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The So Called "Deep Connection"
Understanding Deep Connection in Relationships
A deep connection often involves emotional, psychological, or spiritual bonds that go beyond surface interactions. It can be influenced by love languages like touch or quality time and is sometimes reflected in Venus and Mars signs. Recognizing how you perceive connection helps build meaningful relationships and understand past experiences.
The first 3. I tend to keep deeper emotions to myself until your in my life for a long ass time, like 10+ years. Not a spiritual person. But we can make fun of organized religion together 😏
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I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
Yes... it’s something so profound and meaningful.
For me the intensity is scary. You know it can consume you.
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Totally!
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
Yes... it’s something so profound and meaningful.
For me the intensity is scary. You know it can consume you.
Totally!
Now how do you walk away? After all that, how did you do it?
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I usually wasn't the one to walk away, they were but at some point they would admit to me that it scared them -- they felt it too, but they couldn't handle it.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
yes indeed.
its too hard to capture...it's so otherworldly.
you'd have to capture it in art....expression of music, painting ... poetry.
its like wutherin heights.... when heathcliff cannot let go. and knew from the beginning his connection is too strong ...even in death.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
Yes... it’s something so profound and meaningful.
For me the intensity is scary. You know it can consume you.
Totally!
Now how do you walk away? After all that, how did you do it?
I usually wasn't the one to walk away, they were but at some point they would admit to me that it scared them -- they felt it too, but they couldn't handle it.
That’s my feeling. He’s being a coward. There’s no way to deny what we feel, but he’s running.
How sad to be so afraid you’d rather pass up something profound.
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Very sad for sure! I know exactly what you mean. I can feel afraid too but it doesn't make me run, I will face it and take the chance.
My mom had that happen with the man she's now married to. He got scared, and ended things, then realized he was being a coward and came back and made amends, but I know that doesn't happen very often.
Some people run their entire lives. :/
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
Yes... it’s something so profound and meaningful.
For me the intensity is scary. You know it can consume you.
Totally!
Now how do you walk away? After all that, how did you do it?
I usually wasn't the one to walk away, they were but at some point they would admit to me that it scared them -- they felt it too, but they couldn't handle it.
That’s my feeling. He’s being a coward. There’s no way to deny what we feel, but he’s running.
How sad to be so afraid you’d rather pass up something profound.
Very sad for sure! I know exactly what you mean. I can feel afraid too but it doesn't make me run, I will face it and take the chance.
My mom had that happen with the man she's now married to. He got scared, and ended things, then realized he was being a coward and came back and made amends, but I know that doesn't happen very often.
Some people run their entire lives. :/
Yes they do... it’s called Emotionally Unavailable
I have no idea what the future holds. But for whatever reason I feel like iurbstoey isn’t done... yet
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Yes. That reminds me of the Simon & Garfunkel song 'I am a Rock' which is about exactly that, when it's the most advanced, meaning the person just shuts off.
I've had that sense too with some relationships, and always I was right, they weren't totally over yet.
....
I am a Rock lyrics:
A winter's day
In a deep and dark
December;
I am alone,
Gazing from my window to the streets below
On a freshly fallen silent shroud of snow.
I am a rock,
I am an island.
I've built walls,
A fortress deep and mighty,
That none may penetrate.
I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain.
It's laughter and it's loving I disdain.
I am a rock,
I am an island.
Don't talk of love,
But I've heard the words before;
It's sleeping in my memory.
I won't disturb the slumber of feelings that have died.
If I never loved I never would have cried.
I am a rock,
I am an island.
I have my books
And my poetry to protect me;
I am shielded in my armor,
Hiding in my room, safe within my womb.
I touch no one and no one touches me.
I am a rock,
I am an island.
And a rock feels no pain;
And an island never cries.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
yes indeed.
its too hard to capture...it's so otherworldly.
you'd have to capture it in art....expression of music, painting ... poetry.
its like wutherin heights.... when heathcliff cannot let go. and knew from the beginning his connection is too strong ...even in death.
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Yes, otherworldly!
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I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
yes indeed.
its too hard to capture...it's so otherworldly.
you'd have to capture it in art....expression of music, painting ... poetry.
its like wutherin heights.... when heathcliff cannot let go. and knew from the beginning his connection is too strong ...even in death.
