taupixie
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Felt Slighted by Lack of Attention
Posted by taupixieI have 6 planets in the 5th including moon.
I've noticed a few instances where this guy interest of mine seems to not have his whole attention on me. Sorry if it seems like I'm full of myself, but I do feel slighted & believe this may be signs he actually just isn't as into me as I thought he was. But it confuses me as at other times, he seems to be making some conscious out-of-his-way & rare effort to gain my attention. Rare as in he doesn't usually bother to do that for others.
1. In TWO SEPARATE INCIDENCES, he forgot I was there along with him & our other colleagues while he told me the things that happened. I had to tell him "Yeah I know, I was there too..."
2. While running around multi tasking, he was engaged in a discussion about work with me. But in an instance when a female colleague passed by & said something to him, something totally neutral (non flirty) but I caught a shy smile from himself. I always assume such as signs the guy is interested in the person. Or is it just nothing?
Am I worrying too much? Perhaps it's my Leo Moon, but I totally hate these things xD
Hey, i get it.
I must be #1 anything less and im insecure
One question. What actually made you think he is into you on a first place?
Posted by Gemitati
One question. What actually made you think he is into you on a first place?
I wanna focus this on the topic of the above incidences & whether I'm just over reacting. I know where you're coming from, I can't say for certain myself, and I don't wanna be justifying what I'm feeling or experiencing. In all, the signs are subtle yet strong gut instincts I feel from the way he treats me & shows concerns for me special from others.
I must admit.. Things probably are changing as I start feeling he toning down his attention on me since he told me he cannot be thinking of romantic relationship now as his career is not going well.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Very.Posted by DMVSo you are a scorp moon in the 5th house of Leo? Interesting.Posted by taupixieI have 6 planets in the 5th including moon.
I've noticed a few instances where this guy interest of mine seems to not have his whole attention on me. Sorry if it seems like I'm full of myself, but I do feel slighted & believe this may be signs he actually just isn't as into me as I thought he was. But it confuses me as at other times, he seems to be making some conscious out-of-his-way & rare effort to gain my attention. Rare as in he doesn't usually bother to do that for others.
1. In TWO SEPARATE INCIDENCES, he forgot I was there along with him & our other colleagues while he told me the things that happened. I had to tell him "Yeah I know, I was there too..."
2. While running around multi tasking, he was engaged in a discussion about work with me. But in an instance when a female colleague passed by & said something to him, something totally neutral (non flirty) but I caught a shy smile from himself. I always assume such as signs the guy is interested in the person. Or is it just nothing?
Am I worrying too much? Perhaps it's my Leo Moon, but I totally hate these things xD
Hey, i get it.
I must be #1 anything less and im insecureclick to expand
I can tell when someone has switched up or of their attention is dwindling.
So he told you he can't be in a romantic relationship because his career isn't doing well. That's an excuse to friend zone you 😢
Posted by taupixieHon, when man is hot for you - career is another part of his life.Posted by Gemitati
One question. What actually made you think he is into you on a first place?
I wanna focus this on the topic of the above incidences & whether I'm just over reacting. I know where you're coming from, I can't say for certain myself, and I don't wanna be justifying what I'm feeling or experiencing. In all, the signs are subtle yet strong gut instincts I feel from the way he treats me & shows concerns for me special from others.
I must admit.. Things probably are changing as I start feeling he toning down his attention on me since he told me he cannot be thinking of romantic relationship now as his career is not going well.click to expand
When he is in your presents looking at other women salivating over them - what about career? Doesn't stop him, right?
Just think. And best of all to you!
lol he's not that into you sorry to break it down as a male if I dig you I wouldn't even dare do shit like me that infront of you but back then when I was younger I would do stuff like that just to get a reaction.
@notsosure he hasn't told me his feelings. His actions are all I based on. He has always been very attentive towards me, except for these few instances.
@pinkbird03 yes, it seems like he's trying to tell me he's friendzoning.
@Gemitati haha no he's not salivating over another girl. If anything, he has always been respectful with me.
