couldn't help but smile. You are insecure intellectually and are making this post to soothe your insecurity. Most intelligent people i know don't make posts like this. They are busy displaying their intelligence and not on astrology websites ranting about how inferior other people are.. The vast majority of your posts on dxp are emo pm's ranting that makes little to no sense. You are just a overly emotional chick who is trying to act hard(intellectually) This is all very clear just observing your comments.
back to the original question...........
I always put personality above intelligence. It's important for my partner to have a good personality and basically good heart. This is the fundamental thing i look for first. Second would be intelligence. I am most impressed with practical intelligence as opposed to savants or overly abstract type of intellect.
I think this is foundation for a good relationship. People who over emphasize intelligence are very suspect...........and since i am quite shrewd i can see through fake blowhards very quickly.

Posted by GetMistedCaregiving vs. service/hospitality.
I've worked in an ER for the last 9 years. Being salty is a choice.
Posted by GreyWizi'm the street smarts lady then. lolPosted by lisabethur8aww don't say that lisa. You are very smart and practical. Actually highly intellectual people always pair with someone who is more homely and has good street smarts because it complements them well. They don't marry intelligent women as much as you think. It is about complementing energy and it often works well.
oh never mind. i get what you mean.
lol
was saying virgos are the geniuses of the zodiac. because of MERCURY.
i dont know why but i'm guessing genius men can be with a woman dumber, like myself.click to expand
Posted by Genniewhile i've been studying astrology, i go by the top three, and top three houses that are dominant as well.Posted by lisabethur8But then can you really call them dominant? It never would have caught my eye except you and I have been butting posts all over.
i go by THREE dominant top signs.
click to expand

Posted by GreyWizAny placement in Virgo is sexy, not just Mercury.
mercury in virgo. It is such a sexy placement. I love talking to those people because they can summarize information so well and communicate very efficiently. They can break down complex concepts into very simple digestible bits of enlightenment. I have true respect for that placement. Mercury in gemini is quite sexy too but far less sexy imo.
Posted by GreyWizI know but I'm also biased.Posted by Paleriono. venus in virgo is not a great placement. venus falls in virgo. mercury is able to use virgo energy well.Posted by GreyWizAny placement in Virgo is sexy, not just Mercury.
mercury in virgo. It is such a sexy placement. I love talking to those people because they can summarize information so well and communicate very efficiently. They can break down complex concepts into very simple digestible bits of enlightenment. I have true respect for that placement. Mercury in gemini is quite sexy too but far less sexy imo.click to expand

Posted by GreyWizAgreed, but I post Mercury in Libra up there as well, less harsh that Virgo, much more diplomatic and less apt to offend a more sensitive personPosted by Paleriono. venus in virgo is not a great placement. venus falls in virgo. mercury is able to use virgo energy well.Posted by GreyWizAny placement in Virgo is sexy, not just Mercury.
mercury in virgo. It is such a sexy placement. I love talking to those people because they can summarize information so well and communicate very efficiently. They can break down complex concepts into very simple digestible bits of enlightenment. I have true respect for that placement. Mercury in gemini is quite sexy too but far less sexy imo.click to expand
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I know of someone who's been dating this chick. She's nice enough, but she's fucking stupid, man. It's hard to keep a convo with her because she essentially has the conversation skills of a kindergartener. She also cannot speak properly nor can she understand basic concepts of anything, really. She's mid 20s and doesn't seem to want to grow up beyond high school mentality of life. I think he gets off on having someone "lesser" than him because it makes his ego feel so high and mighty that he's smarter and can always tell her things and impress her with his intelligence.
Example of something she said today "I gived it to him."
...If someone is nice enough, I generally will overlook the dumb because they're just so sweet so it's like okay whatever. But I could NOT be in a relationship with that. I'd feel like I'd have to constantly babysit someone like that because they need adult supervision at all times due to their lack of common sense. Nevermind I find stupid a total turn off, so it's not like I would even get as far as considering a relationship, you know?
What's your take on people's intelligence and the role it plays in your relationships? Would you even have a relationship with someone who was really dumb?