FWB (Page 7)

this thread will go on till the end of timeee

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from the chair to the sack...next...

subtle little hints

Posted by Undine
Did you girls notice what's going on this thread?

A handful of women who had a FWB and liked it, versus a handful of people who never tried FWB. People who know what they are talking about versus people who don't have a clue.

It's like me saying I've been to Philippines and it's a fascinating country and someone else disagreeing with me. A few minutes into the debate, you realize that the other person not only has no idea what Philippines is like, but they thought you were talking about Philadelphia 🙂🙂🙂!

I think the initial issue was not two consenting adults agreeing to have a FWB relationship up front from the get-go. I do not know a single man that would like to get layed that would use that as his opening line. I have a few guy friends who have used manipulation in order to get the cookie, but then what kind of friend does that make them? Friends don't fuck, but that's just my archaic opinion of friendship. It is the fact that men will play upon the time honored traditions of courtship to get the said cookie. Once he has gotten the cookie he reduces all of his attentions, and availability slowly and surely to the point where you are nothing but a vyj-j to him. This is very hurtful and hard to comprehend for a woman that did not understand the "Game". We are not privy to their intentions and the fact that men exist in large numbers that are willing to manipulate another's heart for the sake of sexual gratification, no matter how pretty the packaging, is absolutely vile. This makes my heart bleed for all of the women that have been caught in this situation completely unaware and left feeling confused, depleted, unwanted, and disheartened. To this, I speak from experience. Had you been my friend when my spirit was broken in pieces when the writing was finally on the wall, what would you have said to me then?

To Fixed Water:

"Once he has gotten the cookie he reduces all of his attentions, and availability slowly and surely to the point where you are nothing but a vyj-j to him. This is very hurtful and hard to comprehend for a woman that did not understand the "Game". (...) To this, I speak from experience. Had you been my friend when my spirit was broken in pieces when the writing was finally on the wall, what would you have said to me then?"

I would have said that he decided you are not the one for him, which also implies HE WAS NOT the right one for you! Move on and take only your best memories with you. BZW, he doesn't have to be a "Player". Most budding relationships end within the first year. Don't you remember all the men you dumped yourself, because you didn't feel it? Were YOU a player back then? I doubt it.



"completely unaware and left feeling confused, depleted, unwanted, and disheartened."

Errr...I've been in a similar situation only three months ago, when my boyfriend of 6-7 months (nicknamed "husband") dumped me by text message! I didn't feel anything you said. I was not confused, because things got clear to me when he told me he didn't love me. I was not depleted, but full of unwanted, unrequited love, to the point of suffocation. I was not unwanted, there are plenty of men out there to want me. I was not disheartened, but extremely unhappy, to the point that I was wearing sunglasses on a rainy day, so people passing by didn't see me crying.

And guess what...three months down the line and I feel good! Time is a healer, have trust. That is what I would have said to you.

Posted by Undine
To Fixed Water:

"Once he has gotten the cookie he reduces all of his attentions, and availability slowly and surely to the point where you are nothing but a vyj-j to him. This is very hurtful and hard to comprehend for a woman that did not understand the "Game". (...) To this, I speak from experience. Had you been my friend when my spirit was broken in pieces when the writing was finally on the wall, what would you have said to me then?"

I would have said that he decided you are not the one for him, which also implies HE WAS NOT the right one for you! Move on and take only your best memories with you. BZW, he doesn't have to be a "Player". Most budding relationships end within the first year. Don't you remember all the men you dumped yourself, because you didn't feel it? Were YOU a player back then? I doubt it.



"completely unaware and left feeling confused, depleted, unwanted, and disheartened."

Errr...I've been in a similar situation only three months ago, when my boyfriend of 6-7 months (nicknamed "husband") dumped me by text message! I didn't feel anything you said. I was not confused, because things got clear to me when he told me he didn't love me. I was not depleted, but full of unwanted, unrequited love, to the point of suffocation. I was not unwanted, there are plenty of men out there to want me. I was not disheartened, but extremely unhappy, to the point that I was wearing sunglasses on a rainy day, so people passing by didn't see me crying.

And guess what...three months down the line and I feel good! Time is a healer, have trust. That is what I would have said to you.

Undine, I eventually made the decision that he was a player and put him on No Contact. It's a hard rule to implement because they continually play on whatever they can to suck you back in just to reduce you again. Maybe the problem here is your experiences with FWB relationships are in their infancy and not as potent as they will become in future? Something to consider anyway.
If this had happened to you I would have said that his Karma will return to him three-fold, as that is the way. I would have called upon you to use the experience to the most advantage by learning all you could from it. I would have encouraged you to find your power as a Woman and put it on full display. To hold your head high and conduct yourself with Grace.

I think we, as

I think we, as Women, can always find common ground when it comes to matters of the heart. Those relationships such as the one you've described is where we can, and should, bond. I feel you're pain on that one, and am happy to hear that you've recovered.

The reason I decided to contribute my story to this post is not so much to disagree with you. I think each and every one of us is somewhere on a journey and your lessons will be different than mine. I contributed for all of those Women that WILL Google FWB. In their tears and upset they will read these posts looking for the answers. Hopefully they will find a little bit of relief, support, and clarity within these pages.

I am still ont he lookout for the one that is for me so really FWB may work for me it may not work for me who really knows and at this moment in time I couldnt give a fuck about anyone or anything except sorting mmi out far more important to do this than anything else.

I need to get on with whatever i have to get on with thats life heh?

BUMPEROOSKI 🙂