I just think that things between him & that female colleague may have developed into something maybe awkward. That female colleague has a few times tried to 'challenge'/'confront' him by showing her interest in him. There's once where I teased both of them by asking the female colleague blankly if his presence was making her anxious. Actually, I've always been the one trying to deflect his attention on me. And I'm the playful one who likes to discuss on the good looking guys that appeared at our workplace. I noticed that he's recently mirroring my this behaviour.. He would tell me there are beautiful ladies in the vicinity..
Things are not going well at our workplace. He's currently frustrated that our boss has been putting off his contract/confirmation for a few months now. I know he has a sense of defeat when he realised I'm earning much higher salary than him.
Another thing, he would bully another female colleague to make drinks for him. Then I sort of 'reprimanded' him (in a playful atmosphere) for bullying our colleague (I'm sort of a senior there). But he wouldn't let me do it when I offered to make drinks for him. Similarly he never accepted my money when he paid for me but he's usually very miserly and careful with his money & he's calculating with others.
@pinkbird03 yes, it seems like he's trying to tell me he's friendzoning.
@Gemitati haha no he's not salivating over another girl. If anything, he has always been respectful with me.
I just think that things between him & that female colleague may have developed into something maybe awkward. That female colleague has a few times tried to 'challenge'/'confront' him by showing her interest in him. There's once where I teased both of them by asking the female colleague blankly if his presence was making her anxious. Actually, I've always been the one trying to deflect his attention on me. And I'm the playful one who likes to discuss on the good looking guys that appeared at our workplace. I noticed that he's recently mirroring my this behaviour.. He would tell me there are beautiful ladies in the vicinity..
Things are not going well at our workplace. He's currently frustrated that our boss has been putting off his contract/confirmation for a few months now. I know he has a sense of defeat when he realised I'm earning much higher salary than him.
Another thing, he would bully another female colleague to make drinks for him. Then I sort of 'reprimanded' him (in a playful atmosphere) for bullying our colleague (I'm sort of a senior there). But he wouldn't let me do it when I offered to make drinks for him. Similarly he never accepted my money when he paid for me but he's usually very miserly and careful with his money & he's calculating with others.
Posted by taupixieIt sounds too complicated. If he was the right guy for you, I think it would be more obvious.
@notsosure he hasn't told me his feelings. His actions are all I based on. He has always been very attentive towards me, except for these few instances.
@pinkbird03 yes, it seems like he's trying to tell me he's friendzoning.
@Gemitati haha no he's not salivating over another girl. If anything, he has always been respectful with me.
I just think that things between him & that female colleague may have developed into something maybe awkward. That female colleague has a few times tried to 'challenge'/'confront' him by showing her interest in him. There's once where I teased both of them by asking the female colleague blankly if his presence was making her anxious. Actually, I've always been the one trying to deflect his attention on me. And I'm the playful one who likes to discuss on the good looking guys that appeared at our workplace. I noticed that he's recently mirroring my this behaviour.. He would tell me there are beautiful ladies in the vicinity..
Things are not going well at our workplace. He's currently frustrated that our boss has been putting off his contract/confirmation for a few months now. I know he has a sense of defeat when he realised I'm earning much higher salary than him.
Another thing, he would bully another female colleague to make drinks for him. Then I sort of 'reprimanded' him (in a playful atmosphere) for bullying our colleague (I'm sort of a senior there). But he wouldn't let me do it when I offered to make drinks for him. Similarly he never accepted my money when he paid for me but he's usually very miserly and careful with his money & he's calculating with others.
I don't think this guy sounds that interested, sorry.
I don't get your issue.
Every person has a right to decide who they want to be with. He has decided that he's not that into you now, eventhough he may have been previously.
But, you don't seem to have an understanding of people, you seem to think that if he once ever gave you attention, then he's obligated to do so indefinitely.
I don't get other people's reaction in here in where they believe something is wrong with him for having reasons or excuses for deciding to take a romantic pass on you.