It's greed. He was greedy for her ...craving ..his craving made him greedy.
Emily felt he was more herself than she was. And if she died and he lived ...she would still be living.
They met when they were young ....and half savage.
Their souls were made of the same thing and they were just one person ...so when they were together ..they forgot everything....and there was more of this 'soul' stuff material ..double ..and so they were more powerful.
You that time of your life ...as girl ....before boys ..but during adolescence ....everything seems more magical than when you were a kid. I think it's because you can look at the woods and imagine way more at 13/14 than you could at 9 yrs.
Wuthering heights was written by a woman ..it's a woman's thoughts experiences. It's very influenced by that 'time'.
'Be with me always ...take any form ...drive me mad..only do not leave me'...
They are the spirit of the moors ...not of people .or some supernatural force....that's why they were drawn to each other that energy.
Lockwood passes their graves at the end ...then looks on the moors.....it's like the moors are them.
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Beautifully described!
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
yes indeed.
its too hard to capture...it's so otherworldly.
you'd have to capture it in art....expression of music, painting ... poetry.
its like wutherin heights.... when heathcliff cannot let go. and knew from the beginning his connection is too strong ...even in death.
It's greed. He was greedy for her ...craving ..his craving made him greedy.
Emily felt he was more herself than she was. And if she died and he lived ...she would still be living.
They met when they were young ....and half savage.
Their souls were made of the same thing and they were just one person ...so when they were together ..they forgot everything....and there was more of this 'soul' stuff material ..double ..and so they were more powerful.
You that time of your life ...as girl ....before boys ..but during adolescence ....everything seems more magical than when you were a kid. I think it's because you can look at the woods and imagine way more at 13/14 than you could at 9 yrs.
Wuthering heights was written by a woman ..it's a woman's thoughts experiences. It's very influenced by that 'time'.
'Be with me always ...take any form ...drive me mad..only do not leave me'...
They are the spirit of the moors ...not of people .or some supernatural force....that's why they were drawn to each other that energy.
Lockwood passes their graves at the end ...then looks on the moors.....it's like the moors are them.
Beautifully described!
thanks ..i meant to say catherine thought he was more herself ..but i also think emily put a lot of herself in both catherine and even in heathcliff...i think Emily is both characters.
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You're welcome!
That makes sense to me.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
Yes... it’s something so profound and meaningful.
For me the intensity is scary. You know it can consume you.
Totally!
Now how do you walk away? After all that, how did you do it?
I usually wasn't the one to walk away, they were but at some point they would admit to me that it scared them -- they felt it too, but they couldn't handle it.
That’s my feeling. He’s being a coward. There’s no way to deny what we feel, but he’s running.
How sad to be so afraid you’d rather pass up something profound.
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He walked away from you because you deeply offended him with your comments about your life being a mess right now. It was extremely offensive after all that you had shared.
The first 3. I tend to keep deeper emotions to myself until your in my life for a long ass time, like 10+ years. Not a spiritual person. But we can make fun of organized religion together 😏
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Just wanted you to know that the spiritual side is not necessarily religious. It's more like souls that speak to each in an intergalactic way that transcends time, space, the physical world. Where you sense their will be a life after death and there was an existence before physical life.
Not only do you both know it, you both talk about it - a complete mutual understanding.
Physical + emotional - where it was immediately obvious to me that my actions affect them, and theirs me. Call it intimacy or whichever word but it was like learning how to look out for another person means looking out for myself, and vice versa. Actually it was very hard to know where one ends and the other begins.
Then why did it end?
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
Yes... it’s something so profound and meaningful.
For me the intensity is scary. You know it can consume you.
Totally!
Now how do you walk away? After all that, how did you do it?
I usually wasn't the one to walk away, they were but at some point they would admit to me that it scared them -- they felt it too, but they couldn't handle it.
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Now... can you be satisfied with less? Have you ever been satisfied with less?
What makes a deep connection for you:
• Physical (love language of touch)
• Time (love language of quality time)
• Service (what have you done for me lately)
• Emotion
• Psychological
• Spritual
When and how did you discover this preferred connection receptivity? How?
How do you define a deep connection particularly if your relationship did not work out?
Venus/Mars sign?
I don't try to define it anymore. I'm not trying to say I've found a better way or that anyone else is wrong. For me, I dont label it at all. Dont tinker with ot regardless of what form it comes in.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
Yes... it’s something so profound and meaningful.
