Milani
@MilaniKisses
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Going for someone who is less attractive
Hmm yes... but I found the really hot guys to be super cocky/arrogant and was not attracted to their personality. I dated a guy who thought I was way hotter then him and eventually his insecurities did us in :/
Posted by MoonbutterSee thats what I find with hot guys too! And yikes about the other guy, what was his sign?
Hmm yes... but I found the really hot guys to be super cocky/arrogant and was not attracted to their personality. I dated a guy who thought I was way hotter then him and eventually his insecurities did us in :/
I found that I can be a bit shallow at times. I don't necessarily go for looks but if they are less attractive and it turns out the sex isn't good or they aren't as intelligent as I thought they were. When they do something to get me upset, I will drop them like a bad habit. No second chances either.
If they were attractive, physically, I would still be able to be turned on and work on it. But when there is no physical or mental connections, I'm all the way out.
If they were attractive, physically, I would still be able to be turned on and work on it. But when there is no physical or mental connections, I'm all the way out.
Looking great on your pic. I'm glad you post this because I feel that when I go for someone that is less attractive I'm selling myself short because as a Libra it's very important to me and it's something that I deeply truly desire have a really good looking mate but I have not had a good looking mate for most of my mates.
I have been with 1 guy that was instant visual attraction (nothing else) and as was mentioned above more stress more hoes LOL! He was also super controlling (generally a trait of cheaters and those who dont trust themselves struggle to trust others)
My Aries now, I thought was very cute and cocky when I first laid eyes upon him but his energy totally distracted me from all else, INTENSE!
My Aries now, I thought was very cute and cocky when I first laid eyes upon him but his energy totally distracted me from all else, INTENSE!
I strongly disagree with most of the responses here.
To assume that 10's are more likely to cheat and 0's are likely to be faithful is presumptuous and ridiculously trivial.
For example, take a man who looks like the back of a camel's face and ass, if his confidence, swag, and A-game is up, he can 'bag' a 10....and more tens...and more tens...making him an unattractive player who gets around.
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
To assume otherwise is crazy.
To assume that 10's are more likely to cheat and 0's are likely to be faithful is presumptuous and ridiculously trivial.
For example, take a man who looks like the back of a camel's face and ass, if his confidence, swag, and A-game is up, he can 'bag' a 10....and more tens...and more tens...making him an unattractive player who gets around.
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
To assume otherwise is crazy.
Lil Wayne
The ladies love this gremlin.
He dates all 10's
Multiple baby Mamas
This man gets around.
Boris Kodjoe
The ladies love him too. Gorgeous.
This man has been happily married to Nicole Ari Parker for 12 years.
No reports of cheating or philandering.
His wife is also a '10.'
The ladies love this gremlin.
He dates all 10's
Multiple baby Mamas
This man gets around.
Boris Kodjoe
The ladies love him too. Gorgeous.
This man has been happily married to Nicole Ari Parker for 12 years.
No reports of cheating or philandering.
His wife is also a '10.'
Focus on the connection.
If it's genuine, GO for it...don't let him being a '10' deter you from going after what you want.
If he's a '5' and you still feel a genuine connection...GO for it too!
If it's genuine, GO for it...don't let him being a '10' deter you from going after what you want.
If he's a '5' and you still feel a genuine connection...GO for it too!
Posted by TaurusBull1977Agree 100!
I strongly disagree with most of the responses here.
To assume that 10's are more likely to cheat and 0's are likely to be faithful is presumptuous and ridiculously trivial.
For example, take a man who looks like the back of a camel's face and ass, if his confidence, swag, and A-game is up, he can 'bag' a 10....and more tens...and more tens...making him an unattractive player who gets around.
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
To assume otherwise is crazy.
I've been cheated on and unknowingly been the other woman and none of those guys were a 10. Like 6's and 7's maybe one 8.
Ugly-ness or average-ness isn't a fail safe for loyalty. That's not how that works.
Posted by MilaniKissesreplace guys with women and say in a scale from 4-10, that's what most men have to deal with on the flip side. I don't know any woman who doesn't seek for attention, whether she is a 5 or a 10.
