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Posted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
Either case the trust in the relationship is destroyed, it wouldn't be about any standards after that.
However, as far as cheating is concerned, it's definitely more to do with feelings irrespective of the gender.
If a Woman cheat due to emotional dissatisfaction, the man isn't able to provide for all that's needed for a healthy relationship.
If a man cheats for sex again this is his feeling of the sexual release not being met by the woman that's needed for a stable relationship.
And some men and women cheat for excitement, curiosity, greed, again the feelings and emotions 🙂
I agree with your points. Any form of cheating imo destroys the relationship. I think if a woman cheats it emasculates the man and that's why he can't forgive. I can't speak on behalf of women.
This is my opinion only, if in any relationship one has the need and the courage to cheat, that relationship can never be the same, ever.
Also I believe that the relationship at that point has run it's course
Men are emotional too and majority of them choose not to demonstrate feelings, societal perceptions unfortunately but imo you are right a man may find it harder to forgive and forget coz generally speaking men are more sex inclined.
A woman whereas may choose to forget and forgive for many reasons, including emotions, family, finances etc.
If I was in that situation, I wouldnt forgive or forget, l 'll leave coz I wouldn't be able to respect the man, irrespective of I cheated or he did because I would be at that point where the relationship is irreparable and Needs a line drawn underneath it.
I agree with this entire POV. You have strong arguments and seem like a strong woman. (If you're woman) lol
I'm indeed a woman and thank you!
Being strong isn't hard but maintaining the status is a different ball ache ! 🙂 xx
You should comment more on my threads. You got good insight.
I will certainly make my best efforts and thank you for your kind words.click to expand
I look forward to it.
Posted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
Either case the trust in the relationship is destroyed, it wouldn't be about any standards after that.
However, as far as cheating is concerned, it's definitely more to do with feelings irrespective of the gender.
If a Woman cheat due to emotional dissatisfaction, the man isn't able to provide for all that's needed for a healthy relationship.
If a man cheats for sex again this is his feeling of the sexual release not being met by the woman that's needed for a stable relationship.
And some men and women cheat for excitement, curiosity, greed, again the feelings and emotions 🙂
I agree with your points. Any form of cheating imo destroys the relationship. I think if a woman cheats it emasculates the man and that's why he can't forgive. I can't speak on behalf of women.
This is my opinion only, if in any relationship one has the need and the courage to cheat, that relationship can never be the same, ever.
Also I believe that the relationship at that point has run it's course
Men are emotional too and majority of them choose not to demonstrate feelings, societal perceptions unfortunately but imo you are right a man may find it harder to forgive and forget coz generally speaking men are more sex inclined.
A woman whereas may choose to forget and forgive for many reasons, including emotions, family, finances etc.
If I was in that situation, I wouldnt forgive or forget, l 'll leave coz I wouldn't be able to respect the man, irrespective of I cheated or he did because I would be at that point where the relationship is irreparable and Needs a line drawn underneath it.
I agree with this entire POV. You have strong arguments and seem like a strong woman. (If you're woman) lol
I'm indeed a woman and thank you!
Being strong isn't hard but maintaining the status is a different ball ache ! 🙂 xx
You should comment more on my threads. You got good insight.
I will certainly make my best efforts and thank you for your kind words.
I look forward to it.
What was the outcome of your discussions with your friends 're the topic of this post?
What are your views on it?
Also, where are you from, if you don't mind me asking
@FFSclick to expand
Meh. there was no conclusion. It was just a civil discussion. I don't think everyone will ever have the same opinion on such a topic. From my personal perspective, I think the woman does more damage because men don't access feelings easily. I don't anyway. I live in the US, Massachusetts to be more specific. You?
Posted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
Either case the trust in the relationship is destroyed, it wouldn't be about any standards after that.
However, as far as cheating is concerned, it's definitely more to do with feelings irrespective of the gender.
If a Woman cheat due to emotional dissatisfaction, the man isn't able to provide for all that's needed for a healthy relationship.
If a man cheats for sex again this is his feeling of the sexual release not being met by the woman that's needed for a stable relationship.
And some men and women cheat for excitement, curiosity, greed, again the feelings and emotions 🙂
I agree with your points. Any form of cheating imo destroys the relationship. I think if a woman cheats it emasculates the man and that's why he can't forgive. I can't speak on behalf of women.