For me the intensity is scary. You know it can consume you.
Totally!
Now how do you walk away? After all that, how did you do it?
I usually wasn't the one to walk away, they were but at some point they would admit to me that it scared them -- they felt it too, but they couldn't handle it.
That’s my feeling. He’s being a coward. There’s no way to deny what we feel, but he’s running.
How sad to be so afraid you’d rather pass up something profound.
He walked away from you because you deeply offended him with your comments about your life being a mess right now. It was extremely offensive after all that you had shared.
How could i have offended him? I was trying to shelter him
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As I stated before... and, if a connection is deep, on a spiritual, emotional, psychology.... why do you need to shelter him? You are there for each other thick or thin, life or death, etc. You know that. If you don't, it makes him wonder if it ever existed at all. If not, will it ever, if you don't even know or understand those fundamentals.
What makes a deep connection for you:
• Physical (love language of touch)
• Time (love language of quality time)
• Service (what have you done for me lately)
• Emotion
• Psychological
• Spritual
When and how did you discover this preferred connection receptivity? How?
How do you define a deep connection particularly if your relationship did not work out?
Venus/Mars sign?
I don't try to define it anymore. I'm not trying to say I've found a better way or that anyone else is wrong. For me, I dont label it at all. Dont tinker with ot regardless of what form it comes in.
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Not a good idea.
All are essential but the driving force may be the emotional connection.
By answering the original post as questioned, it poses to provide clarity and consciousness of desires, introspection and deep self-awareness bringing energy to the forefront, and attracting comparabale energy. You wear it like a favorite everday perform.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
Yes... it’s something so profound and meaningful.
For me the intensity is scary. You know it can consume you.
Totally!
Now how do you walk away? After all that, how did you do it?
I usually wasn't the one to walk away, they were but at some point they would admit to me that it scared them -- they felt it too, but they couldn't handle it.
Now... can you be satisfied with less? Have you ever been satisfied with less?
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Good question. It's making me reflect a lot. I may not be able to answer it as well as I'd like to, except to say that a few of the people with this connection are in my life now. They are friends of mine, and two of them are my pets (the way I came to have my cats feels very much fated). If I didn't have any connections like this in my life, I would feel unsatisfied, yes, definitely.
God reading some of these responses gave me creep vibes.
How is someone part of you in absence? It’s understandable if the connection is maintained through friendship but in absence?
No. You have deficits that need bridging on your own. I don’t make people part of my personal get well and whole plan.
Unless that’s your child or they passed away that’s plain fkn creepy. Calling it out
Pisces mars/venus
Aqua sun
Lib moon
Yes, my husband is creepy. I called him that three times in the last hour.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
Yes... it’s something so profound and meaningful.
For me the intensity is scary. You know it can consume you.
Totally!
Now how do you walk away? After all that, how did you do it?
I usually wasn't the one to walk away, they were but at some point they would admit to me that it scared them -- they felt it too, but they couldn't handle it.
That’s my feeling. He’s being a coward. There’s no way to deny what we feel, but he’s running.
How sad to be so afraid you’d rather pass up something profound.
He walked away from you because you deeply offended him with your comments about your life being a mess right now. It was extremely offensive after all that you had shared.
How could i have offended him? I was trying to shelter him
As I stated before... and, if a connection is deep, on a spiritual, emotional, psychology.... why do you need to shelter him? You are there for each other thick or thin, life or death, etc. You know that. If you don't, it makes him wonder if it ever existed at all. If not, will it ever, if you don't even know or understand those fundamentals.
Because I have a desire to protect him from battles that are mine to fight. He made it clear he didn’t want to shoulder this responsibility and nor should he.
This wasn’t an ‘us’ issue, it was mine. I needed to sort it through. He had no qualms letting me do it alone...
He’s the one that hasn’t figured out how this works. He gets a taste, ants to dive in then panics. Pulls away, realized he wants a taste... and so goes the cycle.
Some connections aren’t made to last an eternity’s they have a purpose in thier time.
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I love when having discussions like this people answer their own question, define the core issues.
What you described of him, I would feel embarrassed about if I were a man. When a woman calls a man a "coward" it equates to not respecting him... whether he's worthy of respect or not. Being called or realized to be a coward is offensive.
