I'm in my 30s, he's in his 50s - do I initiate?

If there are any older men here, or women around my age - what is your view about a younger woman wanting to date a man 20 years older? Do I do the asking? It is also a work thing. I know him going after me might make him look creepy, plus we work toget
asw8July 11, 2018 1:07pm
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  • Queenofthepheasantfairies
    Rising Scorpio, Libra sun, Gemini moon, Virgo Merc & Venus, Cancer Mars &am
    female from London
    I dont have a problem with age. I have more of a problem with dipping your pen into the office ink.

    its never a good idea.
  • For me, the age difference is way too much, but I my boyfriend and I work together and we are very much in love. In fact we are expecting a baby in January. So work relationships can be awesome
  • LadyNeptune
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  • Posted by perperuna
    For me, the age difference is way too much, but I my boyfriend and I work together and we are very much in love. In fact we are expecting a baby in January. So work relationships can be awesome


    Congratz Koni!
  • Work is cool
  • Arielle83
    Good c.u.n.t.
    No idea.
    I’m seeing an older man from work.

    I initiated to hang out. He initiated the sex.
  • Posted by Mr_Pinchy
    Posted by perperuna
    For me, the age difference is way too much, but I my boyfriend and I work together and we are very much in love. In fact we are expecting a baby in January. So work relationships can be awesome


    Congratz Koni!
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    Thank you!
  • AbbyNormal
    •♡°Live the life you love. Love the life you live. -Bob Marley°♡•
    34 years old female from Sacramento area, CA
    Work relationships are generally more hazardous than prosperous. However I've known a few people who met their spouses this way. I don't think it's the age if he accepted a coffee date previously. With 20 years experience on you, you might talk to him and try to learn more about him. Do you both see this job as long-term? Is he is your boss? There is most definitely a reason for his behavior so I'd advise to feel it out and don't rush it. Start by building a solid friendship and see if anything later on develops naturally.
  • To add, we will no longer be in the same work place soon as I am leaving. He is kind of up the rank in the company. I just don't know if I should attempt to ask him out again outside of work.
  • Posted by asw8
    If there are any older men here, or women around my age - what is your view about a younger woman wanting to date a man 20 years older? Do I do the asking? It is also a work thing.

    I know him going after me might make him look creepy, plus we work together. Ever since I caught him looking at me, he's become avoidant and has stopped. When I approached him about meeting for coffee he was very happy wanting to do that. We did, and he's again avoidant. So I'm not sure if it's an age thing, or work thing, or just not interested. Wondering if I should initiate something again?



    he's old enough to know better about you and the work thing
  • Moonbutter
    "Rising-Aries-Great for intimidation, mwhahah! Sun-Cancer-Am i laughing or c
    female
    Posted by asw8
    To add, we will no longer be in the same work place soon as I am leaving. He is kind of up the rank in the company. I just don't know if I should attempt to ask him out again outside of work.

    Probably hesitant because of his position so just wait until you no longer work there. I like to date close to my age but that’s my preference 🤷🏻‍♀️




  • he's old enough to know better about you and the work thing

    What does this mean?
  • It depends if you work in completely different departments or not. If you do i say proceed but with extreme caution.

    He may be on the fence knowing he is interested but also worried that this is a sexual harassment/metoo disaster waiting to happen

    Remember that he doesn't know you well. Therefore he doesnt know if things dont click on a romantic level if yourr going to lash out and go to hr.

    He is dealing with a work minefield. I have been attracted to other female coworkers at my job but have never acted on it.

    Even if they are attracted to me, i dont act on it. Too much of a risk and im there to make a living.

    So don't take it personal with him being distant. This is his job and he is gonna be cautious.

  • Too much for me.

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