FWB

Please explain—

I see it as a new way of getting in with a guy long enough to try and turn the tables on him and then expect a real relationship?

Does it work?

It only works for a woman who is utterly embarrassed of her "friend"...but enjoys the sex and conversation.

FWB works, so long as it is what it says ... "friends" with benefits.

what you described ... "getting in with a guy long enough to try and turn the tables on him" ... isn't friend relationship, rather a manipulation.

In which case, the woman in this scenerio isn't even his friend, if she is lying to him about her intentions .. in which case, if she isn't even his friend and fucking him ... then it's not even FWB ...

... it's being a slut.

Well I dont know about being a slut P, I think they fool themselves into thinking that they'll inch their way into the persons heart this way BUT in fact they are putting out so, it then comes down to "Why buy the cow if the milk comes free?" scenario...

I think it's been feed into both women and men that there are 10 men to every one woman(probably more, not sure on the stats) so there is this desparation on the woman's part and men holding themselves out for "the exception" but in the meantime taking all that's on offer!

Was at the casino last night in one of the bars and the attitude of men, they think they can just flick you an eye and you'll come running or in talking to you, you will give it up! One guy was piss(sistant) enough that around 3 other guy mates he kept coming back not taking NO!!!! Then at the end of the night, there was a circling of men around the joint like SHARKS for their prey...the desaparate few left were just being picked up!!!! **Shakes head**

Back to the FWB, As Lady M says: I agree!

It only works for a woman who is utterly embarrassed of her "friend"...but enjoys the sex and conversation.

what you described ... "getting in with a guy long enough to try and turn the tables on him" ... isn't friend relationship, rather a manipulation.

In which case, the woman in this scenerio isn't even his friend, if she is lying to him about her intentions .. in which case, if she isn't even his friend and treetrunking him ... then it's not even FWB ...

I agree it is a manipulation, it's part of the game play that most women think they have to do in order to get someone. Looking around this thread everyone is playing it or asking how to...

And I also feel that what starts as a FWB in the womens mind changes during the sex...fucking is just that with most men but with women it's a whole different thing...

I'm all good sagi...there's only one of me to over 1000 men! takes that plus to grab my attention 🙂

You see FWB is exactly that but once you start using the term lover doesnt that change things—

Thinking bout it if you are "emotionally unavailable" then FWB would work, that would be the rebound situation in my case...

Oh god not this again.

::exit::

What's the disadvantages Shaks?

it's getting so worn out because you've been hanging around tooooo long on dxp unlike some of us fresh ones! lol

It was fun until she caught feelings, then things went downhill. Best to stay away from this deal.

Think that's the problem, women catch feelings too easily and that throws a curve ball at the guy still wanting to go along with sex without any complications!

If you're looking for another fight Bella go back and play with "Mystic Dreamer" I won't go there!

If you dont like the topic dont read...simple.

See you around another thread.

Sorry chic, cant really tell on these boards with no feelings! Thought it was out of character!

While we are here Nihilist, can you tell me how to make some of those faces with your smiley— I only know the basic ones..

And I'm guessing, it's not normally friends that you would hang out with on a regular basis...maybe friends of friends. Otherwise it could be quite awkward to say the lest!

Thanks Nihilist 🙂 been trying to work some of those out for an age!!! heheee Some can put great characters up!

That's what I see OFA, mostly one starts to fall and the other cant understand what's going on.

Anyone had a FWB that has lasted and not goten complicated?

I think those girl's going into a FWB expecting a relationship tend to be disappointed and inevitably get their hearts broken. And some (not all) of those coming in for the sex, which you don't see often, get what they didn't bargain for, a relationship.

I assume most FWB end in the latter.

Ya think xtina?

I see what you are saying in both instances but most end in the latter— Curious.

i really dont know many FWB and have only done it twice, first I knew I would never fall for this guy in a million years but I needed it (SEX) and I wasnt ready to move on emotionally after a death. It lasted 6 months. the 2nd was very brief because he wanted more and I still wasn't ready and bailed!

But I dont know of any that have remained in a relationship or have started out as FWB.

Like I said on another thread, I really don't see the point in FWB. I mean for those who like that sort of setup, thats their business.

However, I still don't see why its okay to have sex with a friend but its too much pressure to have sex in a relationship (boyfriend ... girlfriend ... whatever).

Its so amusing how we can commit to making money -- whether legally or illegally but human commitments seem to scare us.

Although I can be a ditz (LOL! Its true 😄) when it come to none-platonic relationships but theres no way I'll do 'friends with benefits' and know it.

Once, I thought I was in a relationship with a guy but after I heard I was just his "buddy that gives him perks" I soon put a stop to that. It wasn't easy ...

I've NEVER been in a FWB relationship, I've only made observations.

I don't think I can have sex with a guy that I didn't care about, I'd get emotionally attached. Nope. No one night stands for me.

But, that's me, I have a Venus in Pisces and Libra moon. Hence, me being emotionally attached once I had sex with a guy... I assume 😄.

Well I thought I couldn't AND then I did!!!! Through loneliness & moving to a new country and having been separated for 2 1/2 years and being super horny!! A neighbor of my mums asked me out, he was younger and we had a great time and then wham!!! My choice too and certainly out of character! lol

But yeah he wanted more so we stopped but remained good friends.

Posted by sweethearts
Well I thought I couldn't AND then I did!!!! Through loneliness & moving to a new country and having been separated for 2 1/2 years and being super horny!! A neighbor of my mums asked me out, he was younger and we had a great time and then wham!!! My choice too and certainly out of character! lol

But yeah he wanted more so we stopped but remained good friends.

lol, okay.

I really think it depends on the person, regardless of the situation. It has alot to do with personality.

Posted by xtina
I've NEVER been in a FWB relationship, I've only made observations.

I don't think I can have sex with a guy that I didn't care about, I'd get emotionally attached. Nope. No one night stands for me.

But, that's me, I have a Venus in Pisces and Libra moon. Hence, me being emotionally attached once I had sex with a guy... I assume 😄.

lol, well I have Venus in Aquarius and moon in Aquarius -- I still can't do it. I guess being one with alot of Aqua in my chart, I don't see the importance of sex unless I care about the person. Its like to me ... sex, I can take it or leave.

Now I have times when I get really, really crazy horny like girl 😄 lol. But thats another story entirely. However, like I said, I can take it or leave. I don't have to have sex if I don't have a partner 😉

Well little toys are wonderful objects but really cant replace the intimacy of the cuddle and the kiss...you'll be amazed at how much the kiss is missed!

Actually, I'm afraid of those toys ... so they are a no no NO! with me lol

OFA thats exactly what I think happens with the girls...we are effected differently with sex. I would even think over a period of time had my FWB gone more than the 3 rounds perhaps into more like months then I would've started having expectations of some sort. I think it's just the way women are.

Ok so you are saying you are the exception...the 20 odd percent that really can keep their feelings out? Cos you cant say that it can be 100% as we couldn't say that either but I feel it would swing more in our favor.

Yeah I guess you must be in the 20 odd percent that sticks to her guns... most will eventually get their feeling mixed in there somewhere...