Dating "reformed" fuck boys and fuck girls....

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Posted by nanorobot

When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️

I think that's mainly true for people that don't want to change. When one TRULY wants to settle down they will or at least they'll make the efforts to do so by changing themselves.
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When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️


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Posted by nanorobot

When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️


Nah, we all go thru our phases and just because someone was a hoe at one point or another doesn't make them one for life. Pretty unfair assessment and actually very judgmental. Now are there still some people out there like this...sure but it's really far and few between.
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When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️

Nah, we all go thru our phases and just because someone was a hoe at one point or another doesn't make them one for life. Pretty unfair assessment and actually very judgmental. Now are there still some people out there like this...sure but it's really far and few between.

Have you personally had LTR (5+ years) success with a “reformed” fuckboy?
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Woah...ok then, I see where this is coming from. 😬

Youre projecting your personal bias on the question at hand which makes your comment pretty null and void. Maybe start off with..."my personal experience" next time instead of implying that it's basically everyone.
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When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️

Nah, we all go thru our phases and just because someone was a hoe at one point or another doesn't make them one for life. Pretty unfair assessment and actually very judgmental. Now are there still some people out there like this...sure but it's really far and few between.

Have you personally had LTR (5+ years) success with a “reformed” fuckboy?

Woah...ok then, I see where this is coming from. 😬

Youre projecting your personal bias on the question at hand which makes your comment pretty null and void. Maybe start off with..."my personal experience" next time instead of implying that it's basically everyone.

I haven’t done any kind of prolonged dating/had a relationship with a fuckboy so which personal experience of mine are you alluding to exactly
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pretty specific scenario with the time frame 🤷🏼‍♀️.

Why 5+ yrs then? You mean to tell me...it'll take 5+ yrs for their fuck boy personality to come thru again...nah, ever heard of the 7 yr itch?
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Posted by nanorobot

When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️


Well I was once a sex fiend at some point in time. Today I rarely get involve with sexual activities. I've changed and became faithful overtime. If I can change so can fuckboys and girls.
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None of my damn business. I trust whoever it is would be smart and safe about it, however I would inquire the last time they were checked. I really don't care as long as it's just me now, however I do tend to favor less experienced, pickier partners--very sexy to me! I'm attracted to strength in general and strength of character is a major turn on. I like me a boy scout haha so hot
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If they were promiscuous but not a user, I’d consider it. If they ever used people I’d wonder what that says about their core values. Is that changeable? I don’t know because I’ve always though it was wrong to use or objectify people.

Isn’t a fuckboy someone who uses women in the worst way though?

I think people are confusing fuckboy and promiscuity. I believe there is a difference.

That’s why I answered two ways. I think it’s different too.
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I think I'm just thinking promiscuous. I don't associate with those types let alone date them. It's quite repulsive energy.
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When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well I was once a sex fiend at some point in time. Today I rarely get involve with sexual activities. I've changed and became faithful overtime. If I can change so can fuckboys and girls.

Well like I already said, promiscuity is not the same as being a fuckboy imo. And I don’t understand... everyone knows you have a sag wife. But then you’ve talked about harems, Scorpio FWB’s, and you’re in a faithful, monogamous, sexless marriage. What is going on 😂😂
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My sex days is gone nano. For this reason is why I'd rather be with an older woman or one that came from my generation. You youngins are all about sex and I ain't with that anymore. I'm all about passion and romance now. There is such a thing as relationship without sex you know. I wouldn't expect you and everybody else here to know about that cuz all y'all think about in relationships is having sex. I feel like I'm educating a bunch of elementary school kids on this site a lot of times. And yeah I call those Scorpio women and a couple of Tauruses and Capricorn women I bees with my harems. I look out for all of them. If they need anything they know who to turn to...mack daddy. And what's even more, my sag fiance knows about this. They all met her and my kid.
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When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well I was once a sex fiend at some point in time. Today I rarely get involve with sexual activities. I've changed and became faithful overtime. If I can change so can fuckboys and girls.

Well like I already said, promiscuity is not the same as being a fuckboy imo. And I don’t understand... everyone knows you have a sag wife. But then you’ve talked about harems, Scorpio FWB’s, and you’re in a faithful, monogamous, sexless marriage. What is going on 😂😂

My sex days is gone nano. For this reason is why I'd rather be with an older woman or one that came from my generation. You youngins are all about sex and I ain't with that anymore. I'm all about passion and romance now. There is such a thing as relationship without sex you know. I wouldn't expect you and everybody else here to know about that cuz all y'all think about in relationships is having sex. I feel like I'm educating a bunch of elementary school kids on this site a lot of times. And yeah I call those Scorpio women and a couple of Tauruses and Capricorn women I bees with my harems. I look out for all of them. If they need anything they know who to turn to...mack daddy. And what's even more, my sag fiance knows about this. They all met her and my kid.