One minute you're protecting him, the next he's a coward... and he knows it. Connection lost.
Think about the fact that you are actually with another man while all of this is going on with your relationship.... and, how bound you are to it... whether you want to be or not, it appeared a stronger bond... Time.
I identify deep connections with people by the effects on me.
If their love make me do something out of ordinary.. That it changes me in a way or another.
And often I get scared and start to tell myself, "Look, you need to get back to how you used to be, or the life you used to know.. You're getting deeper."
Anxiety arises. Always.
Losing myself is something I am very familiar with and I'm telling you, it makes you feel rather insecure because you seem to have no control of yourself.
I still am working on not getting afraid to merge with other people. I know I will find the courage someday.
Hopefully, the courage will be the literal or the proverbial walk down the isle...
All are essential but the driving force may be the emotional connection.
By answering the original post as questioned, it poses to provide clarity and consciousness of desires, introspection and deep self-awareness bringing energy to the forefront, and attracting comparabale energy. You wear it like a favorite everday perform.
Fine.
When and how did you discover this preferred connection receptivity? How?
I think i've known this was my preferred connection ever since I was young because it was the type of connection that lacked at a very young age. I was forced to internalized my emotions and became more observant of people's emotional state.
How do you define a deep connection particularly if your relationship did not work out?
-A deep connection for me means being able to receive messages in dreams and waking life regading the other's state of being. You feel what the other person feels like the movement of the ocean and your feelings is the anchor - you know the difference. I've been separated from exscorpio for more than 3+ years now and the connection is still there whether I choose to or not. I know his emotional state and current situations without needing to talk to him.
Venus/Mars sign? Gemini rx in 12th/pisces in 8th
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Is he or was he ever receptive to the connection?
Is the connection mutual?
You got that right... "so called" Deep Connection... 🙄
It's exactly - this type of bullshit... that made me loose trust in my feelings for others. As proven (a lesson learn the really hard/painful way / and I'm 100% sure this is quite common too) - it doesn't matter how strong and how deep are your feelings for another... cause that's just it.... they're YOUR FEELINGS (what goes on in your heart/head/world). Every mental construct that's tied to those feelings is just make-belief. A romantic delusion (you're sure to see the one in question "through rose-colored glasses" - as some would put it). Stuff like... "he/she's the one, we're twin-flames, we're soulmates or having a deep connection and other elusive b.s. like that... Indeed, they're beautiful fantasies. Idealistic (usually borrowed from something you read, from movies or songs). Tough, it's all in your head.
How else could you explain: how one party can love the other with all its being (that's also why people tie notions like soul/spirit to this type of love - cause "it seems" to go beyond the physical), so selfless that you'd be whiling to give your life for the one question (that's a given / no room for doubts) - while the other party feels, well.... nothing (when it comes to you)?! 🤨 No connection, no love whatsoever... just embarrassment and annoyance (same thing you'd feel about a random stranger... a drunk beggar who's asking for some money to buy booze). A painful reality, but it is what it is... No matter how hard you try - reality is not something you can deny. Objective reality - that is.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
yes indeed.
its too hard to capture...it's so otherworldly.
you'd have to capture it in art....expression of music, painting ... poetry.
its like wutherin heights.... when heathcliff cannot let go. and knew from the beginning his connection is too strong ...even in death.
It's greed. He was greedy for her ...craving ..his craving made him greedy.
Emily felt he was more herself than she was. And if she died and he lived ...she would still be living.
They met when they were young ....and half savage.
Their souls were made of the same thing and they were just one person ...so when they were together ..they forgot everything....and there was more of this 'soul' stuff material ..double ..and so they were more powerful.
You that time of your life ...as girl ....before boys ..but during adolescence ....everything seems more magical than when you were a kid. I think it's because you can look at the woods and imagine way more at 13/14 than you could at 9 yrs.
Wuthering heights was written by a woman ..it's a woman's thoughts experiences. It's very influenced by that 'time'.
'Be with me always ...take any form ...drive me mad..only do not leave me'...
They are the spirit of the moors ...not of people .or some supernatural force....that's why they were drawn to each other that energy.
Lockwood passes their graves at the end ...then looks on the moors.....it's like the moors are them.