If he decides for himself that he only wants you as a friend, then how is that perceived as him making excuses? ..... again, as if he's obligated to you.
makes zero sense to me.
so, what is your beef? You're so insecure that you need constant attention, and you picked him to carry around your baggage, and since he doesn't want to do that .. then you're here crying about it?
any person, at any time, has the right as an individual to change their mind, and take a different route in their life ..... you seem ignorant to that knowledge, and want to use being a lunar Leo as an excuse not to accept the facts of life.
Why can't you handle life without having to run and cry, Millennial?
Every person has a right to decide who they want to be with. He has decided that he's not that into you now, eventhough he may have been previously.
But, you don't seem to have an understanding of people, you seem to think that if he once ever gave you attention, then he's obligated to do so indefinitely.
I don't get other people's reaction in here in where they believe something is wrong with him for having reasons or excuses for deciding to take a romantic pass on you.
If he decides for himself that he only wants you as a friend, then how is that perceived as him making excuses? ..... again, as if he's obligated to you.
makes zero sense to me.
so, what is your beef? You're so insecure that you need constant attention, and you picked him to carry around your baggage, and since he doesn't want to do that .. then you're here crying about it?
any person, at any time, has the right as an individual to change their mind, and take a different route in their life ..... you seem ignorant to that knowledge, and want to use being a lunar Leo as an excuse not to accept the facts of life.
Why can't you handle life without having to run and cry, Millennial?
Everyone needs to chill. My topic is born out of curiousity of certain guy's behaviours. Some of you take it as if I'm crying a river that it really turns out that he isn't into me 😄
@Libramiss he's Sun in Aquarius, Moon in Sagittarius (more likely than Capricorn), Mercury in Capricorn, Venus in Capricorn, Mars in Taurus. Would love insights on these if you could!
@Libramiss he's Sun in Aquarius, Moon in Sagittarius (more likely than Capricorn), Mercury in Capricorn, Venus in Capricorn, Mars in Taurus. Would love insights on these if you could!
@notsosure I guess I enjoy studying behaviours, the subjects especially being guys I'm interested in 😄 I may have come off as insisting he's into me, I'm just trying to suggest contrasting points for further study and discussions... I'm taking both sides in, I hope I didn't come across as biased
I just don't see the need to reveal in details about things I don't want to share about just to justify certain points. Like I said I want to focus on the specific behaviours. I do understand lack of disclosure could result in less accurate picture of the situation but it's fine for me at this point. I guess sometimes I'm asking at the wrong place but no harm trying. And thanks always for your input
@juliette it seems Aquas friendzoned everyone, more so their romantic interest... If you know what I mean 😄
@Libramiss ah, you had me at the edge for your reply... xD
@notsosure you are always entitled to your opinions I won't deny you that. You're bent on thinking as such, well go ahead. If you believe I'm backpedaling & it makes you satisfied to think so, well okay... And I can't say you're wrong anyway... It's true I will never know how he feels about me unless he tells me 🙂 I'm not interested to divulge the information that I didnt plan to divulge just to prove otherwise. And perhaps I feel a little embarrassed to share those details as it seems like pre school courtship, all those subtle yet sweet things he's doing... Or you may still think I'm just imagining things... 🙂
I actually tend to agree that he really isn't into me since these 2 instances & as what everyone here agrees. And let me state that he has also said he's not gonna think about relationship because he's gonna focus on his career... So loud and clear I don't have to expect anything out from him... He's friendzoned me! 😄
But I guess, I still have to face him on a daily basis and the dynamics of our interaction will continue whether or not I've been imagining it or not.
I actually tend to agree that he really isn't into me since these 2 instances & as what everyone here agrees. And let me state that he has also said he's not gonna think about relationship because he's gonna focus on his career... So loud and clear I don't have to expect anything out from him... He's friendzoned me! 😄
But I guess, I still have to face him on a daily basis and the dynamics of our interaction will continue whether or not I've been imagining it or not.
Since we're at this, I recall another instance of significant meaning.
So that day when he playfully asked me to make drinks for him, I actually said sure & asked him what drinks he want, then he insisted me not to do it. So I said that "It's fine, it's no big deal" and I said "Furthermore I've eaten so much of your raisins and you've always been good..." ... He actually replied to that by turning away & saying in a low voice "No I'm not good..."
