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Do guys prefer women that they can control?
I say no though I am a woman.
However man once told me 'you can tell me what to do and I will do it' and o was kind of hoping to have a Master!
I am also married to a man who likes me to be in charge so he wouldn't have to strain on himself...lol
So answer is no. Actially thinking about it I had never had a man (maybe twice) who were telling me what to do. Them hadn't last. 🙂
However man once told me 'you can tell me what to do and I will do it' and o was kind of hoping to have a Master!
I am also married to a man who likes me to be in charge so he wouldn't have to strain on himself...lol
So answer is no. Actially thinking about it I had never had a man (maybe twice) who were telling me what to do. Them hadn't last. 🙂
I'm a woman too. You will find it to be a boring reply but i think like im everything in life, the truth lies in the middle. She has to be balanced.
But i'm curious to hear the nuances coming from men 🙂
But i'm curious to hear the nuances coming from men 🙂
Posted by Se7enOh please! Like you don't know when men trying to tell you how to spend money and orders you around whether you can go out with girls or not.
Define "control."
Tells you when to be home if you are telling him you'll be later.
Criticizing your style . All sorts of things that make women feel little and inadequate. Darn! I wish I find man like that! Lol
Posted by ImpulsvBingo and you especially see it in "alpha males."
I suspect it's done out of insecurity vs the fun of it lol
The answer isn't cut and dry...it depends on the man. For me? No, I don't like to and never have tried controlling a woman. Life is stressful enough as it is.
Women love control. I think men give in easily when they are in love
How about a woman that can control herself. That sounds wonderful
Your post reminds me of another thing i heard over the radio..
That a man wants an independent woman, yet find independant women intimidating.. I think those are the same men that want to control their woman lol..
Sorry my comment probably didnt add anything
That a man wants an independent woman, yet find independant women intimidating.. I think those are the same men that want to control their woman lol..
Sorry my comment probably didnt add anything
Posted by Se7enGood than! So you are respectful man?Posted by GemitatiOh. Then the answer is no. I don't do any of that!!Posted by Se7enOh please! Like you don't know when men trying to tell you how to spend money and orders you around whether you can go out with girls or not.
Define "control."
Tells you when to be home if you are telling him you'll be later.
Criticizing your style . All sorts of things that make women feel little and inadequate. Darn! I wish I find man like that! Lol
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How would you react if your woman bossed you around? Just curious
Posted by Se7enLol way to go! I know the look! LolPosted by GemitatiDon't put me on a high pedestal lol. The answer is, I don't react. I look at her like she's drunk and high at the same time.Posted by Se7enGood than! So you are respectful man?Posted by GemitatiOh. Then the answer is no. I don't do any of that!!Posted by Se7enOh please! Like you don't know when men trying to tell you how to spend money and orders you around whether you can go out with girls or not.
Define "control."
Tells you when to be home if you are telling him you'll be later.
Criticizing your style . All sorts of things that make women feel little and inadequate. Darn! I wish I find man like that! Lol
How would you react if your woman bossed you around? Just curiousclick to expand
Posted by Aries_Luminary50/50 is better so respect is not lost.
This topic seems to be coming up a lot around me so I wanted to bring it here.
I would like for men to respond and be as honest as possible. I won't be judging you I just want to see raw, authentic responses.
Now I understand that women will comment. It's cool if you want to share you experiences but understand that as a women you will not be able to answer this question.
Not a man but just want to add that I don't like controlling men but a little control is good, on both sides, cuz I like to have some control myself.
Posted by TxOgalWhat you're eluding to is not a control issue...it is a feeling needed issue which is completely different. Male or female, if you're made to feel like you're "just there" you're gonna have problems. Men are no different when it comes to needing to feel like you're an integral part of someone's life.
Your post reminds me of another thing i heard over the radio..
That a man wants an independent woman, yet find independant women intimidating.. I think those are the same men that want to control their woman lol..
Sorry my comment probably didnt add anything
Posted by Gemitatithat's why incompatibility.Posted by Se7enOh please! Like you don't know when men trying to tell you how to spend money and orders you around whether you can go out with girls or not.
Define "control."
Tells you when to be home if you are telling him you'll be later.