In my case, I noticed I've done this because I've learned that a lot of the 10's (guys) aren't stable and always wanting attention from others other than just me.
Posted by TaurusBull1977There is no 10 man who doesn't get approached by women. I have seen it many times, if a woman sees a 9 or 10, she will chase him like hell and the funny thing is a lot of those women aren't even that attractive at all. Women become like sharks once they taste blood. Men get more intimidated by beautiful women than women by hot men lol
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
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Posted by MilaniKissesWhether fat is attractive or not is up to each and everyone to decide.. but fat chicks are the most notorious cheaters and attention hoars. They have no shame.
I've heard of people purposefully dating someone less attractive than them (Like she's a 10, he's a 6) because of various reasons - One mainly being because they wouldn't worry about them straying.
An attractive woman won't give it away to just anyone & anyhow. One could argue she almost sees herself as a price + she's already fed up with all the attention she gets from the opposite sex. Plus she knows fat chicks can score as easily as they can so there's no point in selling yourself short.
Hate the game, don't hate the messenger ✌
I think people should pick partners that are, preferably, at least as attractive as they are. Which is not to say that people should not focus on chemistry, but more to say that sometimes is preferable to avoid going for someone when the "mismatch" is too big.
For instance, while I get the opposite scenario, I'll never understand an 8 going for a 5 because of his amazing personality... Sure, why not. But with that said, I believe lots people underestimate the fact that the imbalance in the looks department will always be there - let's be realistic here, an 8 (latently) is never going to be satisfied with dating a 5. Just like a 5, unless supremely confident, is never going to be completely ok with having a partner who's much more attractive than he is.
Both, in the long run, will be on the lookout for someone else (and likely cheat) because uncomfortable with how their looks match.
For instance, while I get the opposite scenario, I'll never understand an 8 going for a 5 because of his amazing personality... Sure, why not. But with that said, I believe lots people underestimate the fact that the imbalance in the looks department will always be there - let's be realistic here, an 8 (latently) is never going to be satisfied with dating a 5. Just like a 5, unless supremely confident, is never going to be completely ok with having a partner who's much more attractive than he is.
Both, in the long run, will be on the lookout for someone else (and likely cheat) because uncomfortable with how their looks match.
Posted by TheSagAre you a male of female? Just wondering if you're the first woman who ever realized these facts. If so, round of applause.Posted by MilaniKissesreplace guys with women and say in a scale from 4-10, that's what most men have to deal with on the flip side. I don't know any woman who doesn't seek for attention, whether she is a 5 or a 10.
In my case, I noticed I've done this because I've learned that a lot of the 10's (guys) aren't stable and always wanting attention from others other than just me.
Posted by TaurusBull1977There is no 10 man who doesn't get approached by women. I have seen it many times, if a woman sees a 9 or 10, she will chase him like hell and the funny thing is a lot of those women aren't even that attractive at all. Women become like sharks once they taste blood. Men get more intimidated by beautiful women than women by hot men lol
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
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#accurate
I am not 'going for' anybody!
If I click with a man - his looks automatically is perfect! However ugly he might be...still perfect for me at that time.
And as long as he doesn't act like an ass.
Then most handsome is history'
If I click with a man - his looks automatically is perfect! However ugly he might be...still perfect for me at that time.
And as long as he doesn't act like an ass.
Then most handsome is history'
Posted by LadyNeptuneI agree as well.Posted by TaurusBull1977Agree 100!
I strongly disagree with most of the responses here.
To assume that 10's are more likely to cheat and 0's are likely to be faithful is presumptuous and ridiculously trivial.
For example, take a man who looks like the back of a camel's face and ass, if his confidence, swag, and A-game is up, he can 'bag' a 10....and more tens...and more tens...making him an unattractive player who gets around.
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
To assume otherwise is crazy.
I've been cheated on and unknowingly been the other woman and none of those guys were a 10. Like 6's and 7's maybe one 8.
