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Double Standards in Relationships
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Posted by BlueFroggie
This isn't double standards, this is NO standards territory.
What do you mean?
BS.
Posted by BackyardVurgeon
If the chick is more emotional, wouldnt the man cheating create more damage since not only was she betrayed but she didnt even get any herself?
The debate was she would cause more damage because she would get attached to the person she cheated with; which would likely ruin any chances of reconciliation.
Posted by Scotteh007
Noooo
Woman and men have the same amount of feelings
Woman are just more expressive. It doesn't matter what gender cheats in a relationship. Its just as bad.
Agree
Posted by RooSagicorn
Or woman let themselves get walked on more..
Can you explain this in relation to the debate?
I am like in the middle of agreeing and disagreeing.
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by FFSPosted by BlueFroggie
This isn't double standards, this is NO standards territory.
What do you mean?
I thought double standard is when the girl HAS to annoy her bf to get that jar from the top shelf or get the guy to watch a silly RomCom.
Smhclick to expand
I probably used the wrong title, but nevertheless, what is your opinion on the debate?
I do think there are different "forms" of cheating, and general differences in the way a women cheats, but I don't agree on that one.
Mmm...nah.
When I cheated it was a random, one time thing. No emotions. Fessed up a day or two later and we worked through it.
But, I'm not everyone so...depends on the person I think.
When I cheated it was a random, one time thing. No emotions. Fessed up a day or two later and we worked through it.
But, I'm not everyone so...depends on the person I think.
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake of discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Just for the sake of discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Posted by BackyardVurgeonPosted by FFSPosted by BackyardVurgeon
If the chick is more emotional, wouldnt the man cheating create more damage since not only was she betrayed but she didnt even get any herself?
The debate was she would cause more damage because she would get attached to the person she cheated with; which would likely ruin any chances of reconciliation.
Oh, that's a debate that doesnt even register in my mind as a possibility. Why is the person who gets cheated on the one asking for reconciliation in this scenario? I'd say more men than women are that dumb because I'm biased.click to expand
I'm not so sure it makes a difference whether he or she is looking for the reconciliation. The stance that was taken was there would not be ANY chance for reconciliation because chances are she would develop feelings for the person she cheated with. I think I got what you sayin' tho.
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by FFSPosted by RooSagicorn
Or woman let themselves get walked on more..
Can you explain this in relation to the debate?
Women tend to look the other way more I think. Sometimes it’s financial or trying to keep the family together. Especially if it’s purely sexual. If the woman falls in love, the man is not putting up with it. But should woman allow that type of disrespect from her husband?click to expand
Nah, I don't think a woman should put up with it. I do think that a woman is more likely to get emotionally attached.
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake oif discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.click to expand
I think that change a lot depending where you are in the world
Posted by CuddleBug88
Mmm...nah.
When I cheated it was a random, one time thing. No emotions. Fessed up a day or two later and we worked through it.
But, I'm not everyone so...depends on the person I think.
What do you mean by random? Like a dude took you home from a bar or club? Why did you cheat? You still with the dude?
Posted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake of discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
This part actually makes sense to me:
"Just for the sake of discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive."
Funny how this didn't come up in the debate. Good point.
Posted by FFSPosted by CuddleBug88
Mmm...nah.
When I cheated it was a random, one time thing. No emotions. Fessed up a day or two later and we worked through it.
But, I'm not everyone so...depends on the person I think.
What do you mean by random? Like a dude took you home from a bar or club? Why did you cheat? You still with the dude?click to expand
Friend of a friend that I met on a night out. It was years ago...the Gem (bf at the time) and I were together for like 4/5 years after it happened.
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by FFSPosted by RooSagicornPosted by FFSPosted by RooSagicorn
Or woman let themselves get walked on more..
Can you explain this in relation to the debate?
Women tend to look the other way more I think. Sometimes it’s financial or trying to keep the family together. Especially if it’s purely sexual. If the woman falls in love, the man is not putting up with it. But should woman allow that type of disrespect from her husband?
Nah, I don't think a woman should put up with it. I do think that a woman is more likely to get emotionally attached.
Depends on the man, some don’t like to be lonely and will stay until they find the next real possibility.click to expand
I know. I have a friend in that very position.