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i love it...i feel so similar in what she feels. like super possessive. lol
and i remember her chart, Leo sun, Scorpio rising, Cancer moon, Virgo venus/Mars.Jupiter Capicorn, Sag neptune/Uranus.
https://www.astro.com/astro-databank/Bronte,_Emily
i remember some men have told me that i haunt their dreams. I dont know if it's that same thing LOL
but i have "connections" with people i love. Meaning, I can enter their dreams and I know when something bad will happen, like a forewarning. The connection is so strong. And when they are sad,depressed, or not well, i feel it.
I have had lots of good emotional and psychological connections with people, but the ones that stand out as the most special hit what is probably a spiritual level that is impossible for me to describe -- I can't even use the word deep for it. Maybe it would only be possible to capture it with art or music.
yes indeed.
its too hard to capture...it's so otherworldly.
you'd have to capture it in art....expression of music, painting ... poetry.
its like wutherin heights.... when heathcliff cannot let go. and knew from the beginning his connection is too strong ...even in death.
Yes, otherworldly!
Clicking like isn't working on DXP right now, damn.
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yes like you can enter their psyche, and even go beyond... what is in this world. It's so hard to explain.
thats i guess very powerful.
the wuthering heights song is very true on point too...
On the other side from you
I pine a lot, I find the lot
Falls through without you
I'm coming back, loveCruel Heathcliff, my one dream
My only master
Too long I roamed in the nightI'm coming back to his side to put it right
I'm coming home to wuthering, wuthering, wuthering heights
Heathcliff, it's me, Cathy, I've come home i'm so cold
let me in your windowHeathcliff, it's me, Cathy, I've come home i'm so cold,
let me in your window
Ooh, let me have it
Let me grab your soul away
I’m not sure what the psychological part is about...
But for me it’s emotions and a sense of fate (spirituality I guess) that separates a general connection from a deep connection.
After that physicality, quality time and service come into play.
Physical + emotional - where it was immediately obvious to me that my actions affect them, and theirs me. Call it intimacy or whichever word but it was like learning how to look out for another person means looking out for myself, and vice versa. Actually it was very hard to know where one ends and the other begins.
Then why did it end?
Respect. There wasn't enough of it.
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Damn
The first 3. I tend to keep deeper emotions to myself until your in my life for a long ass time, like 10+ years. Not a spiritual person. But we can make fun of organized religion together 😏
Cap Mars Taurus ven
I do keep my feelings to myself till like 10 years lol.
But I took an acting class and I was compelled to do some emotional dumping to complete strangers and friends/crush and now I don't know where why I was keeping my emotions to myself.
Why all those years did I put my emotions on a pedestal??
It felt good to unload and be free
You got that right... "so called" Deep Connection... 🙄
It's exactly - this type of bull shit... that made me loose trust in my feelings for others. As proven (a lesson learn the really hard/painful way / and I'm 100% sure this is quite common too) - it doesn't matter how strong and how deep are your feelings for another... cause that's just it.... they're YOUR FEELINGS (what goes on in your heart/head/world). Every mental construct that's tied to those feelings is just make-belief. A romantic delusion (you're sure to see the one question "through rose-colored glasses" - as some would put it). Stuff like... "he/she's the one, we're twin-flames, we're soulmates or having a deep connection and other elusive b.s. like that... Indeed, they're beautiful fantasies. Idealistic (usually borrowed from something you read, from movies or songs). Tough, it's all in you head.
How else could you explain: how one party can love the other with all its being (that's also why people tie notions like soul/spirit to this type of love - cause "it seems" to go beyond the physical), so selfless that you'd be whiling to give your life for the one question (that's a given / no room for doubts) - while the other party feels, well.... nothing (when it comes to you)?! 🤨 No connection, no love whatsoever... just embarrassment and annoyance (same thing you'd feel about a random stranger... a drunk beggar who's asking for some money to buy booze). A painful reality, but it is what it is... No matter how hard you try - reality is not something you can deny. Objective reality - that is.
ABSOLUTELY
What makes a deep connection for you:
• Physical (love language of touch)
• Time (love language of quality time)
• Service (what have you done for me lately)
• Emotion
• Psychological
• Spritual
When and how did you discover this preferred connection receptivity? How?
How do you define a deep connection particularly if your relationship did not work out?
Venus/Mars sign?