This is my opinion only, if in any relationship one has the need and the courage to cheat, that relationship can never be the same, ever.
Also I believe that the relationship at that point has run it's course
Men are emotional too and majority of them choose not to demonstrate feelings, societal perceptions unfortunately but imo you are right a man may find it harder to forgive and forget coz generally speaking men are more sex inclined.
A woman whereas may choose to forget and forgive for many reasons, including emotions, family, finances etc.
If I was in that situation, I wouldnt forgive or forget, l 'll leave coz I wouldn't be able to respect the man, irrespective of I cheated or he did because I would be at that point where the relationship is irreparable and Needs a line drawn underneath it.
I agree with this entire POV. You have strong arguments and seem like a strong woman. (If you're woman) lol
I'm indeed a woman and thank you!
Being strong isn't hard but maintaining the status is a different ball ache ! 🙂 xx
You should comment more on my threads. You got good insight.
I will certainly make my best efforts and thank you for your kind words.
I look forward to it.
What was the outcome of your discussions with your friends 're the topic of this post?
What are your views on it?
Also, where are you from, if you don't mind me asking
@FFS
Meh. there was no conclusion. It was just a civil discussion. I don't think everyone will ever have the same opinion on such a topic. From my personal perspective, I think the woman does more damage because men don't access feelings easily. I don't anyway. I live in the US, Massachusetts to be more specific. You?
I know ! My group of friends have strange discussions too.
No one is interested in my obsession lol I m unhealthily obsessed with crime and investigation documentaries. In fact I'm watching one now, serial killers entice me. For such an introvert and patient person IRL no one believes I can even listen to gore! Lol.
Women may cause more damage but emotional unavailability is very hurtful, and I speak from experience :/
I'm from UK, I live up north of the country, Yorkshire to be precise.click to expand
Sorry about not getting right back to you. I had to run out. Yea, relationships are complicated and we didn't expect to solve anything. Hearing the different perspectives from males and females was fun. Plus, taking into account their historical relationships was also fun. I'm stereotyping, but I suppose you like the criminal investigations shows because you're a Scorpio. Sounds like you experienced some betrayal in your life.
Posted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
Either case the trust in the relationship is destroyed, it wouldn't be about any standards after that.
However, as far as cheating is concerned, it's definitely more to do with feelings irrespective of the gender.
If a Woman cheat due to emotional dissatisfaction, the man isn't able to provide for all that's needed for a healthy relationship.
If a man cheats for sex again this is his feeling of the sexual release not being met by the woman that's needed for a stable relationship.
And some men and women cheat for excitement, curiosity, greed, again the feelings and emotions 🙂
I agree with your points. Any form of cheating imo destroys the relationship. I think if a woman cheats it emasculates the man and that's why he can't forgive. I can't speak on behalf of women.
This is my opinion only, if in any relationship one has the need and the courage to cheat, that relationship can never be the same, ever.
Also I believe that the relationship at that point has run it's course
Men are emotional too and majority of them choose not to demonstrate feelings, societal perceptions unfortunately but imo you are right a man may find it harder to forgive and forget coz generally speaking men are more sex inclined.
A woman whereas may choose to forget and forgive for many reasons, including emotions, family, finances etc.
If I was in that situation, I wouldnt forgive or forget, l 'll leave coz I wouldn't be able to respect the man, irrespective of I cheated or he did because I would be at that point where the relationship is irreparable and Needs a line drawn underneath it.
I agree with this entire POV. You have strong arguments and seem like a strong woman. (If you're woman) lol
I'm indeed a woman and thank you!
Being strong isn't hard but maintaining the status is a different ball ache ! 🙂 xx
You should comment more on my threads. You got good insight.
I will certainly make my best efforts and thank you for your kind words.
I look forward to it.
What was the outcome of your discussions with your friends 're the topic of this post?
What are your views on it?
Also, where are you from, if you don't mind me asking
@FFS
Meh. there was no conclusion. It was just a civil discussion. I don't think everyone will ever have the same opinion on such a topic. From my personal perspective, I think the woman does more damage because men don't access feelings easily. I don't anyway. I live in the US, Massachusetts to be more specific. You?