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake oif discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think that change a lot depending where you are in the world
Or could be me :/click to expand
Awwww, you need a hug 🤗
Someone that loves you won’t mind all your silly mistakes😉 Relationship are always give and take. You wouldn’t want someone that doesn’t do that.
It creates equal amounts of damage. One isn't better then the other, in my opinion. Who cares if it emotional vs exciting. It's still cheating. If I cheat, my relationship is over. I'm on the hunt for someone new. I am extremely loyal when I'm in love.
If a man wants to do some strange shit, he better bring the ideas and try them with me. There's no need to go somewhere else.
If a man wants to do some strange shit, he better bring the ideas and try them with me. There's no need to go somewhere else.
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake oif discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think that change a lot depending where you are in the world
Or could be me :/
Awwww, you need a hug 🤗
Someone that loves you won’t mind all your silly mistakes😉 Relationship are always give and take. You wouldn’t want someone that doesn’t do that.
Thanks, sweetheart 🤗🤗
Big lesson for me.
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I am coming out very philosophical in here, 😄 but life is all about experiences and lessons to learn. So win win 😉
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake of discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.click to expand
I think you might be right about this:
"Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating."
In addition to other stuff, its emasculating.
Posted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
Either case the trust in the relationship is destroyed, it wouldn't be about any standards after that.
However, as far as cheating is concerned, it's definitely more to do with feelings irrespective of the gender.
If a Woman cheat due to emotional dissatisfaction, the man isn't able to provide for all that's needed for a healthy relationship.
If a man cheats for sex again this is his feeling of the sexual release not being met by the woman that's needed for a stable relationship.
And some men and women cheat for excitement, curiosity, greed, again the feelings and emotions 🙂click to expand
I agree with your points. Any form of cheating imo destroys the relationship. I think if a woman cheats it emasculates the man and that's why he can't forgive. I can't speak on behalf of women.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by FFSPosted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake of discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think you might be right about this:
"Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating."
In addition to other stuff, its emasculating.
Bingo.
Mate competition.
He might end up raising someone else’s babies. Therefore, his lineage may die out since his DNA isn’t being passed on.
He’s giving resources benefiting another man.
click to expand
LMAO. So then you agree the woman cheating causes more damage to the relationship because it emasculates the man which prohibits him from forgiving? Whereas if the man cheats its just about banging?
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake oif discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think that change a lot depending where you are in the world
Or could be me :/
Awwww, you need a hug 🤗
Someone that loves you won’t mind all your silly mistakes😉 Relationship are always give and take. You wouldn’t want someone that doesn’t do that.
Thanks, sweetheart 🤗🤗
Big lesson for me.
I am coming out very philosophical in here, 😄 but life is all about experiences and lessons to learn. So win win 😉
I'm more than happy you said that😊 I feel i have worked on myself a bit this month and I'm getting better as a woman rather than as a person... If that makes sense?
How are you, babe?click to expand
Happy to hear that.
Yes, I think I know what you mean. Sometimes I feel so good in my own skin as a woman that everything makes sense 😆
I am good. Nice to see you back😄
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by FFSPosted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake of discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think you might be right about this:
"Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating."
In addition to other stuff, its emasculating.
I don't think men should view it as emasculating. See it for what it is- someone's true colors and cut the chord. Brutal but works. Worked on me.
(I'm not talking about cheating her. Rather a snarky comment)click to expand
I won't get in your personal business, but you sound defeated 😬.
Posted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
Either case the trust in the relationship is destroyed, it wouldn't be about any standards after that.
However, as far as cheating is concerned, it's definitely more to do with feelings irrespective of the gender.
If a Woman cheat due to emotional dissatisfaction, the man isn't able to provide for all that's needed for a healthy relationship.
If a man cheats for sex again this is his feeling of the sexual release not being met by the woman that's needed for a stable relationship.
And some men and women cheat for excitement, curiosity, greed, again the feelings and emotions 🙂
I agree with your points. Any form of cheating imo destroys the relationship. I think if a woman cheats it emasculates the man and that's why he can't forgive. I can't speak on behalf of women.
This is my opinion only, if in any relationship one has the need and the courage to cheat, that relationship can never be the same, ever.
