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Can a Cheater...
Can a Cheater Rebuild Trust and Reenter Your Life
Rebuilding trust after infidelity is possible but challenging. It depends on the sincerity of the remorse, transparency, and effort shown by the cheater. Both partners must work through underlying issues and communicate openly to restore the relationship. Healing takes time and commitment from both sides to determine if reconciliation is truly achievable.
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No.
What's your Sun and Moon?
No.
What's your Sun and Moon?
Gem Sun/Scorp moon
And yours?
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I assume its the Scorp moon and probably other things in your chart.
Sure
Depends on a lot of factors. I know a lot of couples where one was unfaithful yet they got past it and managed to improve the overall health of the marriage. Relationships are complex...
Libra Sun
Gemini Moon
Lmao. The flexibility and breeze of air signs. You have any water in your chart?
No chance
Depends the relationship.
no, Taurus sun, Cap Moon
No.
What's your Sun and Moon?
Gem Sun/Scorp moon
And yours?
I assume its the Scorp moon and probably other things in your chart.
Impossible without the free spirited/independent nature of my Gem Sun that would help me to end things and walk away.
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We're in agreement. I know exactly what you mean. I have a buddy that was cheated on. He forgave, but to this day, things with them are tumultuous. He's always paranoid (rightly so).
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Sure
Depends on a lot of factors. I know a lot of couples where one was unfaithful yet they got past it and managed to improve the overall health of the marriage. Relationships are complex...
Libra Sun
Gemini Moon
Lmao. The flexibility and breeze of air signs. You have any water in your chart?
Yeah, a ton of Scorpio...
But I know a lot of couples who have been through this. They moved forward and are happy.
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I know of one couple and its not good, but your examples prove it can be done.
no, Taurus sun, Cap Moon
lmao. Fixed sun and Cap moon. I would not expect anything less.
Yup, I mean, we Capricorn men always get cheated on. So we don't have any choice.
Aw man. Saturn got you way down. I'm sure not all Caps get cheated on. Come on now.
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
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LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
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Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
God, no
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Sure
Depends on a lot of factors. I know a lot of couples where one was unfaithful yet they got past it and managed to improve the overall health of the marriage. Relationships are complex...
Libra Sun
Gemini Moon
Lmao. The flexibility and breeze of air signs. You have any water in your chart?
Yeah, a ton of Scorpio...
But I know a lot of couples who have been through this. They moved forward and are happy.
I know of one couple and its not good, but your examples prove it can be done.
I know like 7 or more. I think it depends on a lot of factors.
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That's a lot of cheating. Factors like kids, money etc. I take it counselling helped resolve things? Did it make the relationship stronger?
I'd totally lose respect for anyone who cheats
At least man up and talk about how you feel, instead of sneaking around like a naughty schoolboy
The sexual side is only a part of it....I would just be grossed out by a guy who thinks he will never get caught
So weak and stupid
👎🏻
Sure
Depends on a lot of factors. I know a lot of couples where one was unfaithful yet they got past it and managed to improve the overall health of the marriage. Relationships are complex...
Libra Sun
Gemini Moon
Lmao. The flexibility and breeze of air signs. You have any water in your chart?
Yeah, a ton of Scorpio...
But I know a lot of couples who have been through this. They moved forward and are happy.
I know of one couple and its not good, but your examples prove it can be done.
I know like 7 or more. I think it depends on a lot of factors.
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That's a lot of cheating. Factors like kids, money etc. I take it counselling helped resolve things? Did it make the relationship stronger?
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
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Fair enough
God, no
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Scorp sun Taurus moon. I wouldn't think so
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
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This was a really good answer but I still think it leaves the possibility for the guy to just cheat again, since you forgave him once. I couldn't be as forgiving as you.
no, but i expect to be forgiven. women cheat for different reasons than men. we don't love those other women. in fact, we can't wait to come back home, shower, and chill with you.
cheating for women and cheating for men, isnt that really apples and oranges?
women cheat bc they are not satisfied and someone is giving them plenty of pleasing emotions.
men cheat despite being completely satisfied bc it beats jerking off.
(GC06 i would never cheat on you)
Imma leave this alone.
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
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Do you have threesomes with them? Why do you end up with mostly bisexual women?
Nope.
"...And that's that"
no, but i expect to be forgiven. women cheat for different reasons than men. we don't love those other women. in fact, we can't wait to come back home, shower, and chill with you.
cheating for women and cheating for men, isnt that really apples and oranges?
women cheat bc they are not satisfied and someone is giving them plenty of pleasing emotions.
men cheat despite being completely satisfied bc it beats jerking off.
(GC06 i would never cheat on you)
I can see this. Makes sense. If you had enough money, I would allow it and fuck the pool boy 🙂
Yes, but it would take a monumental effort.
