AL4813
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Divorce—?
She's not but it doesn't make sense to me at all to keep something she doesn't care about.
She moved her mom in a couple of months ago and changed to a different person.. It's as if she literally replaced me with her mom lol.
Before her mom came she was different but I guess her real self came out.
My only regret is that a child came out of this mess.
She moved her mom in a couple of months ago and changed to a different person.. It's as if she literally replaced me with her mom lol.
Before her mom came she was different but I guess her real self came out.
My only regret is that a child came out of this mess.
Oh man yeah you are serving our country and now this. I'm sorry and more on the kid situation now. What are you going to do?
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?
I love my son but she lied that she was on birth control. Told me it was ok to not use protection. Don't know how that's lawful but in this great country it is I guess.
And yes proper way is divorce but keep it civil for your kid too now....and respectful no matter what.
I told her it would really benefit our child if we were divorced rather than together and fighting a lot in front of everyone. She won't change, that's a given. She's Aqua moon so she has a miserable time compromising anything.. Very selfish and sensitive.
She could be on birth control and still get pregnant. And you have super sperm. And was meant for a baby for you. a purpose.
I saw that fire placements too...and knew she was a Scorpio that she was strong for that. But she might try to come back and do something or find something to get you back for anything in court. Keep it civil.
Posted by MIIeFiskAre you having flashbacks to prior threads?
😐
I am.
dxp memory vortex.
It's real.
Geez.
Did you even bring up the concerns you had about her once her mom moved in?
Have you considered counselling before cutting the cord?
Have you considered counselling before cutting the cord?
Posted by Capri-sunthat is for sure - we move away from our parents and then into relationships for a reason - sorry to hear @OP but I believe you are right - I hope everything works out with you being able to spend time with your son without grief from the mother
Congrats if that's what you want. Make the best of what's left of the relationship for the sake of your son. Moving mom in will do that to marriages.
Posted by leowwwYes he does
Hopefully the divorce goes smoothly for your son's sake. An unhappy marriage wouldn't be beneficial to him. He deserves two happy parents together or not.
Too many people allow their ego to get in the way and the poor kids suffer and subsequently grow up thinking *what a pair of idiots i had for parents, they couldn't even get along together*
If you use intelligence and maturity, it can be done and the child will grow up much happier and secure
I shudder when i see what some parents drag their kids through 😢
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?
Posted by SsupermanYou got married for sex, Ssupes?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineNah, I was with a Scorpio and the sex was damn near good enough to pop the question.Posted by SsupermanYou got married for sex, Ssupes?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?click to expand
Posted by DivaCanLeoJelly?Posted by SsupermanpatheticPosted by MyStarsShineNah, I was with a Scorpio and the sex was damn near good enough to pop the question.Posted by SsupermanYou got married for sex, Ssupes?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?
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Posted by SsupermanLOLPosted by DivaCanLeoJelly?Posted by SsupermanpatheticPosted by MyStarsShineNah, I was with a Scorpio and the sex was damn near good enough to pop the question.Posted by SsupermanYou got married for sex, Ssupes?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?
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Sorry AL4813!
Keep hope alive! I remarried my husband.
I moved mom in too. And, moved her out as well...
Keep hope alive!
Keep hope alive! I remarried my husband.
I moved mom in too. And, moved her out as well...
Keep hope alive!
Posted by AriesLoveif that fails then there are laws, you should always be a great father regardless of the conditions, that child didn't ask to be in that messPosted by AL4813You can still be a great father to your child IF the other parent does not use bitterness to prevent that.
She's not but it doesn't make sense to me at all to keep something she doesn't care about.
She moved her mom in a couple of months ago and changed to a different person.. It's as if she literally replaced me with her mom lol.
Before her mom came she was different but I guess her real self came out.
My only regret is that a child came out of this mess.
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Posted by Ssupermanso what happened ?Posted by MyStarsShineNah, I was with a Scorpio and the sex was damn near good enough to pop the question.Posted by SsupermanYou got married for sex, Ssupes?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?
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Posted by tctaIt was a lot of stuff, I take a lot of the blamePosted by Ssupermanso what happened ?Posted by MyStarsShineNah, I was with a Scorpio and the sex was damn near good enough to pop the question.Posted by SsupermanYou got married for sex, Ssupes?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?
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Posted by Ssupermanthat sex thing is strong but it sure doesn't mean everything - now that I'm older it's a treat for the most part lol but the being together and getting along is real nice and means a lot in the end ...Posted by tctaIt was a lot of stuff, I take a lot of the blamePosted by Ssupermanso what happened ?Posted by MyStarsShineNah, I was with a Scorpio and the sex was damn near good enough to pop the question.Posted by SsupermanYou got married for sex, Ssupes?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?
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Posted by AriesLoveparental alienation... again, the use of the law worksPosted by aquapiscescuspLaws don't prevent one parent from painting a bad picture of the other parent into the eyes of a child. Yes the non custodial parent will get visitation every other weekend (4 days a month) but I know of kids who don't want to visit the other parent because they've been brainwashed by the custodial parent. I call that bitterness.Posted by AriesLoveif that fails then there are laws, you should always be a great father regardless of the conditions, that child didn't ask to be in that messPosted by AL4813You can still be a great father to your child IF the other parent does not use bitterness to prevent that.