Also I believe that the relationship at that point has run it's course
Men are emotional too and majority of them choose not to demonstrate feelings, societal perceptions unfortunately but imo you are right a man may find it harder to forgive and forget coz generally speaking men are more sex inclined.
A woman whereas may choose to forget and forgive for many reasons, including emotions, family, finances etc.
If I was in that situation, I wouldnt forgive or forget, l 'll leave coz I wouldn't be able to respect the man, irrespective of I cheated or he did because I would be at that point where the relationship is irreparable and Needs a line drawn underneath it.
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I agree with this entire POV. You have strong arguments and seem like a strong woman. (If you're woman) lol
Posted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
Genital on genital crime leads to std's in your (supposed to be) monogamous bed. Same ish end of the day.
The real double standard in relationships is how women are expected to stay hairless and perfect and fit even after working a full day, getting the kids to school and back, cleaning the house, pressing his shirt, and having a hot meal ready on the table. And she better have the energy after all that to suck his dick. Otherwise his 'needs' aren't being met.
Posted by FFSPosted by Echo
I am like in the middle of agreeing and disagreeing.
Why?click to expand
Cause its partially true but yknow, its also a different reason too.
Completely unbiased about this
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake oif discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think that change a lot depending where you are in the world
Or could be me :/
Awwww, you need a hug 🤗
Someone that loves you won’t mind all your silly mistakes😉 Relationship are always give and take. You wouldn’t want someone that doesn’t do that.
Thanks, sweetheart 🤗🤗
Big lesson for me.
I am coming out very philosophical in here, 😄 but life is all about experiences and lessons to learn. So win win 😉
I'm more than happy you said that😊 I feel i have worked on myself a bit this month and I'm getting better as a woman rather than as a person... If that makes sense?
How are you, babe?
Happy to hear that.
Yes, I think I know what you mean. Sometimes I feel so good in my own skin as a woman that everything makes sense 😆
I am good. Nice to see you back😄
😄
Thanks 😘
This place feels so different to me now. Appeal is gone...
click to expand
Awww that makes me sad 😢
Posted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
There was another thread on this topic a while back, and someone argued the point that cheating women are worse because there's always the risk that she could get pregnant and then lie about it. In that event, her partner would end up devoting an extended amount of time, energy and resources to father a child that isn't his (to his own unawareness). That argument actually makes more sense to me than the "feelings" argument, though I can't say I would forgive a cheater either way.
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake oif discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think that change a lot depending where you are in the world
Or could be me :/
Awwww, you need a hug 🤗
Someone that loves you won’t mind all your silly mistakes😉 Relationship are always give and take. You wouldn’t want someone that doesn’t do that.
Thanks, sweetheart 🤗🤗
Big lesson for me.
I am coming out very philosophical in here, 😄 but life is all about experiences and lessons to learn. So win win 😉
I'm more than happy you said that😊 I feel i have worked on myself a bit this month and I'm getting better as a woman rather than as a person... If that makes sense?
How are you, babe?
Happy to hear that.
Yes, I think I know what you mean. Sometimes I feel so good in my own skin as a woman that everything makes sense 😆
I am good. Nice to see you back😄
😄
Thanks 😘
This place feels so different to me now. Appeal is gone...
Awww that makes me sad 😢
Nooo!
I'm gonna start dating soon. And you guys must help me with my dating woes. As long as I'm single I will be here 😂😂😂click to expand
Good, a bit of dating will do you good 😄
I will help as best as I can 😋
I will add something I have noticed, unless a woman is on her hormonal moment 🙂 she's less likely to cheat out of lust.
a man is way more prone to just fall for temptation, and then, after realizing his mistake, he regrets it, so is unlikely to think, he was "looking" or aiming to cheat (in such particular case)
a wronged or jealous women will cheat, by actually planing on doing it, she will do it out of the desire of hurting her partner, this for me, is the reason why society put a woman cheating in such a bad light.
a man is way more prone to just fall for temptation, and then, after realizing his mistake, he regrets it, so is unlikely to think, he was "looking" or aiming to cheat (in such particular case)
a wronged or jealous women will cheat, by actually planing on doing it, she will do it out of the desire of hurting her partner, this for me, is the reason why society put a woman cheating in such a bad light.