Ugly-ness or average-ness isn't a fail safe for loyalty. That's not how that works.click to expand
Thinking in terms of looks is linked to insecurity. Someone who is an 8, looking for anyone 6 and below because "they are less likely to cheat" - is insecurity on the part of 8.
I know of someone who is a 9 (at least from what other female friends tell me lol) who consistently gets cheated on by his less attractive partners because unfortunately, despite his good looks, he is a very bad judge of character.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeThat's what I thought^^Posted by TheSagHell Ya. I'll be hunting like a lioness for a good looking manPosted by MilaniKissesreplace guys with women and say in a scale from 4-10, that's what most men have to deal with on the flip side. I don't know any woman who doesn't seek for attention, whether she is a 5 or a 10.
In my case, I noticed I've done this because I've learned that a lot of the 10's (guys) aren't stable and always wanting attention from others other than just me.
Posted by TaurusBull1977There is no 10 man who doesn't get approached by women. I have seen it many times, if a woman sees a 9 or 10, she will chase him like hell and the funny thing is a lot of those women aren't even that attractive at all. Women become like sharks once they taste blood. Men get more intimidated by beautiful women than women by hot men lol
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
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Posted by cornmaizesharkMalePosted by TheSagAre you a male of female? Just wondering if you're the first woman who ever realized these facts. If so, round of applause.Posted by MilaniKissesreplace guys with women and say in a scale from 4-10, that's what most men have to deal with on the flip side. I don't know any woman who doesn't seek for attention, whether she is a 5 or a 10.
In my case, I noticed I've done this because I've learned that a lot of the 10's (guys) aren't stable and always wanting attention from others other than just me.
Posted by TaurusBull1977There is no 10 man who doesn't get approached by women. I have seen it many times, if a woman sees a 9 or 10, she will chase him like hell and the funny thing is a lot of those women aren't even that attractive at all. Women become like sharks once they taste blood. Men get more intimidated by beautiful women than women by hot men lol
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
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lol
Yes, I've known people to do this. My dad's best friend always "dated down." Personally, I thought he was being smart. He picked women who were happy to be with him. He was happy to be with them and treated them well. Looks are only skin deep. I think it matters a lot more to pick someone with a good heart and someone whose fun to talk too. We make way too much out of appearances.
Posted by TheSagFigures. No woman realized these things before 😛Posted by cornmaizesharkMalePosted by TheSagAre you a male of female? Just wondering if you're the first woman who ever realized these facts. If so, round of applause.Posted by MilaniKissesreplace guys with women and say in a scale from 4-10, that's what most men have to deal with on the flip side. I don't know any woman who doesn't seek for attention, whether she is a 5 or a 10.
In my case, I noticed I've done this because I've learned that a lot of the 10's (guys) aren't stable and always wanting attention from others other than just me.
Posted by TaurusBull1977There is no 10 man who doesn't get approached by women. I have seen it many times, if a woman sees a 9 or 10, she will chase him like hell and the funny thing is a lot of those women aren't even that attractive at all. Women become like sharks once they taste blood. Men get more intimidated by beautiful women than women by hot men lol
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
#accurate
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Posted by cornmaizesharkI think most do but some are honest enough about those things and some are trying to disclaim them. 😉Posted by TheSagFigures. No woman realized these things before 😛Posted by cornmaizesharkMalePosted by TheSagAre you a male of female? Just wondering if you're the first woman who ever realized these facts. If so, round of applause.Posted by MilaniKissesreplace guys with women and say in a scale from 4-10, that's what most men have to deal with on the flip side. I don't know any woman who doesn't seek for attention, whether she is a 5 or a 10.
In my case, I noticed I've done this because I've learned that a lot of the 10's (guys) aren't stable and always wanting attention from others other than just me.