It looks to me a sign of a guy who's deflecting interest in him... He's telling me not to have interest in him. So I guess he's really hoping I'm not interested in him.
And then he goes on leave on Friday. And he kept texting me things about work, to tell me the things that are pending & he's worried but otherwise not urgent, so I just kept replying him not to worry & to enjoy his day off. I know he's not texting the other colleagues.
Maybe I should stop overthinking. He's just a workaholic.
So that day when he playfully asked me to make drinks for him, I actually said sure & asked him what drinks he want, then he insisted me not to do it. So I said that "It's fine, it's no big deal" and I said "Furthermore I've eaten so much of your raisins and you've always been good..." ... He actually replied to that by turning away & saying in a low voice "No I'm not good..."
It looks to me a sign of a guy who's deflecting interest in him... He's telling me not to have interest in him. So I guess he's really hoping I'm not interested in him.
And then he goes on leave on Friday. And he kept texting me things about work, to tell me the things that are pending & he's worried but otherwise not urgent, so I just kept replying him not to worry & to enjoy his day off. I know he's not texting the other colleagues.
Maybe I should stop overthinking. He's just a workaholic.
You said you are his 'senior' of sorts and have reprimanded him in a playful manor. Are you his superior? If not, do you have the ear of the person who is?
I'm not his superior. I work in the same team as him & closely with him as his support function. We share the same superior, and I work extremely close to my superior, also my superior's confidante (which everyone knows) & by default, I'm my superior's lunchmate. I'm sort of the middle person between my superior & my team members & other coworkers, as I could relate well to the same level as the rest too & they could reach my superior by reaching to me. My team members trust me enough to not need to be careful around me with things they do not want my superior to know. The atmosphere is pretty genuine & honest at work.
Posted by taupixie'they could reach my superior by reaching to me'
I'm not his superior. I work in the same team as him & closely with him as his support function. We share the same superior, and I work extremely close to my superior, also my superior's confidante (which everyone knows) & by default, I'm my superior's lunchmate. I'm sort of the middle person between my superior & my team members & other coworkers, as I could relate well to the same level as the rest too & they could reach my superior by reaching to me. My team members trust me enough to not need to be careful around me with things they do not want my superior to know. The atmosphere is pretty genuine & honest at work.
imagine how they hating you? LOL
or you had never thought of it?
Nah LOL you guys sure are very imaginative. I'm the hardest worker in the team, having to work extra hours in the evening & sometimes even on weekends & holidays due to my unique & impossibly loaded responsibilities. The greatest sentiment from my team members are sympathy for me while my superior is supportive & appreciative. My superior herself is in the same hot pan as me, we are both struggling with our load & thus there's a mutual appreciation & compassion LOL anyway my superior is an easygoing person so she sets such atmosphere around us. Our animosity is towards the management (high superior) who we have to constantly justify for our wellbeing. This is what I mean things aren't going well at the workplace
@notsosure your comments got me reevaluating the incidences that happened between me & the guy. After much thoughts, I really believe there's attraction on his part, & my interest in him is actually a response which started from him. But I also feel that now that I'm responding positively to him, he's pulling back so I also believe that it's true that he's not whole heartedly courting me for any reason. I do feel he still does his best to keep me close to him though with the subtle things he's doing & attention he shows me. So it seems like there isn't much to expect anyway, I'll just enjoy this & appreciate him while it's here. And it's kind of cute to see him getting ruffled up when another male colleague approaches me & sometimes when he would try to intrude into my personal life such as asking me what I did during my days off & I'm not exactly the most cooperative in sharing this kind of thing. My Pisces rising is strong in this regard 😄 I only worry my natural tendency to play coy would be my downfall... Perhaps why I try to analyse so much...
I get what you're saying. Of course I don't think everything he does revolves around me. Heck I know I'm just a very small part of his life. I maybe sound very upbeat & optimistic, I'm just enjoying the little things that I can 🙂 he's a good guy. Whether he will choose me OR NOT, or choose another, I don't wanna hurt him & I wanna wish the best for him too.
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