God, no
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Scorp sun Taurus moon. I wouldn't think so
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Would they dare? Haha 😡
Are you Taurus sun, Scorp moon?
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
Do you have threesomes with them? Why do you end up with mostly bisexual women?
Since I never made it into a relationship, no but it has been offered to me multiple times so far.
I don't know why. Might be a general vibe for I also have been approach by some homosexual men who asked if I'd like to have sex with them.
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Why would you need to be in a relationship to have sex as a threesome? Do you hold out for sex until you are in one? I know Cap Venus is traditional, but I wasn't thinking THAT traditional. I understand cultures vary.
It's good to see so many women here with strong boundaries
I've never been cheated on....I always made it clear from the start that I'd never tolerate that
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
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You make some valid points. Yes, people usually cheat because of some sort of problem in the relationship. So, why not just be mature and address the issue? Why be deceitful about it? If you need to sample other flavors as you stated, then why not just stay single?
"The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset."
Are you saying that the person that was stepped out on doesn't have a right to be upset?
Sure
Depends on a lot of factors. I know a lot of couples where one was unfaithful yet they got past it and managed to improve the overall health of the marriage. Relationships are complex...
Libra Sun
Gemini Moon
Lmao. The flexibility and breeze of air signs. You have any water in your chart?
Yeah, a ton of Scorpio...
But I know a lot of couples who have been through this. They moved forward and are happy.
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Is it the man cheating or the woman? I think if it's the women cheating, the men aren't so forgiving lol
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
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It's going great, lol How's yours?
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
This was a really good answer but I still think it leaves the possibility for the guy to just cheat again, since you forgave him once. I couldn't be as forgiving as you.
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Yes that is true but I think from there the relationship will definitely change and maybe move to an open relationship or something like that.
I have being cheated once with my ex and I tried to forgive him but in the end I couldn’t because it was a turn off and I was just not attracted to him anymore. So until I am in that situation I wouldn’t know for sure, but I know that things are never black and white.
No.
What's your Sun and Moon?
Gem Sun/Scorp moon
And yours?
I assume its the Scorp moon and probably other things in your chart.
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Nope not anymore to forget is impossible forgive also hard with my sagg moon every now and then things come back up randomly so if we were about to have sex i would sometimes imagine him having sex with her and him enjoying it which very painful. Also being a virgo you can visualize things very good which makes it even worse.
I am not bitter though when i start a new relationship i go in it fresh but if that ever happens again to me i will leave right away.
My AC /Planets/Astroids and houses
Sun: Virgo 9th house
AC: Sagittarius
Moon : Sagittarius 1st house
Mars : Libra 9th house
Mercury : Virgo 9th house
Jupiter : Virgo 8th house
Venus : Leo 8th house
Vesta : Leo 8th house
Chiron : Leo 8th house
Uranus : Capricorn 1st house
Neptune : Capricorn 1st house
True north node: Capricorn 1st house
True lilith : Capricorn 1st house
Juno : Capricorn 1st house
Pluto : Scorpio 11th house
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
Do you have threesomes with them? Why do you end up with mostly bisexual women?
Since I never made it into a relationship, no but it has been offered to me multiple times so far.
I don't know why. Might be a general vibe for I also have been approach by some homosexual men who asked if I'd like to have sex with them.
Why would you need to be in a relationship to have sex as a threesome? Do you hold out for sex until you are in one? I know Cap Venus is traditional, but I wasn't thinking THAT traditional. I understand cultures vary.
No, I just wasn't interested in it the majority of the times.
The other cases were simply traps where the women wanted to see how I react to that.
In general I wouldn't have a threesome with persons I don't know or have feelings for in some form. I think that would be the main obstacle.
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I understand this completely. I used to tell my ex, the only way I would ever have a threesome is if I didn't love him anymore 🙂
I agree with the reasons to cheat too, they were very "curiosity" related lol
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
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Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
LMAO!! I would never. lol
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
This was a really good answer but I still think it leaves the possibility for the guy to just cheat again, since you forgave him once. I couldn't be as forgiving as you.
Yes that is true but I think from there the relationship will definitely change and maybe move to an open relationship or something like that.
I have being cheated once with my ex and I tried to forgive him but in the end I couldn’t because it was a turn off and I was just not attracted to him anymore. So until I am in that situation I wouldn’t know for sure, but I know that things are never black and white.
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They're pretty black or white for me lol I leave the door wide open for them to walk out. They can test the boundaries all they want. Once they step over the line, though.................I will help them out! 😆
Jup, as long as they didn't lie to me.
So if the person told you before hand you would be okay with it?
Yep. Afterwards would be okay as well.
It might even help the relationship to grow.
LMAO. Your theories are always so interesting. Elaborate further please and help me see. Cause I couldn't forgive.