Posted by BlueFroggie
This thread is based on the argument women will get emotionally attached after sex. This goes for a toss if you consider the oldest profession in the world.
Good point 👍
Either way... cheating is cheating.
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake oif discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think that change a lot depending where you are in the world
Or could be me :/
Awwww, you need a hug 🤗
Someone that loves you won’t mind all your silly mistakes😉 Relationship are always give and take. You wouldn’t want someone that doesn’t do that.
Thanks, sweetheart 🤗🤗
Big lesson for me.
I am coming out very philosophical in here, 😄 but life is all about experiences and lessons to learn. So win win 😉
I'm more than happy you said that😊 I feel i have worked on myself a bit this month and I'm getting better as a woman rather than as a person... If that makes sense?
How are you, babe?
Happy to hear that.
Yes, I think I know what you mean. Sometimes I feel so good in my own skin as a woman that everything makes sense 😆
I am good. Nice to see you back😄
😄
Thanks 😘
This place feels so different to me now. Appeal is gone...
Awww that makes me sad 😢
Nooo!
I'm gonna start dating soon. And you guys must help me with my dating woes. As long as I'm single I will be here 😂😂😂
Good, a bit of dating will do you good 😄
I will help as best as I can 😋
Yesss!
There are few guys... Soon😍click to expand
Few guys!!!! I look forward to all the new threads 😂
But for now it is bed time for me 😴
Posted by BlueFroggiePosted by FleshpotPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
There was another thread on this topic a while back, and someone argued the point that cheating women are worse because there's always the risk that she could get pregnant and then lie about it. In that event, her partner would end up devoting an extended amount of time, energy and resources to father a child that isn't his (to his own unawareness). That argument actually makes more sense to me than the "feelings" argument, though I can't say I would forgive a cheater either way.
that argument was also about polygamy, I think?click to expand
Could be. It was a very old thread, well over a year ago.
Posted by Arielle83
Your friends haven’t seen Fatal Attraction, I’m guessing.
If he cheats with a woman he risks hurting two women.
If a women cheats with a man she only risks hurting one woman (herself).
This is assuming that men don’t get attached, like your friends claim.
lmao at this. Dam good movie
Posted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by Arielle83Posted by FFSPosted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake of discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think you might be right about this:
"Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating."
In addition to other stuff, its emasculating.
Bingo.
Mate competition.
He might end up raising someone else’s babies. Therefore, his lineage may die out since his DNA isn’t being passed on.
He’s giving resources benefiting another man.
LMAO. So then you agree the woman cheating causes more damage to the relationship because it emasculates the man which prohibits him from forgiving? Whereas if the man cheats its just about banging?
A healthy happy and stable relationship only occurs between equals. The minute one decide or are given a perception that one is important than other, it's not a relationship, it's a compromise by the less superior party.click to expand
Yup and that person making that compromise imo will always carry some sort of "hate" or disgust. I would say regardless of the gender.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by FFSPosted by Arielle83Posted by FFSPosted by BlueFroggiePosted by pisceswoman123
I think it’s the same. Both men and women can get attached and or not attached with a sexual partner. It depends of the connection.
Just for the sake of discussion I will say it’s could be the opposite if anything, because the woman will be more upset and emotional and don’t be able to forgive.
Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating.
I think you might be right about this:
"Imo, it is men that cannot look past even the slightest "transgression" -- forget about cheating."
In addition to other stuff, its emasculating.
Bingo.
Mate competition.
He might end up raising someone else’s babies. Therefore, his lineage may die out since his DNA isn’t being passed on.
He’s giving resources benefiting another man.
LMAO. So then you agree the woman cheating causes more damage to the relationship because it emasculates the man which prohibits him from forgiving? Whereas if the man cheats its just about banging?
Not necessarily.
Because if the man is cheating on his wife and they have kids. She has the risk of losing resources.
Men have a minimal output (sperm) which creates a greater risk for women (pregnancy). Women can have sex with a bunch of random men, but only one can be the father.
Men can have sex with a bunch of random women, and then he’s the father of many.
Women seek resources. Men seek sex.
So if he has a wife and family, they are getting his resources. However, if he gets another pregnant she will take his resources as well. So family 1, lose out, and family 2 benefit.