Criticizing your style . All sorts of things that make women feel little and inadequate. Darn! I wish I find man like that! Lolclick to expand
if a woman LIKES that someone is taking care of her, cause she SUCKS at finance. then it's best left to a man who is better at it.
and if a woman LIKES to spend time with man than any of her friends if she has any, then it's a no brainer.
and again, not rocket science, IF you yourself don't to go out and is a homebody and LOVES It, and wishes you would have a man who is also homebody so you don't have to worry, then compatibility!!!!
compatibility wins all the time. what you want and what he wants are in line with what you want together.
yeah you wish you could find a man like that huh? sounds like a dreamboat.
but gemitati,
why do you think about these things so deeply— they are not even rocket science. it sounds like you want to go out a lot. and feel restrained by such a type of man.
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so in truth, there IS no controlling
because a man doesn't need to control anyone who WANTS what they want.
you see?
if a man has to RESORT to such things...incompatibility
and misery.
why do you think about these things so deeply— they are not even rocket science. it sounds like you want to go out a lot. and feel restrained by such a type of man.
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so in truth, there IS no controlling
because a man doesn't need to control anyone who WANTS what they want.
you see?
if a man has to RESORT to such things...incompatibility
and misery.
yea because we know what women do with our monies
Posted by littlenanobyteweak men, real men........seriously— you'd actually put them down??
Weak men like women they can easily control. What other man thinks this way? "I am attracted to women that are easily subdued and bend to my will." I know a few men like this.
REAL men like educated, strong willed, goal oriented women. One who will put up a fight when necessary, demands to be his equal, but also knows when to pick her battles, and always respect him.
more obvioius PUT DOWN shots at men who aren't compatible with you so you can drag them down.if you were the TOLERANT type and didn't give two fucks that other people choose different types, then you'd be like ok, whatever. but you give too many fucks.
none of these are bad or good, just compatibility issues with certain women and partners.
Posted by yupvirgooincompatibility indeed.
I know some men who control their women and prefers to control their women.
I personally think it's stupid.
But there are men who exist that do and have even described to me that they feel very insecure when their female significant others goes out a lot and is very sociable. In short, they don't like women who may have a world outside of them.
just like I said above.
I don't like it if my man goes out without me, too much, and he don't either. so thank god we're compatible.
if he is the type that goes out a lot I will cry!!! and be depressed.
and that's the truth cause I love being a homebody.
so seriously compatibility is the issue.
and that's what I think where OP has an issue, because she feels it's "control"
thnk about the OTHER way,
if the woman is in control...
does anybody ever address this? No, cause then the men would look like weak willed men. *smh*
Posted by lisabethur8LOL and he is a captain!Posted by Gemitatithat's why incompatibility.Posted by Se7enOh please! Like you don't know when men trying to tell you how to spend money and orders you around whether you can go out with girls or not.
Define "control."
Tells you when to be home if you are telling him you'll be later.
Criticizing your style . All sorts of things that make women feel little and inadequate. Darn! I wish I find man like that! Lol
if a woman LIKES that someone is taking care of her, cause she SUCKS at finance. then it's best left to a man who is better at it.
and if a woman LIKES to spend time with man than any of her friends if she has any, then it's a no brainer.
and again, not rocket science, IF you yourself don't to go out and is a homebody and LOVES It, and wishes you would have a man who is also homebody so you don't have to worry, then compatibility!!!!
compatibility wins all the time. what you want and what he wants are in line with what you want together.
yeah you wish you could find a man like that huh? sounds like a dreamboat.click to expand
Posted by littlenanobyteok lol I get it. 😛Posted by lisabethur8Well, yea, of course.Posted by littlenanobyteweak men, real men........seriously— you'd actually put them down??
Weak men like women they can easily control. What other man thinks this way? "I am attracted to women that are easily subdued and bend to my will." I know a few men like this.
REAL men like educated, strong willed, goal oriented women. One who will put up a fight when necessary, demands to be his equal, but also knows when to pick her battles, and always respect him.
more obvioius PUT DOWN shots at men who aren't compatible with you so you can drag them down.if you were the TOLERANT type and didn't give two fucks that other people choose different types, then you'd be like ok, whatever. but you give too many fucks.
none of these are bad or good, just compatibility issues with certain women and partners.