She's not but it doesn't make sense to me at all to keep something she doesn't care about.
She moved her mom in a couple of months ago and changed to a different person.. It's as if she literally replaced me with her mom lol.
Before her mom came she was different but I guess her real self came out.
My only regret is that a child came out of this mess.
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until the child is old enough to understand...
Posted by tctaSex is just a badass bonus. With that being said, I can't stay with bad sexPosted by Ssupermanthat sex thing is strong but it sure doesn't mean everything - now that I'm older it's a treat for the most part lol but the being together and getting along is real nice and means a lot in the end ...Posted by tctaIt was a lot of stuff, I take a lot of the blamePosted by Ssupermanso what happened ?Posted by MyStarsShineNah, I was with a Scorpio and the sex was damn near good enough to pop the question.Posted by SsupermanYou got married for sex, Ssupes?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?
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or have shared custody?
Posted by Ssupermanlol I call it the icing on the cake and yes, I can't do bad sex either -Posted by tctaSex is just a badass bonus. With that being said, I can't stay with bad sexPosted by Ssupermanthat sex thing is strong but it sure doesn't mean everything - now that I'm older it's a treat for the most part lol but the being together and getting along is real nice and means a lot in the end ...Posted by tctaIt was a lot of stuff, I take a lot of the blamePosted by Ssupermanso what happened ?Posted by MyStarsShineNah, I was with a Scorpio and the sex was damn near good enough to pop the question.Posted by SsupermanYou got married for sex, Ssupes?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It was the sex. I've been in his shoes.
Whose idea was it to get married if you both maybe were skeptical of it? but did it for baby you have to make it work or what?
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Posted by Infinite8Hey my bad for the late response.. I'm sick.. Passing kidney stones lol oh the pain.Posted by AL4813
I love my son but she lied that she was on birth control. Told me it was ok to not use protection. Don't know how that's lawful but in this great country it is I guess.
Take responsibility for your own life... Stop blaming others for your laziness.
If you didn't want to get her pregnant, you should have done EVERYTHING in your power to avoid it.
Smh... Lazy and then you blame her.
And another thing, learn from this experience. You are divorcing her and giving up quickly because she doesn't give you 100% of her attention.
Accept that you might not be the marrying type. Marriage is not always rainbows and sunshine. And you put no effort into this one... It was a very short marriage.
Also accept that you require full attention from the other party. You didn't like her attention going to her mother and now your child. Plus you are away a lot. You are not liking where you stand and not being center of her universe all the time.
It's too easy to play innocent and make her the "bad" one. But circumstances had a lot to do with how this unraveled.
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I hear ya and yea these paragraphs sound high and mighty and powerful when others read it but at the end, YOU are not in the situation.
No one is requiring 100% attention(scorp seeing things black and white) thing here but one thing a Scorpio fails 100% of the time at doing is putting themselves in the others shoes, if I moved my dad or mom in for free and went out with dad all the time or chose to watch sports with him if or something or have man time with him all the time? Tell me how would you react? Her mother is a 54 year old woman who couldn't fry an egg to save her life.. No physical ailments, just another dramatic woman who thinks people need to slave to her.
I gave every effort to save the marriage and my wife even admitted she felt she had to choose between me and her mom. I didn't put those thought or words in her mouth.
Posted by LadyNeptuneOf course I brought them up.. Her dodging the questions like a politician showed guilt to me.. But I left it at that... If we were going to grow apart then it would be her choice.
Did you even bring up the concerns you had about her once her mom moved in?
Have you considered counselling before cutting the cord?
Posted by MiZLeoPosted by AriesLovePosted by MiZLeoWhy not just put it all in your own separate bank account instead of hiding it all around the house?Posted by Arielle83Posted by MiZLeoMay I ask where you hid it, if you lived with him?
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The money i put in the house was cash I got from work. I'm in the beauty industry so I get cash tips sometimes.
Also, it saved me from spending it. If it is hidden away I can't access it whenever I want, and I can't just go grab it if he was around, in my account I could spend it while I'm out and my lioness sees something pretty.
He can't have access to it if its in your name solely.
He can in a divorce. I was trying to hide income. I don't know if they can or not but I was covering my ass.
But then again I've never been in an abusive relationship and never will so I don't know how "in your face" some men can be.
Yeah, I said the same thing. There are other types of abuse than physical. Most of his stuff was mental and verbal. Sometimes it's subtle and manipulative and you don't notice it at first until time goes on cause you're in love. He never beat me up. That would have been automatic out the door....after I stabbed him. The water instance was the first kind of real physical he showed and I was afraid it might turn worse.