Well, firstly, I tend to end up with bisexual women and if they get the itch for a fellow female there is little that I can do to deliver.
Other than that:
- cheating usually happens if there are already some problem within the relationship and once they are out in the open you can start working on them. There always come a chance with it.
- every sex with another person is different and we always will learn something new. Either in the form of techniques or about ourselves. this can be brought back into the relationship
- sometimes you just need a different tase. Just as with food.
- it might allow you appreciate what you've got if realize that the fantasy you might have of others doesn't have to to do anything with reality
The problem with cheating is usually twofold. Hurt ego and loss of trust.
The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset.
The trust issue is more severe since relationships are always founded on trust. That's why I draw the line when it comes to lying and not the hurt ego part.
You make some valid points. Yes, people usually cheat because of some sort of problem in the relationship. So, why not just be mature and address the issue? Why be deceitful about it? If you need to sample other flavors as you stated, then why not just stay single?
"The ego thing indicates a potential weakness of the person who gets upset."
Are you saying that the person that was stepped out on doesn't have a right to be upset?
Emotions don't work like that. Nor is it a case of being right of being upset. It's something that just is.
All I'm looking for is why it is so upsetting and the most likely answer is that it is because of the ego. We feel devalued by cheating, if we leave the lying part out for now. I find it interesting to figure out why it triggers such strong and baosulte responses. Logically speaking cheating can have nothing to do with the person that gets cheated on.
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"All I'm looking for is why it is so upsetting and the most likely answer is that it is because of the ego."
>But chances are the person is upset because they thought the two of you established a thing called "trust." The person is upset cause they are blindsided.
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
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Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
This was a really good answer but I still think it leaves the possibility for the guy to just cheat again, since you forgave him once. I couldn't be as forgiving as you.
Yes that is true but I think from there the relationship will definitely change and maybe move to an open relationship or something like that.
I have being cheated once with my ex and I tried to forgive him but in the end I couldn’t because it was a turn off and I was just not attracted to him anymore. So until I am in that situation I wouldn’t know for sure, but I know that things are never black and white.
They're pretty black or white for me lol I leave the door wide open for them to walk out. They can test the boundaries all they want. Once they step over the line, though.................I will help them out! 😆
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Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
This was a really good answer but I still think it leaves the possibility for the guy to just cheat again, since you forgave him once. I couldn't be as forgiving as you.
Yes that is true but I think from there the relationship will definitely change and maybe move to an open relationship or something like that.
I have being cheated once with my ex and I tried to forgive him but in the end I couldn’t because it was a turn off and I was just not attracted to him anymore. So until I am in that situation I wouldn’t know for sure, but I know that things are never black and white.
They're pretty black or white for me lol I leave the door wide open for them to walk out. They can test the boundaries all they want. Once they step over the line, though.................I will help them out! 😆
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So far that is what I have being doing 😂
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
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What does real life consist of?
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
This was a really good answer but I still think it leaves the possibility for the guy to just cheat again, since you forgave him once. I couldn't be as forgiving as you.
Yes that is true but I think from there the relationship will definitely change and maybe move to an open relationship or something like that.
I have being cheated once with my ex and I tried to forgive him but in the end I couldn’t because it was a turn off and I was just not attracted to him anymore. So until I am in that situation I wouldn’t know for sure, but I know that things are never black and white.
They're pretty black or white for me lol I leave the door wide open for them to walk out. They can test the boundaries all they want. Once they step over the line, though.................I will help them out! 😆
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Why do you always seem to be taking notes when her and I talk— 😄
Only if we have an open relationship 😄
How's your day going? 🙃
It's going great, lol How's yours?
Can't complain. Couple more minutes and I'll be heading home. You working?
Yes I'm at work. I am usually only on here while I'm working. At home is for real life stuff 🙂
You have some pretty good topics that you're creating. I like reading all the answers.
What does real life consist of?
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I work alot- 80 hours a week, so at home I basically do the 3 S's 😆
Depends the relationship.
Elaborate
Depending how long the relationship is, if you have children, or if you are married. The longer the relationship the more forgiving I become. I like the idea of monogamy but I doubt it is possible.
In a new relationship it will be a total no no.
This was a really good answer but I still think it leaves the possibility for the guy to just cheat again, since you forgave him once. I couldn't be as forgiving as you.
Yes that is true but I think from there the relationship will definitely change and maybe move to an open relationship or something like that.
I have being cheated once with my ex and I tried to forgive him but in the end I couldn’t because it was a turn off and I was just not attracted to him anymore. So until I am in that situation I wouldn’t know for sure, but I know that things are never black and white.
They're pretty black or white for me lol I leave the door wide open for them to walk out. They can test the boundaries all they want. Once they step over the line, though.................I will help them out! 😆
Why do you always seem to be taking notes when her and I talk— 😄
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...When you talk
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