The question is "do men like women they can control?"
And, imo, any man who consciously knows that they need to control women are weak.
Why would a man who is strong, i.e. what most women view "strong" as: Confident, successful, strong morals, honest, etc, want to control his woman?
Control is not love. That will never be love. Men who love their women don't want to CONTROL them. That is not the case nor will it ever be.
Weak men want to control women. Period.click to expand
slow here. heehee.
Posted by GemitatiThe ONLY man that has ever had that kind of control over me has been my father!! ?Posted by Se7enOh please! Like you don't know when men trying to tell you how to spend money and orders you around whether you can go out with girls or not.
Define "control."
Tells you when to be home if you are telling him you'll be later.
Criticizing your style . All sorts of things that make women feel little and inadequate. Darn! I wish I find man like that! Lolclick to expand
Posted by littlenanobyte
I have no problem putting down a man who says that he wants to "control women"
That's just fuckboy and weak insecure beta material.
I don't know any man who says, I want to control women
lol
that's just asking for it.
control is shared anyway.
kind of like this....shared. i'm sure Prince William gives some control to Kate, or else she'd be unhappy.
she is free to do as she pleases, but they have schedules I bet. I don't know....I don't think it's the same as a simple middle class woman. Who has to do the laundry and cook, as they have their own chef/cook and probably someone do the laundry and clean the entire castle home.
Posted by yupvirgooPosted by lisabethur8Hmmm.. yes but I forgot to add that the men I do know are the sort to control diets, clothing and people that the women get to talk to.Posted by yupvirgooincompatibility indeed.
I know some men who control their women and prefers to control their women.
I personally think it's stupid.
But there are men who exist that do and have even described to me that they feel very insecure when their female significant others goes out a lot and is very sociable. In short, they don't like women who may have a world outside of them.
just like I said above.
I don't like it if my man goes out without me, too much, and he don't either. so thank god we're compatible.
if he is the type that goes out a lot I will cry!!! and be depressed.
and that's the truth cause I love being a homebody.
so seriously compatibility is the issue.
and that's what I think where OP has an issue, because she feels it's "control"
thnk about the OTHER way,
if the woman is in control...
does anybody ever address this? No, cause then the men would look like weak willed men. *smh*
But yes, sometimes it all depends on perspective... for example, my wife and I prefer being home than going out. We do go out but usually for reasons that has to do with our friends and family. If one of us had been more sociable than the other, then yes there's a problem with compatibility.click to expand
yes!!! indeed!!
*sigh of relief* you get me and I get you, at least in the range of homebody, loves being home together and two minds thnking the same angle.
if my man is more sociable, I would be crying a lot.
my first husband was like that. very very sociable and I was left alone a lot at home waiting for him to come home after midnight. I cried a lot. it was very miserable. Sometimes I would already be sleeping and he'd be home in the middle of the night. I cried so much those days.
true incompatibility. one is too social the other not. and obvious reasons I wanted to be married and have a home/family really realy early in life, I was ready for commitment and all the trimmings, so eager!!!
and he was not.
a lot of men are like him I have read, noticed. so he's not the only one out there.
what happened to my quote?? 😕
anyway I had this loonnng text.
but yes I agree with you yupvirgo.
I even had this longggg spiel over my ex, and how he was more social than I was, and I stayed home waiting for him ,crying a lot.
those were miserable days.
but yes I get you!!
anyway I had this loonnng text.
but yes I agree with you yupvirgo.
I even had this longggg spiel over my ex, and how he was more social than I was, and I stayed home waiting for him ,crying a lot.
those were miserable days.
but yes I get you!!
Posted by littlenanobyteI wish I could like this more than once!
Weak men like women they can easily control. What other man thinks this way? "I am attracted to women that are easily subdued and bend to my will." I know a few men like this.
REAL men like educated, strong willed, goal oriented women. One who will put up a fight when necessary, demands to be his equal, but also knows when to pick her battles, and always respect him.
my husband and I would say, during the week, 'is there an appointment for us this coming weekend?"
like a birthday, a special event we have to go to?? that kind of thing.
we look up our calendar...nope none, we can RELAX. and if we want, get our haircut done, or schedule a doctor check up appointment.
or go to the fitness.
or stay home and relax, water the plants, watch a bit of netlflix, clean the windows shovel the ice off the sidewalk.
pick up the dead leaves of autumn that keep falling in our yards....