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omgosh your story is so sad, MzLeo,
throwing water in your face while sleeping, who knows what else he'd do. (or what else he had done without you knowing) you can't trust them. That's so scary.
it's so sad that a woman doesn't have any options when they're in an abusive relationship.
so you have to hide your money tips, extra cash around.
you don't have family to go home to? 😢 aunts uncles, sisters, brothers? even if your parents /grandparents passed away?
Posted by AL4813OP, your marriage didn't sound good though, when you announced you got married a year ago? or was it 2 years ago? then you were posting about other women. I thought, well gosh, huh?Posted by LadyNeptuneOf course I brought them up.. Her dodging the questions like a politician showed guilt to me.. But I left it at that... If we were going to grow apart then it would be her choice.
Did you even bring up the concerns you had about her once her mom moved in?
Have you considered counselling before cutting the cord?
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I would be pissed if I were your wife. posting about other women and shit. your wife didn't put her foot down with you. maybe she was scared of you.
Posted by AriesLoveOf course when parents work together it's best... a friend went through a terrible divorce but they were level headed enough to have a mediator step in for the best interest of the child. The father would pick up child from school when it was his time to have child and vice versa, the parents never really had to see each other (no arguments in front of child), they did a great job limiting the stress on the child. That was the best divorce setup I have ever seen and yet they were so bitter lol.Posted by aquapiscescuspFirst it has to be proven. Which means the non custodial parent will be shelling out some dough. More court dates, therapists and psychologists and eventually the child will be forced to visit a parent they do not want to. If you have to "force" your child to have a relationship with you they WILL resent you.Posted by AriesLoveparental alienation... again, the use of the law worksPosted by aquapiscescuspLaws don't prevent one parent from painting a bad picture of the other parent into the eyes of a child. Yes the non custodial parent will get visitation every other weekend (4 days a month) but I know of kids who don't want to visit the other parent because they've been brainwashed by the custodial parent. I call that bitterness.Posted by AriesLoveif that fails then there are laws, you should always be a great father regardless of the conditions, that child didn't ask to be in that messPosted by AL4813You can still be a great father to your child IF the other parent does not use bitterness to prevent that.
She's not but it doesn't make sense to me at all to keep something she doesn't care about.
She moved her mom in a couple of months ago and changed to a different person.. It's as if she literally replaced me with her mom lol.
Before her mom came she was different but I guess her real self came out.
My only regret is that a child came out of this mess.
It's best if parents work together and respect each other for the sake of the child. Also standard visitation is so minimal so if the legal parent is more open it gives the other parent more time to develop a decent relationship with their child.
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Posted by lisabethur8Posted by AL4813OP, your marriage didn't sound good though, when you announced you got married a year ago? or was it 2 years ago? then you were posting about other women. I thought, well gosh, huh?Posted by LadyNeptuneOf course I brought them up.. Her dodging the questions like a politician showed guilt to me.. But I left it at that... If we were going to grow apart then it would be her choice.
Did you even bring up the concerns you had about her once her mom moved in?
Have you considered counselling before cutting the cord?
I would be pissed if I were your wife. posting about other women and shit. your wife didn't put her foot down with you. maybe she was scared of you.click to expand
I'm still trying to remember this other women stuff.
Posted by AL4813that's what they all say 😄Posted by lisabethur8Posted by AL4813OP, your marriage didn't sound good though, when you announced you got married a year ago? or was it 2 years ago? then you were posting about other women. I thought, well gosh, huh?Posted by LadyNeptuneOf course I brought them up.. Her dodging the questions like a politician showed guilt to me.. But I left it at that... If we were going to grow apart then it would be her choice.
Did you even bring up the concerns you had about her once her mom moved in?
Have you considered counselling before cutting the cord?
I would be pissed if I were your wife. posting about other women and shit. your wife didn't put her foot down with you. maybe she was scared of you.
I'm still trying to remember this other women stuff.
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Posted by MiZLeo
I love how people who have never been married are so quick to judge couples getting a divorce.
I'm actually happy for you. I know how it is being with someone and then being miserable because yes, people do change and sometimes it is not the good kind of change. Sometimes love is blind too and the rose colored glasses come off and you're like wtf was I thinking— Sometimes the person becomes abusive. I'm seperated, but just texting my husband gives me anxiety. 13 yrs later and we didn't rush into marriage either, we were together for 7 yrs first, living together for 6, b4 we married. And he became abusive afterward. I woke up in the middle of the night one night freezing to find he threw a cup of ice cold water all over me for no reason other than I was out late working one night trying to make some extra money for us. I laid in bed the rest of the night terrified what he was going to do next. It was the first time I was afraid in my own home and it was because of him, thats when I started saving and hiding money to prepare to live on my own.
It's not easy people. It's not always black and white. It is not always "why did u marry them in the first place".
Do take care of your son tho, whether you wanted him or not, he is your responsibility now.
You too?
I had a Leo dump a bucket of water on me
one morning because I disturbed his sleep
the night before-- woke him up coming in.
Fucking psycho.
Left in the middle of the night, soon after--
the good Virgo met me and our dog at the
end of the street and took us tf out out of Dodge.
That was a looong time ago. o.O
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