But a harem and FWB means that there is sexual activity going on. Plus, older women are known to have higher sex drives anyway. I always read women have their best sex in their 40s. Probably why they crave younger men, idk. So you introduce your sag fiancé to your harems and FWB’s? But there is no sex. I don’t get what you’re saying, like at all, but it’s not my business though.
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Lol nvm. Ima leave y'all to yalls dazed and confused selves about this one. I'm tired explaining. I'm low key and feel I've said more than enough already.
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When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well I was once a sex fiend at some point in time. Today I rarely get involve with sexual activities. I've changed and became faithful overtime. If I can change so can fuckboys and girls.

Well like I already said, promiscuity is not the same as being a fuckboy imo. And I don’t understand... everyone knows you have a sag wife. But then you’ve talked about harems, Scorpio FWB’s, and you’re in a faithful, monogamous, sexless marriage. What is going on 😂😂

My sex days is gone nano. For this reason is why I'd rather be with an older woman or one that came from my generation. You youngins are all about sex and I ain't with that anymore. I'm all about passion and romance now. There is such a thing as relationship without sex you know. I wouldn't expect you and everybody else here to know about that cuz all y'all think about in relationships is having sex. I feel like I'm educating a bunch of elementary school kids on this site a lot of times. And yeah I call those Scorpio women and a couple of Tauruses and Capricorn women I bees with my harems. I look out for all of them. If they need anything they know who to turn to...mack daddy. And what's even more, my sag fiance knows about this. They all met her and my kid.

But a harem and FWB means that there is sexual activity going on. Plus, older women are known to have higher sex drives anyway. I always read women have their best sex in their 40s. Probably why they crave younger men, idk. So you introduce your sag fiancé to your harems and FWB’s? But there is no sex. I don’t get what you’re saying, like at all, but it’s not my business though.

Lol nvm. Ima leave y'all to yalls dazed and confused selves about this one. I'm tired explaining. I'm low key and feel I've said more than enough already.

Nigga but you're here all the time, when do you find time for these harems and to run your own business.

I smell bs
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Lololololol well wadda we have herrr? One of the main ones who constantly blows up the front page day after day, night after night and self proclaim to have an office job. Like how can any of you who claims to have office jobs and still post here while sitting behind a desk when you should focus on the job at task? My business is MINES. I OWNS it. If it has my last name on it its mines. I started my business. I can do whatever I feel like doing. I'm on my own time at my POB. And I have nothing to prove and I refuse to prove my personal life to you or anybody. You put your life on the front page. That's fine. But don't try and convince me to do the same. Ain't happening.
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assuming their health checks out, a person's sexual past never bothered me....

the women I've been with who were very promiscuous, just seemed to have high libido (a good thing IMO) and were looking for some/any form of intimacy at the time....But they'd also been in LTRs at various points throughout their life so...

One thing they all had in common was some form of sexual abuse in their past, which they say can be a catalyst for promiscuity in some....Given how high the incidence of sexual abuse is, that just makes the behavior all the less surprising or offensive....

I'm not built the same way, but on some level I also definitely envy people who are promiscuous and fantasize about being that way....

If I remember correctly, I think I've read a summary of at least one study correlating higher number of sexual partners with greater likelihood of either infidelity or divorce, but that also could easily be attributed to other factors, and ultimately doesn't bother me either....Looking back, I'm glad every relationship I've ever been in, has ended at some point - even if it was through infidelity, that was probably just what it needed at that time to actually be over...
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When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well I was once a sex fiend at some point in time. Today I rarely get involve with sexual activities. I've changed and became faithful overtime. If I can change so can fuckboys and girls.

Well like I already said, promiscuity is not the same as being a fuckboy imo. And I don’t understand... everyone knows you have a sag wife. But then you’ve talked about harems, Scorpio FWB’s, and you’re in a faithful, monogamous, sexless marriage. What is going on 😂😂

My sex days is gone nano. For this reason is why I'd rather be with an older woman or one that came from my generation. You youngins are all about sex and I ain't with that anymore. I'm all about passion and romance now. There is such a thing as relationship without sex you know. I wouldn't expect you and everybody else here to know about that cuz all y'all think about in relationships is having sex. I feel like I'm educating a bunch of elementary school kids on this site a lot of times. And yeah I call those Scorpio women and a couple of Tauruses and Capricorn women I bees with my harems. I look out for all of them. If they need anything they know who to turn to...mack daddy. And what's even more, my sag fiance knows about this. They all met her and my kid.

But a harem and FWB means that there is sexual activity going on. Plus, older women are known to have higher sex drives anyway. I always read women have their best sex in their 40s. Probably why they crave younger men, idk. So you introduce your sag fiancé to your harems and FWB’s? But there is no sex. I don’t get what you’re saying, like at all, but it’s not my business though.

Lol nvm. Ima leave y'all to yalls dazed and confused selves about this one. I'm tired explaining. I'm low key and feel I've said more than enough already.

Nigga but you're here all the time, when do you find time for these harems and to run your own business.

