Posted by OHNOXoxo
Has anyone felt disgusted after orgasm, for having sex with that person?!
Posted by TheSagPosted by OHNOXoxo
Has anyone felt disgusted after orgasm, for having sex with that person?!
Sounds like the sex life of an average manclick to expand
Posted by Jade_Alexander
Yeah
Sex with my husband for years
I could get physically turned on but never mentally
I never felt good afterwards
Now if this is consistent with someone you may need professional wisdom to understand why.
Posted by Black-Mamba
i don't have sex with randoms
Posted by Chuckcem
That sounds like something psychological that you'll need to look into for yourself. If you don't really like this person, then that's it. I never saw the point in having sex with someone I "somewhat liked". The idea of having sex with someone just to get my rocks off always felt like either a waste of time or a potential risk if I didn't actually like them. Maybe try having sex with a person you really like.
If you actually like this person and you're just downplaying it, then either one of two things is happening. Either you're simply experiencing an extreme dopamine dump after the initial high from the orgasm or their is something else going on where you don't feel emotionally connected with the person.
Posted by MyStarsShine
Do you mean feeling shit about yourself?
Posted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShine
Do you mean feeling shit about yourself?
No. About the person. Like how did you even do it with him!click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShine
Do you mean feeling shit about yourself?
No. About the person. Like how did you even do it with him!
I've heard peope say it's never anything to do with the other but always ourselves. I'm beginning to believe that....click to expand
Posted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShine
Do you mean feeling shit about yourself?
No. About the person. Like how did you even do it with him!
I've heard peope say it's never anything to do with the other but always ourselves. I'm beginning to believe that....
Yeah. So may be it's me. And thats why I asked this question here.. wanted to know if anyone else FELT this way too.click to expand
Posted by alexscariesPosted by OHNOXoxo
Has anyone felt disgusted after orgasm, for having sex with that person?! I mean you went for it with all enthusiasm and were enjoying while it lasted but as soon as you are done, you don't even feel like talking or looking at him. And feel disgusted right after orgasm. And the irony, you somewhat like that person, but poof, and you are disgusted right after it!
Never in my life. After bad sex I have felt empty because I felt it was either my fault that I didn't enjoy it or that I wasted my time.click to expand
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShine
Do you mean feeling shit about yourself?
No. About the person. Like how did you even do it with him!
I've heard peope say it's never anything to do with the other but always ourselves. I'm beginning to believe that....
Yeah. So may be it's me. And thats why I asked this question here.. wanted to know if anyone else FELT this way too.
I understand this
The thought of having sex with a bloke who I didn't have a connection or chemistry with or who was a slapper makes me feel physically sick and to make it even more challenging I am very highly sexed, passionate and playful.
What a dilemma hey?
Lol
Same for me to an extent. I've turned down a few girls because I thought they would be a problem could be Scorpio Moon paranoia, but it probably kept me safe. Not going to lie when I was younger I would experiment and wasn't that discerning. Now a connection is vital for me, even if it is just a fling. I argue a lot with someone at work (yes a Libra) who can't understand how I'm not really driven by aesthetical beauty but more so what's in a person's head. He says you must be attracted to them first to be interested before you can know their personality, I say I just know things about that person within about 30 seconds of meeting them.click to expand
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShine
Do you mean feeling shit about yourself?
No. About the person. Like how did you even do it with him!
I've heard peope say it's never anything to do with the other but always ourselves. I'm beginning to believe that....
Yeah. So may be it's me. And thats why I asked this question here.. wanted to know if anyone else FELT this way too.
I understand this
The thought of having sex with a bloke who I didn't have a connection or chemistry with or who was a slapper makes me feel physically sick and to make it even more challenging I am very highly sexed, passionate and playful.
What a dilemma hey?
Lol
Same for me to an extent. I've turned down a few girls because I thought they would be a problem could be Scorpio Moon paranoia, but it probably kept me safe. Not going to lie when I was younger I would experiment and wasn't that discerning. Now a connection is vital for me, even if it is just a fling. I argue a lot with someone at work (yes a Libra) who can't understand how I'm not really driven by aesthetical beauty but more so what's in a person's head. He says you must be attracted to them first to be interested before you can know their personality, I say I just know things about that person within about 30 seconds of meeting them.
Your Pluto dominant is showing Alex
It would be Venus or Libra dominant that would be attracted to aesthetics
I'm a Venus then Pluto dominant...so a bit of both
Did you have the life changing experience of dating a Scorp dominant woman yet?
😳
I dated a woman who was Scorpio Sun when I was in my mid-20s. Not sure about her other placements, I had an interest in astrology then, but I had no idea that there was more to it than the Sun sign when it came to characteristics, how wrong I was.