SIGH...
I love the harmony and relaxation.
it's just LOVELY!!!
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I love the simplicity of life....
autumn leaves and weekends!!! 😄
like a birthday, a special event we have to go to?? that kind of thing.
we look up our calendar...nope none, we can RELAX. and if we want, get our haircut done, or schedule a doctor check up appointment.
or go to the fitness.
or stay home and relax, water the plants, watch a bit of netlflix, clean the windows shovel the ice off the sidewalk.
pick up the dead leaves of autumn that keep falling in our yards....
SIGH...
I love the harmony and relaxation.
it's just LOVELY!!!
edit
I love the simplicity of life....
autumn leaves and weekends!!! 😄
Posted by tizianiI get what you're saying and I agree. But could something like that ever last? That's a different topic
In sex, sure. Outside of it, no. From what I've seen, if you end up in a relationship you can control, you (as the controlling partner) have no power to escape it. It's a strange paradox. I value my freedom.
Posted by Aries_LuminaryNo, she's not a pet. Guide her once or two, influence, recommend, sure if she asks for a second view. But I trust the person I date to make a decision as an adult and be her own.
This topic seems to be coming up a lot around me so I wanted to bring it here.
I would like for men to respond and be as honest as possible. I won't be judging you I just want to see raw, authentic responses.
Now I understand that women will comment. It's cool if you want to share you experiences but understand that as a women you will not be able to answer this question.
I agree with lisabeth, this is a compatibility issue. If the female wants to be controlled or wants her man to take control of certain aspects of their relationship there's nothing wrong with that. In fact they are more likely to go the distance being on the same page and all.
Control is only an issue if it's unwanted.
^^^that being said, I have seen men specifically seek out women with whom they have an upper hand on. For example a woman who is financially dependent on him, or a woman that is much younger then him and easier to manipulate and control. He may be insecure, or a narssisitic asshole who wants to play god in his own little kingdom.
However he could just like being the provider. Or he may have chosen a younger woman because having a large family is a priority.
It's always easier to judge when your standing on the outside looking in.
Control is only an issue if it's unwanted.
^^^that being said, I have seen men specifically seek out women with whom they have an upper hand on. For example a woman who is financially dependent on him, or a woman that is much younger then him and easier to manipulate and control. He may be insecure, or a narssisitic asshole who wants to play god in his own little kingdom.
However he could just like being the provider. Or he may have chosen a younger woman because having a large family is a priority.
It's always easier to judge when your standing on the outside looking in.
This is one of many reasons why it's so important to be transparent with who you are as a person when first getting to know someone.
All too often women, and men, create a persona they feel will be more attractive to their potential SO. Then after several months, even years, the real them becomes exposed. She made herself out to be docile and submissive and having a family is her number 1. When really she's career driven and doesn't want to settle down for another decade.
Neither one is more righteous than the other. But putting on a facade to attract her mate only resulted in an incompatibility that is too large to overcome. Leaving both parties disappointed.
Moral of the story...be yourself.
All too often women, and men, create a persona they feel will be more attractive to their potential SO. Then after several months, even years, the real them becomes exposed. She made herself out to be docile and submissive and having a family is her number 1. When really she's career driven and doesn't want to settle down for another decade.
Neither one is more righteous than the other. But putting on a facade to attract her mate only resulted in an incompatibility that is too large to overcome. Leaving both parties disappointed.
Moral of the story...be yourself.
The only guys i have come across that want to control woman, either cannot control themselves or have issues with ego and self esteem
They often feel inadequate in themselves
A friend of mine is seeing a Scorpio (low level one). He has to have control at all times. He was abused badly as a boy and therefore the only way he feels safe is by trying to be in control all the time
*shudders*
They often feel inadequate in themselves
A friend of mine is seeing a Scorpio (low level one). He has to have control at all times. He was abused badly as a boy and therefore the only way he feels safe is by trying to be in control all the time
*shudders*
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