I smell bs

Lololololol well wadda we have herrr? One of the main ones who constantly blows up the front page day after day, night after night and self proclaim to have an office job. Like how can any of you who claims to have office jobs and still post here while sitting behind a desk when you should focus on the job at task? My business is MINES. I OWNS it. If it has my last name on it its mines. I started my business. I can do whatever I feel like doing. I'm on my own time at my POB. And I have nothing to prove and I refuse to prove my personal life to you or anybody. You put your life on the front page. That's fine. But don't try and convince me to do the same. Ain't happening.

but you do put your fake life on here, we all know you have no harems, or a business -

so stop the lies.
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Well if that's what you wanna believe that's fine. Who am I to try and make you believe. I don't know how to convince you into believing Geminis are multi tasking people who can do and focus on more than one thing at a time. Which I'm doing right now. Playing guitar, drinking beer, eating, running errands AND talking to a no having life with you. I'm thru with you. I need to ml stop responding back to you or my head and life will wind up being fucked up just like yours are.

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When you become 30 and see fuckboys all around still, you realize that people aren’t really capable of changing. Sure they can lie to themselves and others and try to do the faithful monogamy thing for a little while, but the underlying personality/desires/inclinations are still there.

I think the past DOES matter, especially if a behavioral pattern exists 🤷🏼‍♀️


Yes it does....
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those type of men turn me off completely

they're boring ppl with massive psychological issues

These are the types of dudes on dating sites that you open the message and there’s just an dick staring at you that he probably sent out the same picture to 20 different women at the same time. No intro, no text, no warning, just penis in your face. And to think that they have success on any level
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Would this bother you? The past shouldn't matter, yes, I know.....but would it? If you started finding out about their "hoeing" ways, would you feel its none of your business, or would you be like "hmmmmm?"


The past always matters and I guess it'll be the type of 'fuck boy' (and girl) we're talking about. I've known one that just couldn't give in to temptation. Known one that is highly suggestable on drugs and alcohol. Known one that just plain out fucks out of loneliness and boredom even though she's with someone and finally (There's probably more types but this is all I know) the ones that just fuck because they can and they are single.

Out of all of them the last one I wouldn't have a problem with dating. Sure people can change and I've seen it happen but personally I'd rather just not take that risk if I'm genuinely interested in them.
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What’s the difference between a fuckboy and promiscuous man?

Honestly I don't know the difference myself. But we got two people on here who apparently knows there's a difference between the two.
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I ask because in this era people are creating their own stupid terminologies separate from the English language. Fuckboy is a slang to refer to a promiscuous man aka lothario.
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What’s the difference between a fuckboy and promiscuous man?

Honestly I don't know the difference myself. But we got two people on here who apparently knows there's a difference between the two.

I ask because in this era people are creating their own stupid terminologies separate from the English language. Fuckboy is a slang to refer to a promiscuous man aka lothario.

I think the difference being referred to is a fuck boy/girl just being a user who will do or say anything to get laid and not treat the other person as a person. A promiscuous person could get a lot of action but be otherwise decent.
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Promiscuous - “having or characterized by many transient sexual relationships.”

^That’s the definition of promiscuous which has nothing to do with the character of the individual. It just speaks to their sexual nature.

Fuck boy is also promiscuous like the promiscuous man. The word you all are looking for is lothario which is defined as “a man who behaves selfishly and irresponsibly in his sexual relationships with women,” as it refers to the character of a man too. Promiscuity is a trait that both decent and indecent person can possess in this day and age.
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What’s the difference between a fuckboy and promiscuous man?

Honestly I don't know the difference myself. But we got two people on here who apparently knows there's a difference between the two.

I ask because in this era people are creating their own stupid terminologies separate from the English language. Fuckboy is a slang to refer to a promiscuous man aka lothario.

I think the difference being referred to is a fuck boy/girl just being a user who will do or say anything to get laid and not treat the other person as a person. A promiscuous person could get a lot of action but be otherwise decent.

Promiscuous - “having or characterized by many transient sexual relationships.”

^That’s the definition of promiscuous which has nothing to do with the character of the individual. It just speaks to their sexual nature.

Fuck boy is also promiscuous like the promiscuous man. The word you all are looking for is lothario which is defined as “a man who behaves selfishly and irresponsibly in his sexual relationships with women,” as it refers to the character of a man too. Promiscuity is a trait that both decent and indecent person can possess in this day and age.
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Well this explains it well. Both of you gave good descriptions of the word. Lord knows I didn't know. Thanks to y'all, know I know.
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What’s the difference between a fuckboy and promiscuous man?

Honestly I don't know the difference myself. But we got two people on here who apparently knows there's a difference between the two.

I ask because in this era people are creating their own stupid terminologies separate from the English language. Fuckboy is a slang to refer to a promiscuous man aka lothario.

I think the difference being referred to is a fuck boy/girl just being a user who will do or say anything to get laid and not treat the other person as a person. A promiscuous person could get a lot of action but be otherwise decent.
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Like black mamba I presump (pronounce pre-soomp).