She moved back to her own country as she missed her family. TBH the relationship had ran its course and the arguments were every time we met, but the angry make-up sex was wild. After she left I cried pretty much everyday for a few months and wrote some really bad poetry while listening to sad music as therapy. I had a really bad year; I was also made redundant from one job, but managed to transfer although at a lower level and a slight pay cut which dented my ego, I had to move out of my flat the year after as the landlord wanted to sell (notice that year), I also had some bereavement, so it was a plutonic year in terms of making order from chaos.
I'm not sure how it changed me, other than loving and losing. She was an Eastern European biker chick and very outspoken. It probably toughened me up if anything.
I have Aries in Venus so I do like powerful women who can keep me in line. I'm really attracted to the cute, but dangerous dichotomy.click to expand
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShine
Painful stuff 💙
Scorpio and Aries....Pluto/Mars meetsMars 💥🔥. I think there's no other pairing that's so passionate especially if there are Venus Mars, Venus Pluto aspects in synastry. As you know, can be very destructive too....
It would be interesting to see which house Pluto was transiting to your chart when it happened. If you're interested either check the ephemeris for that date or I can look if you want. Pluto transits can be so tough, can feel like dying but the healing can be life changing...powerful stuff
It looks like Capricorn in the tenth house of Pluto, but I'm not a 100% .
With regards Venus\Mars I usually tone it down a bit, until I know someone is comfortable with me.click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by MyStarsShine
Do you mean feeling shit about yourself?
No. About the person. Like how did you even do it with him!
I've heard peope say it's never anything to do with the other but always ourselves. I'm beginning to believe that....
Yeah. So may be it's me. And thats why I asked this question here.. wanted to know if anyone else FELT this way too.
I understand this
The thought of having sex with a bloke who I didn't have a connection or chemistry with or who was a slapper makes me feel physically sick and to make it even more challenging I am very highly sexed, passionate and playful.
What a dilemma hey?
Lolclick to expand
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by OHNOXoxo
Has anyone felt disgusted after orgasm, for having sex with that person?! I mean you went for it with all enthusiasm and were enjoying while it lasted but as soon as you are done, you don't even feel like talking or looking at him. And feel disgusted right after orgasm. And the irony, you somewhat like that person, but poof, and you are disgusted right after it!
Never in my life. After bad sex I have felt empty because I felt it was either my fault that I didn't enjoy it or that I wasted my time.
.....and what about the other person enjoying it?click to expand
Posted by OHNOXoxoPosted by Chuckcem
That sounds like something psychological that you'll need to look into for yourself. If you don't really like this person, then that's it. I never saw the point in having sex with someone I "somewhat liked". The idea of having sex with someone just to get my rocks off always felt like either a waste of time or a potential risk if I didn't actually like them. Maybe try having sex with a person you really like.
If you actually like this person and you're just downplaying it, then either one of two things is happening. Either you're simply experiencing an extreme dopamine dump after the initial high from the orgasm or their is something else going on where you don't feel emotionally connected with the person.
Never really thought it could be the dopamine ! Thank you.click to expand
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by Chuckcem
That sounds like something psychological that you'll need to look into for yourself. If you don't really like this person, then that's it. I never saw the point in having sex with someone I "somewhat liked". The idea of having sex with someone just to get my rocks off always felt like either a waste of time or a potential risk if I didn't actually like them. Maybe try having sex with a person you really like.
If you actually like this person and you're just downplaying it, then either one of two things is happening. Either you're simply experiencing an extreme dopamine dump after the initial high from the orgasm or their is something else going on where you don't feel emotionally connected with the person.
Never really thought it could be the dopamine ! Thank you.
Usually the dopamine drop is followed up by the increase in bonding chemicals like oxytocin in the brain, especially in women. However if you don't actually feel close to the person, this probably isn't happening properly.click to expand
Posted by OHNOXoxoPosted by ChuckcemPosted by OHNOXoxoPosted by Chuckcem
That sounds like something psychological that you'll need to look into for yourself. If you don't really like this person, then that's it. I never saw the point in having sex with someone I "somewhat liked". The idea of having sex with someone just to get my rocks off always felt like either a waste of time or a potential risk if I didn't actually like them. Maybe try having sex with a person you really like.
If you actually like this person and you're just downplaying it, then either one of two things is happening. Either you're simply experiencing an extreme dopamine dump after the initial high from the orgasm or their is something else going on where you don't feel emotionally connected with the person.
Never really thought it could be the dopamine ! Thank you.
Usually the dopamine drop is followed up by the increase in bonding chemicals like oxytocin in the brain, especially in women. However if you don't actually feel close to the person, this probably isn't happening properly.
Yeah. That must be true! Because I know this person from a long time, also knew he likes me, he's never hidden the fact that he's always had feelings for me.
And I also have told him on couple of occasions that, me sleeping with him, he shouldn't take it to his brains and think Im feeling for him. Its plainly because Im feeling horny.
But why do i feel disgusted is the thing! Like I said while the act is going on I'm enjoying it but as soon as I'm done I hate looking at his face too.click to expand
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