Posted by TaurusBull1977There is no 10 man who doesn't get approached by women. I have seen it many times, if a woman sees a 9 or 10, she will chase him like hell and the funny thing is a lot of those women aren't even that attractive at all. Women become like sharks once they taste blood. Men get more intimidated by beautiful women than women by hot men lol
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
#accurate
lol
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In my view the top notch men are even more desirable than high value women or 10s because every woman wants such a guy and they don't care whether it's a realistic goal or not. Us men, we are more realistic about our chances with 9s and 10s, so we are ok with 6s, 7s and 8s. I think when a woman sees a 10 she sees her future but when we see a 10 we are like damn what does she look like naked and most of us back off anyway - except for me of course, I need to get rejected first in order to stop thinking about having sex with her. lol
Posted by TaurusBull1977http://live.drjays.com/index.php/2013/09/19/boris-kodjoe-confesses-that-hell-dump-nicole-ari-parker-if-she-gets-fat-you-got-to-keep-it-sexy/
Lil Wayne
The ladies love this gremlin.
He dates all 10's
Multiple baby Mamas
This man gets around.
Boris Kodjoe
The ladies love him too. Gorgeous.
This man has been happily married to Nicole Ari Parker for 12 years.
No reports of cheating or philandering.
His wife is also a '10.'
LOL! Right! She best be staying a 10 or that mama gettin flung in the fat pile!
i have done this but not on purpose lol
i have done this but not on purpose lol
Posted by TheSagMost know it on a subconscious level but are able to disassociate to such an extent that they have no clue consciously imho. Many things are inconvenient to reconcile.Posted by cornmaizesharkI think most do but some are honest enough about those things and some are trying to disclaim them. 😉Posted by TheSagFigures. No woman realized these things before 😛Posted by cornmaizesharkMalePosted by TheSagAre you a male of female? Just wondering if you're the first woman who ever realized these facts. If so, round of applause.Posted by MilaniKissesreplace guys with women and say in a scale from 4-10, that's what most men have to deal with on the flip side. I don't know any woman who doesn't seek for attention, whether she is a 5 or a 10.
In my case, I noticed I've done this because I've learned that a lot of the 10's (guys) aren't stable and always wanting attention from others other than just me.
Posted by TaurusBull1977There is no 10 man who doesn't get approached by women. I have seen it many times, if a woman sees a 9 or 10, she will chase him like hell and the funny thing is a lot of those women aren't even that attractive at all. Women become like sharks once they taste blood. Men get more intimidated by beautiful women than women by hot men lol
Now, take a man who is a 10, and prefers to be low-key, he doesn't put himself out as much, doesn't attend parties, clubs,etc...so his 'A" game may be "off" in meeting or interacting with women. He may be too shy to approach, and women maybe too intimidated to approach him...thus making him lonely.
#accurate
lol
In my view the top notch men are even more desirable than high value women or 10s because every woman wants such a guy and they don't care whether it's a realistic goal or not. Us men, we are more realistic about our chances with 9s and 10s, so we are ok with 6s, 7s and 8s. I think when a woman sees a 10 she sees her future but when we see a 10 we are like damn what does she look like naked and most of us back off anyway - except for me of course, I need to get rejected first in order to stop thinking about having sex with her. lolclick to expand
But ya, exactly what you say about men vs women. Was just telling one of my younger chicas, men are often more scared of women than vice versa, and it's nonsensical but it is what it is. Men are very intimidated by beautiful women. Women flock to beautiful men.
I have a theory there may be a point where men are attractive enough to intimidate women. But this would be supermodel looking men. But maybe I'm wrong about that, even. I know men 8's and 9's though, they have women of all stripes throwing themselves at them. As well as other men.
Posted by MilaniKissesYup :/. He was Gemini w/Aqua Moon/ Scorpio MarsPosted by MoonbutterSee thats what I find with hot guys too! And yikes about the other guy, what was his sign?
Hmm yes... but I found the really hot guys to be super cocky/arrogant and was not attracted to their personality. I dated a guy who thought I was way hotter then him and eventually his insecurities did us in :/
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I've gone out with both.
The less attractive ones proceeds to cheat out of insecurity
The attractive ones didn't even bat eyelids when girls throw themselves at them.
In the end; looks doesn't really matter. Personality and character does.
The less attractive ones proceeds to cheat out of insecurity
The attractive ones didn't even bat eyelids when girls throw themselves at them.
In the end; looks doesn't really matter. Personality and character does.
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