I know ! My group of friends have strange discussions too.
No one is interested in my obsession lol I m unhealthily obsessed with crime and investigation documentaries. In fact I'm watching one now, serial killers entice me. For such an introvert and patient person IRL no one believes I can even listen to gore! Lol.
Women may cause more damage but emotional unavailability is very hurtful, and I speak from experience :/
I'm from UK, I live up north of the country, Yorkshire to be precise.
Sorry about not getting right back to you. I had to run out. Yea, relationships are complicated and we didn't expect to solve anything. Hearing the different perspectives from males and females was fun. Plus, taking into account their historical relationships was also fun. I'm stereotyping, but I suppose you like the criminal investigations shows because you're a Scorpio. Sounds like you experienced some betrayal in your life.
May be this stereotype is true! Pluto is the Lord of the dark and the underworld so it's bound to have some impact. Plus, I'm always interested in human behaviour and psychology so watching and understanding motives of crimes helps with that kinda knowledge, not that I use it professionally but it helps one see the perspective because no two people react to a situation same, someone might let something pass like anything where as one would kill for the same reason! It's intriguing.
Hmmm betrayal, the only betrayal I experienced is from myself which manifested in the ways I allowed others to treat me. It was my fault for letting that happen. I have a tendency to put others before me and when one learns to see both perspectives of an event, this is bound to happen. But, you live and learn, I'm on the journey of the learning 🙂
Or on the other hand, you could say my sun opposite my moon is the reason for this tendency 🙂
click to expand
Yea, the stereotypical view of Scorpio is darkness. Is that how you experience it? You sound rather balanced, positive and optimistic.
Posted by ArkansassyPosted by neves
Either way... cheating is cheating.
False.
It's not cheating if you're in a different area code.click to expand
Personally I don’t buy that men get less attached than women do during affairs.
I’ve seen too many men leave their long term marriages to pursue their affair partners, it’s one of those cliches in life.
But yes I do think most women that cheat in LTR do so because they’re emotionally unfulfilled.
I’ve seen too many men leave their long term marriages to pursue their affair partners, it’s one of those cliches in life.
But yes I do think most women that cheat in LTR do so because they’re emotionally unfulfilled.
Posted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFSPosted by La_Dolce_Vita_ScorpioPosted by FFS
I went out with a few friends (male and female) over the weekend. We got into the following discussion:
If a woman cheats in a relationship it causes far more damage than if a man cheats. The reason being she is more likely to develop feelings with the person she cheated with. Whereas, if a dude cheats, there's less damage, because chances are he is just looking for "strange" or a sexual release.
Thoughts?
Either case the trust in the relationship is destroyed, it wouldn't be about any standards after that.
However, as far as cheating is concerned, it's definitely more to do with feelings irrespective of the gender.
If a Woman cheat due to emotional dissatisfaction, the man isn't able to provide for all that's needed for a healthy relationship.
If a man cheats for sex again this is his feeling of the sexual release not being met by the woman that's needed for a stable relationship.
And some men and women cheat for excitement, curiosity, greed, again the feelings and emotions 🙂
I agree with your points. Any form of cheating imo destroys the relationship. I think if a woman cheats it emasculates the man and that's why he can't forgive. I can't speak on behalf of women.
This is my opinion only, if in any relationship one has the need and the courage to cheat, that relationship can never be the same, ever.
Also I believe that the relationship at that point has run it's course
Men are emotional too and majority of them choose not to demonstrate feelings, societal perceptions unfortunately but imo you are right a man may find it harder to forgive and forget coz generally speaking men are more sex inclined.
A woman whereas may choose to forget and forgive for many reasons, including emotions, family, finances etc.
If I was in that situation, I wouldnt forgive or forget, l 'll leave coz I wouldn't be able to respect the man, irrespective of I cheated or he did because I would be at that point where the relationship is irreparable and Needs a line drawn underneath it.
I agree with this entire POV. You have strong arguments and seem like a strong woman. (If you're woman) lol
I'm indeed a woman and thank you!
Being strong isn't hard but maintaining the status is a different ball ache ! 🙂 xx
You should comment more on my threads. You got good insight.
I will certainly make my best efforts and thank you for your kind words.
I look forward to it.