This happened with our deputy prime minister, Barnaby Joyce. He’s been married for 20 plus years, his wife gave up her career to raise their 4 daughters. He started sleeping with the 30 yr old media advisor who obv got attached and then she got pregnant, so he left his original family to be with new girl and love child.
Most women who cheat don’t risk the lose of the marriage. They want to stay with husband, they just fall in lust. The mistress is the one u got to watch out for when the man cheats. They usually want resources.click to expand
The Barnaby Joyce situation sounds like a hot mess. I dunno, I thought one way over the weekend and now have a skewed perception. There were good points in the thread. From a man's perspective the female could cause some serious damage because men have a tough time accessing emotions (me anyway). So when I do. I do.
Posted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
Either case the trust in the relationship is destroyed, it wouldn't be about any standards after that.
However, as far as cheating is concerned, it's definitely more to do with feelings irrespective of the gender.
If a Woman cheat due to emotional dissatisfaction, the man isn't able to provide for all that's needed for a healthy relationship.
If a man cheats for sex again this is his feeling of the sexual release not being met by the woman that's needed for a stable relationship.
And some men and women cheat for excitement, curiosity, greed, again the feelings and emotions 🙂
I agree with your points. Any form of cheating imo destroys the relationship. I think if a woman cheats it emasculates the man and that's why he can't forgive. I can't speak on behalf of women.
This is my opinion only, if in any relationship one has the need and the courage to cheat, that relationship can never be the same, ever.
Also I believe that the relationship at that point has run it's course
Men are emotional too and majority of them choose not to demonstrate feelings, societal perceptions unfortunately but imo you are right a man may find it harder to forgive and forget coz generally speaking men are more sex inclined.
A woman whereas may choose to forget and forgive for many reasons, including emotions, family, finances etc.
If I was in that situation, I wouldnt forgive or forget, l 'll leave coz I wouldn't be able to respect the man, irrespective of I cheated or he did because I would be at that point where the relationship is irreparable and Needs a line drawn underneath it.
I agree with this entire POV. You have strong arguments and seem like a strong woman. (If you're woman) lol
I'm indeed a woman and thank you!
Being strong isn't hard but maintaining the status is a different ball ache ! 🙂 xxclick to expand
You should comment more on my threads. You got good insight.
Posted by LadyNeptune
The real double standard in relationships is how women are expected to stay hairless and perfect and fit even after working a full day, getting the kids to school and back, cleaning the house, pressing his shirt, and having a hot meal ready on the table. And she better have the energy after all that to suck his dick. Otherwise his 'needs' aren't being met.
I expect all of this.
Posted by FleshpotPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
There was another thread on this topic a while back, and someone argued the point that cheating women are worse because there's always the risk that she could get pregnant and then lie about it. In that event, her partner would end up devoting an extended amount of time, energy and resources to father a child that isn't his (to his own unawareness). That argument actually makes more sense to me than the "feelings" argument, though I can't say I would forgive a cheater either way.click to expand
Yea, this argument was not brought up in our weekend discussion, but it makes sense. We were primarily talking about the emotional part vs. men just thinking with the guy below the belt.
Posted by FFSPosted by LadyNeptune
The real double standard in relationships is how women are expected to stay hairless and perfect and fit even after working a full day, getting the kids to school and back, cleaning the house, pressing his shirt, and having a hot meal ready on the table. And she better have the energy after all that to suck his dick. Otherwise his 'needs' aren't being met.
I expect all of this.click to expand
Lol of course you do.
Posted by Endless
I will add something I have noticed, unless a woman is on her hormonal moment 🙂 she's less likely to cheat out of lust.
a man is way more prone to just fall for temptation, and then, after realizing his mistake, he regrets it, so is unlikely to think, he was "looking" or aiming to cheat (in such particular case)
a wronged or jealous women will cheat, by actually planing on doing it, she will do it out of the desire of hurting her partner, this for me, is the reason why society put a woman cheating in such a bad light.
Agree
Posted by Arkansassy
More damage is done when men cheat.
Keyed vehicles, clothes set on fire, dicks chopped off, etc.
lmao
Posted by ArkansassyPosted by neves
Either way... cheating is cheating.
False.
It's not cheating if you're in a different area code.click to expand
Even if a verbal commitment was established?
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