I don't try to define it anymore. I'm not trying to say I've found a better way or that anyone else is wrong. For me, I dont label it at all. Dont tinker with ot regardless of what form it comes in.
Not a good idea.
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Why not?
You got that right... "so called" Deep Connection... 🙄
It's exactly - this type of bull shit... that made me loose trust in my feelings for others. As proven (a lesson learn the really hard/painful way / and I'm 100% sure this is quite common too) - it doesn't matter how strong and how deep are your feelings for another... cause that's just it.... they're YOUR FEELINGS (what goes on in your heart/head/world). Every mental construct that's tied to those feelings is just make-belief. A romantic delusion (you're sure to see the one in question "through rose-colored glasses" - as some would put it). Stuff like... "he/she's the one, we're twin-flames, we're soulmates or having a deep connection and other elusive b.s. like that... Indeed, they're beautiful fantasies. Idealistic (usually borrowed from something you read, from movies or songs). Tough, it's all in your head.
How else could you explain: how one party can love the other with all its being (that's also why people tie notions like soul/spirit to this type of love - cause "it seems" to go beyond the physical), so selfless that you'd be whiling to give your life for the one question (that's a given / no room for doubts) - while the other party feels, well.... nothing (when it comes to you)?! 🤨 No connection, no love whatsoever... just embarrassment and annoyance (same thing you'd feel about a random stranger... a drunk beggar who's asking for some money to buy booze). A painful reality, but it is what it is... No matter how hard you try - reality is not something you can deny. Objective reality - that is.
What's ironic is that the very thing that you discount is your post is the very thing that causes people to practice medicine, become firemen etc. Hence, the door swings both ways and doesn't exist entirely in the negative as your post suggests.
You got that right... "so called" Deep Connection... 🙄
It's exactly - this type of bull shit... that made me loose trust in my feelings for others. As proven (a lesson learn the really hard/painful way / and I'm 100% sure this is quite common too) - it doesn't matter how strong and how deep are your feelings for another... cause that's just it.... they're YOUR FEELINGS (what goes on in your heart/head/world). Every mental construct that's tied to those feelings is just make-belief. A romantic delusion (you're sure to see the one in question "through rose-colored glasses" - as some would put it). Stuff like... "he/she's the one, we're twin-flames, we're soulmates or having a deep connection and other elusive b.s. like that... Indeed, they're beautiful fantasies. Idealistic (usually borrowed from something you read, from movies or songs). Tough, it's all in your head.
How else could you explain: how one party can love the other with all its being (that's also why people tie notions like soul/spirit to this type of love - cause "it seems" to go beyond the physical), so selfless that you'd be whiling to give your life for the one question (that's a given / no room for doubts) - while the other party feels, well.... nothing (when it comes to you)?! 🤨 No connection, no love whatsoever... just embarrassment and annoyance (same thing you'd feel about a random stranger... a drunk beggar who's asking for some money to buy booze). A painful reality, but it is what it is... No matter how hard you try - reality is not something you can deny. Objective reality - that is.
What's ironic is that the very thing that you discount is your post is the very thing that causes people to practice medicine, become firemen etc. Hence, the door swings both ways and doesn't exist entirely in the negative as your post suggests.
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You mean... "the Status" that comes with those type of jobs? The long term financial stability? And in some cases - the desire to save lives, to be of services to humanity (that's what most say in the beginning - but once again... reality, the actual practice - can change their mind / it's even mandatory - if they're to keep their sanity)? How many doctors work Pro Bono, less than 0.001% ?! How many fireman are still eager to reach a crash sight, or a fire - after witnessing all the gore that comes with that (people burned alive, or broken and cut into pieces... far worst than the gore scenes from any horror movie you can think of... even children)? Yes, most of those are still happy to succeed - to save lives, but that's just one side of reality. To be able to maintain their sanity - they have to keep things detached... to treat their work like a job.
Reality is what is. Tough, through a human perspective... sometimes it's really bad, other times it's really good or something in between. Realists can see the both sides of a coin - they don't focus on one side alone (as pessimists or optimists do).
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What makes a deep connection for you:
• Physical (love language of touch)
• Time (love language of quality time)
• Service (what have you done for me lately)
• Emotion
• Psychological
• Spritual
When and how did you discover this preferred connection receptivity? How?
How do you define a deep connection particularly if your relationship did not work out?
Venus/Mars sign?