What was the outcome of your discussions with your friends 're the topic of this post?
What are your views on it?
Also, where are you from, if you don't mind me asking
@FFS
Meh. there was no conclusion. It was just a civil discussion. I don't think everyone will ever have the same opinion on such a topic. From my personal perspective, I think the woman does more damage because men don't access feelings easily. I don't anyway. I live in the US, Massachusetts to be more specific. You?
I know ! My group of friends have strange discussions too.
No one is interested in my obsession lol I m unhealthily obsessed with crime and investigation documentaries. In fact I'm watching one now, serial killers entice me. For such an introvert and patient person IRL no one believes I can even listen to gore! Lol.
Women may cause more damage but emotional unavailability is very hurtful, and I speak from experience :/
I'm from UK, I live up north of the country, Yorkshire to be precise.
Sorry about not getting right back to you. I had to run out. Yea, relationships are complicated and we didn't expect to solve anything. Hearing the different perspectives from males and females was fun. Plus, taking into account their historical relationships was also fun. I'm stereotyping, but I suppose you like the criminal investigations shows because you're a Scorpio. Sounds like you experienced some betrayal in your life.
May be this stereotype is true! Pluto is the Lord of the dark and the underworld so it's bound to have some impact. Plus, I'm always interested in human behaviour and psychology so watching and understanding motives of crimes helps with that kinda knowledge, not that I use it professionally but it helps one see the perspective because no two people react to a situation same, someone might let something pass like anything where as one would kill for the same reason! It's intriguing.
Hmmm betrayal, the only betrayal I experienced is from myself which manifested in the ways I allowed others to treat me. It was my fault for letting that happen. I have a tendency to put others before me and when one learns to see both perspectives of an event, this is bound to happen. But, you live and learn, I'm on the journey of the learning 🙂
Or on the other hand, you could say my sun opposite my moon is the reason for this tendency 🙂
Yea, the stereotypical view of Scorpio is darkness. Is that how you experience it? You sound rather balanced, positive and optimistic.
I personally think that Scorpio as the sign of zodiac gets a lot of reputation due to the intensity it harbours.
I personally feel that emotions come very strong on people with the Scorpio sun or moon. The expression of it in my opinion makes folks "different" type of Scorpio. Some behave like an eagle and rise about it once the tide ebbs, other behave like phoneix, burn to ashes and rise again (That's me in majority of cases as I struggle to let go depending upon circumstances) whilst other behave like scorpion, sting to protect themselves.
In my personal experience, I am yet to see a violent Scorpio sun moon person. Most scorps I know are quite brainy, focussed and progressive mindset.
Only common trait o have experienced in most scorp folks I know is interest in human psychology, hence conversations in a group are really interesting 🙂
I haven't had any exp with Scorpio Asc yet but imo I don't feel that there would be many real scoroio traits in them except after the first impression. I can however identify cancer and Scorpio sign generally without much effort.
About me, I'm alright generally and feel that I have the capability to see the logic and reason majority of times, but I do have a "scorpion" side that comes out after I have given adequate warning, once that happens I forget all reason and logic and the aim is to sting lol, most cases it results in Phoenix behaviour as I burn myself down and then re-emerge 🙂
I'm work in progress to be honest, I have struggled with internal conflict a lot where I talk myself out of things, some turn out good and some bad. I of recently figured out that it could be a result of my advebtrous risk taking scorpio Sun direct opposite to logical, risk averse Taurus Moon, which causes conflict within. I'm working on overcoming this and trusting my intuition more than I do.
I also feel that the discontent I m facing in my real life from past couple of years causes an emotional conflict in my heart and it impacts my decisions
What do you do for a living? I feel like you into some sort of psychology sort of profession? DM me if you don't feel comfy telling here @FFS. I'm intrigued by you now.click to expand
I certainly appreciate the intrigue, but I truly am not that impressive. I'm a full-time corrections officer here in Massachusetts and a part-time parole officer. When you say "burn to ashes" what exactly does that mean? We are all a work in progress and the minute we stop, we become stagnant. So give yourself a hand for all the hard work you invested in progressing. You mentioned you are experiencing "emotional conflict." Do you care to elaborate on that? You have a fixed sun and moon. Are you stubborn?
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